posted May 08, 2009 09:35 PM         

You've already texted him several times, and if he doesn't respond then that's that. Don't overcompensate.

posted May 08, 2009 09:39 PM         

OK now i'm thinking it's drugs

wtf?

am i missing something here or what. right, write?!! LOL

posted May 08, 2009 09:41 PM         

Can i ask you something? Have you ever written down or thought about what YOU want?

YOU. forget them.

posted May 08, 2009 11:06 PM         

quote:

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a lamb with pneumonia

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psml!

posted May 08, 2009 11:21 PM         

Wtf?

Well, I hope Monday is successful, Lara!

posted May 09, 2009 02:07 AM         

Country+farmers = lambs!!

He was gutted he couldn't come up.

posted May 09, 2009 03:46 AM         

either he's into you but has some issues that made him retreat in his shell, and at this stage of the relationship you can't do anything about it; it's his stuff.

or, he's not into you. this you can't change either because that his his decision.

so basically, you should take the situation as it is right now as THE WAY IT IS.

that doesn't mean you should stop looking forward to get some news, or that you should look somewhere else. if your feelings are reals, then this should strenghten them. to me, the real question is: are those feelings of love (on your part- not on his part because knowing about it won't change anything, either way they go, as said above) so your interest is it selfish or is it real? i mean, are you feeling for him or for LOVE itself?

may be you can work on that so that when he calls, (which will happen if the feeling is real and you and him are meant to be), you will have some love for LOVE itself, and for him too. the best basically.

and again, if he doesn't call back, it could have been a real opportunity to get to realise that loving love and loving someone can express themselves differently. i'm not saying you don't love HIM, just that to love him, means taking him as he is, which is what attracted you in the first place.

i could go on about cancer guys, i'm attracted to a pisces sun, cancer moon. i'm aqua myself, with cancer rising. i know how much a cancer can feel vulnerable. it's like if all your sensitivity is exposed, with no armours. that is why it is important for cancer, sun especially i guess, to protect themselves. therefore his reaction should not be taken for what it's not.

everything is cool as long as you work on what is workable, and right now, all you should do is see if your feelings for him are genuine and what is attracting you in him (if it is his gentle manners and his hugs and sweetness, you shouldn't see too much in their absences right now, you shouldn't start to question if HE like you and how you can interpret his reactions to his "possible" feelings.) because as a cancer, his attitude could mean both ways and they are not something that you can control.

keep faith that your love life will be rewarding. don't expect any particular outcome, just use this moment of uncertainty to make certain inside yourself that your feelings are for HIM, and not for an illusion of him supperposed on your ideals of what love ought to be.

this could be an excellent opportunity. then you'll be readier for whenever in the future. and with more certainties.

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Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.
Ethiopia

posted May 09, 2009 05:09 PM         

anyway, kick it/coffee might be right about wanting to save face with his friends but a lot of guys really don't give a damn about what their friends think.

posted May 09, 2009 05:21 PM         

Guy initially REALLY like me. ridiculously so! I just stay myself. Im a really cool person, I have a lot of friends, have done a lot of different things, come from a great family and im not bad looking yet im always rejected... by players... by non players... by dorks. everyone. What is wrong with me!! I dont think this guy has another girl on the side... so basically having no one is better than having me.

posted May 09, 2009 06:32 PM         

that is sure. i know what i'm talking about. this situation doesn't have to be a burden though.

let me tell you about me quickly. i'm gay and fell in love twice in my life so far, im 29. both time they were straight. i felt the rejection accutely. i didn't look for them in fact, i didn't want to fall for a straight guy because i knew that straight meant .... straight. but hey, i took their friendship and interest in me as something which was not there. it's true that i've got some issues with reality and real love. i'm an idealistic set up to be disapointed. venus in pisces square neptune and oppose saturn (a T square), neptune conjunct exactly sun/moon midpoint and this opposing exactly the asteroid chimera.

[edit: writing that i realise i've got a grand square: asteroid chimera (23 gem) opposing sun/moon mp and neptune (23 sag) squaring venus (28 pisces) and saturn (27 virgo). i never saw the bigger picture]

(anyway, i've got other things going for myself, and actually my experience of rejection are helping me more to identify them. obviously.)

so i'm talking about myself first of all to tell you that your feeling is not unique unlike your username. nothing is forever.... blah blah blah. you can make sense of it this way. you should. i personally try to see what i can learn from the experience. i have grown up in ways that i would NEVER have expected since the falling and love and rejection thing.

i don't know what life will bring. well i have a vague idea but even that is not useful. either i'm ready or not. and i was born to learn to become ready

posted May 09, 2009 06:43 PM         

M old boss even told my friend that he was going to **** me to get over this girl he was in love with. WTF!!!!