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Topic: Just realized I'm officially a Taurus
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posted February 24, 2012 03:28 AM
  
Been observing someone who seems to be flirting with a guy who she knows has a girlfriend...I mean, she's overly talkative to him and brings up how she likes his sun sign A LOT. Right in front of his significant others face. I realized my Taurean-ness because if the same thing were happening to me, I'd be piiiissed. It seems really rude of the flirter. I've never considered myself the jealous type, but if someone is blatently hitting on your man...well....it doesnt sit well with me and I don't get it. If you know a guy is taken, why would you even want to bother, or go there? I don't get how that could make someone more attractive. To me, it makes someone completely unattractive. It seems she doesnt even consider the girlfriend at all and I find that to be really rude and weird. Because she knows he has one. When I find out a guy is in a relationship, it's like a switch goes off and I"m not attracted to him anymore, almost to a point of repulsion. I summed it up to a Taurean thing, like we just respect other people's "possessions" whether they be people or material objects, but I just can't be attracted to someone who it "taken" - or doesnt "belong to me". Anyway, I observe this person's girlfriend not doing much about the flirtations and if I were his girlfriend, I'd be effing ****** . LOL Maybe she is, but not saying anything. Even if the relationship is secure, the guy should speak up and shut the flirter down, IMO. Out of respect for his girlfriend, at least. I have a feeling he enjoys the attention. How a female could do that knowing the guy is in a relationship is beyond me. Seriously....like, mindboggling. Weird to take note of as an outsider, too. I think it's an 8th house moon thing - to find yourself taking witness to these types of dynamics in people.. I'm a people watcher... 
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anongrl10
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posted February 24, 2012 05:18 AM
I'm 100% with you on this.
For me it's an indication of her rotten character that 1) she's hitting on someone who she knows is taken, and that 2) she's flirting in front of his girlfriend.
The fact that he does not shut her down would truly p1ssed me off if I were his g/f.
To me, it's a matter of character. Not even jealousy. Just character. For me, such incidents can be deal breakers if the b/f doesn't handle this right.
Btw, most women in this scenario would just hate the other woman who is hitting on him, which is TOTALLY insane reaction in my mind. I would completely ignore her seeing as she is obviously a s.l.u.t and simply deal with my b/f. I'm interested in him and his character more than I care about her.
Enjoying the attention is human (I think I would be flattered too) to a point but disregarding the rudeness of hitting on him in front of his g/f or while knowing fully well that he's not available, that's not human and if he's routinely thinking with his d1ck, I'm ready to walk. Taurus Moon
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Aqua rising PS: When I was in my first serious relationship and very much in love, I had frequent incidents of men hitting on me. One time a guy in the bus got so hot under the collar that he kept insisting we go out for coffee, touching me, etc.. I normally let them down nicely (no need to offend anyone) but he got so persistent that I almost yelled to him that I'm in a loving relationship and his attention is not welcome. He backed off with a nervous "Ok, Ok"  Sometimes you just *have* to be clear that you are not available no matter how flattered you are. I'm like this and I want this from my guy as well. But I find that most guys get ultra flattered and never firmly reject anyone leaving them wonder if they are interested and messing things up. I find this to be a form of emotional cheating of your partner.
