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Topic: From the bottom of your heart.....What is love?
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NAM
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From: Sunny place.
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted September 08, 2007 08:11 PM
 
Between a partner and yourself.What does it mean to love a person and be loved?
Please explain.
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fayte.m
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From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat
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posted September 08, 2007 08:21 PM
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ErickaF
Knowflake Posts: 193
From: D.C.
Registered: Apr 2007
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posted September 08, 2007 09:19 PM
I think love is different for all of us. I once told my SO that if he ever fell out of love for me or found someone else to please tell me. because i want him to find 'reallove'even if its not me;-( I remember Carrie from Sex & the City said it best when she in a beautiful Parisian hotel room with her gorgeous Russian artist boyriend and said 'I am looking for real love, consuming, ridiculous, can't live without each other love'! It really made me realize thats what I want. And it was I have now...thank God. I think love is more want than need. I want to be with you versus I need you! Love is something bigger than yourself. Makes you brave and courageous. Thats just me. I know girls that don't feel what I feel, not even close. they are just content of having a guy in their life. It really depends on the person. Some people, who live in underdeveloped countries, can't afford to go out and date and find true love! We are luck we can do that. We want to find real love.:-) IP: Logged |
Mirandee
Moderator Posts: 3610
From: South of the Thumb Taurus, Pisces, Cancer
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted September 09, 2007 01:02 AM
I can't really explain real love. I just know that with my husband I have found it. It's a bond we have based on mutual acceptance, mutual sharing of ourselves in all respects, mutual giving and taking, the ability to allow the other their space and to allow the other a chance to grow. It's also a mutual desire to continually work on improving the relationship yet, not force change on the other but instead work on change in ourselves. It's understanding each other and accepting that it doesn't have to always be perfect. All relationships have their ups and downs. Helping each other, being there for each other, supporting each other, all the things that happen in life more and more bonds two people to each other. After 42 years of marriage we have a whole history that has been shared together. I think that is real love. IP: Logged |
miss_muffet
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posted September 09, 2007 09:09 AM
Love is...I can't stop thinking about you when I am awake, can't stop dreaming about you when I am asleep. I think about you even when you're with me. I can feel and smell you when we are in the same room. I look at old things around me and remember you. I look at new things around me and wonder if you would like it too. I want to touch you when I see you. I want to kiss you when I smell you. I feel safe when your arms are around me. I melt inside when look into your eyes and see how much you love me. I can take on the whole world when I know that you are standing by my side. The world could crumble and I will still be in ecstasy as long as I know you love me. When I am with you, Nothing seem to matter but you and I. Love is... never to lose this feeling. Miss Muffet
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girlloveboy
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posted September 09, 2007 11:09 AM
REAL LOVE is when you are able to follow your karma, your destiny at any circumstances.If your destiny is to be together, then you need to help each other and stay together. If your destiny is to let each other go in this life time, then you must do it, even if the pain is almost irresistable. REAL LOVE is above emotions.
REAL LOVE is when you can accept your destiny. Because REAL LOVE can never die and REAL LOVE doesnt know death.
If two people really love each other, they know in their heart and soul that they are always together.
Whatever happens.
They will know they belong to each other.
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Dulce Luna
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From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted September 09, 2007 11:33 AM
True love is a state of mind, not an emotion.  IP: Logged |
Node
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From: Crowded House
Registered: Nov 2005
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posted September 09, 2007 11:53 AM
ErikaF Q-"I think love is more want than need. I want to be with you versus I need you! Love is something bigger than yourself. Makes you brave and courageous." ErikaF expressed my own thoughts exactly...and the Carrie quote rings with perfect pitch as well 
Love, whether famile love, romantic love..or any of it's complex expressions helps us to not only achieve our true sense of self but allows us the opportunity to become better at it. Then we can give it back to others w/ out a price tag. Natal Venus in TaurusIP: Logged |
Taurus80
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posted September 09, 2007 12:16 PM
Mirandee,that is just beautiful, congratulations on your happiness.. IP: Logged |
MiaMammy08
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From: Fort Washigton,Maryland,U.S.A.
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted September 09, 2007 02:25 PM
love for another person to me is "to unconditionally care for that person and to not judge them for who they are." like the way a dog loves its owner through the good and bad, love that person in the dog/Godly way that God loves you.------------------
Yes i'm a capricorn with an aries moon and gemini rising. oh yea... IP: Logged |
geminilibrarising
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From: London, UK
Registered: Sep 2007
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posted September 09, 2007 03:29 PM
I wholeheartedly agree wtih what Miamammy said above. I think real love is about loving the essence of who that person is. Loving their soul and their heart and not just their body. And loving the bits of their minds, souls or bodies that even they themselves might worry aren't loveable. IP: Logged |
librarising
Knowflake Posts: 117
From: Rhode Island, United States
Registered: May 2007
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posted September 09, 2007 10:25 PM
Nothing. I don't believe in it.IP: Logged |
NAM
Knowflake Posts: 1043
From: Sunny place.
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted September 09, 2007 11:16 PM
How about sex,chemestry,passion?
how is it that almost noone has mentioned these?
I say almost because a couple of you actually are defining sex,chemestry and passion in so many words.Why is it that everytime I ask people this same question, nobody can say these three ingredients that are essential in a relationship? am I crazy to think this way? I mean, yes all the other answers are great but the equation seems incomplete if there is a lack of the mentioned above.
