posted October 24, 2005 05:19 PM            

I've seen them before, but lord knows that could be hard to find again.

The things I do know offhand seem to work. Our Suns are complimentary. Our Ascendants are complimentary (fire and air). Our Moons by sign are complimentary, though my Virgo Moon is at the 29th degree. Would be neat to look at.

I've been looking at my synastry in relation to everyone willing to give their info lately (since I have a program that'll do it -The Instant Astrologer [came in a book]). I hate looking at the bad aspects, but the 'Key Connections' and the good aspects are always neat to look at. I know the title for the description of Moon conjunct Sun is, "Soul Mates!" Always an exciting one to get.

You've got my email if you'd like to indulge me. If you'd rather not, that's ok too. I know you Scorpios are self-protective.

posted October 24, 2005 10:09 PM              

I lexigrammed this phrase:
Comes with extra pickles, HOTS and mayo. "Order up!!"
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Ok..folks how about hopping over to Lexigram Magic and helping those poor stranded folks out! Or get them into more trouble! Hee Hee!
Here is the lexigram so far......
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SADLY THEY SOON LEARNED TO THEIR UTTER DISMAY...THAT WALKS INTO THE PRICKLY PEARS AND CACTUS THORNS CAN CAUSE EXTRADERMAL RED HOT ITCHY OUCHIES! OH SUCH PAINS! AND TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE....
HEY! THEY ARE LOST IN THE DRY DARK DESERT NEAR.....THE ALIEN CRASH SITE!!!!!! EEEEK!!!!!
THEIR SCREAMS WERE HEARD IN THE DISTANCE..THERE WAS AN EERIE SOUND AND THE SCREAMS STOPPED!
THEN..SCREECH WHISTLE POP
SCREECH WHISTLE POP
CRUNCH SCREECH
CRACKLE...
SNAP...
WHIRR...
OH MY!

posted October 25, 2005 10:54 AM              

This is 5th time in my life someone has approached me for this kind of thing. A lesbian once wanting a 3-some with me and my friend. The same friend's husband wanting her and I together (her and I look a lot alike...both voluptuous blondes and most people think we are sisters....wonder if this has anything to do with the appeal? )

posted October 25, 2005 11:24 AM              

Mmmm...there is another guy in my life at the moment who I wouldnt mind inviting for a threesome......definately not with another gal tho.....that wouldnt be my thing.....gotta be 2 men.....LOL......greedy girl that I am !!!

Of course, it will probably remain just a fantasy.....walking a fine line between and

posted October 25, 2005 02:06 PM              

Now faye does that mean...you have....you wanna....or you want 2 men.....not 2 women....please explain.....you probably wont tho being a secretive scorp....hahahahahha

posted October 25, 2005 07:37 PM              

I left you a msg in H & H.....hope it helps...

posted October 25, 2005 07:59 PM              

in me dreams hey ?????

posted October 28, 2005 09:16 AM              

I guess all you guys have been too busy practicing what you are preaching, and have " dried up " ??

Whereas lonely guys like me need the stimulation.

posted October 28, 2005 09:35 AM              

WHAT A BUMMER.......I will email you on that address...so look out for them.....you will be able to check here time to time wont you?

Hope you will soon be back with another computer.....speak soon

Lots of love

Sue

posted October 29, 2005 11:12 AM              

No, I didn't take her up on it, Sue!
1. not attracted to her in any way
2. barely know her...have never met her boyfriend
3. I got this feeling that she was more out to please him, regardless of what her own desires are (although she said she found me beautiful, sexy and that she felt very comfortable with me...felt like a 3-some wouldn't be her thing, w/out pressure from her boyfriend).

It would have to be an Ideal situation for me, I think. I wouldn't want to be part of helping a woman down a bad path of furthering and fueling insecurity, ya know?

As far as sharing experiences...hehe, well that's not really what I meant.
Although, I'm sure the guys around here would Love all the yummy details, LOL. was interested in hearing how propositions came about. I find it fascinating, don't you? I mean...wondering how often this happens to people and why. Is it a certain kind of person that someone feels comfortable approaching with? Is it in someone's chart?

