posted October 21, 2012 05:32 PM              

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Originally posted by scrappydog:
Saturn is presently transiting my 5th house and conjunct my venus, I'm single for the 1st time since I was about 16, 12 years and every man I'm meeting is the wrong man or he doesn't like me. This is really unusual for me as I've never had a problem attracting men before and I've always had very intense romances, everyone I'm attracting now either likes me and I don't like him or he likes me at first and is dumping me after a date or two. This is really depressing and is my first time in life to experience this. Is this from the saturn transit? Anyone else expeirence this before??

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I wish I had this problem....

posted October 21, 2012 06:06 PM            

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Saturn on any planet leads to increased depression and disconnect from what the natal planet represents. With Venus, we feel less attractive and sociable, and feel a disconnect from those closest to us. Saturn on Venus compels us to take a long, hard look at our relationships and suss out what is working for us, and what is not. Because Saturn represents pessimism, the way we once looked at our lovely relationships changes. The little (or big) things we once ignored or withstood become unbearable, and our only alternative is to withdraw to re-evaluate the direction of the relationship.

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Personally, I went through a major break up during my Saturn square Venus transit. After four years of ignoring problems and "letting things slide", this transit forced me to re-evaluate my feelings towards my mate and, more importantly, myself. It became apparent that the relationship was not serving me well, and I had no choice but to let go. As much as it hurt, and as much as I knew he did not want to break up, I simply could not continue in a relationship I felt did not reflect who I was as a person. Saturn over my Venus also stomped over my self-esteem, so I spent a lot of time alone during this time. Socially, I felt incredibly disconnected from my closest friends. I felt as though I had "outgrown" them, which added to my feelings of loneliness and isolation.

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posted October 21, 2012 09:10 PM              

I'm still extremely glad Saturn left Libra, but it has now just entered my 5th house, and is squaring my Aqua Venus (pretty widely but I still feel it)

I just found out my ex has a new girlfriend, which I really have no reason to be upset about considering we were completely wrong for each other, it's been a long time (although not that long since we completely cut off contact) and it's not like I haven't talked to anyone since then but it hit me a harder than I expected just knowing that he is officially in a new relationship, and I'm actually really hurting right now tbh

posted October 22, 2012 01:48 AM              

I found out the guy I thought was just slow in liking me, is actually not what I thought he was. And now he's dating an annoying co-worker.

I also had hopes for dating someone I was actually interested in years ago but that doesn't look like it's going to happen either. He's flakey and I'm still his second choice. :/

posted October 22, 2012 07:52 AM            

It just really is.
When Saturn joins Venus in a hard aspect.. expect pain and suffering.

tSaturn conjuncted my Venus for like a whole year (it went retro and stuff) so it actually crossed it THREE times. It's only getting out of orb now.. It's been awful.

I lost the "love of my life" and most of my "friends", BUT now it definitely feels lighter and like I actually needed more space in my life. Things aren't easy though, and I really don't think Saturn brings "great rewards"; it just makes you suffer and then you're kinda relieved but guess what, there are always problems (not necessarily related to Saturn btw) so... yeah.

Good luck to you guys cause honestly it probably won't be an easy ride.

Just try to accept everything that's happening. Let go of things/people that don't serve you well any longer.

posted October 31, 2015 09:11 PM            

I have read in many places now that if you already have Saturn Sq. Venus in natal, this transit doesn't hit necessarily as hard.

I do not have any saturn aspects to my Venus, and I am about to go through tSaturn Square Venus starting in December.

