posted July 22, 2009 03:05 PM         

Anyways, long story short - lately, I'm trying to understand the dynamics of the composite better, but I don't really have much cases to look at. ^_^; So I wonder if you guys want to share any insights and also some composite cases so that we can learn a bit more about these? X3

Basically, just post a composite chart and briefly describe the nature of the relationship, as well as each of the couple's general feelings. And if possible, describe which composite aspects you think that it describes the situation.

Thank You guys~! X3

posted July 22, 2009 03:22 PM         

Here is my composite with Pisces Moon Man (midpoint method):

posted July 22, 2009 04:02 PM         

This is my marriage composite. It was the worst relationship of my entire adult life and l am now convinced that t-squares in composites are BAD NEWS.

We started off totally in love, at least i thought we were. We got married, had 2 kids and lived together for 6 years.
He was lazy, verbally abusive and insecure the entire way through the marriage. He beat me down to the size of an ant - verbally and blackmailing me. He never earned a penny thoughout our marriage, lied about everything to everyone including me and FINALLY i found enough balls to leave him.

posted July 22, 2009 04:17 PM         

MC/MOON/4th house nightmare stellium.

posted July 22, 2009 04:59 PM         

About this relationship: We met at a party and the person who invited him to the party was trying to set me up with him. I was really opposed to idea of getting set up. But it really wasn't a set up, once I met him. I liked him right away, he had this presence that was really energizing and enthusiastic. We just kept talking on and off during the party and I stayed in touch with him after the party.

A few weeks later I was invited to the same house where the party had been where I had first met him, only this time it was a small dinner party. And we hit it off big time, this time. We ended up talking non-stop till five in the morning, I clearly thought we were only going to be friends, because I wanted to kiss him so bad, but that night I didn't get the vibe, I think we were just talking too much and there weren't enough pauses.

Now to my point. So, after the dinner party we sorta made plans to hang out, and I wasn't really sure if it would work out since we lived in different cities. But a week after the dinner party he randomly called me and told me he was in town and wanted to hang out. From this, I realized he really liked me, and when we met up we just talked endlessly again.

We made plans to hang out again after the random hang out. And by this time, since he lived out of town he had to obviously stay with me in my tiny dorm room. I was aware of this and was kinda stoked because I knew we would finally make out etc... And once we made out and he spent the night I felt a lot more relaxed with him, obviously because I got to know him more, but also because I had been feeling this sexual tension and it was finally released.

So pretty much every weekend he would come up and stay the night and we would talk endlessly and walk all over town and see some amazing concerts. I even hand wrote out his chart, which he really seemed to like. I got him into astrology, he is a Scorpio moon after all...

posted July 22, 2009 05:26 PM         

here is ours.

the Relationship.

well this is really THE Relationship.

it is my really 1st serious boyfriend.we see each other like natural partners.

we met through the internet.Instant love at 1st sight.
we both were alone for long time,and started with great certainty:although we were like two strangers,since the 1st moment we felt we kenw each other like always.

we are long distance,although only 2 hours apart.

the best?it is our affection,love and trust with each other.

we idealize a lot the other.but i know that he is my right guy.

we had several problems from outside when we started out.families against.distance separating,not trust from one side to the other when concerning families...

now?

posted July 23, 2009 12:38 AM         

In the spirit of Lucia's composite, I'm going to go with my Destroyer as well. Yay!

This is kind of a long story, so, sorry about that.

I first met this guy online, through friends- he lives on the West Coast. A group of us all had websites with a particular host and were sort of like a "crew," I guess. He came to visit us (the East Coast kids were all roommates) several times and I considered him a good friend, like a kid brother. He was 16 when I first "met" him, and I was 19.

He'd always weirdly idealized me, but I dismissed and downplayed it. He was too young and too far away and I always had my own things happening in the there and then. Our friendship maintained, primarily online, for 6 years.

Then I decided I needed a major change and started looking around for a new city to explore. I made a list of 5 places and intended to visit them all before deciding where to move next. He lived in one of the cities on my list, and offered to let me stay at his place and to show me around town. I accepted. I got on that plane thinking my old friend the kid brother would be picking me up at the airport, but oh no.

He was suddenly hot. And not just hot, but. I mean, folks. There aren't enough expletives in the world for me to describe how attracted I was to him once I saw him all grown up. I couldn't even deal, it felt incestuous. To make matters worse, he laid on all his considerable charms in a way no one ever had on me. He showered me with affection and compliments, took me to expensive restaurants, got us into packed clubs, after parties and shows because he "knew" people, introduced me to lots of interesting people, romanced me up and down, day and night. I'd never felt so desired and special in my entire life- like a real lady, for the first time ever. My first visit was 4 nights and 5 days- I made it 3 nights before I gave in. The sex was unbelievable, other-worldy even, like nothing I'd ever experienced. We're talking tears here, people, in both of our eyes.

It takes a lot for someone to trip me up, but I fell HARD for this guy. I was flying in to see him as often as we could afford it (we split my tix), staying for longer and longer stretches. Being away from his body was virtually torture for me, I thought about him all the time. After about three months of this, he asked me to move in with him, claiming that I was his "sunshine" and he couldn't live without me. I was wary at first, but he seemed so genuinely sure of his feelings for me that eventually I couldn't see any reason why I shouldn't. I was already bankrupting myself on plane tickets and driving myself crazy with desire- might as well jump all the way in, right?

