posted March 08, 2014 03:58 AM            

its a long distance relationship..am not sure its a relationship..at least from my side it is..i cant stop thinking about her..

we are both married to different people, i fell for her instantly, and confessed my love to her.. she told me she doesn't love me..and she told me she doesn't love her husband,,and i told her i dont love my wife..i am 32 she's 25
i have been married for 4 years and she has been married for 6 months...
we met on a long flight,,16 hour flight..i scanned the plane and decided to sit next to her and literally 30 min after that... we started to make out on the plane and believe me if the rest room was big enough we would have had sex...(she made the first move on the plane that prompted me to kiss her)
when the plane landed her husband was waiting for her at the gate and we both went separate ways..i texted her a few days later and we met when her hubby was at work...we had lunch together, made out at a nearby park,,i wanted sex but she said she wasn't ready ( she was not on her period, because i asked her).....

a few days later she is cold and says she is afraid she will get attached to me and shes doesn't want to get attached to me..., ..i don't know if she loves me,,she once told me "i don't love you, i don't want to give you false hope, even if i love you, i wont ever tell you"
she plays hot and cold..i recently snapped at her and actually called her a ***** ...she ignored me for 2 weeks, but after texting her almost daily during the 2 weeks apologizing and telling her i love her..she finally agreed to talk and we talked for 2 hours on the phone..she agreed to give me another chance...24 hrs later she's back with the hot and cold game, doesn't reply to texts......what should i do ? am certainly not going to call her names..how do i go about her mood swings...she told me she is moody and that i wouldn't be able to handle her..i know i can handle any woman..Pisces can handle all creatures....

need to mention, we are from different classes of society, not trying to sound arrogant, but my social life is out of her league, i work at a very prestigious job, she is unemployed..i live in a luxurious neighborhood, she doesn't... is this whats making her unstable ? ..she is inconstant with me,,one day she acts like we are in a relationship, the next she ignores me completely....to add to the misery, she lives 5000 miles away from where i am,,its a long distance..

my questions :
are we compatible astrologically ?
my questions :
are we compatible astrologically ?

how do i deal with the hot and cold, ? i mean, i text her, she ignores for days,,,shall i give her a week and then text her again, or wait till she texts back ( she might never text back)

and if she does text back,shall i give her a taste of her own medicine,,,ignore for a week and then text ?

posted March 09, 2014 05:41 AM            

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Originally posted by SDragon:
I'll try to be supportive... lol ; )

Sounds like Pluto is somewhere intense - do you have a Synastry chart? Sun, Moon and Venus won't tell us much.

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i have this as the moment..photobucket seems to be down

Me:
Sun Pisces 8.30
Moon Aries 22.45
Mercury Aquarius 11.38
Venus Capricorn 28.15
Mars Libra 18.54 R
Jupiter Scorpio 10.19 R
Saturn Libra 21.37 R
Uranus Sagittarius 4.35
Neptune Sagittarius 26.48
Pluto Libra 26.42 R
Lilith Sagittarius 17.20
Asc node Cancer 21.40

posted March 09, 2014 09:15 AM            

Sun trine Sun
Pluto trine Sun
Pluto inc. Moon

She has Pluto conjunct Sun and Pluto sq. Moon herself. Honestly, I think this has to do with her discovering about herself - when we don't confront our own aspects, we seek them out in others to reflect them to us. So all the hot/cold stuff is really about her discovering about her own emotional nature and the aspects of power/powerlessness.

posted March 09, 2014 09:43 AM            

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Originally posted by SDragon:
So,

Sun trine Sun
Pluto trine Sun
Pluto inc. Moon

She has Pluto conjunct Sun and Pluto sq. Moon herself. Honestly, I think this has to do with her discovering about herself - when we don't confront our own aspects, we seek them out in others to reflect them to us. So all the hot/cold stuff is really about her discovering about her own emotional nature and the aspects of power/powerlessness.

You also have Pluto opp. Moon and Pluto sq. Venus so this level of intensity isn't 'new' to you per se, but you both need to be aware that once all the game-playing, manipulations and obsession are finished, there may not be anything left to sustain an actual relationship.

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i sorta understand...but are we compatible ?

do you mean the only way to sustain a relationship is to keep playing games ? that would drain the life out of me..

i will give her space and all the she wants,,but i am afraid of losing her...so i am currently texting her once or twice aday asking hows she's doing, if she slept well, ate well,/..etc..i got no responses the past 3 days

posted March 09, 2014 10:10 AM            

I don't really know this person but you need to trust your intuition above any other person, religion or society. If you feel drained then you probably are being drained and you'll be much healthier if you walk away from it all. Pluto/Moon can feel like real once-in-a-lifetime intimacy but it dies a little death each time neither party can be honest with each other.

posted March 09, 2014 03:53 PM            

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Originally posted by SDragon:
It depends on how mature she is. But you being a Pisces won't help necessarily because your compassionate nature can be taken advantage of and usually Scorpio won't respect anyone that can't stand up to them - so she might like the fact that she seems to have this power over you but at the same time dislike the fact that you come across as 'needy' per se.

