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RegardesPlatero
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posted April 14, 2012 02:42 PM
  
...the more attractive one of the couple, the less attractive one, for this to switch back and forth between the two of you over the years/time that you're together, or for you both to be equally attractive the entire time?Just wondering what people thought about this, as I've seen a few different opinions. Me, I'd probably want to be the prettier one; I'd really want to feel lovely and beautiful. I honestly would be really insecure with someone much more attractive than me and would constantly wonder what that person saw in me. Plus, as I said, I would want to feel pretty and all, and to be muse-like, if that makes sense. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted April 14, 2012 03:56 PM
Interesting topic! I think it's sweet when I see pretty women with less attractive men.I've always found it difficult to tell how attractive I am. I have always dated men whom I felt were more attractive than me. If they were TOO much more attractive, I didn't even bother getting emotionally attached...I figured it wouldn't last. My last boyfriend, before I got married...I actually broke up with him because he was too cute. I didn't tell him that, though. So he wrote me a letter demanding to know why I broke it off....I couldn't say, "You're just too hot, this won't last." Didn't want to get into a fight about it, I just knew. I guess my husband and I are about equally attractive if we are both well-dressed.   IP: Logged |
sand
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From: Day Spa
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posted April 14, 2012 05:19 PM
I want to be the less attractive one. Not a problem because I've always been that LMAO! I do try to make up for it via fitness lol! And I do think I have a better body than face. I am really fine with anyone as long as they are of moderate to above average attractiveness. How we get along and how they make me feel is more important to me tbh.IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 15, 2012 09:16 PM
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
...the more attractive one of the couple, the less attractive one, for this to switch back and forth between the two of you over the years/time that you're together, or for you both to be equally attractive the entire time?Just wondering what people thought about this, as I've seen a few different opinions. Me, I'd probably want to be the prettier one; I'd really want to feel lovely and beautiful. I honestly would be really insecure with someone much more attractive than me and would constantly wonder what that person saw in me. Plus, as I said, I would want to feel pretty and all, and to be muse-like, if that makes sense.
My boyfriend is ever-so-slightly more attractive than I am, and you're right about the persistent feelings of insecurity. They plague you (at first). But like anything, once it loses its novelty you relax into it and feel more secure. Even the handsomest guy scratches his ass on occasion, belches, leaves mess lying everywhere, it loses its glamour and before you know it, you are looking at him like a regular human being. My boyfriend is constantly flattering me as well and has done much to boost my self-confidence. At the end of the day, it really comes down to "type" - not everyone has the same one, you know? So even though he's conventionally attractive, he's not going to be everyone's type and vice-versa. Maybe not everyone gets what he sees in me, but the fact is, he's attracted to me because I'm HIS "type."
In short, I'm very Venusian so I can empathize with the vanity that we women possess, but we shouldn't focus on such things and should just worry about finding a nice guy who respects you.
Celeb example: 
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Aquacheeka
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posted April 15, 2012 09:18 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:I guess my husband and I are about equally attractive if we are both well-dressed.
OK, this sounds about right; if I put a lot of time and effort into it, I clean up really nice and we look about equal. It's just not really fair as all he has to do is take a shower, put on a pair of tight jeans and a t-shirt and throw on a cap and he'll look as good as me at my best LOL.