Like...the girl I work with is a Cancer, and so wondered if it is a Cancerian quality to a degree to please her man, regardless of herself? hmmmm...just interesting things to think about....

posted October 30, 2005 01:58 AM              

Sacred Kama Sutra Orgasms

Tantra (pronounced tahn'trah)
today in the Western world
has come to mean
spiritual sexuality
Indeed, tantra has almost become the generic term
for all styles/traditions of spiritual/meditative sexuality

Tantra
which is part of both
some Hindu and some Buddhist teachings
actually is far more encompassing
than sex done spiritually

Tantra embraces all:
birth, death, pleasure, pain
wealth, poverty, beauty, ugliness
joy, sadness, anger, fear, ecstasy
sex, celibacy

Tantra basically is a teaching of acceptance
a teaching of non-attachment

When we are grasping an object / action / outcome
we are attached
there is no freedom

When we are avoiding an object / action / outcome
we are attached
there is no freedom

It is through the acceptance of all
as it is

that we become/are freeAcceptance
is not submission
is not giving up
Here, acceptance means non-attachment

By embracing the present
while letting go of

expectations of the future and
comparisons with the past

we can fully dance with life
(and death)

There is no good / bad
no right / wrong
no spiritual / evil
only suffering
unless/until we let go of our attachments

Neither being sexual nor being celibate\
is preferable

If we feel superior/inferior because we are / aren't sexual,
we are attached

If we feel superior/inferior because we are / aren't celibate,\
we are attached

If we feel superior/inferior when we do / don't masturbate,
we are attached

If we feel superior / inferior because we do / don't do
heterosexual actions
or homosexual actions
or bisexual actions

we are attached

If we feel superior / inferior because we do / don't
go to church / synagogue / the ashram / etc.
pray / meditate
tithe / donate
or do any other religiously sanctioned action

we are attached

There are other words for superior:
pious, proud, arrogant, egotistic, patronizing, condescending

There are other words for inferior:
guilt, shame, worthless, incompetent, unimportant,
dumb, awkward

It is neither in the doing-ness nor in the non-doing-ness
It is in how we relate to an object / action / outcome

that makes the difference

If we are attached to an object / action / outcome,

sooner or later we will be in

physical / emotional pain / discomfort

when the object is no longer there

or is there when we don't want it there

when the action is too slow, too fast, too...
when the outcome is different than

we had hoped / expected

sooner or later we will be in

what the Buddha termed dukkha

(pronounced doo' kah)

which is loosely translated as suffering

So, do we simply

stop doing the bad behaviors?
start doing the good behaviors?

The answer is not in the stopping or starting

Rather, we shift how we relate

to what we be / do / have

We transform the grasping energy
We transform the avoiding energy

How to transform energy?

To find that answer, those answers
is why some of us search the world

for gurus

or any other form of high priest/ess

That is why some of us spend years

sitting at a master's feet

That is why some of us enter monasteries and convents

When we are able to

transform / convert / transubstantiate / transmute the energy

at will

we are liberated
we are enlightened
we are in nirvana
or in Christian terms

we have entered the Kingdom of God / Queendom of Goddess

There are many paths

to learn ways to transform energy

Sex is one of those paths

Sex is a path to liberation
Sex is a path to enlightenment
Sex is a path to the King / Queendom of God / dess

Sex is not the only path

not the best path for all of us

but definitely a powerful path

Here, though,

sex is usually not the sex

that most of us do most of the time

Here, sex is not

just the contemporary sex characterized earlier

A more accurate concept for sex

intended to transform energy

would be meditative sex

Some would say spiritual sex
Either term is suitable

as long as we do not slip into a belief

that spiritual sex is superior to

flesh sex
base sex
friction sex
passionate sex
raw sex

Meditative sex has its varied forms
Contemporary sex has its varied forms

Sometimes the forms look the same

Sometimes the forms look very different

In many schools of tantra

there are at least four major types of meditative forms:

mantra (mon'trah)
mudra (moo'drah) and asana (ah'sah nah)
pranayama (prah nah yah'mah)
yantra (yawn'trah)

A mantra is a sound or series of sounds

sometimes vocally produced
sometimes silently imagined
sometimes sounds from nature,

from musical instruments,
or other sources

OM is the most noted
Amen is similar in the West
Likewise, The Lord's Prayer is a mantra
Ummmm and oooh could be sexual mantras

A mudra is a body gesture or posture

especially with the hands

An asana is specifically a body posture

In meditations, gestures and postures

are often combined

Jesus is often depicted standing

with his arms, hands, and fingers
in definite positions

The palms placed together while praying

is another mudra

The Buddha sitting cross-legged is common

in the East

Sexual positions can be asanas

Pranayama is conscious breathing in specific patterns

Rapid inhalation and exhalation

through the nostrils
is one of the more well-known Eastern forms

Sports training and singing training

often utilize certain breathing techniques

Sometimes Western sex therapy teaches

that holding our breath
inhibits the orgasm response - so breathe!

