posted July 25, 2014 10:28 AM            

Maybe it's just me but I don't have time for games, and I simply will not put up with it.

Why do you continue to allow this to happen? Are you hanging on to the notion that he is the "one and only" for you? or that there isn't someone out there who won't play these games and have a better connection with you?

You want to know why you are going through all this stuff? it's cause you allow it. All you simply have to do it walk away. END IT ONCE AND FOR ALL. DONE. Problem solved. No more worrying about this or that. Someone else will enter into your life.

Relationships like these, imo, are bound to end in turmoil. Its a question of when. Rather now that later imo.

Sorry if I sound rude, but I simply cannot understand why people put themselves through these game playing nonsense that I hear so much about. The moment I even see and inkling of it, I drop you. Period.

posted July 25, 2014 08:56 PM            

Why couldn't you let him know in a soft confident voice how you felt about being left out when he told his family about his recovery? That may have had a better result than you getting offended and an argument ensuing.

Your Dear John letter. That means break up. On this forum, I explained how a guy I was getting know basically sent me a dear jane text (yes, a text) and I was surprised because I thought we were getting along well -- he even told me we were two days prior to the dear jane text. I sent him a long note back expressing my feelings and hoping he would give "us" more time, etc, but I never heard a word back from him. If this ever happens to me again, I will never respond. If they want to end it with me, then so be it. Rejection hurts, but I will not let it make me beg.

The Dating site incidence. He took your letter literally and was trying to move on.

Steph314, the fact that you want to end an exclusive relationship with someone you say you love and who loves you because he messed up, speaks poorly of your level of commitment. From the sounds of your post, it appears to me that he is committed to you. You want him to tell you it's over? You did.

Can you express yourself without ultimatums? People don't like ultimatums (and most grown men Hate them). So just for the hell of it, they will do just what your "or else" condition dared them not to do.

I think you still have a chance though, if you want it. But you are going to have to work hard now to gain his trust because his in faith in your commitment to him when Your feelings get hurt, may have compromised it. I know it sucks, but if you want him, it's on his terms now. I believe your cap will continue to talk to you, but You must stop "threatening" to leave him. "Threatening" I say because it's apparent that you don't want to.

posted August 05, 2014 01:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Steph314:
He told his 87 year old mom 2 weeks prior to the attack that he was going to break up with me.

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posted August 05, 2014 02:16 AM            

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I've never seen a fickle Capricorn. So if your guy doesn't tell you it's over even though you keep asking him about it, and he keeps texting you about his health, I would take that to mean that he doesn't want it to end. But maybe he thinks you do?
Also remember he just had a close brush with death. Maybe he is a bit under the weather and has a lot on his mind.

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I think there are some huge miscommunications happening between you. His brush with death probably made him think he wasn't good enough for you or that he is less fit/less healthy - that he would be a burden in your life.. or God knows what else. You have no idea how depressed and self-critical Capricorns can be.

I don't think you should ignore texts or be cold.. or ask him how he feels about *you*. You should tell him how you feel, instead. Tell him things like - "I care about you. I always will. I am here for you.. and I will always be here for you in years to come - come hell or high-water".
That's what a Capricorn person needs to hear from someone after having a heart attack.

posted August 05, 2014 01:36 PM            

Your man is a life path number 5. This life path number can be summed up in one word; restless.
Also fitting is the fact that he has Moon in Sagittarius. How about that?

Is this depression "normal"? Well depression is part of life, its only a problem when it starts to seriously debilitate one's aptitude for objective reasoning.

Neptune widely squares his Aquarius Mercury; this could bring about the depressive states.

And that Saturn in Scorpio squaring Jupiter in cautious Virgo suggests that he "caps" his happiness; always thinking about or anticipating the worst that might befall him.

He also has Pluto conjunct Jupiter; he digs deeply and emotions tend to linger. This aspect can also make one think that they can "save the world". They feel guilty when they discover that they can't.

Venus in Aquarius squaring Mars in Scorpio and both opposing and squaring Pluto in Leo respectively,suggests much passion but lots of drama in the romantic area of life/

Pluto sqaures Saturn which suggests that life kinds of "pulls" the proverbial rug right from under his feet. Just when he thinks things are stabilizing(Saturn), things fall apart or completely change(Pluto).

The key to dealing with this aspect is accepting whatever changes come. the more the person holds on to the status quo(Saturn), the more psychologically damaged they become(Pluto).

I think this aspect is responsible for him feeling that he has being "wronged" or that life has been "unfair" and "heartbreaking" for him.

I don't think its healthy for him to regurgitate the past. It spoils the present

The need to "reconnect" with his son could be his Moon in Sagittarius reaching out; Sagittarius lunar people become more maternal and become better parents when they are older.

posted August 05, 2014 01:37 PM            

You have life path number 1- this is the initiator.

You also have the same Moon position as your mate-Moon in Sagittarius. So here there is an intuitive understanding of each other from an emotional point of view.

You also have a Venus/Mars square(excluding Pluto), but a very wide square aspect of Venus with Saturn and the opposition aspect of Saturn with Mars.

You both probably had to wait for a long time for love. Saturn aspecting Venus does that. It can make one live through many disappointments in search of the ultimate love.

Your Uranus conjuncts Jupiter and so, with you, changes are not only accepted and encouraged. But they are also a natural part of life.

Your Mercury squares Saturn and opposes Pluto. You are also capable of deep thoughts and "picking" up what his thoughts are. But the Saturn square does tend you towards more "reasoning" approach.

You two are joined by a generational Pluto/Saturn square. Both of you have had to deal with having to rebuild your life when the winds of change come and wreak havoc.