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VenusDeLionesse
Knowflake Posts: 156
From: mumbai,india
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 13, 2009 03:43 AM
  
I used to be passive aggressive - its sucks to feel trapped with your anger and live in fear that if you express your angst it will blow up your whole self in a cataclysm.I spent my shildhood and adolescence trapped by this monster but recently i am strating to be free and heal.I have ...get this Sun AND Moon in cancer square MARS conjunct Saturn !!!!!
Venus conjunct chiron quincunx Pluto .
....runs off to weep an ocean
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aquarian/scorpio
Knowflake Posts: 261
From: Middle Earth
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 13, 2009 04:32 AM
awww *hugz*IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 2242
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 13, 2009 04:36 AM
quote:
I used to be passive aggressive - its sucks to feel trapped with your anger and live in fear that if you express your angst it will blow up your whole self in a cataclysm.I spent my shildhood and adolescence trapped by this monster but recently i am strating to be free and heal.
Know what you mean. No matter how much I tell people a certain thing, they just dont seem to get it. Then they just do what I dont want right now. Obviously makes me slightly angry. Yeah, fear of not expressing is a fear for me. Will they turn round and call me a baby for doing so, or look at their own behaviour and see how it is wrong! Very wrong. Expressing anger is much better than keeping it in, just do it in the right way. IP: Logged |
librarising
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posted June 14, 2009 05:20 AM
VirgOh,
I love the honesty.
MVM,
I see passive-aggressive behavior as a route of ‘confrontation’ for people who are uncomfortable with confrontation. I am not one who fears confrontation or afraid of voicing my opinion so people who are passive-aggressive I just dismiss and ignore or exploit them (depends on what the person did).
Passive-aggressive behavior doesn’t bother me as much as indirectness. It bothers me when people are more concerned with the opinions and feelings of others than their own... I can’t stand people who are always preaching “Stay positive”, “Life will work out”, “You wouldn’t like it if people said that about you…”, “Why do you have to be so brutal?”.Get over it. If I ask someone "How do I look?" when I look like a fat little pig with an awful case of camel toe, I would appreciate it if someone told me the truth instead of answering me with a "Fine"… I can't stand indirectness especially from people who know me well enough that I like honesty and can handle harsh criticism. I can't stand indirectness because it insults my character and suggest that I can't handle the truth .
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Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 2242
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 14, 2009 05:32 AM
Darling, you look like a fat little pig with an awful case of camel toe. Your fashion is terrible, and youre wearing odd socks, with your fly button undone  Made you look!  3rd time of bad jokes today, sorry for taking p1ss! IP: Logged |
aquarian/scorpio
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From: Middle Earth
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 14, 2009 05:57 AM
"I can't stand indirectness because it insults my character and suggest that I can't handle the truth." IP: Logged |
librarising
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posted June 14, 2009 07:46 AM
*oink oink*IP: Logged |
katatonic
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posted June 14, 2009 02:50 PM
on another topic, what happned to the hearing music thread?IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 14, 2009 03:14 PM
LOL, Librarising!I think I feel the same way about indirectness as passive-aggression.
I see passive-aggression as really insidious and it gives me the creeps (maybe because I was with someone who was this way, for 5 years). As for the flinging of preachy stuff, I can't stand that stuff either. 'Stay positive' is one which makes me fire back 'Ok, I'm positive that you're pi$$ing me off now. Satisfied?'
You're right about indirectness being insulting to intelligence. I do try and have tolerance for it... because some people just aren't direct by nature. It's just that it gets out of hand sometimes though, because here I am trying to read them and figure out if they're saying the truth or just attempting to be 'nice', when lo and behold, I'm the one who's getting drained trying to decipher their so-called niceness and get to the bottom of what they really think. EDIT: Kat, I saw the music thread at the bottom.
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Azalaksh
Knowflake Posts: 1006
From: New Brighton, MN, USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 14, 2009 03:21 PM
katatonic ~
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/201214.html IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 14, 2009 03:23 PM
Thanks, Zala!IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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From: Bay Area, CA
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posted June 14, 2009 03:29 PM
So, I was just thinking that with all this Libra I have going on in my 6th, and my Mercury in Libra conjunct Pluto in Libra, I do tend toward indecisiveness sometimes, which I know can drive people crazy lol.
A prime example is a conversation with someone about where to go and eat. If I know what I want, I will say what I want (not just with food, with anything)
BUT: If I can't decide between French or Italian, I'll start to freak out and go into a loop in my head and keep saying 'I don't know', because I really DON'T know.
And then... I look at the other person and say CHOOSE, please, because I can't 
And I really don't mind what they choose.
And it's terrible when THEY can't/won't choose either LOL
But I can assure you that one of the worst experiences is when two people won't make a choice and they end up driving in circles for half the night trying to figure out where to go eat, until one of them yells, FORGET IT, LET'S JUST GO HOME! In these cases, I am now always armed with a coin and really do flip it and call heads or tails to make a choice.