I don't really know this person but you need to trust your intuition above any other person, religion or society. If you feel drained then you probably are being drained and you'll be much healthier if you walk away from it all. Pluto/Moon can feel like real once-in-a-lifetime intimacy but it dies a little death each time neither party can be honest with each other.

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Thanks a lot

Not only do I feel drained..get this, I went to see her unexpectedly.. I called she didn't pick up so I took a cab, drove to her residence where there is a starbucks nearby...saw her being all lovey dovey with a guy, she was shocked to see me, asked her who he was and she said she takes Spanish class with him and they were on break and that he's younger than her (like ad if younger guys don't **** )... We sat the 3 of us at Starbucks, she told the guy am just a friend..then she left me and went to class with him when the break finished.. I thought she would skip class and stay with me but she didn't...I waited a whole hour till she finished class,, she came of out class alone, we talked then I left...she said she would text me in 30 min but she didn't..I feel played, she doesn't respect me...I have a pic of me and her making out I think am gonna send it to her hubby..god I feel am worse than Hitler...am gonna walk away..she apparently only wants sex from "any man"

posted March 09, 2014 04:06 PM            

I wouldn't send the picture. What goes around comes around and she could become just as spiteful.

posted March 09, 2014 04:28 PM            

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Originally posted by SDragon:
I doubt it's sex, just attention and power.

I wouldn't send the picture. What goes around comes around and she could become just as spiteful.

Best wishes.

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I think its sex..literally 30 min after meeting her for the first time in my life my hand was inside her vagina and my tongue was in her mouth..that was on a plane too..sex is her life, she doesn't care where she gets it from..she's a Scorpio after all, no ?

posted March 09, 2014 06:54 PM            

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Originally posted by SDragon:
Many Scorpio learn to regenerate their passions and evolve past the astral realm which clouds them in their desire matrix. And many Scorpio would shun at even the thought of doing what you described with a complete stranger - I'll leave it at that and just assume you were venting.

But maybe as a Pisces, this is more a lesson on your side about being able to resist the emotional seduction that you can sense - you're not necessarily the victim and she's not necessarily the abuser. Psychic vampires live on a different plane and they detect quickly whether someone doesn't have enough energetic boundaries to protect themselves. But ya, once you're gone they search for the next fix.

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posted March 09, 2014 07:24 PM            

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Originally posted by CatMote:
you need to learn to control your passions too. you arent the victim. you are both the abusers. and now youre going to ruin her marriage? i know you saw her at this place with some other guy, but you werent dating. you hooked up on a plane. i hate to be an ass, but you arent karma. you arent the bringer of justice. let her handle herself. this game is better played with two, not three.

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I agree. Why ruin her marriage... She could ruin mine..but i.was hurt and i think my Aires moon wants revenge..

posted March 10, 2014 02:35 AM            

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Originally posted by CatMote:
i know how you feel. and its horrible. and its powerless.
shes playing a game with her husband too. i know its hard, but if i were you i would try my hardest to get myself out of this situation. leave it behind. you deserve better.

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posted March 10, 2014 04:28 AM            

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Originally posted by usc277:

Don't you think her poor husband needs to know whom he's really married to...they for married 4 months ago..its better he knows now than years from now?

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posted March 10, 2014 05:44 AM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
I'm sorry I'm just a little confused... You said you've been married for 4 years and don't love your wife? Wouldn't you want to get out of your own marriage regardless of what's going on with this girl? Maybe then you wouldn't feel so powerless.. It's not your place to "save" this guy especially if you're really doing it out of revenge. That's such a Pisces move lol no offense...

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posted March 10, 2014 06:00 AM            

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Originally posted by usc277:

Yes true...but I can't get out of my marriage now, we recently had a baby and I feel I need to stay until he grows up...i feel like my Aires moon and Pisces sun are in a conflict.. The moon wants an all out war and revenge for being disrespected and played...the sun tells me that the Scorpio is just testing you so be patient and act nonchalant...my god there are 2 people living in my body.

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Idk something tells me this isn't the first casual encounter you've had with another girl, or if it is it won't be the last... Even if you do wait it out with the Scorpio and things somehow evolve into a relationship how do you see that playing out? It seems like a disaster waiting to happen either way. And honestly I get that you're upset but you are also disrespecting and playing your wife.. Even if it's a loveless marriage at this point imagine how you would feel if you found out your wife had something on the side like that?

