posted March 08, 2009 01:00 PM              

we solved things then.

Now saturn is approaching his Venus as well.

posted March 08, 2009 01:08 PM            

Keep asking yourself that. What am I learning from this?

Are there any social situations that NEED to end for you, whether you really WANT it to or not?

Saturn is structure, architecture and design. Is Saturn setting up a new structure for you with anything artistic, or is he teaching you a new set of social skills?

Don't worry about this, it doesn't last forever and it's not meant to be a punishment. It already sounds like you're discovering some things just from your post. Your meeting men you don't like, and men who don't like you. What is it about the men you don't like? Tell yourself why you don't like each one? That's where the lesson lies.

How do you feel when the other men don't like you? Write it down, these are lessons you need to know. If not now, you'll need to know it in the future.

Are you learning any new artistic skills? This is a great time to learn them. It's also a good time to give yourself a good break from romance and idealism. Really, it's OK to take that kind of break.

posted March 08, 2009 02:56 PM              

I felt a very strong, almost "fated" pull to that man - never felt really comfortable or "relaxed" with him - more like "tortured" in several ways. (Some nasty mind games going on, much suspicion on both sides, it was a long distance thing, huge disappointment after 1.5 years.) It ended with the most hurtful break-up that I ever experienced (I was 37 then.).

The funny thing: When he came into my life it was just about the time when Saturn started to conjunct my Venus. And when we split for good about a year ago ... Saturn was on his last round conjuncting my Venus again! (My Venus is at 4° Virgo.)

So ... SATURN, the teacher, had chosen quite a "sexy" disguise for me, haha. It was that guy - and the lessons I learned form that (hurtful, draining) relationship. Through that man I was confronted with all the illusions I tend(ed) to fall prey to ... That's at least what I can say from now, about one year after this has passed.

One thing is for sure: I know pretty well what I DON'T want and what I CANNOT accept in a relationship right now.

posted March 09, 2009 01:09 AM            

For me, Saturn will conjunct my Venus in a couple of years. Interestingly, I got married right around the time Saturn started to SQUARE my Venus, Mars, and ascendant. Oh, and there went my sex life, too, btw
It was not a good marriage. Interestingly, I got out of it right as Saturn got away from there. I had no idea about this until recently! It was a really, really horrid time for me. Saturn was ruthlessly difficult for me in that transit. But I also know that had the relationship been better, we would have seen things through and stayed together. Saturn really kicked me hard by showing me that I could not do ALL the work by myself in the relationship (remember, Saturn also kind of slows things down, so it was like anytime problems would come up and I would go to fix things, it seemed like nothing worked - I really feel this was Saturn's way of validating how counterproductive it would be to go against the square, which was ENFORCING a lack of action in some ways). It was just hanging around in my 4th house keeping me feeling really helpless. Terrible time.
It's in the 5th now as well, and romance just feels like a very serious issue, like I can be light and fun with someone, but I'm not about to get into anything without my eyes wide open and my mind clear. That's what Saturn does, so try and use the old codger Saturn to your advantage, and make him do the work, because he does know what he's doing. I think Saturn promotes self-trust, he makes you get your hands dirty by pulling your self-esteem out from the gutter and MAKING you clean it up and polish it and make it shine. So you don't 'act' more confident, you just actually become it...slowly, and diligently.

posted March 09, 2009 10:49 PM            

"him" for Saturn

posted March 10, 2009 12:45 PM            

As for the dissapointing love life? That had already been the story of my life since saturn went over my moon starting fall 2007.

posted October 20, 2012 11:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
Ugh this is so not cool...I have this coming up in 2013 and I had just recently went on a great date with a potential prospect.

Well, I guess worse things could happen.

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posted October 21, 2012 01:55 AM            

If you have a good relationship where you have worked on and fixed past issues, then this will most likely not be affecting you. I feel that if I really wanted to, we could get back together, but I don't want to "work" these issues out any longer. I feel ready and able to move on..unless HE steps forward and asks me to marry him.

Other than that..it's a lost case for me..

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Originally posted by inthemisosoup:
*bump*

Can we discuss? Saturn is starting to transit my natal venus (conjunction) for the first time. Its still relatively far away (n venus is at 7 scorpio), but I feel craaaazy in my realtionship, ever since saturn moved into scorpio. Please help!

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posted October 21, 2012 02:28 AM            

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Originally posted by CosmicKarma360:
I could be wrong, but from what I understood, Saturn will help strengthen a good relationship, but it forces you to get real, and deal with a bad one. Maybe it'll only be a test, and you'll get through it just fine. However, I could be wrong about that. Sorry! Hope someone here will correct me if I'm off on that.

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posted October 21, 2012 02:58 PM            

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Originally posted by MillyX:
I had saturn square venus 0degrees in my solar return this year (not really a transit, lasts only for a year).
It killed my social life. Suddenly I was alone during the whole year. It was impossible to hang with my friends there was always some sort of obstacle getting in the way.

I hated that feeling..you know feeling lonely, like no one loves you. I hate how saturn is supposed to teach you lessons but man those lessons are a b*tch. So tough & depressing. But apparently the rewards are 'great'. I shall wait and see...

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posted October 21, 2012 04:44 PM            

I am right now a loner, but having been most of my life this way, I've accustomed myself to it. There's actually nothing bad in being a lone wolf. It's the darn society that keeps people brainwashed by making everyone believe that if they aren't in a certain way, there's something wrong going on, and they have all the reasons in the world to feel miserable and bad, that's why they should be feeling unhappy all day long.

If I'm in love (but not in a relationship) with a person much older than I am whose Natal chart is influenced by Saturn, will this transit cause the same problems it usually does, or will its effect be one of a different nature? What's your experience? I've recently been thinking about stopping thinking about him until the nasty transits go away. Just try to exclude thinking about love in my daily life, something that is very hard for me to do. I'm the eternal dreamer; I really do dream a lot about being in love with my perfect guy among maaaany other things. My dreams are my oxygen for the mind and soul.
Natal Pisces DC and NN, Progressed Sun & Venus in Pisces, Draconic Sun and Venus in Pisces.

posted October 21, 2012 05:04 PM            

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Originally posted by DeathIsanIllusion:

I am right now a loner, but having been most of my life this way, I've accustomed myself to it. There's actually nothing bad in being a lone wolf. It's the darn society that keeps people brainwashed by making everyone believe that if they aren't in a certain way, there's something wrong going on, and they have all the reasons in the world to feel miserable and bad, that's why they should be feeling unhappy all day long.

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I too have been a loner all my life. But this year the loneliness has become extreme. It's worse when you're a teen, adults and family members expect you to have a ton of friends and when you don't there must be something wrong with you =(.

This lonely year has given me time to think, about what I want & don't want in life.
I have been so busy last year that I felt like I should have a break (from college & work). Of course the people around me didn't understand. My family members are pushing to do so much. But they don't get it. I need to fix some issues.

When I observe certain people this is what I see: They don't like being alone, because the silence makes you think ...When you're alone you must face some hidden issues and I think that some people aren't comfortable with that.