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Topic: Just realized I'm officially a Taurus
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Alma Sun
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posted February 29, 2012 01:43 AM
  
@ T, I think the one I saw were women going after married men. Girl, it was bad. :/ Was a while ago but I still remember the one part where the girl said that men having a ring on their finger, automatically made them more attractive because it meant the guy can commit.  Pretty silly huh, lol, how committed can one be if they're willing to cheat? Silly beetches!  @ ghanima81, so true. Friendliness can be misconstrued. Which really sucks. :/ That's one reason why I'm cautious when interacting with men who have girlfriends. I've been on both ends; the one hurt and upset by the flirting, and the one made uncomfortable by being accused when I was just trying to be nice. Either way, it doesn't feel good and I don't want to make anyone feel that way if I can help it. I blame my friggin' people pleasing Lib AC/Mars.  
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anongrl10
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posted February 29, 2012 04:02 AM
You summed it up quite nicely, Alma Sun.
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charmainec
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posted February 29, 2012 04:13 AM
Let's flip it onto the dudes for sec. The ones who play little boy games and the stroke-my-ego attitude. The more, the merrier right? They are just as to blame. An ex of mine had that type of attitude, "I'm being friendly." Friendly my a$$! Yet if another guy so much as looked at me all hell would break loose and I wouldn't hear the end of it, literally. So you see, there is adouble standard also. No Taurian influences here but every women has her limits. Oh, yes.. he was being so "friendly" he ended up cheating on me. 
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mintgirl123
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posted February 29, 2012 08:31 AM
Yeah that's why I just won't tolerate guys who flirt with other girls. Alittle witty banter is fine, but sb that constantly talks to other girls and is too flirty gets under my skin. I just don't need that crap in my life again. Over it.
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charmainec
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posted February 29, 2012 08:46 AM
Yep. They're quick to throw the "jealous" or "possessive" line in your face to make YOU feel bad but with experience comes wisdom.  Yes, guys, we know all the little knicks and tricks. ------------------
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teasel
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posted February 29, 2012 03:12 PM
oops.IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted February 29, 2012 03:12 PM
I was wanting to say the same thing. My mother had one woman - supposedly a friend of the family (she didn't act like one) - coming onto my dad right in front of mum, and he ignored her.I was wondering why it's been mostly men in relationships that have hit on me, when I did nothing to invite it. I was nice to them, as I would be to anyone else, I wasn't extra nice and I certainly didn't swoon or anything. I'm pretty isolated, and mostly have contact with men in relationships, and wondered if it was just because I'd relaxed around them, thinking they were really happy with the women they were with. I never did really relax around one who was in my own home - he made me nervous. I also know, though, that any man coming onto me, has seemed to put more attention on me suddenly, and then they just come out with it - or they just try to find a way to keep you around. I wish it happened more with men I'm interested in. :/ IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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posted February 29, 2012 03:40 PM
You know what I just thought of!! Movies like "The Wedding Planner" that idealize the "other woman" scenario. Oh, poor innocent JLo that she falls for a groom to be and he doesn't tell her he's engaged, but pines over him the entire movie and gets him in the end. Just a thought. IP: Logged |
T
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posted February 29, 2012 04:26 PM
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Originally posted by Alma Sun:
Pretty silly huh, lol, how committed can one be if they're willing to cheat? Silly beetches!
LOL yes, indeed!!! and I have been in the same position as you and many here, where i'm being my normal self (usually to a long time friend) and have had a female seething with jealousy and giving me the death eye for no reason. I usually ignore it and/or try to be friendly with her. It's like....come on, are you serious? I'm not being even close to flirtatious, I'm just talking to someone I've known for a long time, get a grip. Sometimes getting upset or po'ed is warrented and other times you are just dealing with someone with major jealousy issues. Usually I'm cool with both people and make sure the female knows im not a threat or interested in her man and everything's fine, but I've encountered a few scary ones. IP: Logged |
T
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posted February 29, 2012 04:38 PM
*erasing the past. IP: Logged |
T
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posted February 29, 2012 04:57 PM
& youre right, sand - our radar friggin SUCKS!Gets better with age though. LOL IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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posted February 29, 2012 04:59 PM
LMAO. Oh, if that story could EVER be truthfully told. It's a long one. And NOPE, the thing you learn from online "relationships", if you can even call them that, is that you cannot trust anyone, or what they are saying to you. Lesson learned, indeed. Funny to see who is still around here and not afraid to talk about it and who is not. IP: Logged |
T
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posted February 29, 2012 05:05 PM
Yeah, I had to learn the hard way a couple of times. But also felt like the whole truth was usually never usually told and gave others the benefit of the doubt in my own mind.I'd not take back the learning experience ever, though. IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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posted February 29, 2012 08:38 PM
