posted August 09, 2009 06:30 AM         

Live and learn...

posted August 09, 2009 08:52 AM         

As far as synastry, honestly, I wouldn't even look deeply into the synastry charts until you two have been together for at least a year. The reason I say this is because sometimes people (not all) get carried away with thinking the aspects WILL play out the way the dynasty dictates so at different times in the relationship, you are attributing experiences to the aspects. I used to do this! Eventually I have stopped looking into synastry because it was becoming too much thinking of aspects while certain scenarios were being played out.

I got tired of expecting certain things to play out a certain way just because I read online that the aspect was supposed to be good.

I only look at synasty in hindsight now.

Also, the reason I asked which of the two of you brought up him thinking the other girl is his twin flame was two determine two things. If you asked him about it, then he was probably just being honest. Me personally, I may have worded it differently but that's just me. If he volunteered this information to you then beware! He is playing mind games with and being manipulative and "gaming" you.

posted August 09, 2009 01:48 PM         

There are probably crushes that fall into categories other than the ones I listed, BUT--and here was my point--none of them are between TwinFlames. Having a crush on some girl because she is beautiful, but knowing you aren't all that compatible, is soooo different from telling your current girlfriend that the beautiful crush girl was your "Twin Flame" or "Soul Mate,"--like, "She's the ONE person I have the strongest Soul Connection to, but I can't be with her in This Lifetime because we have Different Paths, so here I am with you passing the time. Hi." If you had done that, you would've been being an ass.

Calling a crush your "Twin Flame" is a way of aggrandizing unconsummated attraction into something it is not--hence, fantasy, projection, Neptune goggles.

Those deep, uncomsummated crushes we have at 16? In one case, I have never loved another man more than a guy I felt that way about--we reconnected as adults and talked about the intensity of our feelings. A lot of my writing has always been about him...a lot of his work has always been about me. There are circumstances keeping us from being a couple. I still love him, and I still love everyone I've ever loved (packed Cancer 7th house here.)

This does not mean I am "Twin Flames" with these guys--at the soul level, we are all infinitely flaming, and it's not limited.

At the everyday level, each connection I have with each person is special and unique. To call one a "Twin Flame" would be suggesting that I have a deeper, MORE SPECIAL connection with that person--and deciding that about someone I don't really share my life with would involve fantasy, projection, and putting a spin on things, quite unneccessarily.

Lots of the examples you and others are using here sound like my relationship with that guy--ie, teenage.

BUT if I recall correctly from LTT's other posts, this guy is much, much older, no teenager. He's about to move in with a younger woman who worships him. (In fact, if I'm remembering right, LTT posted a thread recently asking if people thought he had Soul Mate synastry with HER.) I get the strong sense that he is using this TwinFLame thing, among other things, to keep her in his thrall by keeping her unseated and unsure of the relationship. That is a way of being controlling. It would seem like a huge red flag to me.

posted August 09, 2009 04:14 PM         

As far as asking your academic credentials, I only asked because my father is in a related field as well and he says you really can't assess someone's mental health issues properly with the amount of information we deal with regularly in these topics. Not saying are are coming in here officially diagnosing people, but in a way, it appears that way.

Sure we take what you say as your opinion, just like most of us assume everyone else's replies are their opinions. However, some of your replies come off as if you are implying explicit facts.

Look, I'd rather not continue this here as this is LTT's thread and I don't want it to turn negative so if you want to continue this, email me at gotgemini@gmail.com

posted August 10, 2009 06:39 AM         

I am listening to my own intuition.
He isn't lying to me or trying to manipulate me in any way. He is a gentle, honest, pure hearted soul. All he was doing was relating an experience he had.

The first time he mentioned this experience was the first time we met. We weren't involved with each other at all then. I brought up the topic of twin flames saying I wanted to know if they existed or not and to meet mine, to which he replied "no you don't", to which I enquired why and it was then that he explained that in his experience it was far too painful.

It isn't true either, that I "worship" this guy. It is true however that we get along extremely well. I've never met anyone who I've felt such a complimentary soul energy connection with as this. I posted the chart on the astrology forum with my question out of simple childlike curiosity to know what it might say. I'm crap at astrology when it comes to composite charts.

If anyone worships anybody, then it could be said that we worship each other.

As for age...well I've always felt that age is only a number...I've never been concerned about trivialities such as that. One of my best friends is with a woman much older than he is. They are extremely suited to one another, in fact he says that they are twin flames.

But I thank you for your concern.

posted August 10, 2009 09:32 PM         

I do want to say that I completely understand where you are coming from and sometimes agree with much of what you say.

posted August 10, 2009 11:42 PM         

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One of my best friends is with a woman much older than he is. They are extremely suited to one another, in fact he says that they are twin flames.

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Got Gem, I edited my reply because I misread this line to mean that LTT's boyfriend believed that an older platonic friend was his "twin flame," just as the former colleague he had a painful and unconsummated attachment to was his "twin flame." It made him sound waaaayyyy less fantasy-oriented to me, like maybe he was using the term "twin flame" to clumsily describe the deep feeling of closeness or fatedness that each of us has to many people over the course of a lifetime. There would be no reason for his girlfriend to feel sad about that, because it would mean that she, too, could be one of his many "twin flames", along with the many people he loves platonically or loved romantically in the past.

Then I reread, and understood that she was talking about another guy entirely...a platonic friend of hers.