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starzy54
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From: CA
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posted April 17, 2012 01:12 AM
When my partner and I are together, we kinda amp each-others attractiveness somehow. We just look good as a couple, and look better together than as single people if that makes sense. He says I am the more attractive one, and younger looking ( I am 3 yrs younger than him ) and he always says he looks old, and is too skinny etc. I kinda like being his "pretty young thing" as he calls me. Even though i think he looks great.I enjoy being his arm candy and the "attractive" one,even though i think we are equals.I am a Leo asc, so his flattery makes me feel great lol. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted April 17, 2012 10:05 AM
I'm the always smart one, and my gf is the pretty one...although they tend to be very smart.------------------
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ghanima81
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posted April 17, 2012 11:03 AM
I've talked about this with my bf recently also. I've dated "pretty boys" in the past, but always felt insecure and usually was cheated on or left for somebody more attractive. I too decided that I would want to be the at least slightly more attractive one, and even a little bit smarter. Maybe that sounds crass, but a Leo moon always wants to be the Queen! My bf has expressed his enjoyment in my looks and intelligence as it makes him feel proud and kinda like "look what I got! Yup, she's mine!" Which I think is adorable and really strokes that moon position. When it comes down to it, neither of us ever make too much of a fuss of the others' appearance, except that we are both OCD and pick lint, hairs and other miscellaneous fibers off each others clothing all the time LMAO. He was a friend of mine before we became involved, and before I REALLY got to know him, I wasn't attracted to him. It was personality all the way. The more time I spent with him, the more attractive he became, it was really interesting as I had always been led by instant attraction in the past. I hope that bodes well for us that we were able to connect on deeper levels before the physical attraction part played into things too much. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted April 17, 2012 01:32 PM
Oh I definitely try hard to be the less attractive one. With my wife, I don't have to try at all. Like Beauty and the Beast. In fact, my relationships were with markedly more attractive women, not to sound trivial.Not to be a braggart, I keep my wife's photos on my desk in the office and take pride in them. However, we prefer to focus on character. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 18, 2012 04:25 PM
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Originally posted by ghanima81:
I've talked about this with my bf recently also. I've dated "pretty boys" in the past, but always felt insecure and usually was cheated on or left for somebody more attractive. I too decided that I would want to be the at least slightly more attractive one, and even a little bit smarter. Maybe that sounds crass, but a Leo moon always wants to be the Queen! My bf has expressed his enjoyment in my looks and intelligence as it makes him feel proud and kinda like "look what I got! Yup, she's mine!" Which I think is adorable and really strokes that moon position. When it comes down to it, neither of us ever make too much of a fuss of the others' appearance, except that we are both OCD and pick lint, hairs and other miscellaneous fibers off each others clothing all the time LMAO. He was a friend of mine before we became involved, and before I REALLY got to know him, I wasn't attracted to him. It was personality all the way. The more time I spent with him, the more attractive he became, it was really interesting as I had always been led by instant attraction in the past. I hope that bodes well for us that we were able to connect on deeper levels before the physical attraction part played into things too much.
Hmmmm interesting! The gorgeous actor I posted above with the ugly fiance is a Leo sun, lol! Maybe he just wants all the attention for himself 
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sand
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posted April 18, 2012 06:36 PM
That can happen to Taurus to when we r too lazy to chase! IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted April 18, 2012 06:52 PM
LOL Aquacheeka, I know the gorgeous Leo (Jesse). I grew up with him. He's actually born on the exact same day as my sister, August 5, 1981. We all went to the same high school. Let me tell you, back in the day, 90s, he was just as gorgeous as he is today. Except his ego wasn't quite as big. But all the best for him and his fiancé. I'd prefer to be with someone equally attractive to myself. I don't want to be more or less attractive. Unless were quirky and attractive in different ways. And isn't beauty in the eye of the beholder? I'd prefer someone who was on the same page as me. Equality across the board, even in looks . IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted April 18, 2012 11:06 PM
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Originally posted by NativelyJoan:
LOL Aquacheeka, I know the gorgeous Leo (Jesse). I grew up with him. He's actually born on the exact same day as my sister, August 4, 1981.
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NativelyJoan
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From: New England
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posted April 18, 2012 11:44 PM
I didn't know it was possible to melt like a bar of chocolate at 20 paces until I met him. In person he's beyond. I swear he literally glows. I first met him when I was a kid. He spoke to me and fireworks exploded in front of my eyes. Haha...ok enough gushing. I've got Venus in Leo conjunct my Descendant in Leo. Those big cats are oh so very enchanting... 
