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Topic: Just Curious ~ Kind of a Poll
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Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3460
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted October 12, 2005 12:26 AM
 
Hi.  I am just curious how many people here at LL, have or would like to express theirselves, but are hesitant to for fear of backlash, or hesitant because they are not quite sure how to articulate (typing in words, of course) exactly what they want to say?
For example, I was just about to respond to a thread on FFA and I felt like maybe I would be the only one who had a different viewpoint, and therefore, felt like maybe I would be an outcast.
Isn't it sad that we have to feel like this?
I feel like the monkeys with their hands on their eyes, ears, and mouth. IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
Knowflake Posts: 6034
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted October 12, 2005 01:00 PM
I'm sorry you feel that way, Neph.I don't feel that way at all. I don't mind any backlash, though. I will say what I feel, even if its not popular. People can hate on me for my view points. That's fine. I can take it. We all  you, Nephy-Neph. Go to the thread and say what you think. Who cares what the peanut gallery thinks?! Besides... you're so stinkin' sweet! I couldn't imagine YOU having an offensive thought.  IP: Logged |
Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3460
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted October 12, 2005 03:12 PM
 thank youit's not that my thought is offensive, I just feel like I'm the only one who feels that certain thought. does that make sense? I am glad you don't feel this way! that is great! IP: Logged |
angel_of_hope
Knowflake Posts: 1245
From: Palmer, Alaska
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted October 12, 2005 07:27 PM
Your not alone in feeling this. I also tend to feel this way. On and off the net. I tend to keep things to my self. Sometimes go as far as starting to say/tyoe something and then i'm like, Ahh, never mind, or not hit the submit button. Its something im trying hard to over come and have the thought in mind like LS does ... to say what you feel or want to say, regardless of the outcome... but for someone whos so used to being closed up and not wanting to be ridiculed, or get some backlash, or be looked at diffrently, etc ... its easier said than done. I was like this in High School, not talking and voiceing my opinions and such, which in turn made people (who i didnt really know) think i was snobby and couldnt associate with them. Almost like i was too good for them. But - My friends that truely knew me and understood me saw me in a diffrent light. They saw the shyness and fear so to speak. So to this day - im still working on it ... Just be yourself ...  edit: i almost didnt want to hit the submit button for this post ...
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Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3460
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted October 12, 2005 10:45 PM
of Hope ~ Thanks for hitting the submit button and replying  Me too, often times I type a reply and then hit the clear all button and say forget it.  IP: Logged |
PixieDust
Knowflake Posts: 145
From: Alaska
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted October 12, 2005 11:35 PM
Hi Angel You have come along way baby since I first met you! Don't be afraid to speak your mind and say what you feel! Keep it up!You sound so much like me - quiet as a mouse and now look at me!  Pixie Dust IP: Logged |
artlovesdawn
Knowflake Posts: 1176
From:
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted October 13, 2005 01:07 AM
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Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3460
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted October 13, 2005 07:52 PM
ALD ~ Thank you I find your posts very deep, informative, and thought provoking, I don't think you should say "some people obviously know so much and I feel embarrassed when in comparision my own ignorance is revealed" at all! No, no, no, not something to think or say!
Anyhow, I will try to articulate clearly what and how I want to express myself. IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
unregistered
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posted October 13, 2005 08:08 PM
arf arfaw, come on all of you, if I can take be threatened by two men, and have people call me crazy, and oh my poor children hehe
the truth is life is a mircale, it's magical if you'll let be, a gift from God, and our Freedom of Speech is a gift of God and Government
that i can agree on who cares what people think, do you think Linda Goodman did?
