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posted February 22, 2018 01:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I met an older (5yrs) man. I feel for him pretty hard. He wants to see me soon.

I had a dream the other night that we met eachother when we he was younger, and I am the same age. We stayed with his family for Chinese New Year. My family came into the picture and embarrassed me. I apologized for the humiliation. We continued to eat.

Any feedback is appreciated.

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posted February 22, 2018 07:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Bubbles0o -- Welcome to Astral Realms Forum

5 years older than you are.

5 years counts in a HUGE way--
IF you are still in your teens, or young 20, a difference of 5 years, TEMPORARILY, can be a big jump at THAT particular stage of your life.
The older you get, the less age-differences matter.

One practical reason would be that someone 'older' could take unfair advantage of your state of being in-love, play you, and use you for sexual exploitation.
This could be relevant if you are still coming out of your teens, and stepping into your 20s.
(If I remember correctly~~ once you reach around 24-26, that difference begins to lessen.)

It's soo easy to fool ourselves and pull the wool over our eyes when we feel 'intoxicated' by the feeling of being 'in-love'...
That is a Wonderful wonderful feeling...
and, it's easy to misread cues, and falsely lead us to think that our Relationship is More than only chemical sexual-attractions.

Easy to make the mistake that the man wants "you" for more than their sexual liking of you.

Whoever you "fall for" right now, may NOT be the real person they appear to be?
Beautiful to Feel and Sense such attraction...
It's good to allow it to stand the Test of Time, before you really decide you want to go further in this relationship.

Okay. Had to mention that, as a womanly and practical consideration...

What I base my opinions on are the fact you directly mention an age gap, AND, you had a dream of you and him being the same "younger" age.

I would offer you TWO pieces of feedback for your consideration.

Questions are rhetorical.
(don't need to answer here, if you don't want to).

1) Possible *red-flag* message?
Your subconscious mind could be trying to give you some Wisdom.

This dream could be reflecting your "uncomfortable" feelings about the age difference between the two of you?

Your response (in the dream) was to 'ignore' some pieces of information that your inner-self might be 'intruding' and trying to tell you?
.. This could be your intuition exploring that you feel "something" is not right-- it doesn't have to relate to the age-factor either, it could be a matter of "timing" too--

Are you being premature about what or where you think this relationship is?

In the dream, you decided to override it, and to continue indulging in "what you prefer to do," in spite of warnings.

When you ate, was this an 'empowering' feeling to you?
Or, (for example),
Could it have felt like something sunk inside you, as you swallowed your food?
How did it feel?

Simple Exercise ----
Gently, if you want to, you could decide to use the dream, and continue it (with your imagination).
.. Go back and imagination-dream it again.
You can freeze-frame the action at certain points, become like a ghost.. and go 'interview' your family members (or objects in the dream-- they all can be given their own voice, and 'talk' to us).
.. You can express your feelings of out-rage at them, yes, for daring to interfere in what you have planned... But then?, with your mind, you have the power to ask them 'why' they "came into the picture" at that point.
.. Listen to what they say. They can "explain" WHY they wanted to speak to you.

.. Now, go back INTO the dream and 'ask the man's family', if this relationship would be correct for you to pursue?


2) Becoming your own person.
Sometimes when we are younger, we WANT to break from the family of origin (your family, even Tradition).

This is healthy behavior, to want to exercise the Right to make our OWN decisions and learn about life on your own terms.

And that's GOOD. Very Good. It's Good for you to BE your own person, and learn your own life lessons--- Learn by doing it.

And too?... Your family taught you some things (hopefully) to protect you, guide you, so you can avoid harsh consequences.

Question------- CULTURE

Are you yourself a "marriage-minded" person right now?

AND, are you of a Culture where it IS a Tradition for younger-people to marry 'older' men, OR, marry while 'young'?

(I am assuming you are female... and not same-sex? ...
If you ARE male, I would ESPECIALLY warn you to 'guard your tender heart', the same way as a younger woman with an older man.
A Heart is A Heart. Breaks the same.)

Possibly, marriage-mindedness could be one of the reasons you'd have a dream about staying with HIS family--- You desire to get to know him, the family, each other. It's a good thing to want to wish the man's family to Approve of you, and lend their Blessing to continue this relationship.

In that case...
You are Making A Choice.

You are expressing yourself, establishing your OWN turf. Taking a step in maturity, insisting the involvement of your family is unwanted-- because they still see you 'as their child' -- You have grown to actually see yourself NOW as mature, and want to be free-to-date, and to have romantic experiences with the men you would choose?

Let me know if any of those things made sense?

Best Wishes in Love
Happy Chinese New Year

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posted February 22, 2018 08:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Okay... You're 27 (soon, Happy Birthday).

I just found that you have been posting charts of yourself and a married-man you are tempted to give your heart to.

Interpersonal Forum--------------
Your threads

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Feb 20, 2018 8:20 am

* Pisces in love with Capricorn help please
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* Are Pisces Moon & Aries Moon a good match?
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* Newbie here: Please help me understand how this guy sees/feels about me.
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* composite/synastry reading
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* Pluto-Mars conjunct in bad can it get?
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My revised thoughts on your dream----

You would be 'breaking' a family apart, since your love-interest is a married man, with children.

Doesn't matter if his wife "says"?? she is having her own side-sexual affair.

You're trying to "make it okay" to go ahead and have this man.

I saw the charts.
I see the attraction.

Is this really the messy (possible very painful) kind of relationship you want to be involved in?

Or, do you want to clean the slate--
Look for an unencumbered man.

I realize that you might think that your biological clock is running out? ..Just a woman-thing.

You're coming up on your Saturn Return.

I remember a Vedic person who says there are different window-openings for marriage opportunities.

Why not consider getting yourself a good Vedic astrologer to let you know WHEN those windows open up for you?

I think I heard that sometimes around age 32 there's an opening that comes .. (but I'm not sure-- you'd have to ask a Vedic).

Good Luck on what you decide.


What kind of nursing do you do?

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posted February 22, 2018 09:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ayelet     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello Bubbles, welcome!
I think that maybe you dreamt you and him are the same age because the age gap bothers, or frightens you a little bit. Perhaps you want to "fix" this issue as if to make the two of you more compatible (though compatibility between couples doesn't necessarily rely on the two being the same age). You chose him to be younger and not the other way around. Maybe you feel his level of maturity matches yours.
You having dinner with his family suggests you want to be accepted by the family, meaning you want a serious, traditional connection, such as marriage. Is he Chinese? Why do you think you dreamt on this specific event of the Chinese year? And are you into Chinese astrology?
Your family may have embarresed you in the dream because, like Mirage has suggested, you don't want to be treated as a child anymore, but as a grown woman, who is ready to step into the grown-up world of love.

How does it ring to you?

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posted February 23, 2018 08:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good answers.

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posted February 23, 2018 02:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
*High Fives* at Ayelet

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posted February 24, 2018 09:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And YOU!

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