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Topic: Scorps I need your advice
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peace
Knowflake Posts: 701
From: Honolulu,HI
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 26, 2006 09:41 AM
 
Remember that movie "Walk the Line"?.Well, this friend of mine is sort of in that situation.She's been for 5 yrs. and now...she is smitten with this guy friend of hers.She's a Scorpio,and has told me that her husband refuses to have sex with her.Saying she's to fat,and if she was like one of those porn stars,than it would be a different story.She needs sex,like your typical Scorpio.She knew this guy friend for 3 yrs. and he finally told her that he was attracted to her from the start.Should she dump her husband for this guy friend of hers?,or should she make the marriage work?.IP: Logged |
peace
Knowflake Posts: 701
From: Honolulu,HI
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 26, 2006 09:50 AM
I forgot to add married for 5 yrs. 
Sorry.IP: Logged |
freebird
Knowflake Posts: 749
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Registered: Jul 2005
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posted May 26, 2006 11:52 AM
I haven't seen Walk the Line.Why did husband got married to fat Scorp friend in the first place ???? What was he thinking ? OR is it that she just gained weight recently. Do they have children together? Legally would it be easier for her to get divorce and DOES she really want one ? Option A : Scorp get into shape. Seduce him and get him back. OR hope Husband would come back when he would realise that he doesn't look like pornstar so why should he expect one. Option B: Have sex with guy friend and take some pics. Tell her husband about the same.
Perfect revenge......ha ha ha...oops...pornstar Option C : Two time for sometime till her relationship gets better with her guy friend and if she thinks there is a better connection dump husband. IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5452
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 26, 2006 11:56 AM
Well it sounds like the husband doesnt have an understanding of love....and any man who refuses a Scorp woman sex, is treading on dangerous ground....If it were me in the least I would tell hubbie of the other man's interest and then if he carries on being so cruel to her.... GO FOR IT..... IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 4023
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 26, 2006 12:07 PM
This boggles my mind! I don't get how a person who is married to someone in the first place gets off talking like that to them.
There is truth, nice truth, honest truth... and then there is damaging, hurtful and malicious, and subjective.
To tell someone they are 'too fat to sleep with' and if they looked like a porn star they'd shag 'em? THIS IS HIS WIFE!!!!!
Isn't it more beneficial to encourage behaviour you'd like? She'd probably, on some level get heavier to spite him.... a passive way to show it hurt.... but you know what that would motivate me to do, as a 'vengeful' scorpio?
I'd challenge myself to get in shape. For him? nope. For me.. I'd get out of that cycle, and when I looked 'like a porn star' * ahem* I'd turn him down and find someone who loved me for ME. Whether it is my friend, or no one at all.
No bloody way will that attitude bring happiness to either of them.
I hope he enjoys his 'porn stars' cuz that'd be all the action he'd get.
Whether she should go with her friend or not is entirely up to her... but I'd get the hell away from a damaging man like that. No if's and's or large butt's.*another thought... so if the hubby can go without sex and withholds it out of spite, I wonder what he's doing on the side? Or if he has a drive at all? Also.. what a jackass, I'd kick him out in a heartbeat.. disrespect is something I would NOT tolerate. IP: Logged |
Mystic Gemini
Knowflake Posts: 1973
From: New York City
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted May 26, 2006 02:38 PM
She needs to dump that b#$^&#@.------------------
Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra -I took a walk around the world to ease my troubled mind. I left my body lying somewhere in the sands of time. But I watched the world float to the dark side of the moon. I feel there's nothing I can do. -Three Doors Down IP: Logged |
Ohad
Knowflake Posts: 79
From: Maale-Adumim, Israel
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 27, 2006 09:09 AM
Have you ever listened to "women lose weight" by Slick Rick? That song kind of addresses this sort of situation...
Anyway, is it really the husband's fault for not being attracted to his wife?(and being honest about it).
He may have been insensitive(though we don't know that for sure, he's wife could have just been overstating that), but how can you expect a man to have sex with a women he's not attracted to? It's physically impossible. ------------------
"I would sooner fail than not be among the greatest."
John Keats "He sees no faces/The ace of aces"
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shop22much
Knowflake Posts: 970
From: you said hello
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted May 27, 2006 09:29 AM
ARE you freakin kidding, OHAD?its not "physically impossible"....hes had sex with his wife before, so why should a extra 10-20 pounds matter? you shouldnt marry someone without realizing theres a huge possiblity they arent going to look the same forever, everyone knows in a long term relationship/or marriage people tend to gain more weight, its natural......you cannot walk around with an unrealistic attitude about marriage, and expect your wife or spouse or whomever to look a certain way...a especially a PORN STAR(yuck!)..you accept all their flaws when youre in love...esp in a marriage...do not get married if you cannot accept the flaws....i would tell that sucker to hit the road, but honestly id never pick someone like that in the first place....
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give me more Love, or more disdain;
the torrid, or the frozen zone
bring equal ease unto my paine:
the temperate affords me none;
either extreme, of love or hate,
is sweeter than a calme estate
- thomas carew " mediocrity in love rejected"
think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. - K. Gibran IP: Logged |
Ohad
Knowflake Posts: 79
From: Maale-Adumim, Israel
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 27, 2006 10:12 AM
A marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, a couple needs to consider each others needs, and not just shrug off something that hurts the most basic part of marriage as some natural flaw...
