posted July 23, 2009 03:31 PM         

My relationship with my ex (15 years) matured, and the composite never really seemed to capture the relationship at any stage...whereas our synastry did.

I like Davisons better too.

posted July 23, 2009 06:32 PM         

This is the composite of my Leo friend and I. Since for some reason I feel composites work great with friends and family.

She's been my friend since the 7th grade, she was in the 6th grade. We can usually talk to eachother about everything.

Every once in awhile we get irritated with eachother but usually we become good friends again.

She has boy troubles and I just have issues lol. XD She is very relationship orientented..she needs to be in a relationship to be happy. I use to be the same way then I've mellowed out.

Were both very sensitive but I usually never show it as much as she does.

posted July 27, 2009 05:01 PM         

This is the composite between me and my bf (50% orb):

We've been together for 3 years and 7 months, and the relationship has been warm, affectionate, fun and comfortable. ^_~

- Gemini AC - we are in fact both into technology, entertainment and video games.

- Venus/Mars/Juno conjunction (Cancer) oppose Jupiter (Capricorn) - I guess that this is were it shows how our relationship is warm, affectionate and comfortable. ^_^

- Moon square Neptune - I do feel insecure from time to time.. >_<;

- Yod formed by Moon/Chiron/Pluto, plus Chiron opposed to Neptune/Pluto midpoint - this is where the main problem is shown. Sometimes, we can be kinda mean to each other even if we didn't intend to, as well as not understanding each other well. But on the other hand, the good thing is, we both try to understand and be more compassionate to each other in the end. I feel that in this big configuration, my insecurities are often the trigger of it, or they can be triggered by it (and Saturn squares Moon/Neptune midpoint too, which shows that sometimes he/Saturn affects my insecurities too even if he didn't mean too, or that he would get affected by it); but the key is to find balance between the yods (in the yods, the quincunx planets are opposed to the other two planets' midpoints after all).

posted July 27, 2009 05:18 PM         

(note that I'm not sure if his birth time is right)

We've met for almost 10 years (since 9th grade), and we're like brother and sister to each other. Even thought we have different interests, we can talk about many things with each other, and we can also have fun together. And even thought we went to different universities, we still meet from time to time. ^_~

- Mercury/Mars conjunction trine Jupiter - I guess that this aspects shows that we can have fun together in a very active way.

- Sun/Saturn opposition sextile/trine Moon - this seems to show that we have some basic affinity - I've noticed that some of the charts in this thread that are about friendships also has some aspects between these 3.

posted July 29, 2009 06:42 AM         

i don't know up to which level your ex was an addict, but with addicts, there is one thing: when you pick up savior role in a relationship with an addict, it is so easy to believe that you are the one who will change him, who will transform him. alas, people don't change. you keep trying and trying, and realize that the person in question is going back and forth to his addiction, the best thing you can do is leave. honestly, it is the best for you and your sanity.

i am sorry for your waisted time, nerves, job, family, everything, but boy, what an experience you have gained! it takes lot of energy to get back to your balance, but i am sure you are already there!

posted July 29, 2009 07:01 AM         

This is the composite chart of a very special relationship. "Bear" and I have known each other for 7 years, and we met online. After a lie (on my part), we stopped talking and lost contact for 3 years. Then, in 2007 we started talking again and agreed to meet in May 2008. After we met, we hit it off and decided to date. Our relationship has been strained by the distance but it's wonderful 95% of the time, not just on my part. He'd probably give you 98%.

I have 3-4 T-Squares in my chart, he has a chart full of oppositions. Naturally, the composite has both.

The Neptune opposition is interesting. I always say when we were younger (met when I was 15), the relationship was too heavy for us to work out. I think it was fated for us to meet when we're both older at a (more) stable place in our lives.

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posted July 29, 2009 09:55 AM         

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The Neptune opposition is interesting. I always say when we were younger (met when I was 15), the relationship was too heavy for us to work out. I think it was fated for us to meet when we're both older at a (more) stable place in our lives.