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hippichick
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posted February 24, 2012 09:17 AM
I'm down!Bull moon can get a bit enraged and sickened when a woman hits on my bfriend. The Pisces I dated years ago, thought I was jealous, (dont flatter yourself former Fish.) It was not jealousy, but the woman was ******* me off. It is not only hugely disrespectful to everyone concerned, but the woman who is flirting makes an ass out of herself! Current Virgo bfriend used to go there with his high school friends on FB. He is down here on contract and will go back up north eventually. Once a girl posted that she was coming this way and wanted to "hook up" with him. He retorted that they were old friends and she was married with kids now... REALLY? that means nothing!!! (not to mention his many stories of casual sex betweeen friends back in his high school days.) I tried to explain women to both of these gentlemen... You see boys, tho it may boost your ego, tho it may make you feel young again, tho it may demonstrate to the sig other that you are still marketable, it is sick. And boys, we are just like you, IF you act like you like it, IF you reciporicate in any way, then the other party will assume interest...geezzzzzz All in all I AM A WOMAN and I know our ways better than you do! LOL GOOD THREAD! IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted February 24, 2012 09:20 AM
BTW Virgo bfriend has always been a big flirt, sees nothing wrong with it, and really, I just blow him off, I recognize some issues he has and know it makes him feel good (tho he says he does it to make the women feel good about themselves...)Bottem line with this one, again, IF you put it out there, then a woman will assume you are interested, so dont go there~  DUH!!! IP: Logged |
Alma Sun
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posted February 24, 2012 12:16 PM
Yep I'm with you guys. I haz a stellium in 2nd house. I'm big on, "THAT'S MINE BEEYOTCH!" I don't get women/men who find it irresistible when someone's in a relationship and blatantly go after them and or flirt with them in front of their lovers! I think I've seen something on T.V. about these type of people before. In most cases, they grew up without a father/male figure in their lives (not that all people end up behaving like that). And I guess they find it a challenge to take someone's lover away. It makes them feel better about themselves if they succeed. They feel more powerful and attractive when they can get a man's attention, especially one that's in love with someone else. Shame, shame but these things happen way too often. ------------------
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Yin
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posted February 24, 2012 12:24 PM
Ha, I feel the same way and yet - nothing in Taurus in my chart. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted February 24, 2012 12:39 PM
I feel the same way, too. I said the other day, that a man hitting on a woman, when he's in a relationship, is being disrespectful to both women - the girlfriend, for obvious reasons, and the second woman for thinking that she would be interested. The same goes for women. quote:
When I find out a guy is in a relationship, it's like a switch goes off and I"m not attracted to him anymore, almost to a point of repulsion.
Yep. And I've stopped liking the men, once they've even tried to hit on me. IP: Logged |
sand
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posted February 24, 2012 01:41 PM
haha i even made a similar thread on another forum!so yeah i do respect other people's relationships. i could imagine people being okay with it. i mean with the variety of personalities we have on here but i don't necessarily understand it. i wouldn't say they get fug if they're taken but it's not an option and off my radar, and taurus radar already sux so bad LOL! IP: Logged |
Yin
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posted February 24, 2012 02:03 PM
sand, why does Taurus radar suck?IP: Logged |
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posted February 24, 2012 03:53 PM
Wow, what a response! Right on ladies  & sand lolanon, yes, it's more about character and not so much jealousy. I had a guy once trying to make it out like I was jealous when I wasnt, which made me even more furious. lol Because i rarely get jealous and he was the one coming after me. Realizing a person is a scumbag and being jealous are two very different things. Later I found out more about his situation and things most people werent privy to and realized what a dirtbag he really was. He tried to boost his ego in thinking and telling people it was because I wanted him or something. When in fact, I didnt want him when he was single, and certainly didnt want him now that he was coming on to me while he was in a relationship. Yuck. quote:
PS: When I was in my first serious relationship and very much in love, I had frequent incidents of men hitting on me. One time a guy in the bus got so hot under the collar that he kept insisting we go out for coffee, touching me, etc.. I normally let them down nicely (no need to offend anyone) but he got so persistent that I almost yelled to him that I'm in a loving relationship and his attention is not welcome. He backed off with a nervous "Ok, Ok"
LOL been there. IP: Logged |
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posted February 24, 2012 03:57 PM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
The Pisces I dated years ago, thought I was jealous, (dont flatter yourself former Fish.) It was not jealousy, but the woman was ******* me off. It is not only hugely disrespectful to everyone concerned, but the woman who is flirting makes an ass out of herself!
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You see boys, tho it may boost your ego, tho it may make you feel young again, tho it may demonstrate to the sig other that you are still marketable, it is sick. And boys, we are just like you, IF you act like you like it, IF you reciporicate in any way, then the other party will assume interest...geezzzzzzAll in all I AM A WOMAN and I know our ways better than you do! LOL GOOD THREAD!