Only after I say this and "only after" people get that lightbulb face and say, "yes, those count too"....
What is happening to our society that we can not accept who we are by actually being truthful and saying what we really feel. ......? IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
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From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted September 09, 2007 11:16 PM
Wow, miss muffet, that was beautiful. I'm glad I opened this thread.  HSC
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NAM
Knowflake Posts: 1043
From: Sunny place.
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted September 09, 2007 11:23 PM
quote:
ErikaF wrote:
I once told my SO that if he ever fell out of love for me or found someone else to please tell me. because i want him to find 'reallove'even if its not me
This took me back, I told my ex husband the same thing, he still didn't tell me that he was looking for a thrill outside the marriage once we realized it was not going to work, I found out before he actualy hooked up with this girl one late night when I went to see what he was doing and he was in the phone with his best buddy telling him how much of a b*tch I was and that he had met this girl on line and was planning to meet her... I had told him this same lines about 3 weeks before when I sensed something was wrong and different.After this he felt so guilty he never did anything remotly close to it but the relationship was over...he had lied to me.I may forgive but not forget a lie. I do like the way you wrote your answers , I felt I was writing them, I would always want to know truth than living a lie.And I would rather know the other person is happy without me than miserable with me. I am also looking for that kind of love, explosive... I actually never knew it was out there until last year. IP: Logged |
NAM
Knowflake Posts: 1043
From: Sunny place.
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted September 09, 2007 11:37 PM
Mirandee~I also admire your love, is the kind of love not many people have anymore, with so many divorces, I hope one day soon I get to meet the guy I can spend the rest of my life with, then I can say the same things you are saying.
I specially like when you say "the ability to allow the other their space and to allow the other a chance to grow" I think I have learned that lesson the hard way.
And, no... it is not perfect but with work it can be perfect to the both of you.(with work)Miss_muffet~yes, totally!!! I just hope he feels the same way for me LOL
I would not want to feel I am obsess with a person LOL Girloveboy~Yes, but how do you know when you should let go and when there is a chance of a fight for what you beleive, I see people making this mistake all the time. Dulce~ can you define emotion for me? Node~Yes, another one on my same boat. MiaMammy08,geminilibrarising~some guys may not want to feel like a dog LOL But yes, I agree with the gesture. Librarising~I hope this changes for you, I have been there and I personally felt empty with the thought, I don't know, maybe it works for you, for now  IP: Logged |
ErickaF
Knowflake Posts: 193
From: D.C.
Registered: Apr 2007
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posted September 09, 2007 11:55 PM
It would be cool if also everyone wrote their venus sign...mine is in Capricorn! :-)IP: Logged |
NAM
Knowflake Posts: 1043
From: Sunny place.
Registered: Jan 2007
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posted September 10, 2007 12:17 AM
Venus in Gemini.IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted September 10, 2007 12:35 AM
Miss Muffet, what you said is spoken from a true Venus in Pisces person!  ~ Aphrodite
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MysticMelody
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posted September 10, 2007 02:12 AM
Helllloooo lovers  Girl Love Boy, I think I love YOU! Miss Muffet, you paint a delicious picture IP: Logged |
miss_muffet
Knowflake Posts: 742
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posted September 10, 2007 06:43 AM
Thanks everyone. Those words were spoken from my heart. Unfortunately, I tend to scare men away just by the intensity of my feelings.NAM, chemistry falls into play when you are just falling in love. If what I have described earlier is not passion, then I am not sure what passion is... I was described as "one of the most passionate person I know" by the same person I described the feeling for. Must be the Scorpio Asc. To me, sex is not even a consideration if I am not in love with the person I am "making love" to. And yes, passion is really borderline obsession... without the stalking. Miss Muffet
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alchemiest
Knowflake Posts: 679
From: Somewhere over the rainbow
Registered: Sep 2003
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posted September 10, 2007 09:21 AM
True love, to me, is not just something that can be felt between two lovers- it can be the love between any two people who share any relationship, no matter how platonic or otherwise.
To me, love is acceptance, first and foremost. Acceptance of a person for who they truly are, faults and all. And a delivery of the freedom to develop, to better themselves. (Actually, I think that is pretty close to what Mirandee and a few others have also already said on here) For a romantic love, of course, there is a factor of chemistry, but a large part of this falls into the 'lust' factor- something incredibly important to make a romantic relationship work, but by itself, not really all that satisfying after a while. I love love =) IP: Logged |
alchemiest
Knowflake Posts: 679
From: Somewhere over the rainbow
Registered: Sep 2003
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posted September 10, 2007 09:25 AM
Miss Muffet- I love how you describe emotions. You have a very good ability to convey true feeling with what you write. It was beautiful. Another Venus in Pisces here.
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cancerrg
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posted September 10, 2007 10:11 AM
true love is absolute faith !
thats why it is more a state of mind rather than just an emotion . state of mind bcos being a cancerian it takes me a lot of time to really believe someone , so when someone is believed , that literally means believed .(that is done with due checks ) so when my mnd is ready to accept a person , the emotions genrated is much more than the frivlous intial responses . the moment i read Dulce' statement i knew this was what i wanted to say .
so i am trying to elobrate , NAM (dulce , just check out if i am right ) IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted September 10, 2007 10:13 AM
btw , waht was your husband sign , Nam ? IP: Logged |
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