we're all in this together
speak your mind and learn and grow
let's have it. Love and Light to ALL IP: Logged |
Gemini Nymph
Knowflake Posts: 2216
From:
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted October 15, 2005 10:46 PM
Well, I don't anyone around LL who is familiar with my style of posting would say I hold back, although I do at times in th effoert to avoid sounding extremely mean. However, as a norm, I have little problems speaking my mind. I can attribute this to the life-long presence of cats in ym life - cats rarely, if ever, hesistate in telling you have they feel.  IP: Logged |
Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3460
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted October 16, 2005 03:05 PM
lotus one~"if I can take be threatened by two men, and have people call me crazy" <----- I have no idea what you are referring to there 
Thanks for your brilliant words!  GeminiNymph ~ Loved your answer! I had some cats in my life; the most recent were a brother/sister pair and BOY did they have personalities! IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
unregistered
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posted October 16, 2005 03:45 PM
the threats were in Universal Codesanywho, as long as it doesn't matter to us,
then we won't Mind
hehe
I have sealpoint siamese cats
1 girl the mama Abu
her sons(all fixed)
Leo
Cosmo
Alexander and a german shepard Elyzza Minelli
a gecko named Amy
and an anole named Mr. Lizard
we had a big fancy Goldfish named Jabulb
but he died recently I'm down to 7 Love and Light to ALL IP: Logged |
Svetlana
Knowflake Posts: 254
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted October 29, 2005 01:26 PM
Count me in as a hesitant one Sometimes I feel like a threadkiller since noone would post after I post my opinion. But I've come to a point where if I feel absolutely sure in what I'm writing I don't worry how it's percieved.------------------
Watch me! I have many skills. IP: Logged |
TINK
Knowflake Posts: 3659
From: New England
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted October 30, 2005 11:04 PM
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TINK
Knowflake Posts: 3659
From: New England
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted October 30, 2005 11:05 PM
I stop myself from hitting that submit button all the time. I'd say I go thru with a post about 30% of the time. Not because I'm worried about what others might think exactly, but because I don't want to start yet another brouhaha or make one already in progress even worse.Nephthys - honestly, I can think of no one here with more grace than you. Speak up more often. You're an elder member here at LL and you should be heard. Don't be afraid. I'll defend you.  IP: Logged |
Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3460
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted October 31, 2005 10:04 AM
thank you IP: Logged |
Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 4864
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted November 02, 2005 09:10 PM
Nephthys you spoke up to me and let me know your concerns about how others might or would take it, that I had posted something naughty. Thank-you again for your gift of courage to speak up for what you think is just or not!!! I really respect and admire that about you. I felt your heart was in the right place!!!
Solane Star 
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26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 12633
From: *
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted November 03, 2005 02:55 AM
I only say about half of the things I really want to. Yes, really.IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 12633
From: *
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted November 03, 2005 02:55 AM
thank Goddess (*edit* errmm....Randall) for the edit button!!  IP: Logged |
SunChild
Moderator Posts: 4007
From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted November 03, 2005 05:46 AM
I'm even a little hesitant to reply in here! 
It's like this... 2-3 years ago in here, yes sure, no worries, I'd be tenfold more talkative and expressive. These days? Not as much as I'd like to be... I was truly thinking about this today because I was going through old strings from the beginning, nearly every page was making me smile...! Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to know the early knowflakes...makes me warm to think about it. I wish I was around then. Really I do. But I can't change that...it's much more popular now...but that's ok too.
At least those strings are still here...I can always visit them when I want to.
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SunChild
Moderator Posts: 4007
From: Australia
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted November 03, 2005 06:03 AM
I also want to make very clear that the knowflakes I have met and made friends with here are so loved that I wouldn't change that for anything in the world! I love and cherish so many of you...
Although I think you knew what I meant anyway.
All I thought was it would've been nice to meet the early ones too, but I really have nothing to complain about. IP: Logged |
TINK
Knowflake Posts: 3659
From: New England
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted November 03, 2005 07:21 AM
The early pages are different, aren't they? There's an almost entirely different vibe to them. Maybe because there weren't as many people posting - not as many opportunites to bump heads and opinions and such. Also, I think the topics of conversation were more limited. Just about everything was of an esoteric nature. We branch out more into the ordinary now. I think the first time all hell broke was the n_wevil/oxy thing and that was an ordinary-type problem.IP: Logged |
Svetlana
Knowflake Posts: 254
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted November 03, 2005 08:28 AM
LL IS a very special place. When I came across it a few months ago, I had the strangest feeling of welcome envelop me. I think I could feel Linda's presence. 
I've left a couple of boards before because of bullies. I'm just not a rude fighting kind of a person. But I really wouldn't want to leave LL because of that. So I'm trying to develop a thicker skin. Scary!------------------
Watch me! I have many skills. IP: Logged |
Nephthys
Moderator Posts: 3460
From: California
Registered: Oct 2001
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posted November 03, 2005 12:03 PM
Solane ~ my concern with that post was because of children. If I had children I sure wouldn't feel right having them pull up that thread and seeing that. Everyone ~ there was a "Bite me" thread once, and on it someone had posted a picture of the backside of a nude, hairy man in bed. I was at work, doing a temporary receptionist job, and pulled up that thread. As I was using the arrow key to page down the thread, the phone rang so I turned to answer it. After awhile, I turn back towards the screen and there was that picture (backside of a nude, hairy man in bed) bright as daylight all over my screen. People walk by my desk constantly. I was so embaressed! I don't feel that pictures like that should be posted at LL. That wasn't what this topic was originally about but just thought I'd mention it. IP: Logged |
Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 4864
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted November 03, 2005 02:50 PM
I know that your concern was about children and because of that, thats way I thought your heart was in the right place.Yes your very right!!! IP: Logged |
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