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posted July 29, 2009 11:13 AM         

I thought I could handle the addiction, I was around it my whole life because of my father. I kind of rationalized that if anyone could help him, it would be me. And he made me think I could, too! He told me all the time that I was his only hope. 6 or so months after I left him, one of his organs ruptured, he began to bleed internally and he almost died. I heard from mutual friends that he was in the hospital for 2 weeks. Talk about guilt, right? Not even THAT woke him up, though- he hasn't changed at all, he's still killing himself daily. I have no idea if he ever even thinks of me.

Our Davidson composite has Neptune in 12th Sag, opposite a Mars/N. Node conjunction in 6th Gemini, and composite Moon conjunct Asc in Capricorn, which seems to make a lot of sense. I'm still not sure what it is about composites that could have alerted me to how serious it was all going to be, though.

Synastry-wise there were red flags-- a Grand Fire Trine between my Sun, his Mars, and his Nessus, for example; my Nessus directly conjunct his midheaven; his Dejaneira conjunct our Venus/Mars conjunction in Libra.

(Nessus, the third centaur, relates to abuse, including psychological, sexual and otherwise. Dejaneira, mythologically, accidentally killed husband because she doubted his love for her.)

posted August 03, 2009 02:36 PM         

I started a thread trying to understand how to interpret the beginning and ending of a relationship via the composite before I saw Comica's thread here. Once I did, I practiced by looking at the charts and guessing before reading the comments.

I was able to see yours w/ your ex husband pretty clearly once I'd looked at a few, and I've been pretty doubtful of composites in the past.

The chart ruler is Jupiter in the 9th. The ruler of the 12th is Pluto...which conjuncts Uranus and should signify the ending of the relationship. If we look for planets in the 12th and what aspects they make, we find Neptune squaring the chart ruler, which might explain the illusion/deception that things were great in the beginning.

The sun signifies the purpose in the composite of significant relationships. Yours is in the 5th, the house of children.

I think the verbal abuse shows up with Mercury in the apex of a yod with that deceipt (Neptune in the 12th) and the final ending of the relationship (Pluto/Uranus conjunction.)

There is a lot of pain signified with a square to the 7th house moon from the triple whammy of Venus/Saturn/NN in the 4th. Ouch.

I was pondering what might show that you have to continually have contact with a person (due to children, etc) or can't completely break the tie, even if you would want to.

I saw two things. One is that the end of your relationship, being the Pluto/Uranus conjunction is also conj your South Node...tied to the past. On top of that, your NN/Venus/Saturn is conjunct your IC...another tie to the past.

Although your chart ruler, Jupiter is negatively linked where your ex is concerned, it shows some beautiful ties to your children and your destiny to be their Mom with a trine to the 5th house sun and the 4th house Mercury and North Node.

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posted August 03, 2009 03:39 PM         

Here is our composite.

posted August 05, 2009 07:17 PM         

It looks like a wonderful and very spiritual relationship from the composite.

Having the Sun conjunct Venus and Moon conjunct North Node are very intense karmic love indicators. I also like that the 12th house ruler is positively aspected and IS the sun conjunct Venus and Mars...wow.

posted August 06, 2009 10:15 PM         

I had a hard time looking at the chart...too much for me at once. If you wouldn't mind posting a basic one without the asteroids for now, that might make it easier to see the patterns.

posted August 07, 2009 04:00 AM         

I feel sorry for everyone who has had to endure heartache ... it's so hard, but sometimes we have to learn that life is made up of transient moments good and bad ... nothing good lasts forever, but also, nothing bad lasts forever... and we need to make the most of what we are presented with in life - there's a reason for EVERYTHING

I'll post my composite and there is one downfall (would be interested in opinions) that we have just gone through recently (we aren't together at this point in time).

I didn't really take much notice of the T squares, but I have noticed it now! I feel we lived up to our composite fairly quickly which could have been why we are the way we are now ...