So. I sold my car, quit my job, packed two suitcases worth of my stuff and left. Let me just reiterate: I SOLD MY CAR, QUIT MY JOB, AND MOVED ACROSS THE COUNTRY.

What followed was... how do I even describe this? He has a very serious genetic illness (me and my sick boys) on top of another he contracted through a bad blood transfusion as a kid, and was told by his doctors when he was 20 that if he took impeccable care of himself he could possibly live to be 45. His health became a major part of my life almost immediately. Once I moved in with him I had to learn how to administer his (intravenous) medicine to him in case there was ever an emergency, even.

Things were amazing at first, Mary Tyler Moore "I'm Gonna Make It After All!!!" type stuff. We stayed in bed together for three days straight and just made out, had sex, drank wine, watched Venture Bros DVDs, and ate salsa con queso. He was warm, funny, and loving. I started to make new friends and setting up job interviews. I loved the city with my whole heart.

But: he was also an alcoholic. I knew he had a drinking problem, he was "open" with me about it, but up until about 3 weeks after I moved in (when he couldn't hide it any longer) I had no idea how he lived. And by "lived" I mean he went out almost every night right after work, got so disgustingly drunk that he sometimes smelled like lighter fluid, came home at 4am, woke up at 7am, did a line of coke and went to work. His "friends" were horrible enablers and none of them seemed to care that his behavior was (literally) killing him. On the nights he didn't go out, he would be so tired and his body so beaten and destroyed that he would just lay on the couch in the living room with all the lights off. It was horrifying, particularly because I loved him so much.

I tried to make the best of the situation. I offered tough love, friendship, mother-love, everything I could. He alternated between begging me for help and then hating me for trying to "change" him. He'd say I was too good for him, that he felt insecure, that he was terrified I'd leave him- the next day I'd be clingy, smothering, a burden. It was insane, literally insane.

He was a charming and flirtatious guy, which never bothered me. I liked that when we went out, we would separate, do our own thing, and then go home together. I was never jealous or hovered around him like a puppy. Imagine my surprise then, when I walked in on him drunkenly going at it with the ONLY good friend I'd managed to make in the city! That was my breaking point. I imploded, begged my parents for a plane ticket and left town.

I wish I could tell you that was the end of the story, but for the next month or so after I left he begged and begged for me to come back. He missed me, his life felt empty without me, just all this nonsense. I told him I needed some proof that he would get help before we could even talk about that, and within DAYS he had a new girlfriend- a 19 year old party girl he'd told me on numerous occasions he thought was unintelligent and boring. Then pictures surfaced of his new girlfriend wearing MY CLOTHES that I'd left behind in my rush to escape.

I haven't spoken to him in years, but I still have serious residuals. Lots of trust and self esteem issues that I never had before, nearly crippling in nature. It's funny what people can do to one another, isn't it?

posted July 23, 2009 04:15 AM         

This is a fun one:

Relationship: This was a "business partner" I had. I thought this would a be a good chart to look at because it was a very short relationship that started and ended suddenly. We met through my friend's neighbor (who is a Pisces, oddly enough considering the 1st house is mostly picses). This man owns a business, and my friend was designing a logo for it. She brought me in to do a website for him, which I did, and everything was fine. But this guy didn't seem to be able to let me go once I signed on the project. Suddenly he had all these crackpot web-based get-rich-quick schemes in mind for me to implement for him. I told him I didn't have the experience or knowledge to put up what he wanted, but he assured me that he knew other people who could help with the programming.

Now one thing that I remember most was this guy's propensity to throw money at me. I would say no, and he'd shove a 100 dollar bill in my face. It was very demoralizing. I would refuse it, and he would plead with me to take it and to help him on this or that... and I caved. Then everything became murky. He wanted me to design a website, but gave me no content, and wouldn't listen to any of my ideas for content. It was incredibly frustrating. When I asked him why he wanted me in particular to work on the project, he said, "because you're a young and a woman and you can do something better than me."

At that point I decided I didn't like him at all (he'd already had a falling out with my friend because of a sexist thing he said to her). So I called him up and told him that I didn't think this venture was going anywhere, to take his money back, and find someone else. He starting talking about how it was my personal insecurities that kept me from working on the project, and that he wasn't going to let me "back down." He had a general attitude that keeping me involved was almost a pet project in itself. I got more and more frustrated because I felt like he just wasn't listening to me at all, and so finally I just completely laid it out on him. I told him he was irritating, rude, pushy, and that I didn't want to have anything to do with him. He became incredibly ****** , like I could feel the anger coming through the phone. Absolute silent rage. Then he hung up and I haven't heard from him since.

posted July 23, 2009 10:41 AM         

aerialcircus, I'm sorry about your case.. it sounded really hard, and I can't really imagine how scary it was, but you were really strong to be able to deal with that situation. >_<
I'm not sure about the chart aspects, but alcohol/drug additions is usually associated with Neptune, and maybe Chiron. Maybe there are some midpoint aspects that could reflect it (I see Pluto and Saturn sextile Neptune, and then Saturn/Neptune mp opposed to Chiron, but then again, I'm not sure >_< ).

posted July 23, 2009 03:23 PM         

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