posted March 04, 2006 11:31 AM         

And no we don't have the power to say No, to anyone based on a fantasy, so I am careful about letting Scorpio and Cancer men talk to me about their fantasies.

I have been the object of fantasy before and even idealized it's very limiting.

Scorpio men tend to like women who are bitchees and women who treat them like crap.

I am not saying this lightly, once I have slept with a Scorpio or Cancer male the fantasy is pretty much over and so it's an ego or power trip, not about one on one intimacy.

I have received hundreds of love letters from a Scorpio only to watch him go away..once he got the prize...the power a woman may have is exactly equal to the fantasy in the man's head, and that's not power at all, it's a job.

It's not much fun when a fantasy becomes so important. Scorpio and Cancer men not only fantasize, idealize, obsess, but imagine and determine the fate of their women based on these thoughts very often. They are overwhelming and it's on the verge of separating a woman from her own identity. A strong woman won't put up with it.

I like Scorpio men friends and Cancer men, but I am being honest when I say they tend to like women with lower self esteem or feel upset by any changes in her station or identity.

A fantasy about a woman can never make her happy if it's too strong.

posted March 04, 2006 01:31 PM         

You being an Aqua would probably be such a challenge for him that it would turn him into some sort of James Bond. We make great spies and just love the game of love....

I being a very heavily influenced Scorpio, know this !!!

Sorry girl, hope I didnt freak you out...this is just what came to me when I read your post...

posted March 04, 2006 01:34 PM         

And just to reiterate what Nat said...I believe fantasy plays a HUGE part in the love lives of some Scorpio people....how would I know this.....

posted March 07, 2006 10:32 AM         

I found the Sun/Moon combo thread and that thread is classic! One day we should create a "Classics" thread or website that compiles the classic info on this board into one place for easy retrieval. I learn something new everyday here.

posted March 10, 2006 06:32 PM         

Yes I think you are right.....a lot of Scorpios are prone to fantasy, maybe because the harsh realities of life are too much for the depths of Pluto.......?

My Virgo husband often says nothing is enough for me...haha...he is probably right !!

posted March 11, 2006 12:40 PM         

I got such a lovely feeling when I read your post.....warmth and understanding coming thro.....

Lovely understanding Virgo......what would we do without them.....

posted March 20, 2006 10:10 AM         

I'll touch on some of the issues that people have brought up as I see them right now. This might be a little off the beaten track... but d'you know, I've got to the stage where I don't really feel the need to analyze my relationships...for the present...not that I couldn't quantify the way I felt if I had to...but I have to ask myself, what is love?

At present commitment aspects don't really seem to bother me; the issue of commitment was an emotional hurdle that I needed to overcome, but I think I managed it. At the end of the day I think everyone wants someone they can relax with and who is not too demanding. Even if it's only for a short time. Why clutter the whole situation up? Why does emotional stuff get in the way?

This doesn't really encapsulate what I want to say very well...perhaps I can't rationalize it...the need for me to talk about relationships of any kind in great depth has disappeared...I don't want to let my heart overcome my head, I am cynical, I hardly believe what anyone tells me any more, because I think, "yeah, right" (assume the people in question are at least half lying and you will never need to care again whether they are truthful or not; at least be honest with yourself about that one factor!)!

I don't care about the commitment issue, because for me this feeds into bigger issues to do with why we're here, and that we are all ultimately expendable...maybe this is my Pisces talking...I don't know. I don't feel I know anything, any more.

We all feel attraction, right? - so why not enjoy it for what it is while it lasts (within reason)? Although my view is probably biased, or polarized, because, for example, I don't want kids, so that possibly underlines the fact that I may not be the most responsible of beings.

No, I'm not on something.