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Joanna
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posted June 19, 2006 09:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
My sun sign is Scorpio. I met this virgo man 2 weeks ago. The first day we met,I felt the strong passion between us.I am crash on him on the first day i met him.(later, i know he has a GF but he doesn't love her and because me they are not together right now)

We see each other twice a week.When we stay together,he's really gentle and kind.When we are a part,he calls almost everyday but he doesn't talk much,it seems just a call to let me know he's still alive, nothing special through the phone and he seems don't know how to say any sweet words.The only sentence he asks everytime is : Have you eat yet? When we talk through ICQ,he talks little and almost never give those lovely faces or sweet words to make me sure about his love or passion.if i ask anything about this relationship, he answers: i need more time. sometimes he answers :"I don't know"

More days i stay with him, i like him more and wanna have the long term relationship with him. but this guy seems just an enigma.

I never met Virgo man before (or never pay attention), for me to get a man is a very easy thing but this man is driving me crazy.

Does someone could tell me, if there's any sign i can see whether this guy is really like me or just don't wanna stay alone? what should i do can win him? Should i still give lot attention to him and take good care of him or i should give him a bit space to hunting, to chase me?

PLEASE!Please advise!

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lioneye68
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posted June 19, 2006 10:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lioneye68     Edit/Delete Message
I think if he's holding back, you should too. You could scare him away if you seem too emotionally needy, especially since he just broke up someone. He needs to get that out of his system. You don't want to be a rebound girl, do you? Or, just a distraction to get him out of that other relationship?

Virgos are not usually the type to woo you with sweet romantic sentiments. They're very real, and don't walk around with their heads in the clouds. I would rather have a guy say nothing at all rather than pumping me up with insincere fluff.

If it's meant to be, it will be. Try not to stress about it.

Good luck!

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Joanna
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posted June 19, 2006 11:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
Lioneye,Thanks for your opinion.

So do you think whether I should leave him a space, such like meet him once a week instead of twice a week?

Last time I feel something from someone was 6 years ago.So i am very happy now but also scared. I know now I should calm down and let everything goes easily. as he said, don't thinking about it too much.
Maybe hongkong rains too much recently , that bothers my mood.

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Kim Rogers
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posted June 20, 2006 04:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kim Rogers     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Joanna,

Welcome to LL.


I am a Scorpio also. I've had a few Virgos in my life. We Scorps can be overwhlming! He says he needs time; give it to him.

Virgos are usually true to their word. When he is ready he will let you know. Try to find things to do that make you happy, so you don't think about him and drive yourself crazy.

Good Luck.

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Joanna
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posted June 20, 2006 04:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Kim,

Thanks for make me feel the sunshine here : )

This is the first time I have a relationship with Virgos. now I can say they are really different. I have never ever met a person is this cold,well when we stay together he treats me very well.

You are absolutely right, Kim, I will give him time and see what's going on.

We, chinese say, the relationship is like Fly the kite.The man is the kite and the woman is holding the string. if you hold the it too tight, the string(relationship) can go too far, but if you let it fly, give it too much space... it may fly away... so tight or loose is the hard decision to make.

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Joanna
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posted June 20, 2006 04:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
Sorry, i mean if you hold the it too tight, the string(relationship) can't go too far...

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sarah9
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posted June 20, 2006 08:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sarah9     Edit/Delete Message
Hey Joanna,

Yes, like the others said, give him his space. Iam sure he will come back when he has made up his mind.

Good luck!

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Joanna
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posted June 20, 2006 10:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
sarah9

Thanks a lot,I am not that moody now. I will wait and see.

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Joanna
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posted June 20, 2006 11:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
Oh, last time i said he's cold blood...

He probably felt hurts by my words...

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KarenSD
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posted June 22, 2006 04:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for KarenSD     Edit/Delete Message
Virgos are always thinking, analyzing, organizing, preparing.

Drives me nuts 'cause i'm so fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants!

I'm sure I'm way too emotional for my Virgo guy... but I like his groundedness and maturity. It's opposite me and it helps me grow, learn... maybe someday I'll become organized! He for sure won't become more like me.

But i wouldn't trade my ditzy Piscesness for anything...

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freebird
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posted June 24, 2006 10:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for freebird     Edit/Delete Message
Joanna: I like that Chinese proverb, sounds good.
Actually what I have realised is that there is so much unspoken between virgo - scorpio.They are very reserved and till extent scorpios are too but we are very vocal about our feelings.I think you can encourage him to express his feelings and it might help. Be non judgemetal and put them on ease.

Other than that well as he is still not sure about relationship so I would suggest be there but don't ask for relationship so often.Give him some time till he works out his own feelings. It's up to you how much time you think you should be investing.

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Joanna
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posted June 25, 2006 07:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks all.

Love is not the only one problem to me now.
I am trying not to think about him. After read all of your sugesstions I feel much better now. It has been long time i didn't feel my heart beating so fast... but now i am calm down, i must think and plan how to do... sometimes, it just take times...maybe suffering is good thing---sometimes...

I just got an offer from one of the top 500 companies of the world. and i am thinking about how to tell my current boss.
And i also have to deal the stresses from my mom...