 Well said! IP: Logged |
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posted February 24, 2012 04:03 PM
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Originally posted by Alma Sun:
Yep I'm with you guys. I haz a stellium in 2nd house. I'm big on, "THAT'S MINE BEEYOTCH!" I don't get women/men who find it irresistible when someone's in a relationship and blatantly go after them and or flirt with them in front of their lovers! I think I've seen something on T.V. about these type of people before. In most cases, they grew up without a father/male figure in their lives (not that all people end up behaving like that). And I guess they find it a challenge to take someone's lover away. It makes them feel better about themselves if they succeed. They feel more powerful and attractive when they can get a man's attention, especially one that's in love with someone else. Shame, shame but these things happen way too often.
I think i saw something similar and it might have been on Operah's OWN network. They like the thrill of the chase and yes, feeling like they are sexy and powerful enough to steal anothers partner away from someone else. It's like....seriously? People actually behave this way? That's how they challenge themselves in life? total crazypants. It takes all kinds, I guess! IP: Logged |
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posted February 24, 2012 04:07 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
i wouldn't say they get fug if they're taken but it's not an option and off my radar, and taurus radar already sux so bad LOL!
lol well they don't get fug, but any attraction that might have been there is gone. They do get fugly when they hit on you and leave out the part that they have a girlfriend or wife though! IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted February 24, 2012 05:21 PM
I used to work with a woman, a very, very mean, insecure woman..Well, she baited a very married doctor for 5 years before she broke up his home, complete with children and got him to marry her... (not before he had her have implants, tattooed makeup, etc.) before he would put a ring on her finger... Guess what??? He was found with a younger version of her, now they are divorced. Yea, karma is a ***** ~ IP: Logged |
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posted February 24, 2012 08:04 PM
Ick. What drives a person to do these kinds of things...?IP: Logged |
charmainec
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posted February 25, 2012 04:41 AM
Yes, Anon. Take note and heed your own advice.IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted February 25, 2012 06:46 AM
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Originally posted by charmainec:
Yes, Anon. Take note and heed your own advice.
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Did I miss something? 
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mintgirl123
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posted February 25, 2012 08:46 PM
Omg yeah. I just don't go there, and if I do find out sb's taken, I wouldn't feel any attraction towards them. Just think they're off limits.Hate it when people hit on others whom they know are taken. Complete lack of morals imo. IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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posted February 27, 2012 02:05 PM
Interesting thoughts. I know a few people who were like this when they were younger and insecure/inexperienced with relationships and social decorum. Most grew out of it. One is nearly 50 and pretty nuts in her dealings with men. She was in a relationship for YEARS, and not only cheated on him, but would break up other relationships of the people she was cheating with. Sick and wrong. I am a people watcher too, and oh how I love to analyze WHY they do the things they do. I personally talk to everyone the same way. Men, women, kids, I'm gregarious and open. Some people may find it offputting, jealous people I suppose, but it's just how I am. I am NOT flirting, but have been told that I (as well as most of the women in my family, we call it our "Irish charm") am a flirt. I don't get it, because I know I do not have bad intentions in the way I speak to people, and I do make it clear that I am not interested. At least, I think I do. That can be tough for some people, like me, who are just friendly and talk to everyone. I suppose constantly saying "I'm not interested" would appease? IP: Logged |
sand
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posted February 27, 2012 03:26 PM
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Originally posted by Yin:
sand, why does Taurus radar suck?
i couldn't find dis thread fo sum reason lol see taurus radar sux.. i just meant we are already abit oblivious to who we attract. you know busy smelling the roses.. IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted February 28, 2012 12:17 PM
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Ick. What drives a person to do these kinds of things...?
friggin insecurity!  IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted February 28, 2012 02:37 PM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
friggin insecurity!
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anongrl10
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posted February 28, 2012 02:38 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
i couldn't find dis thread fo sum reason lol see taurus radar sux.. i just meant we are already abit oblivious to who we attract. you know busy smelling the roses..
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charmainec
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posted February 28, 2012 11:27 PM
Why do they do it? For the attention.. which stems from their own insecurities or rotten apple character.------------------
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teasel
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posted February 28, 2012 11:49 PM
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