posted November 21, 2018 03:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Yeah...I like the psychological aspect,the buildup, the suggestion etc. I feel like once I act on it, the magic is over. Lol.

I love erotica that teases and plays around the sexuality of the characters. Builds the tension up etc.

Now I know Mars in air sign people get it. But it frustrates Mars in earth who want more "flesh on flesh" action. Lol

BTW, I noticed that Mars/Neptune or Mars in 12th does not equate to a low sex drive. It means someone who has an inkling for porn or masturbation etc. They take a more "passive" role with sex. Like to have sex in their head too.

I have the semi-square aspect between Neptune/Mars. And I think it adds to my seemingly complex sex drive. Or lack thereof

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Not for me because I have Neptune trine Mars and I don’t like any of those.

posted November 21, 2018 03:35 PM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
Same here actually. I am mostly turned on by kissing and making out then the actual act. I don’t Id mind being in a relationship with just the romantic and sensual aspect. I don’t see myself engaging in sexual intercourse very often that sounds tiring. And even then I wonder if the fantasy is more exciting than the actual act.
It’s weird too but I also have Venus Square Pluto like the OPs man of interest. Venus square pluto is supposed to have a high sex drive I think?

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I find squares to Pluto bring about trust issues. And when Moon/Venus are involved (relationship planets), trust needs to be established first and foremost before any intimacy happens.

posted November 21, 2018 03:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Plut0nian2:
This.
Thanks.
Too much Neptune here, Pisces Moon, Cancer Mercury, ASC and Sun bith oppisite Neptune and Uranus.
When I say I need my time I'm not joking..

I have Scorpio Pluto in 5th H square Leo venus, Mars and Jup in 2nd H.

I'm surprised no one mentions the 8th House in here..
I have Aqua 8th H cusp with Saturn in it.. Actually exactly on the house cusp..
I may have the appetite but I haven't done it.. My self control is so great that I've never had sex hahah.. just platonic relationships.
I know why this happens, it has to do with Saturn wanting control in there and wanting even slower.

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Pisces/Neptune has to do with it? I agree with Aries23degrees
I have Pisces stellium and 12th house stellium. Neptune is in the 12th house and I am the same way you described about self control in sex drive. I feel you on that one. Also don’t like sex crazed society.

posted November 21, 2018 03:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
I tend to think Neptune and/or Pisces can give low sex drive. Neptune heavy or dom people, I find, have little desire for sex. Sure, they'll do it, but in the end it's not something they really care for. It depends on who they're with. They're happy without it. Neptune, Pisces = low sex drive. Plus Mars in Pisces in 12th house means nearly no sex drive, if any at all- but depends on aspects of course.

A Uranian person, on the other hand, could be quite kinkeh.

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I think I have a low sex drive but it’s hard for me to say where that comes from then to validate this because Im dominant in both lol the mix up

posted November 21, 2018 04:11 PM            

Yes uranus can be kinky that is one way they may rebel agains't mars expectations and can be surprising like that but they can also have a low sex drive when connected to mars and 8th house, they don't want to get that close to someone or for sex to have power over them.

posted November 21, 2018 05:39 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Neptune is my strongest planet and I love sex and have a very healthy sex drive, I have moon in pisces and so does my ex and we both have a very healthy sex drive, I know a lot of pisces who love sex, Mars in pisces does not have a low sex drive, I knew a guy with mars in pisces and he had an active sex life and was quite the lady's men, actually I have met a few that have a very high sex drive with this placement, they tend to be promiscuous actually. Pisces likes to fantasize about sex but they also want to play out the fantasy, the fantasy is JUST FOREPLAY not the end game, for some of you that this is the end game there is also uranus stuff happening in your chart connected to mars or the 8th house I am sure or your mars is very poorly aspected.

Yes uranus can be kinky that is one way they may rebel agains't mars expectations and can be surprising like that but they can also have a low sex drive when connected to mars and 8th house, they don't want to get that close to someone or for sex to have power over them.

Also having a sex drive that happens out of the blue is not a high sex drive, like my partner is like that and is super annoying, it happening out of the blue just means that your sex drive is very inconsistent so your partner never knows when you are going to be in the mood for it which is bad bc then the desire the other feels for you is not been nourished and kept alive and then they are suppose to desire you when they are finally in the mood out of the blue LOL, I don't think so!! When sex is inconsistent my desire for the other will die COMPLETELY.

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Yes that's why I said Mars in Pisces in 12th.

And like I said... Depends on aspects....

posted November 21, 2018 06:26 PM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
Pisces/Neptune has to do with it? I agree with Aries23degrees
I have Pisces stellium and 12th house stellium. Neptune is in the 12th house and I am the same way you described about self control in sex drive. I feel you on that one. Also don’t like sex crazed society.

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The thing with control might have to do with Pluto or Saturn.
In my case I think it's a mix of Aqua and Saturn both on 8th H cusp.
Since I was a chird I didn't like being touched/kissed/hugged. I would cry and I would push anyone who tried to do so (parents/relatives/friends etc). I like hugs with someone I eant but it's because I'm hugging him too. But ideally I would like me to be the only one touching/kissing him etc while he is doing nothing to me, just sitting there enjoying it. I want him to want me in every other possible way and to be turned on by me but not wanting to do anything to me lol.

But when I was hugging someone I wanted he would kiss me in the neck or do something and I would go cold and distant.
I don't know why I don't like being touched. Sometimes I'm wondering if I'm detached from my body.

I don't have problem getting turned on, it's vety quick and easy when I like someone but I just don't need to do smth about it.

The fact that all my platonic relationships have been mostly distant may play a role..
Are you physically close with the ones you like? When I am I'm getting turned on even without having sexual/sensual thoughts about him.. I may be thinking how adorable he is for example.
However I haven't spent much time with someone being physically close and that is mainly because I'm kind of afraid to be with a man that we want each other in the same room because I know he'll make a move and I'll block it and he will be confused etc etc.

Also have you observed the transits?
Have you been always like that?

14yo till about 21yo I wanted sex all the time it didn't matter if I was in love or not. Then health problems both mines and others' started, deaths and I still have health problems and many other problems..

It started when T.Saturn squared my Sun, then entered my 5th H conjucting natal Pluto and squaring Venus,Mars Jup and natal Saturn. I have progressions involving Sun Saturn and ASc.

Plus some hormonal issues.
I mean it depends on a lot. If I had a better life things would be different.

Do you have Saturn-Neptune-Uranus hard aspects to Mars or 8th H?

posted November 21, 2018 07:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
Yes that's why I said Mars in Pisces in 12th.

And like I said... Depends on aspects....

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posted November 21, 2018 10:37 PM            

Good point and reminder about transits and progressions.

Also, stress, health issues, unsettled home.. all things that turn the biological urge for sex off.

We feel the desire to procreate when our bodies and our environments are safe and settled to do so. The biology needs to be ok to look after offspring.

Also, if you are ill, the energy of procreation goes into the immune system and regeneration. The body is not ready for sex and the biology knows it. So those hormones are not as active.

Quick search on Neptune and Venus -"

"Venus sextile Neptune or Venus trine Neptune: makes an inspirational musician. It gives a fertile imagination and deep emotions, a nature that is pure and chaste, hence occasionally it leads to platonic unions and companionship of the most ecstatic nature. From The Message of the Stars by Max Heindel."