posted June 05, 2022 06:04 AM            

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Originally posted by sc0rpioRising:
Hi everyone, I wanted to update you all from the last time, I mentioned that he had contacted me after 6 years of no contact, and out of the blue, and I also knew that he was in a long term relationship with another girl. Well after a few exchanges on Social media he told me that he had actually broken up with his girlfriend. For reasons I don’t know.

And i suddenly realised why he contacted me after so long. When I let him back in 2012, he approached me then as a distraction to first break up his girlfriend he had back then; I remember he was really intensely into me, but I also think he used me as way to break up with his girlfriend at the time. As soon as he told me 6 years later that he has just broken up with his current girlfriend (they were still together when he contact me, but broke up months later) it just hit me that he is following the same pattern as before; he finds me physically attractive so he uses me as a distraction to find courage to break his relationships; and a way to get over these past loves is to focus on me as it maybe was just a physical thing for him when it came to me.

So basically after realising this I felt maybe I’m just like a piece of pawn in his life, needs me for a short while until someone he truly loves
Comes along and I can be traded. It just made sense why he would contact me out of the blue, whilst he was in the relationship and happy there was absolute nothing from him, as soon as he realised he doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore; he messages me and uses me as a means of distraction.

I let him in my life the first time round, was there for him and honestly would have done anything for him. He left me to go to the other side of the world, and wanted nothing to do with me, I had to pick myself up and sort myself out emotionally and mentally; and he came back just like that and I was ready to be there for him just like that again.

This time when iI leant the broke up with his girlfriends, I kept the conversation short; and wished him all the best. I know I love him and always will, but I need to look after
My own emotional health; I know I would break if I were to physically see him, so it’s good that we aren’t anywhere near each other.

But there you go....and now I know... I hope I’m wiser this time...

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Omg, reading this nearly 2 years after your update. I was initially left speechless, in all honesty I found his behaviour really disturbing and disgusting at the same time. I think you have done the right thing to wish him well. One thing is for sure, from outside perspective it seems like a major lesson for you to realise your own worth and self-love - you are nobody's toy and temporary 'go-to'. What he did (does) is pure selfishness and you definitely deserve better treatment.

What was really a major red flag for me while reading was the he told me 6 years later that he has just broken up with his current girlfriend (they were still together when he contact me, but broke up months later) part. He clearly cannot gain strength and courage from himself, but instead uses you and steps on you without considering your side and your feelings at all. And what he stated was technically not true (lied to you).

Not to mention the social media 'showing off'... In general, I always tell people that whomever needs to put anything or everything on display (to make people believe the person is happy, to validate egos, etc.) is shallow, superficial and is not ready to have the capacity for anything deep, only toxicity and more shallowness. If there is anything to prove to the outer world then it is dead from the beginning. It is interesting to witness such thing why he needed (needs) to prove his major "happiness", but I would say let it be his problem and question to answer. Clearly there is a huge problem there, but it's his and only his responsibility to deal with it. We don't need anybody's burden.

I send you many hugs and encouragement to focus on your well-being and what your true worth is. And I really wish you to find someone one day who is able to see your worth and give all the depth, love and attention you want and need.

posted June 07, 2022 01:01 AM              

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...Not to mention the social media 'showing off'... In general, I always tell people that whomever needs to put anything or everything on display (to make people believe the person is happy, to validate egos, etc.) is shallow, superficial and is not ready to have the capacity for anything deep, only toxicity and more shallowness. If there is anything to prove to the outer world then it is dead from the beginning. It is interesting to witness such thing why he needed (needs) to prove his major "happiness", but I would say let it be his problem and question to answer. Clearly there is a huge problem there, but it's his and only his responsibility to deal with it. We don't need anybody's burden...

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Well said, and I've had similar feelings, intuitions, and thoughts about this as well.

The woman I referenced to earlier in this thread, i.e. the potential twin soul connection (though now I doubt it more and more), well if one looks at her FB, her life couldn't be more perfect and happy. She apparently only lives in complete bliss and appreciation. (Yet, she is going through T. Pluto in her 5th conjunct her Neptune/Uranus conjunction [where Neptune rules her Desc, Venus, and Saturn] and square her Sun/Mercury/South Node conjunction IN THE 8th HOUSE, where Mercury is her chart ruler. And T Saturn has been squaring her Moon/Pluto/IC conjunction...? That's pretty amazing that she is that happy, centered, appreciative, etc during such an intensely challenging cycle).

Something about it feels off and forced though.

In her case, her livelihood/finances does depend a lot on her outer image. She primarily counsels other women--sort of a life couch/counselor. Obviously if the public knew how many problems and issues she has within herself and in her life, it would be hard to get clients. So to some extent, I understand the projection.

And maybe there is plenty of truth to the image she has erected. She does seem to be in a metamorphosis, especially since we met, and for a month--everyday I meditated and sent her healing and Love based energy (she asked for my help in healing her). According to her own words, things really started to change for her during/right after this took place. And it was before she met her current "perfect" partner (who btw, in private she complained about some to me), so yeah...

Oh, and you would think her partner is like a male model or something with the amount of posing type pictures he has of himself up. Also, he apparently is a very potent and powerful healer and spiritual teacher type--all quite advertised (and with a changed last name to reflect same, etc) and also to attract clients. In turn, he publicly calls her a Goddess and "master Soul", which I think probably appeals to her Aries Sun, Taurus Mercury/South Node, Leo Mars, and Scorp Moon conjunct Pluto/IC.

My conscious, intellect, personality mind sometimes wonders, "why do you miss her at all? She never treated you with respect, consideration, and love. And she and her partner seem like ego inflated narcissists."

But the truth is, we have other layers of self, and you can't always help who you love and want. And her desire to serve and help others, is mostly genuine and spiritually motivated. Things are rarely ever completely black and white.

posted September 21, 2022 09:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Robi1:
May be It Is too late to write on this topic but i would like to ask something about it. In your experience which aspects make for twinflames and in case of an impossible connection still a karmic one, which planets, points or angles are involved and in which aspect ?

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Hiya, my guess would be, looking at what I went through personally, personal planets in 12th or 8th house, Saturn aspects, possibly squares, and also Uranus aspects, which can cause sudden break up / moving away.