posted July 28, 2009 07:47 PM
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Mind you, there probably is a healthy way to have "expectations" but I haven't quite found the formula; where one should draw the line before it becomes debilitating to the relationship.
Oh, I totally believe that there ARE healthy expectations that a person should have in a monogamous relationship... Like each partner should be monogamous! It's the trivial stuff and the overbearing stuff that gets me, like the example you mentioned with the guy who called you a million times in a day and then got mad at YOU because you had your phone off. That's called possessive, insecure, and controlling.
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Yes, I think it would be totally inaccurate to say that Venus in Virgo can not express love. It probably just means that we're not the most romantic, although I am quite the softy when I feel safe with someone.
I also have Venus in Virgo (retrograde), and I have to disagree. I really enjoy the romantic side of things myself, but I think that at the end of the day, I am more realistic than a lot of women are about the potential of a relationship. I know what I can and cannot handle in a relationship, and if I can see the guy has too many traits that I can't handle, I'll walk. I love the romance, but romance is not the most important factor in a relationship for me. Maybe that does make me unromantic, I don't know.
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Until some months ago i also thought that i was a commitment phobe...but then i had to realize that it was nothing more than a bad excuse to avoid relationships (i have N.Node in the 7th house)
Hee hee. Maybe that's my problem. I also have NN in the 7th house, plus I've got a LOT of fire in my chart, and I've always prided myself on being very independent.
I have to say though, I have been better at TRYING to get out and date more in the last year than I have in my whole life. I think my friend hit the nail on the head though when she told me that she hates dating because the 'getting to know you' phase is so draining, and she knows that right after that phase is usually where she gets screwed over by a guy. I think this might be my problem as well. It's hard for me to get motivated to date because it actually takes a lot of effort on my part, and I'm a busy person to begin with.
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posted July 28, 2009 07:47 PM
