posted July 08, 2009 12:04 PM         

So then I was surprised to discover he was in Prague! He left for a week without telling me, I only found out through inviting him out to something.

As a saggie, I hate lying or deceit. Why the hell didn't he think to tell me? One text is all it would have taken. He's gone alone to Prague which makes me think he might be cheating.My intuition is telling me its not good. There he is telling me we are boyfriend and girlfriend and he loves being with me etc.

I don't believe any of it.

Sparkling

posted July 08, 2009 12:16 PM         

I dont know what to think...he says he would never cheat on me.

Why am I being so paranoid? I feel like ringing him up but thats being obsessive.

posted July 08, 2009 12:55 PM         

I ended up leaving him - the little secrets, lies and omissions that would pop up out of the blue got to be too much.

posted July 08, 2009 01:01 PM         

Those are two Toltec principles, and I love them. I read them in a book one time, and I have never forgotten them. They really help in situations like this.
I think there is a book about them called the 4 Agreements, you should check it out.

posted July 08, 2009 01:25 PM         

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I don't think it would be wise to trust one because he has Sun in Pisces and distrust another because he has Sun in Scorpio, it is not that simple.

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True, there is good and bad to every sign. The Scorpio/Pisces combination in all it's permutations is capable of a depth of emotional honesty & integrity, coupled with compassion, selfness and deep spirituality not seen in any other combination. On the flip side you may have a person trapped in a world of lies, deceit, and unconscionable emotional cruelty.

When a relationship starts out on this note, it's not hard to see which individual you're dealing with.

posted July 08, 2009 01:38 PM         

a lot of men cheat. That's a fact of life.
It seems that the more testosterone a man has, the more likely he will be promiscuous. I don't think most men were made to be monogamous.

I don't think that it really matters what their sunsign nor any other placement in his chart. The same significators for cheating could also be the same significators for being cheated on just like the same significators for being abuser tend to be the same significators for being abused.

even hard aspects to sexual planets aren't necessarily cheating indicators, they can easily indicate things like hormonal imbalances which have nothing to do with one's sexual orientation.

men with extremely highly levels of testosterone are more likely to cheat, and men with considerably less levels of testosterone are more likely to be monogamous.

ironically, many women tend to be naturally drawn to men with higher levels of testosterone for their sexiness while men with considerably lower levels of testosterone and possibly high estrogen levels are seen as more likely to just be friends.

I don't think that it takes intuition to know that a man can't be trusted when he has gone to a place without telling you. Common sense would tell anybody that if a person leaves to another place without telling them, it's a sign of dishonesty and disrespect to the feelings of the partner.

when secrets are being kept from another,then it's logical to believe that deception is going on.

If there is lack of trust in a relationship, then well....it could be a time to move on. I don't think that any healthy relationship could exist without complete trust.

posted July 08, 2009 01:38 PM         

i guess the real question is can you trust your gut instinct? are your instincts generally right about people?

if and i am saying if, he is gone with another woman would that make you not want to see im anymore?

usually vacations are planned well in advance, maybe this was planned before you started seeing him, if that is the case and you really like him and he really likes you, he probobly will tell you the truth and it will just be something to work through.

if you sense it, but he doesnt come forward about it, i would be hesitant to make ANY kind of committment to him or let yourself get too open or close.. and it wouldn't hurt to plan your own little vacation...everybody needs some time away.

if he is boyfriend boyfriend with , we aren't going to see other people talk, then i would definately ask him why he didn't mention it and i would ask who was he with.

posted July 08, 2009 01:45 PM         

thanks for input. Its more the prinicple of it I guess thats upset me. He texted me back when I had invited him to a night out to tell me he was in prague but would be returning on Sunday. I think I have jumped to conclusions re: the cheating. I think he has friends in Prague and decided to go visit them.I'll just enjoy my week with work and friends and talk to him when he gets back. My dad used to cheat on my mum and so I think sometimes that jumps out at me (even if logically theres so evidence in this situation of it)

posted July 08, 2009 01:47 PM         

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True, there is good and bad to every sign. The Scorpio/Pisces combination in all it's permutations is capable of a depth of emotional honesty & integrity, coupled with compassion, selfness and deep spirituality not seen in any other combination. On the flip side you may have a person trapped in a world of lies, deceit, and unconscionable emotional cruelty.

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This is very true. I'm sorry that I fell into the trap of "astrologism" - I would not want anyone to think that people act just one way because of their sun sign. I was hurt by one Scorpio,that doesn't reflect how all of them are or will be.

posted July 08, 2009 02:04 PM         

Am feeling much more rational now and less hormonal!

posted July 08, 2009 02:07 PM         

If he's like me, he probably thinks it's the beginning of stages of the relationship so he prefers taking things very lightly.

But, you should call him and tell him you miss him etc because I'm usually not good at expressing things myself unless my partner does it first simply because I don't want to bore anyone with stupid details about my life or my needy nature :P But I am a romantic person deep down!

posted July 08, 2009 02:48 PM         

I've seen this misunderstanding happen between four of my friends and their new boyfriends/girlfriends in the past few months--one person thinks that once they've gone on a date/kissed, it means neither of them will date other people--the other thinks they are still seeing other people. Unless you've agreed to have an exclusive relationship, it's not "cheating" if he is still dating other people too.

Similarly, some people would think that the early stages of dating don't leave you answerable to each other, in the sense that you would report to the other that you were leaving town.

It sounds like you don't trust him and you're insecure about the relationship. It sounds like he is either really focusing on other things in his life and not that consumed by the relationship (otherwise he would've hated going away for a week and would've mentioned it to you)...or he is consciously trying to take it slow.

I don't think it's possible to tell whether to trust someone from his chart...people manifest their charts in different ways...just check out Hitler or Gandhi's natals!

posted July 08, 2009 04:09 PM         

I agree with the last 3 ladies. It's in an early stage in relationship,and so it's not really firm committed relationship. It can easily change for better or worse.

amowls made great points about the Scorpio privacy/secrecy

also

transiting retrograde Jupiter-Neptune-Chiron is squaring his Sun, and that can indicate the possibility of him being hard to pin down,confusing as well as the possibility of being misjudged,misunderstood which can lead to him being hurt.

He has Mars square Neptune, and that can indicate that his actions could be misunderstood.

that's something to consider.

I doubt that he's cheating on you.

He seems like a very friendly,sociable type with Venus in Libra sextile Mercury-Uranus conjunction in Sagittarius.

Sun is his only personal planet in Scorpio. He also Saturn and Pluto in Scorpio, but they are not conjunct his Sun.

Transiting Saturn is squaring your Mercury which can indicate a possibility of trust issues which could be connected to being too critical thinking as well as possible thoughts of insecurity.
It's a good transit to keep things real though. being practical.

Raymond

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