A yantra is a visual representation

often using geometric shapes

A yantra can be observed externally

or visualized internally

A mandala is a yantra with a circular motif
Symbols, colors, pictures, all can be yantras
The cross,

with the horizontal bar at different positions,
is common across cultures and across the ages

Botticelli's Birth of Venus is a renaissance yantra

Meditation, often,

simply is doing a mantra, mudra / asana, pranayama,

and / or yantra

At least, this is what meditation looks like

These are the forms we often learn first

Actually,

meditation is the conscious

awareness / attentiveness / mindfulness

while we are doing the meditation forms

Actually,

meditation is the conscious

awareness / attentiveness / mindfulness

during every moment

regardless of the form / non-form

we are doing / not-doing

if we remain consciously aware

So what is meditative sex?

Here is one image, using tantric forms:

sitting cross-legged in coitus

with our sexual partner

while chanting OM
while gazing into our partner's left eye

It's that simple

- unless we have difficulty sitting cross-legged

While this is accurate, it is only the humorous answer

Compared to contemporary sex,

tantric sex is far more ceremonial
There are elaborate methods of

nurturing and stimulating the senses
expressing devotion
honoring the sacredness of sexual union

Such a tantric sex ritual,

sometimes known as maithuna

(pronounced my thu'nah),

is at the other end of the spectrum

than the quickie

Though, in tantric philosophy,

both would be sacred

Maithuna is more intricate

in time, intent, and activity

The forms, however, are not what make

meditative sex meditative

It is the approach:

the awareness
the attentiveness
the mindfulness

These make sex meditative

Being in the present

being aware of sensations of skin touching skin
tuning into the pressure building in our pelvis

or elsewhere

hearing the sound of our breath,

our partner's breath

if we are with another / others

feeling our heart beat
being mindful of the muscular tension building

All these

without the past or the future
And if our mind goes to the past, to the future

we are even aware also

of the past / future images / thoughts

All this is meditative sex

regardless of the forms
regardless of whether we are doing what we term

masturbation, oral sex, anal sex,
genital-genital sex, tantric sex rituals,
or any other form of consensual sex

Some of us have been doing meditative sex all along

at least to some degree
at least some of the time

But to understand meditative sex

is to understand part of the paradigm shift:

we are more
than a physical body

Not more in the sense of

mental, emotional, physical, spiritual aspects

Rather, more in the sense

that the physical body is only one
of several systems

Tantric teachings hold that

there are other
coexisting, interacting systems
that each of us has

in varying degrees of development

Systems is my term
Some other terms are

energies
energy fields
subtle bodies
energy bodies
light bodies

These other systems are subtle

in the sense that the effects in the physical, material world
are not obvious

to most of us
most of the time

The most commonly taught subtle energy system is

the chakras

(pronounced shah'kras)

This is a system of energy centers

often thought of as along an imaginary axis

in the core of our physical body

from the bottom of our pelvis

(commonly called the first chakra)

to the inside top of our head

(commonly called the seventh chakra)

Most schools of meditation teach that

there are seven principal chakras

along the imaginary axis

with secondary chakras

throughout the body,
the number varying in different traditions

A clarification of our language:

chakras are not in the physical body

though a chakra's location can be conveniently identified
by naming an area of our physical body

Chakras, in Sanskrit,

means wheels or discs

they have also been described as

cone-shaped vortexes

More important, though, is their function:

Chakras are often considered

energy transformers

Analogously to the physical body's

digestion process transforming food,

the chakras transform energies

for us to utilize

Tantric meditations in general, usually, are designed

to awaken
to develop
to utilize

the energies and the functions
of the chakras and other subtle energy systems

Likewise, tantric sex rituals,

and most other forms of meditative sex,

are designed to do the same:

to awaken
to develop
to utilize

the energies and the functions
of the chakras and other subtle energy

The conscious

awareness / attentiveness / mindfulness
are, in a sense,
keys to the doors

of these not-so-physical systems
as well as the physical body system

Herein lies a fundamental contrast

to the Western

spirit-higher-than-the-flesh framework:

There is no denial of the physical body

no subjugation
no demeanment

Similarly, the physical body is

neither idealized, glorified, nor idolized

In tantra,

the extent to which the physical body and the subtle energy systems are

attuned
balanced
centered
coordinated
integrated
synchronized
unified

is the extent to which

we can transform energy

is the extent to which

we can fulfill our potential

From the book The Essential Tantra
Copyright © 1992 Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D.

