posted July 23, 2014 04:32 PM            

Pisces and I were dating fine until I found out he went back on a dating website. Then he suddenly stopped answering my texts or calls and he would spend his days on it. What a coincidence!

I haven't heard from him since, nor do I care to.

Bottom line is men have a hard time rejecting people so they would rather drift away (and therefore leave the door open but leaving you high and dry in the process) then to tell you that they don't want to see you anymore.

posted July 23, 2014 05:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Steph314:
My. So telling everyoneon the phone the whole saga, and did not mention me once, since I was the one who said lets go to the ER.

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What you did was brave and thoughtful, it screams " I love you "
But as a Pisces I have a problem with people who do good and wait for the credit..does it really matter if he said "thank you"

posted July 23, 2014 07:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Steph314:
Of course I did it out of love. My issue is it is now 2 weeks since and he has not called, yet he had had company over, etc. he said he did not want me around because of the pressure of having to talk to someone.
I have asked numerous times if he wants to end it, and very nicely, and he totally avoids the question. That's why I am asking us this normal
I appreciate your response

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posted July 23, 2014 09:36 PM              

Sorry I had to say it - you stood by and helped him during this crisis and now he's behaving like a prick?

posted July 24, 2014 07:19 AM            

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Originally posted by ash20:
I have been in this exact situation where I practically begged someone to tell me it was over & they never did ..just completely ignored me. I still cannot make sense of it... Why won't they put us out of our misery and help us stop making a fool of ourself?

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The same thing happened to me a couple months ago with a Pisces man. One day he mentioned "love" and literally the next day he started ignoring me. He ignored me to "let me down" but he didn't have the respect to give me closure. I don't abide by disrespect and dishonesty. Hence, to give myself some closure, I told him that as we're not looking for the same thing, it's better we stop talking. I wished him the best. I haven't heard from him since that last date anyway but I felt as though it was the best way for me to get closure and move on.

It's ridiculous and quite frankly, hurtful. I don't care that you're non-confrontational, but there are times in life when you can't just avoid dealing with others. You have to act like an adult and be honest. Why would you leave someone hanging like that when you know that telling them it's over would give them closure? It's far more hurtful to not get any closure than to get a frank break-up line.

No providing someone with the respect of closure is selfish in my opinion. Sure, telling someone it's over is quite awkward and hurtful but it's like a cut. Instant pain then a slow but sure recovery.

posted July 24, 2014 07:22 AM            

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Good Morning MineAgain!
I agree with you completely as my last relationship was with a Pisces man.
This one is a Capricorn man and I am a Pisces.

Thanks so much for writing me!💜

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Whoops. I read it in reverse. I'm not thinking straight this morning. My apologies!

Regardless of signs, men have a hard time dealing with "rejecting" someone. I dated a Capricorn too and he disappeared on my completely after chasing me like no other man did. One day he was just gone.

I think when it comes down to "breaking up", it's mostly a man thing I gathered. They're not interested anymore, they disappear. Men like the thrill of the chase no matter they age, but when it comes down to it, they can't deal with the negative consequences.

I hope your Cap will finally start to think clearly!

posted July 24, 2014 09:29 AM            

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it's better we stop talking. I wished him the best. I haven't heard from him since that last date anyway but I felt as though it was the best way for me to get closure and move on.

I don't care that you're non-confrontational, but there are times in life when you can't just avoid dealing with others. You have to act like an adult and be honest. Why would you leave someone hanging like that when you know that telling them it's over would give them closure? It's far more hurtful to not get any closure than to get a frank break-up line.

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posted July 24, 2014 09:48 AM            

I am the Pisces and he is the Capricorn. I know we think with our hearts but when my heart is hurting, the head takes over as we are not fools. I took it upon myself to send the "Dear John" letter and even though he has texted a couple of times this week, he has avoided anything regarding this. I am done. Just wanted to ask if this is normal for a Cap man because they are normally so blunt and usually don't have a problem voicing anything.

posted July 24, 2014 10:04 AM            

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Hi USC277,

I am the Pisces and he is the Capricorn. I know we think with our hearts but when my heart is hurting, the head takes over as we are not fools. I took it upon myself to send the "Dear John" letter and even though he has texted a couple of times this week, he has avoided anything regarding this. I am done. Just wanted to ask if this is normal for a Cap man because they are normally so blunt and usually don't have a problem voicing anything.

Thanks for responding!!

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posted July 24, 2014 10:54 AM            

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As most pisceans its painful for us to tell someone its over face to face..it just hurts to let a woman down like that..so its best not to tell her face a face, and avoid this whole drama

Actions speak louder than words, his actions were saying " leave me alone, I don't want you" it wasn't hard for you to get the message.

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It's just an example of how some people can behave. Courtesy isn't too much to ask, is it?

It's more of a man thing but anyway.

posted July 24, 2014 10:59 AM            

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Hi MineAgain,
You have hit it on the head, they don't like dealing with the consequences. But isn't it funny, the cause the consequences. A friend of mine is a therapist and she said we women mourn and try to make sense of things; men generally don't want to deal, so they move on. It is easier that way. But, yes, it does hurt especially when you give 150%, and things were super in the first 9 months. Can't waste anymore time, especially at my age. 😎

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Men tend to avoid dealing with things, it's true. However, they have what I call the "boomerang" syndrome. They don't deal with people/situations properly, hence they'd rather avoid the person/situation completely and move on. Then a couple months down the line, they're hit with a feeling of regret because they didn't deal with the situation at all and they try to suddenly fix what's long gone.

Women on the other hand, talk and communicate and move on.

Men bottle things up and pretend that by closing their eyes and running away, they're going to escape the matter. Well, they can only escape for so long. It always comes back to bite them. Whatever the matter is.