My Boyfriend has it natally, so we have it in our synastry (not composite). So, if we already have it in the synastry, and have HAD to deal a lot already with Saturn influencing the relationship, I'm guessing the impact will really just be on me? Just wondering how people handled this.

posted October 31, 2015 09:17 PM            

I've been working really hard to try to make my career happen - something I am extremely passionate about and moved to Europe for recently. I'm a little nervous this is going to signal a huge backup on that during very crucial months. It's also tSaturn conjunct my natal Uranus at that time. Sheesh.

posted November 01, 2015 02:53 AM            

Saturn hit my ASC, Pluto, Sun...quick break then it hit my Uranus/Merc & Sun/Moon midpoint, then another quick break, then it hit my Scorpio moon & opposed my Mars (depression & health problems) then it went on to conjunct my Venus. I had Venus conj Saturn for both Saturn returns - my 40th & 41st b-day. Can you say...buzz kill?!!! lol.
In my progressed chart I also had Progressed Venus (in Capricorn!) coming to directly oppose my natal & prog Saturn. It was like Triple Whammy. I like to joke that at least I'm efficient and if I'm going to have to do a Saturn transit, let's just blast through it as fast as possible!!

It was the loneliest & also brokest period of my life. And I do think it was worse because I have a very strong Venus natally. In the 2nd house of Venus conj my Moon. I have a lot of Saturn on my Sun but not my moon/Venus and was not used to such a squash on my emotions & expression (and finances!) I wouldn't have been able to rally even if I could have afforded it & my friends were around - I just couldn't even muster the desire. I stopped drinking for a long time & became more realistic and discipined.

I fell hard for someone & got friendzoned. I turned down others. No one I attracted seemed right for me at all & typical of Saturn, there were age differences both older & younger. Everyone I came across I realized had natal Venus/Saturns aspects. Interesting...I felt so alone & a lot of difficult circumstances presented that I had to work through. It was like I grew up overnight & could no longer date b/c I realized how awful the pickings were. That could be the Venus in Sag going to Capricorn. Man...the party came to a screeching halt!

I did get control of my $$ and become pretty efficient by the end. I also made some major advancements in my career field which are now, 3+ years later, finally coming to fruition but it felt like it would never happen & I doubted myself many times. I'm enjoying much more Jupiter & friendly Pluto contacts & finding I made some pretty good investments & laid a foundation which will benefit me later for suffering during that period. Saturn allowed me to buckle down & make those sacrifices for the future. In some ways, I really had no choice but in meeting the challenge, there was a reward.

posted November 01, 2015 04:43 AM            

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Originally posted by Cappi112:
Actually just realized this transit isn't even hitting my relationship houses tho - it's tSaturn in my 10th, squaring my natal Venus in 1.

I've been working really hard to try to make my career happen - something I am extremely passionate about and moved to Europe for recently. I'm a little nervous this is going to signal a huge backup on that during very crucial months. It's also tSaturn conjunct my natal Uranus at that time. Sheesh.

Does anyone else feel like you just end one harsh transit and start flourishing RIGHT in time for another harsh transit? I feel like I am destined to spend these years feeling like it's 1 step forward, 80 steps back.

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posted November 01, 2015 09:54 AM            

I'm curious about my Saturn return because I have Sat opp Venus.
Basically I have Saturn at 11Cap and Venus at 13 Cancer. So I'm hit with the Sat Return and with the opposition a bit later.

3 times, I know. Oh boy. I hope since I'm used to the Saturn vibe that I can keep my cool.

posted November 01, 2015 10:16 AM            

All my transits are hilariously, ridiculously bad at the moment...lots of conjunctions with slow moving SOB's (Pluto, Uranus, Saturn, Chiron) and normally I can handle it, but tr moon in Cancer is making me feel whiny today soooo....

where's my box of tissues....

Yeah! I might lose friends...since I am feeling very reclusive and when I try to just pop my head in to say "Hi!" and sound cheerful, I might give the wrong impression that I'm fine and just blowing the person off...in actuality I might feel AWFUL and just doing the little bit I can to maintain our connection. Fortunately I have good friends and many of them are like me, and have done this same thing to me before, and I understood. I just feel badly that I can't be a better friend.

I need some kind of emo, self-pitying music to jazz this up.....

posted November 01, 2015 10:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Tr Saturn within striking range of my 6 Sag Venus...