The most important thing I learned was that men will do many devious things to pit women against each other, especially when they are strong and capable women in emotionally weak points in their lives. There seems to be some ego boost for the insecure man by doing this, almost as though they seek out or even stalk the woman to bring themselves sick pleasure. The women will hopefully be above it, and usually are, while Karma will sort out the rest.. In my experience anyway. Something about afflicted Scorpio moons, or just pathalogical liars, either way, I choose to stand by my "sisters" from here on in..IP: Logged |
Alma Sun
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posted March 01, 2012 12:33 AM
Damn.. Your exes sound like immature douchebags. Karma will bite them in their behinds one day, and maybe.. take a good chunk out of 'em. lol
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"Cynicism, like gullibility, is a symptom of underdeveloped critical faculties." — Jamie Whyte
"I am not absentminded. It is the presence of mind that makes me unaware of everything else." ― G.K. Chesterton
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T
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posted March 01, 2012 12:39 AM
(((  )))  ~ghani...I'm tempted to write you just because I know I could leave you in stitches ... and that is always good. It's in the past now though....we are older and wiser. IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 01, 2012 12:39 AM
Probably already has, Alma. LOL!!!IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted March 01, 2012 04:35 AM
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Originally posted by ghanima81:
The most important thing I learned was that men will do many devious things to pit women against each other, especially when they are strong and capable women in emotionally weak points in their lives. There seems to be some ego boost for the insecure man by doing this, almost as though they seek out or even stalk the woman to bring themselves sick pleasure. The women will hopefully be above it, and usually are, while Karma will sort out the rest.. In my experience anyway. Something about afflicted Scorpio moons, or just pathalogical liars, either way, I choose to stand by my "sisters" from here on in..
Interesting take! And I will have to admit, I can see this, and, have 
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ghanima81
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posted March 01, 2012 11:10 AM
T, I always wanted to have that conversation, but you're right, past is just that. And after years of reflection, that situation is NOT worth too much thought on my end.. Multiple lessons learned. hippi, It's something I've thought of as I get older, how some men try to separate a single woman from her "den", so as to whisper in her ear and isolate her from the truth. It's so painfully obvious that men do this. They tear down our self esteem so they can have control. They have lost the power in so many other factors in life, the emotional abuse is the only thing they cling to... Just my opinion. Man, I sound like a man hater!! LOL IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted March 09, 2012 03:38 AM
I was just thinking about this again.I know of all sorts of women who have felt insecurity around their romantic relationships (myself included, what I've experienced of them myself). The only thing you have to worry about, is whether or not your man can be trusted. If you love him, and trust him, then you don't need to concern yourself with any woman coming onto him (or those you only perceive to be coming onto him - I've seen that happen, too, based on insecurity). Those women aren't the enemy, if he isn't about to stray - and if he does, then he's the enemy, and not some precious little thing twisted by the woman's evil and wily charms. IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 09, 2012 03:40 PM
agree 100% and sometimes you later realize the guy wasnt even worth your time anyway.IP: Logged |
Alma Sun
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posted March 11, 2012 03:18 AM
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Those women aren't the enemy, if he isn't about to stray - and if he does, then he's the enemy, and not some precious little thing twisted by the woman's evil and wily charms.
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agree 100% and sometimes you later realize the guy wasnt even worth your time anyway.
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Delos
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posted March 11, 2012 09:21 AM
Oh, I definitely agree! A man who is taken already is a serious turn off for me, and even more so if he's married. I think it's so beautiful if two people have found each other and this should be respected.I have seen it many times, that women can be very attracted to a man who has a nice woman next to his side. It makes him more prestigious so to say that he managed to catch her. Like they are thinking.. he must have something very special to have a girlfriend like that, I want him too, or they look so nice together and I'm jealous, lets destroy this. I feel very sad more these women, they are lost souls, and they need to find themselves again before they ever will have a man that loves them, otherwise they will be used and lonely. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted March 11, 2012 09:34 AM
Oh, I meant to add that I still agree that it's rude. I'm just generally pi$$y with any woman who puts her partner's straying (or potential straying) solely on the woman. Men do it, too, but more often than not, women will be pitted against each other - as ghanima pointed out. Anyone doing that to me can, and this is the politest way in which I can say it right now, can sod off. If anyone is feeling that much insecurity in their relationship, it's either due to their own issues or the man is doing something to bring it on - maybe even both, because some will play on the issues of another, to cover their own tracks. a-holes, male and female alike, who do that to others.I also just don't like seeing one person seem to accuse another right in front of me, as I thought I saw happening in this thread. I wasn't sure, but it sure seemed that way. I think the person in question realizes that they might be wrong, though. It wasn't directed at me, but it made me feel uncomfortable all the same. But then I'm pretty pi$$y in general lately. I think I need to disappear for a while. IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 11, 2012 10:18 AM
Yeah, it can be dropped now and should be. IP: Logged |
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