I always think deal with people is an easy thing... till i met virgo...
From now, i won't ask about the relationship anymore, i will see and keep trying ... I am wondering what can make virgos heart beating...

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sue g
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posted June 25, 2006 08:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
what makes a Virgos heart beat....?

Strong, sexy, humourous, flirty, kind, caring women.

(I just asked my Virgo husband and this is what he said.)..

Altho take note, he has an Aqua Moon and lots of Saggi in his chart too....eeeeek !!!!!

Good luck girl !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Joanna
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posted June 28, 2006 02:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Sue,

I decide give up. I always feel he put my passion into the deepest ocean. There was one time he asked me if I feel he's cool. I told him, I feel cold sometimes. Maybe he's not my Mr. right. I think I can't take it anymore.now he can have all of the space he wants...like you said before there must be someone out there is waiting for us. : )
It's sad, sad, sad...

I have heard a lot about someone's sun sign(maybe moon sign) is rising. what's this thing about? where can i get these information?

BTW, Sue g, i think you are a very cool Scorpio.

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Anita41
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posted June 29, 2006 01:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Anita41     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Joanna.

I just read this thread and your problem with the virgo mans coldness, and I felt it was very similar to the experience I had with my ex virgo man. He was always so detached, no spark or passion or fire.
He never called me or had any energy to say "lets do this" or show any passion or strong love, although he was sweet and kind and the communication was excellent and could go on for hours...
And since we broke up some years ago, we havent had much contact, but the contact we did have was strong and good, very good communication and humor which was grounded and serious and nice, which I always thought was so nice that when we decided we had to meet up again, it surprised me that it never happened, he never called.
He never takes any action.
We talked to eachother one year ago, and decided we had to meet that week, and until today, no response from him at all.
If i send him and sms, he will go days without answering.
So yeah, he is not my mr.right either
I dont think you will ever get what you want from him. And let him be, move on

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lovely*
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posted June 29, 2006 07:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovely*     Edit/Delete Message
are you still in love anita.

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Joanna
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posted June 30, 2006 04:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
Anita41,

Thanks for sharing your story.the story was sad. I guess he's just not your Mr. right. He was not the one to bring your happiness but put you into the suffering...

I have already decide give up, if he loves me, he will come for me. if he doesn't, that's okay. life is too short for the happiness , why should we waste it on the sadness and painfulness? We need someone who loves us and we deserve it.

Wish all of the love stories have a nice ending...

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Joanna
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posted July 02, 2006 08:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
I keep thinking when he calls me, i will refuse to see him...

But yesterday when he calls me...

Anyway, i will meet him today. Guess I am really in trouble this time...

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Anita41
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posted July 03, 2006 03:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Anita41     Edit/Delete Message
Good luck

Yeah I know how it goes. Just dont show any interest in him more than normal and dont call him. Let him call you 10 times first
Easier said than done!!

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Anita41
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posted July 03, 2006 03:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Anita41     Edit/Delete Message
hey lovely

NO!! I am definatly NOT in love with anyone with no passion

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ScorpioRising
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posted July 03, 2006 04:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ScorpioRising     Edit/Delete Message
Virgos tend to be PERFECTIONISTS with very logical, analytical thinking. Scorps analyze the people aspect-Virgos analyze the "issue"

I think you guys can be a good match-but I would give it A LOT of breathing room-and dont give up any of your activities!

In the end-I hope you get what you want!

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Joanna
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posted July 04, 2006 05:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
If i tell you guys what's going on here, i guess you won't believe this...

After i finished my work, i took a taxi to his apartment. O the way to his apartment,i kept calling him, but no answer(Worried, of course)...
after 50 mints driving, finally i'm there, I saw the door was unlocked(even not closed), and i can hear the loud music from TV. so i just walked into the room. I searched all of the part of apartment(even bathroom).he's not there. He's watch is on the table, two cups on the table too...

What a surprise!
Then i started to clean his apartment. then sat on the sofa and watching DVD. i kept calling, but still no answering...

After maybe one and half hours, he's back with many food and fruits. he was shocked , he stood there and looked at me. i told him, you were not lock that door. He smiled and told me, he was really scared...

I told him. i called him many many times ... he told me he's phone battery runs out. then he told me he cleaned the his
hall lamp.
I asked him wether he forgot

(Am i too wordily? )
okay... now

It' had too say... let me think how to describe about this.

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"The world breaks everyone and afterwards many are strong at the broken places"

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Joanna
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posted July 09, 2006 05:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
My heart is broken...

Hope you all got good luck on love

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sue g
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posted July 09, 2006 07:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
I am still mystified by the Virgo I live with....I was tempted to say my Virgo, but he tells me no-one owns anyone...so I hesitate!!

He actually now admits to me that he is very scared to get in touch with his emotions....so its a case of:

Very emotionally aware woman living with scared emotional man...

But it is NOT boring....and I dont think I ever would be with him...and we are teaching each other HEAPS of things, and growing..!!

Joanne....sorry for how you feel girl....hope it gets better for you....one must I feel, stand back from a Virgo man, and only then will he come forward (albeit cautiously)

Sigh..

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Joanna
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posted July 12, 2006 04:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Joanna     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Sue,

I will travel to Bankok by the end of this month, I need a little bit time to relax. and after this one week trip i will start work for another company.

New start!

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