Essential Tantra

This is actually three of Kenneth Ray Stubb's previous books, bound together in one volume with over 200 vivid illustrations.

This is the
Secret Garden Trilogy:
1)Tantric Massage
2)Sensual Ceremony
3)Sacred Orgasms

posted October 30, 2005 01:23 AM              

The Kama Sutra and Spiritual Sex
from the book Living Life In Love by Peter Rengel

If you are here on the planet to become more loving and to evolve spiritually, how does sexuality fit into your picture? In most spiritual traditions, sex has long been held as an obstacle to Enlightenment. It has been seen as something to overcome, to transcend, or to go beyond. Vows of celibacy have often been praised as seekers try to conquer the "burdens" and "illusions" of earthly desires. The underlying and usually unquestioned assumption is that sexual denial eventually leads to Enlightenment.

But isn't Enlightenment the realization that all the Universe is contained within the infinite depths of your Heart? And doesn't all the Universe include your sexuality and your lust? Are you supposed to somehow cast out an integral part of your own humanity in order to become a fully-realized person? Celibacy may occur in a natural, organic way as you embrace all aspects of your sexuality and go through to the other side. But to try to force it upon yourself is destructive. It may be a by-product of your evolution, but it is not the goal.
Celibacy

The spiritual vow
To give up sex
Creates repression

Instead of celibacy.

Lust no longer smolders
When the hot name of
Your sexual desires

Easily and effortless!,

Becomes a cool breeze
When sex is nonflammable

Celibacy will surprise you.

Sexuality can be a vehicle into spirituality rather than an obstacle to it. One way to express your desire to be reunited with God is by merging with another person through sharing your sexuality. The more deeply you feel the longing to return Home, the more deeply you may want to free your sexual nature. And that very expression, when realized as such, adds fuel to the most significant fire there is: the burning up of the human ego and the subsequent dissolving of the illusion of separation. The gift of your sexuality is that it is a profound modality for the ecstatic affirmation of human Love. Why not include sex and God in the same breath? Why would you ever want to see them as opposing forces rather than as partners?
Sex and God

Transcending your sexuality
To become more spiritual is
An Enlightenment illusion.

When God touches your Heart,

Your sexuality is awakened.

Your body lights up and Your life lightens up.

Sexual expression can be frightening. It is a movement from everyday limited levels of consciousness into an expansion of your energetic aliveness. Two activities that challenge the ego structure down to its very core are meditation and sexual/emotional expression. Both require letting go of the negative mind's usual control over you. The mind/ego has power over you whenever you make negative thoughts real by focusing on them. In meditation and in sex, in order to become the master of your mind, you must escape from its traps that keep you absorbed at the level of thought. You achieve ultimate freedom if you can access a place inside yourself that lives only in the present tense, not trying to go anywhere or to accomplish anything. In this receptive state, Love happens. Fulfillment happens. Happiness happens. Union happens.

The mind wants you to be at its every beck and call. It becomes very threatened if you surrender into the flow of sexual energy. Therefore, it tells you that sex is wrong, or a waste of time, or an addiction, or not spiritual enough. Or it starts a fight with your lover when the possibility for a new level of sexual intimacy is available. Listening to your mind's negativity has you miss the bliss that you could be experiencing if you were to truly let go into the formless. Dive in underneath the superficial motivations of your sexual desires to the deepest stirrings within your Soul. Approach lovemaking with an attitude of reverence and awe because untainted sex is the sharing of divine nectar. With the safety created by this underlying context, all avenues of pure sexual expression open to mutual exploration.
The Lovers' Dance

Sexual seduction can be
A lovely dance between

Tension and relaxation.

If you frolic together
In a free form flow,
You start waltzing
With your divinity

What, then, is "spiritual sex"? Take a moment to envision your ideal of two people engaged in "spiritual sex." Do you picture candles and incense burning? Do the lovers bow to each other, kiss one another's feet, and then sit in the yab-yum position (cross-legged, one on the lap of the other)? Do they see the whole Universe in each other's eyes? Do they gently breathe together, barely moving? Have they transcended the trappings of hot, animal lust? Are they beyond the need for genital orgasms?