And imo I don't think you need to stay in an unhealthy situation because of a baby. If anything that's all the more reason to give your son two happy parents and set an example for how to have honest and functional relationships. I notice from your placements you'll be going through Neptune conjunct sun transit (your sun squares my moon lol so I'm going through it too in another way) which can be a highly foggy and confusing time and unfortunately is a long transit, so I'd say before making any major decisions maybe just give it some time for the smoke to clear so you don't end up way in over your head...

posted March 10, 2014 06:39 AM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
Idk something tells me this isn't the first casual encounter you've had with another girl, or if it is it won't be the last... Even if you do wait it out with the Scorpio and things somehow evolve into a relationship how do you see that playing out? It seems like a disaster waiting to happen either way. And honestly I get that you're upset but you are also disrespecting and playing your wife.. Even if it's a loveless marriage at this point imagine how you would feel if you found out your wife had something on the side like that?

And imo I don't think you need to stay in an unhealthy situation because of a baby. If anything that's all the more reason to give your son two happy parents and set an example for how to have honest and functional relationships. I notice from your placements you'll be going through Neptune conjunct sun transit (your sun squares my moon lol so I'm going through it too in another way) which can be a highly foggy and confusing time and unfortunately is a long transit, so I'd say before making any major decisions maybe just give it some time for the smoke to clear so you don't end up way in over your head...

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Your absolutely spot on..its foggy as hell...am not gonna be revengeful.. Its not worth it..I deleted her no. And won't contact her..if she does contact me I'll be cool like ain't nothing on my mind....and how long is this transit ?

posted March 10, 2014 06:51 AM            

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Originally posted by FireMoon:
Idk something tells me this isn't the first casual encounter you've had with another girl, or if it is it won't be the last... Even if you do wait it out with the Scorpio and things somehow evolve into a relationship how do you see that playing out? It seems like a disaster waiting to happen either way. And honestly I get that you're upset but you are also disrespecting and playing your wife.. Even if it's a loveless marriage at this point imagine how you would feel if you found out your wife had something on the side like that?

And imo I don't think you need to stay in an unhealthy situation because of a baby. If anything that's all the more reason to give your son two happy parents and set an example for how to have honest and functional relationships. I notice from your placements you'll be going through Neptune conjunct sun transit (your sun squares my moon lol so I'm going through it too in another way) which can be a highly foggy and confusing time and unfortunately is a long transit, so I'd say before making any major decisions maybe just give it some time for the smoke to clear so you don't end up way in over your head...

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Yes its not the first encounter but I honestly felt it will be the last if that Scorpio and I were on the same emotional level...but she isn't..I never heat when deeply in love....when I was 6 yrs old I woke up in the middle of the night, went to my moms bedroom and saw her in bed with another man....dad was travelling..she didn't see me..went back to my room traumatized and sad..this scene never left my head..am 32 now...my dad called me a few days later and asked if my mom was with another man...(how did he even suspect that is a mystery)...my mom told me to lie and say no..so I lied to my dad and said no...so cheating on a partner is in my family from I was 6...my mom is a Gemini, dad Pisces..and guess what my wife is a Gemini and am a Pisces....but am the cheater now...

posted March 10, 2014 07:22 AM            

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Originally posted by usc277:

Yes its not the first encounter but I honestly felt it will be the last if that Scorpio and I were on the same emotional level...but she isn't..I never heat when deeply in love....when I was 6 yrs old I woke up in the middle of the night, went to my moms bedroom and saw her in bed with another man....dad was travelling..she didn't see me..went back to my room traumatized and sad..this scene never left my head..am 32 now...my dad called me a few days later and asked if my mom was with another man...(how did he even suspect that is a mystery)...my mom told me to lie and say no..so I lied to my dad and said no...so cheating on a partner is in my family from I was 6...my mom is a Gemini, dad Pisces..and guess what my wife is a Gemini and am a Pisces....but am the cheater now...

Anyway.. I won't contact the Scorpio but won't ignore her if she contacts me..so you agree with that strategy ?

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Yeah I understand, my mom is a Pisces and my dad is a Virgo, both of my parents cheated on each other when I was younger.. It was a really dysfunctional situation. Now it's hard for me to trust people, I'm 23 but idk if I'll ever get married. I don't want to repeat any of those patterns but so far in relationships I've been cheated on, and honestly have also been wrapped up in love triangles I shouldn't have been involved in. Sooo I do understand it's difficult when we are basically taught by our parents to lie and raised to think it's ok. But I also think that's why it's so important to not repeat the cycle all over again now that you have a kid of your own. Don't let your guilt prevent you from doing the right thing...

I think it's a good idea not to contact her (and I'd say to ignore her if she does contact you, but that's your decision). Idk your circumstances but again I think it's honestly sometimes better to get a divorce than drag on an unhealthy situation that has no hope of improving. But if you think your marriage is worth saving then maybe just put all your energy into re-connecting and fixing things. Marriages aren't always the fun and exciting adventure dating starts out as, but if you have some lasting foundation with your wife I think it's possible to work through the hard times...