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Lonake
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posted April 19, 2012 12:54 AM
I attract 2 types,
--one has quite raw masculine facial features, etc. earthy - I'm better looking
--the other is usually a water sun, soft eyes, sweet presence, more pretty than the other - we're equally attractive
I can take either, tho sexually I prefer the one w.raw/gruff features.
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inthemisosoup
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posted April 19, 2012 11:13 AM
I like my men to be attractive. But it not always conventional attractiveness which turns me on. They can attract me with their words, creativity, generosity, humor, skills in bed. I for the most part have been in relationships with men who are about as attractive as me. I have dated casually and been attracted to men who just do it for me in other ways. So far I haven't dated any of them seriously, though.The guy I'm dating atm is definitely not as attractive as I am. But I find him very funny and trustworthy. Also he's proving to be very compatible sexually, although I haven't slept with him yet. We will see where it goes. IP: Logged |
MorningDew79
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From: Lalalaland
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted April 20, 2012 09:11 AM
Interesting topic here My man and I just discussed this last weekend after my girls night out with friends. He got all excited to know that guys were hitting on me. After my divorce I have self-esteem issues (working hard to fix that) because my ex cheated on me a lot, so for my new man, he said if strange men hit on me maybe it will boost my confidence because I still don't believe him. He said he wants me to be the pretty one and he'll be the funny one. I think I like that because I do enjoy being all dolled up and look good so yeah I think we agree on something lol. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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From: Toronto
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posted April 20, 2012 12:17 PM
I think it would be very beneficial for the woman to be the more objectively attractive one. I think both sexes would be more comfortable with that. Sometimes I wish I wasn't so shallow. I think after the first time I got my heart broken by a guy who was just average-looking/not that cute I unconsciously decided all guys are the same/have the potential to hurt you so if you're going to get disappointed it might as well be by a hottie!IP: Logged |
lilithpluto
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Registered: Dec 2011
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posted April 21, 2012 02:32 AM
Hmmm.... I dun like dating guys more attractive than me not because of any self esteem issue or I feel inferior to any.  The main reason is too attractive guys tend not to put much effort n think their looks is enough to compensate for the lack of efforts. They tend not to be too smart either... Taking looks away, I feel they have nothing to teach me. . Besides, I prefer to b the arm candy than him to me.  Leo sun, Aquarius moon, Gemini Venus, Libra Mars IP: Logged |
fairy22
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posted May 10, 2012 05:39 PM
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ariesdragon
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posted May 10, 2012 07:44 PM
This is a funny question 
It has me thinking lol I will think about it some more...hahaha IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows
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posted May 11, 2012 04:54 PM
I'd want to be the more alluring female spouse for I recognize that whilst I will always stand staunch, my partner may always stray, and being that stunning trophy wife might make him reconsider such deportments.
But when it comes down to it, if they're a swindler, they'll deciet you either way.All in all, I'd anticipate that we're likewise on a winsome scale.
My judgments highly superfical albeit. I've seen some VERY captivating men dating the most blah of girls. These fellows would have a room full of beautiful woman enamored by them, but they only desired the one girl. If I could have that, that'd be wonderful.
Libra Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Gemini Ascendant
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Desiring Shadows
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posted May 11, 2012 04:54 PM
This is how I tend to be: "He was a friend of mine before we became involved, and before I REALLY got to know him, I wasn't attracted to him. It was personality all the way. The more time I spent with him, the more attractive he became,"
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starmoon
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posted May 11, 2012 06:54 PM
Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I'd want to be the more alluring female spouse for I recognize that whilst I will always stand staunch, my partner may always stray, and being that stunning trophy wife might make him reconsider such deportments.
But when it comes down to it, if they're a swindler, they'll deciet you either way.i agree with this and have always been the better looking partner. i have found that men less attractive than myself treat me really well, like a prize or something. but, even though i am attractive i still suffer from insecurities in relationships and question my own attractiveness at times. oddly, i have found that most guys will not compliment me on my looks - perhaps because they feel i always get that and they want to be original? IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted May 20, 2012 10:14 AM
*bump*------------------
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