All my transits are hilariously, ridiculously bad at the moment...lots of conjunctions with slow moving SOB's (Pluto, Uranus, Saturn, Chiron) and normally I can handle it, but tr moon in Cancer is making me feel whiny today soooo....

where's my box of tissues....

Yeah! I might lose friends...since I am feeling very reclusive and when I try to just pop my head in to say "Hi!" and sound cheerful, I might give the wrong impression that I'm fine and just blowing the person off...in actuality I'm AWFUL and just doing the little bit I can to maintain our connection. Fortunately I have good friends and many of them are like me, and have done this same thing to me before, and I understood. I just feel badly that I can't be a better friend.

I need some kind of emo, self-pitying music to jazz this up.....

Just try and have a little patience...

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I do the same thing (disappear, pop in, and then have possibly have the same assumption made about me). I feel like hell right now, but I'm trying to cheer up in case my emotions are making my dog worse - you know? I might have to return this, but I bought a brand new book on my kindle last night, by Joan Ranquet, who is an animal healer and communicator - I downloaded it in the hopes of helping Walter, and have always been aware that my energy field and mindset can affect the people and animals around me. I would ask if I could leave my pets with my sister or mum, until I shook my anxiety.

I've been ignoring my urge to go into hermit mode, but the last time I did that, it was disastrous. It might already have been, and I'm unaware, because I'm in this head space that just won't quit as long as I'm worried.

I've just had Saturn opposed Moon/Venus/SN, and square Mars... it feels like the worst is hitting me *now*. Unless I'm jumping the gun. I don't know what else is going on, but with walt, and then three different aunts in treatment for various forms of cancer (bladder + the way it's spread, breast cancer for another, and lymphoma for a third - she's had that for a couple of years now, and then another aunt with her Hep C, being in hospital) - we had a little break, and now it's all hitting. I've been just talking, or trying to get out briefly, otherwise I won't get out of bed. I'll be completely useless.

posted November 01, 2015 11:10 AM            

Thanks so much for understanding, for letting me know you understand. I hope your dog gets better!! And your aunts...oh, are there any words for that??

*hug*

This song is lovely...and it matches my mood, too. Makes me happier though....thank you.

posted November 02, 2015 01:09 PM            

When I had Saturn on my Moon, I felt my emotions(and I mean the more tearful kind) were on the surface.

I felt that people around me didn't "connect" with me emotionally. And it added to the feeling of wanting someone to hug me and tell me that I am loved.

Around the same time, it crossed my Mars; making it difficult to resist giving up when challenges were met.

I took it very personally when I didn't succeed at doing something that I put effort in.

And this was also accompanied by a feeling of ;'what's the point?' constantly visiting my thoughts.

And then it moved to conjunct Venus;exposing my romantic nature.

Instead of "hiding" it,as is suggested erroneously by most sites.It seemed to scream it out;"hey look everyone.Look how lonely, alone and sad I am".

But then I also felt that no one truly "listened". And when they did, I felt lucky.Like I wanted to keep them forever etc.

Its real easy to fall in-love when Saturn sits on Venus(contrary to popular belief), because you feel so love-starved.

Sometimes even a platonic warm touch from an attractive stranger, can give you the most awesome orgasm.

I have Saturn-Venus conjunct nataly.My SO has Saturn,Venus,Sun conjunct in Libra.

We may not show it to others.But we are the most sentimental,romantic people you'll meet.

I think we appreciate each other a great deal. Since we are aware of how rare true connection really is.

posted November 04, 2015 04:40 AM            

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Originally posted by Geocosmic Valentine:

Saturn is structure, architecture and design. Is Saturn setting up a new structure for you with anything artistic, or is he teaching you a new set of social skills?

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Everything that you have said is what I have been through during Saturn transiting my 5th house.

posted November 04, 2015 08:31 AM            

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Originally posted by 8ofHearts:
I hope you both feel better Teasel & Faith. This too shall pass. If it is any consolation, I thought life was over, it certainly felt that way as things dragged on so long but hang in there, thing always come around and now things are better than ever & I know I can handle whatever comes my way.

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