Whether your pictures are similar to these or not, notice if you do have any ideas of what spiritual sex is supposed to be. What experiences are spiritual lovers supposed to have? Just notice what your beliefs are. Then, see if the following questions challenge those ideas.
What if spiritual sex has little to do with how spiritual it appears to be?

What if spiritual sex is much more encompassing than you have envisioned?

What if holding on to your pictures of spiritual sex limits the possibilities of other profound experiences?

What if spiritual sex has more to do with the intention of the lovers than with the activity itself?

Spiritual sex arises out of both partners' desire for union through uninhibited self expression. What if you are here on earth not to transcend your humanness, but to revere yourself exactly as you are right now? You are a fascinating combination of a heavenly angel/god/goddess and an earthly animal/beast. As you let go into the formless with the intention to become one with your lover, what can emerge is a dance back and forth between your god/goddess and your animal urges. As your animal nature releases into an uninhibited expression of lust, perhaps the absolutely perfect spiritual union becomes available to you in that moment. Then, in another moment, when you are softly touching and looking into one another's eyes, you have included your human, animal lust rather than trying to bypass it. As you surrender to your lover's feet in devotion, you can worship each other's divinity and each other's humanness. In fact, as you let out your lust, you create the foundation upon which to build your temple.
Spiritual Sex

When your sexual roots
Explode into the Earth,
Your spiritual wings can

Fly freely into Heaven.

Are lust and Love enemies waging war against one another or friends complementing each other? When sexual energy begins to flow, you can be overpowered by your genitals if you let them sweep you into actions that you regret later. You need not do anything about your sexual arousal unless your Heart is in agreement with your genitals.
Lust

Lust disguises itself as Love

Only when you have failed

To know Lust intimately.

Enjoy the burst of Life

From Lust's explosion,

But do not be fooled

By a fickle turn-on.

Lust needs no Heart,

But Love is enhanced

When it includes Lust.

Sexuality can be a doorway into bliss instead of a stumbling block to be overcome. Embracing both soft, cool sex, and hot, lusty sex creates more colors with which to paint a richer self-portrait. "Spiritual sex" includes the entire spectrum from Life's rainbow, such as:
Diving into each other's eyes.
Tenderly touching each other's face.
Experiencing the pain of having any walls between you.
Holding each other Heart to Heart and letting your energy flow.
Being of total service to your lover.
Rutting like wild animals.
Crying as new doors open to deeper levels of intimacy.
Following your sexuality's own expression without preconceived pictures.
Allowing yourself to be created into whoever your partner wants you to be.

More magic happens if you allow yourself to be seen as an archetype. You can be the most beautiful or handsome person in the history of humankind, or the sexiest, lustiest human on the planet, or a Greek God or Goddess, or more in Love than any couple has ever been. As you surrender into the unknown, new possibilities arise from the innocence of your creativity. The reward for your risks is a surprise that delights you and relights your Love.

If you let go of your thoughts about how sex should be, new experiences become available to you. Pure sexuality arises out of a more fundamental core within your Being than your mind. You can enhance your arousal by using energy from thoughts. For instance, you may turn yourself on with phrases like "I love you!" or "This is really hot!" or "This feels great!" or "Jesus!" With an enticing mental image, "Shazam!" - an orgasm is triggered. As you further explore the dance of sexuality, you may be blessed with orgasms that arise from a place beyond thoughts. There, you touch the source of all Life.
Ultimate Orgasms

Profound orgasms unfold when

"You" dissolve into Love's void.

If you allow a thought-free energy
To pulsate throughout your Being,
You are swept into a Reality where

Time is not and Perfect Silence is.

Do you know the tantric secret about orgasms? While releasing into orgasm, you can perform "white magic" by visualizing ways you would like Life to be, You can picture anything, such as being deeply in Love forever; or money flowing abundantly in your life; or the healing of a friend or relative; or finding relief for the hungry or homeless; or the whole world living in harmony.

What you envision at the moment of orgasm plants a seed within that level of consciousness. Because you are so open, your picture filters down through all the other layers of consciousness. It eventually shows up in your outer world, if you do not let doubt get in your way. You can actually change your everyday Reality through this "white magic."

With this additional incentive, what are some ways that can you take yourself deeper into Love and into sex?
By embracing all sexual acts.
By integrating the lust-filled, sex-hungry animal and the soft, gentle angel.
By being sexually creative and not settling for a sexual routine.
By being sexually curious and discovering what you want to explore next.
By being willing to ask for 100% of what you want without expectations.