And yes, if he is unattracted to her it IS physically impossible for him to sleep with her.------------------
"I would sooner fail than not be among the greatest."
John Keats "He sees no faces/The ace of aces"
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5452
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 27, 2006 10:25 AM
Right on sisters!!!!I was married to a guy who was overweight,,,very much so, actually.... Fortunately I wasnt shallow and cruel enough to let this interfere with our love life. He was a sensual and caring lover....and imaginative too.... Love doesnt do this......judge the size, shape, colour etc of a person... He is a dickhead and she is better away from him... And whats the betting the next (real) guy she meets will love her for all those beautiful curves.....sensual and womanly as she is...... I do hope the husband meets his match one day in a woman who turn around to him and says...."sorry yer penis is too small, I cant get it on with you"..... We can always hope..... IP: Logged |
peace
Knowflake Posts: 701
From: Honolulu,HI
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 27, 2006 11:23 AM
Sue G,
YOU GO GIRL! LOL,LOL,LOLIP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5452
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 27, 2006 11:27 AM
Peacehahaha.....is my Aries rising....showing.....???? Grrrrrrrrr.......stupid man.........  * * * * * * * * * * * * My first husband (sounding like Liz Taylor now) was very very thin....and if I had to choose.... GIVE ME FLESH ANYTIME........!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IP: Logged |
peace
Knowflake Posts: 701
From: Honolulu,HI
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 27, 2006 11:29 AM
I'm an Aries Rising too! IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5452
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 27, 2006 11:31 AM
so is the "peace"just to fool us all.....hahahaha.....  xxx IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5452
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 27, 2006 11:36 AM
I love how ye guys say freaking,,,,,,,When at school I used to get called "freaky Sue".....it means hippy.... haha !!! IP: Logged |
Scorpionic Web
Knowflake Posts: 151
From: Pennsylvania
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted May 27, 2006 05:50 PM
I can understand both sides here. No one can be blamed for wanting back the person they married. I'm sure the guy in question was attracted to his wife when he married her.Shop- Do you really think we're talking about 10-20 lbs, here? Yes, appearances fade. However, letting yourself go is sure to meet some level of disapproval; its disrespectful to yourself and your spouse. In this case, I agree that this Scorpio woman's husband is being quite harsh, but if he married a Scorpio in the first place, brutal honesty must be ingrained in their relationship... but yes, he sounds like a real sh*thead. To me, weight extremes, both excessively skinny and excessively heavy, are unattractive. And I think most people feel this way, too. I'm attracted to thicker women, but there is a point where those otherwise lusciously thick feminine curves are lost simply to too much weight. Marriage requires love, but unfortunately, sex can also require desire. I think Ohad said nothing out of line: Marriage is a partnership. This Scorpio expecting sex from her husband is equal to him expecting his wife to take care of her body. IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
Knowflake Posts: 341
From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 27, 2006 06:17 PM
I think we can all agree that hubby is probably a real catch 
I mean seriously, does he think he's Fabio? IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 847
From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted May 27, 2006 09:30 PM
Do we know the entire story here?Did the wife gain weight because she simply gained weight, or are there health issues going on causing the weight gain? Communication issues, obviously, but I cannot blame the wife for wanting to go elsewhere. What does the husband look like? Is he in perfect stud pinup condition? Don't get me started... IP: Logged |
Scorpionic Web
Knowflake Posts: 151
From: Pennsylvania
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted May 27, 2006 11:12 PM
Logic would tell us that if she had a health condition, then her husband wouldn't berate her weight. So, I get the feeling that if this woman couldn't do something about it, then we wouldn't have a topic. If she does have a legitimate health problem, then her husband most certainly should be ditched. However, statistically, the majority of people who claim to have a "health condition" that prevents them from being active are lying. IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 847
From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted May 28, 2006 12:24 AM
Still...speculation. Why even assume anything when you really don't know?IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5452
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 28, 2006 07:25 AM
Would she really want to lay with him now after the way he has treated her....even if she could lose the weight?I wouldnt....no way..... I am a Scorpio woman and there is no way I would let him put a hand on me again.... Of course, it wouldnt prove a problem for me to have someone else appreciate my talents. And I am sure the Scorpio lady in question here wouldnt have a problem at all!!! Yeah he is deffo a dickhead....and I suppose karma in the end will teach him all he needs to learn.... to yer Scorpio friend..... IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
Knowflake Posts: 341
From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 28, 2006 12:35 PM
Yeah, who knows? Maybe this would motivate her to lose the weight for herself and not him. The Perfect revenge IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5452
From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 28, 2006 03:42 PM
The perfect revenge indeed Dulce.....Shall we invite the lady into LL and give her some support and we could also help her to break free of this very negative and cruel man........ xxx IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
Knowflake Posts: 341
From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 28, 2006 08:37 PM
Yes, maybe we should. How bout it, Peace?
It just makes me so angry because knowing human nature, (I am a cancerian after all)this guy could probably be just as insecure and sits on his arse all day, guzzling beer. He may even be overweight himself(double standards...arrghh) You know how I know? Because If he was secure and in tip-top shape he would try to help her in a more positive way instead of making her feel worse about herself.
my two cents IP: Logged |
peace
Knowflake Posts: 701
From: Honolulu,HI
Registered: Apr 2004
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posted May 29, 2006 02:40 AM
I'll tell her tomorrow about this forum.Thanks everyone!.IP: Logged |
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