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Topic: Can I trust a Scorpio man?
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GypseeWind
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From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted August 14, 2009 02:10 PM
 
Sparkling, something else has been on my mind.
Are you SURE like 100% positive with no exceptions that he is leaving???
I ask because I had this happen to me.
The scorp made big noises about leaving, and garnered all this attention and people telling him how they would miss him and blah, blah, blah. Knowing him he probably got some goodbye action out of it too.
Then he never left! Something supposedly "Fell through."
Still to this day, he says he is moving to this state or that state, or changing his resisdence, number, whatever.
Why? To see if I jump, and say, "oh no. please don't go, don't cut contact, don't leave!"
I tell you, this one stays up nights thinking these things up.And what you said about him flaunting about with the other girl in front of you? typical.
And now you know how he works, re: the book. Keep your eyes open for all the other things. Sorry if I sound harsh, I don't mean too, like I've said, I love Scorpio people, they really are my favorite, but I hate to see a lovely person fall victim to the bad kind. IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 705
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 14, 2009 02:18 PM
Yep, Scorpios I do like, but not the nasty ones, which it seems going on many descriptions, is the normal.Very good people to have around, that you can trust. Just got to make sure they are the right ones. Maybe a little too simple to say you should just "know" if they are good or bad. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 1259
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted August 14, 2009 03:48 PM
Agreed, Coffee.I am terrible at quoting people accurately, but I remember Maya Angelu (sp?) once said something like, "people will tell you what they are, it's up to you whether or not to listen."
I don't know why we don't go with our guts more in life, especially in love. Intuition is there for us, to fill in the blanks, and Sparkling said she felt it from the get go.
I am guilty of this as well. I've had people tell me stuff like, "OH, I am a total a--hole, believe me!" and I say something stupid like, "OH, I'm sure your not, your just being hard on yourself!" Sag's were born with rose colored glasses permanently adhered to our heads, I swear. IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 95
From: Portland, OR, USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 14, 2009 07:07 PM
I'm a Sag too and am all too familiar with the rose-colored glasses....I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt whether they deserve it or not....but part of me knows this and is also a good way to think my Scorpio Mercury thoughts about them and on the surface appear light so I can focus on something else entirely. One thing I have found to be true and Maya Angelou is right...when someone tells you they are a jerk/a-hole etc....believe them. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 1259
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted August 15, 2009 03:35 PM
Blue;
I have the scorp/Merc too and thank the lord because someone would have made mince meat outta me years ago if I didn't.
I'm still gullible to a point, but experience and age has helped a great deal.Thanks for the correct spelling on Maya, and isn't that one of the greatest quotes of truth?
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Lucia23
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posted August 15, 2009 06:16 PM
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Should I be flattered or am I reading too much into this?
This is my problem as a LEO...I get flattered by the enormous amount of energy, planning, precision, and manipulation that goes into the mindgames of (certain immature) Scorpios. I mean they will remember stuff you said in passing 8 months ago. A nice Air or Fire guy almost never gets that way. I have to remind myself--flattering=a guy who actually wants to be with me AT THE SAME TIME that I want to be with him. IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted August 15, 2009 06:16 PM
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Should I be flattered or am I reading too much into this?
This is my problem as a LEO...I get flattered by the enormous amount of energy, planning, precision, and manipulation that goes into the mindgames of (certain immature) Scorpios. I mean they will remember stuff you said in passing 8 months ago. A nice Air or Fire guy almost never gets that way. I have to remind myself--flattering=a guy who actually wants to be with me AT THE SAME TIME that I want to be with him. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 1259
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted August 16, 2009 12:05 PM
I hear you Lucia, that is why you have to take your ego out of it, otherwise it is crushing when you find out they remember something 12 other girls said 8 months or whatever ago. That is the sort of thing a calculating, manipulative person would do.GUYS, i am so sorry if I'm being a bitter witch these days, like I said, I love Scorps, my Dad, my brother, my son.... I just happen to know one at the moment that is running a game on 4 women at once, and one of them is pregnant! (not by him) But he is just so callous about it. When I call him on it, he claims that he is just young and having fun. He either doesn't realize that these girls take this stuff to heart, or he doesn't care.
Another one of his girls is a widow of one year. She was married a very long time to a sweet, devoted Cancer man. Can you imagine your first relationship after the death of your husband, being with someone like this? grrrr.
And he has my back up to the wall, because I am HIS friend, my loyalty goes to him first, so I can't run behind his back and tell these women the things he has told me in confidence. Ugg. IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted August 20, 2009 04:40 AM
Dear all, He messaged me again today for the book as he is packing to leave. I had the book in my office to give to him in case he wanted it. I told him last week I had it in my office and he said "give it to me whenever" so I was like fine. I got the impression he doesn't care about the book. Last week he spoke to me, he'd had a bit to drink and was saying that things shouldn't happen between us and that he is leaving. I've heard all this before, its all I hear from him is that he's leaving. I know that. Sparkling IP: Logged |
Peri
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From: 49N35 34E34
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 20, 2009 05:15 AM
return his book and ignore him completely, Gypsee was right, it's his routine  IP: Logged |
Cheshire Kat
Knowflake Posts: 333
From: Wonderland
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 20, 2009 05:28 AM
For some strange reason I want to date a Scorpio..O.o. I have never dated one and I always get or read mix stories about them.Though a female Scorp might be different from a male Scorp.. Though this guy sounds like a big child,he can't come and get his own book..? IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted August 20, 2009 05:55 AM
Peri,Yes, I like your style. It's a total routine, to hook me in.Can't wait till he physically leaves the country! Sparkling IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner
Knowflake Posts: 1110
From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 20, 2009 05:59 AM
yeah i would tell him im kinda busy you will have to pick it up.look really good when he picks it up. dont look at him when he picks it up and forget about him when the door closes behind him. wait for somebody who is all about YOU.