Oh blessed coins. You save my life IP: Logged |
katatonic
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posted June 14, 2009 07:37 PM
yes thanks, zala!MVM i do this you-choose dance with my sister a lot. unfortunately it's never an either-or situation so coins are woefully inadequate! IP: Logged |
amowls*
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posted June 14, 2009 08:52 PM
I didn't want to call you out Virgoh but you seem pretty damn proud of yourself, so whatever.(Perfect example of why I can't stand Virgo traits) IP: Logged |
VirgOh
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: New Jersey, USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 14, 2009 09:52 PM
Judging by people's replies, they seem to appreciate "Honesty" more than "Sugarcoating" So, yes you are correct, I am so very proud of myself.As for you not liking Virgo traits, rest assured, we won't lose sleep over the fact or over you. IP: Logged |
amowls*
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posted June 14, 2009 10:48 PM
Lol not my intention. I just think that people who are hyper critical need to take a good hard look at themselves first.IP: Logged |
VirgOh
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: New Jersey, USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 14, 2009 11:38 PM
I literally kissed the mirror IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 15, 2009 12:47 AM
Amowls, you seem hyper critical yourself and yet in absolute denial of it. It seems to manifest instead as pointing fingers and playing the Judgment Police.
I can understand if you think something is unfair or unjust, but hyper criticism of criticism still begets even more criticism and doesn't go anywhere, IMO.
I don't think there's anything wrong with someone claiming they don't like something, or even disliking it. But judging them for having an opinion, or knowing what they like (and don't like), actually feels a little unfair to me, and yes, very hyper critical if you'll forgive me saying so (i.e., the negative side of Virgo).
Believe it or not, the best part of Virgo is to call it as it is, and yet still have compassion for others who do not agree. Virgos need things to be real 100% above all else. I don't have a whole lot of Virgo in my chart - just my sun, nothing else. But I do find that Virgos for the most part honor authenticity above all else... and generally when they are well-adjusted do NOT feel guilt for pointing out their own likes or dislikes. We're generally trying to get away from that since we are actually so damn accepting and tolerant, a lot more than people realize.
We trip ourselves out and guilt ourselves into liking people who need us, or giving love to those we feel sorry for. That's very Virgo.
The hyper criticism comes when we take a good hard look at something we don't like and say 'No, I just don't like that, and I am really SICK of pretending to.'
It's our hyper tolerance which begets hyper criticism, because we just keep taking it, accepting it, and never thinking, Gee, maybe I actually should be a LITTLE more judgmental...otherwise, how will I know what I like or don't like? IP: Logged |
VirgOh
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: New Jersey, USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 15, 2009 01:17 AM
Well said MVM, you just explained so eloquently to the unenlightened some of our traits which they seem to unfathom and in the process you ended up turning me on with the way you put it all up together Do you have nice looking toes? Muahahaha IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 15, 2009 01:30 AM
Well, it's interesting you're even talking about toes, VirgOh...lol. Because I remember my cousin telling me he first started having a foot fetish when he saw my feet years ago 
Up to this day, he has a thing about feet. If a woman's got yucky toes, he won't date her. Feet are VERY important to him (he's a Leo, btw).
He got married not too long ago to a girl with cute feet (I made sure to ask him about her feet ) I actually think the foot thing may also be cultural too. Several Arabic/Middle Eastern guys I know have a very solid rule about feet. IP: Logged |
VirgOh
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: New Jersey, USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 15, 2009 01:40 AM
I was able to trace my foot fetish thing after reading a book by Frued.It goes back to when I was a little kid actually, my uncle got married to this gorgeous woman and they came to visit us in Dubai and stayed with us for a few weeks and as a little kid (probably at age 4) I fell sooo in love with her lol. Everyday this woman would play with me for hours and she always had manicured toes they looked soooo nice and I remember always grabbing them or messing with them or always wanting to do something with them LOL, while growing up later I'd look at other women's feet and if they didn't look as nice as hers I'd be disappointed, the point is I'd always compare other women's feet to hers!! (Not anymore) LOL Funny thing is, I made sure to turn all the guys (4-5 of my best friends)in high school to this thing, till this day, when I get a call from one of my friends the convo goes like this: -Hey man I am dating this wicked hot chick
-Oh yeah, that's cool
-And guess what?
-What?
-HER FEET ARE KILLERRRRRRRRRRRRRR LOLOLOL IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 15, 2009 01:45 AM
LOL, VirgOh, it's so WEIRD how people get turned on to the foot thing.
My cousin turned all his friends into it too!
And this one older guy at a club I was at a couple of weeks ago kept staring at my toes and feet, and came up to me and my date and was talking about his foot fetish. Next thing you know, my date spent half the night staring down there, I was like wtf
A contagious fetish, I think IP: Logged |
VirgOh
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: New Jersey, USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 15, 2009 01:52 AM
LOL I try not to talk about it, but damn, it has to come up every now and then and I can't help it, but I would never do what that guy at the club did, that's plain psycho stuff LOLIf it was me, I would have reached to the nearest bottle of beer and trashed his head with it "Politely" LOL IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 3671
From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 15, 2009 01:55 AM
My Leo date was usually merely amused, considering it's Florida and I'm getting hit on by 80 year-old dirty old men. Not a whole lot of competition
I wiggled my toes at the old guy to tease him.
Evil, I know. IP: Logged |
VirgOh
Knowflake Posts: 150
From: New Jersey, USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 15, 2009 02:04 AM
I am glad he didn't have a heart attack lol
OMG MVM, that Taurus I was after at work, I saw her toes the other day, what a freaking disappointment.And that's a good example for what I said in this thread, here is a woman "A Taurus" mind you, gorgeous, tall, long black hair, beautiful face, I was dying over her ... That whole idea changed in a split of a second. 10 toes, all pointing in 4 different directions, all crooked, the skin on the back of her ankles is all full of scabs. I nearly threw up, pointed at her feet and said: You need a foot doctor, LOL, she just stood there and was like "huh"!!!! as I walked away thinking thank Goodness this infatuation is F&*&ng OVER. LOL IP: Logged |
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