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Diana
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posted August 20, 2009 08:43 PM
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Dear all,
It is disrespectful to just leave and go somewhere and be with prostitutes when you were supposedly involved with someone.Sparkling
I found this statement funny. It's not that I don't feel bad for you, I do, but it's so...I can't think of the right word. He sounds like such a loser. Next time you see him you should tell him to stay away from you because you don't want to catch his crabs he got from his "Thai Massages" 
Then kick him in the nads for good measure. 
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BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 95
From: Portland, OR, USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 20, 2009 11:59 PM
I would leave the book with someone (or at the front desk of a place you both go) with instructions who the book belongs to and he will pick it up. Then, tell him where the book is and don't answer your cell/door/emails from him. Don't even open emails from him or anyone who may be an ally of his. That will be a huge message to him. Protect your wonderful self and don't let him into your space. IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted August 21, 2009 04:45 PM
Sadly, I think SS has been caught in his web.Can you trust a Scorpio man? Try as we may, we're, at least I'm no Catcher in the Rye. Seems like this is a relationship you must experience on your path to self actualization. IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 1259
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted August 21, 2009 07:30 PM
Yup, The highest of highs, and the lowest of lows...IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted August 23, 2009 06:02 AM
Hey,I haven't been sucked in...he is part of my friendship group so I see him around all the time. We ignore each other and its fine. Sparkling IP: Logged |
ScorpioCentaur
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posted August 25, 2009 12:31 AM
I dont find that his chart shows someone who would be a cheater or who you would need to be mistrustful of. He has both a fixed sun (Scorpio) and moon (Aquarius) and that is very dependable and stable. I dont find any of those two signs to ever be cheaters unless they are badly aspected. Even his venus is libra is not really changeable and finicky. Actually its a great aspect for venus (in its natural place)- exalted. Libra venuses love to be in relationships and scorpio sun and aqua moon don't like change. The only thing I could think of that could possibly prove to be an obstacle is that same fixed sun and moon... Although fixed are still square energies. What a scorpio sun wants is completely different from what an aquarian moon would be content with. He might feel conflicted between wanting a stable relationship and needing his freedom. IP: Logged |
fatinkerbell
Knowflake Posts: 111
From: South Korea
Registered: May 2009
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posted August 25, 2009 03:34 AM
Hey SS ... gotta throw in my opinion 'cause my signature says to "say what you feel" and what I'm feeling is a lot of empathy for you 'cos I'm also a Sag and I'm thinking that this Scorp-a$$h_l_ is totally abusing you. You shouldn't even be friends with him. He sounds like poison and I think he's hurting you more than you're admitting to yourself ... You, on the other hand, are indulging your addiction to him... AVOID Salsa and all other situations that possibly let you 'bump into' one another. Friends shouldn't play games like these ... It reminds me of that song:
"Oh the games people play now.
Every night and every day now.
Never meaning what they say now.
Never saying what they mean.
While they wile away the hours.
In their ivory towers.
Till they're covered up with flowers
In the back of a black limousine."
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Be who you are and say what you feel because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter. IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted August 25, 2009 04:13 AM
hey,No way am I avoiding my dancing! I love it and some guy is not going to make me miss that. He has the problem, he yelled at me yesterday cause I had left the book in the Information Reception at Uni and he was angry I did that. I walked away when he started yelling. Okay, he is leaving in two weeks, I will not feel like I can't do the social things I normally do because of him. Sparkling IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 95
From: Portland, OR, USA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 25, 2009 07:44 PM
He had opportunities to get the book from you before and declined it then...he seems to need to keep the drama going.
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SparklingSag
Knowflake Posts: 65
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posted August 26, 2009 09:47 AM
It's all about the drama, drama , drama. With a leo moon to a certain extent I like drama but the positive, constructive kind. I also have a libra mars and venus so harmony is important to me. This kind of drama is negative and irrelevant. Sparkling IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted August 27, 2009 05:42 PM
oh my-I have handled this situation too well. The Scorpio is being a little unreasonable.I met a lovely new guy on the weekend ( A saggie so said what he thought!) and Scorpio found out. Now he deleted me from facebook and is being a jerk. What else did I expect? And believe me I have not invited him back into my life, I kept my distance, enjoyed my friends and life and was normal. I'm well rid of this drama. Lots of fish in the sea! I deserve to be treated well. Just wanted to share. Sparkling IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted August 28, 2009 02:14 AM
Yeah, these guys get wildly, obsessively interested if you move on!! Which would be fine, if they felt that way when YOU were interested and trying to be with them.I guess us fire sign women probably frustrate (immature, not ALL) Scorpio men just as much as we frustrate them. Glad you met someone new and fun. IP: Logged |
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