posted September 13, 2009 06:01 PM            

Uranus in aspect to anything can show what you least expect.
(Mars being sexual energy)

posted September 13, 2009 07:22 PM            

In Virgo hmm
you tell me

posted September 14, 2009 12:33 AM            

But of course I think it also are individual differences.

I have a friend she have high sexdrive. She have mars,uranus and pluto conj in virgo.

I have another friend he have very low sex drive and problem with that. He have also problem with alcohol so I don't know if thats the reason to the problem.
He have

mars in cancer square uranus in libra
eros in t-square
eros in capricorn square ceres
eros opposite venus,orcus
venus sext pluto

posted September 14, 2009 04:21 AM            

Virgo Mars gets misunderstood. They aren't prudish or uptight, not in general. If they feel that things are right they can be quite the opposite. They just might be inclined to wait for the optimum moment.

Mars in Aqua has a more detached attitude to the process. Low or erratic drive? You could put ten of us together and you would get different answers. Mainly not, because here we do not have the same requirement of 'feeling in the mood'.

But of course the chart as a whole can lend itself to variants on this general impression by Mars sign alone.

Here, we have a sensitive Cancer Moon and a Venus/Pluto that stands every chance of being hurt in the past. Caution might be part of the explanation.

Being human and contradictory we also find Mars/Uranus in contact and so here is an independent drive and in conjunction we have someone whom it is pointless to try and bend to someone else's will. Add in a lose Pluto conjunct, I think we can suggest that things will fall along on his terms more or less.

You also have needs so this might not suit you, at this point I think synastry might help.

Is his Venus also Virgo? His Rising sign is and shouldn't be ignored in this question. I think it adds to the sense of having to feel things are right. Maybe, he couldn't stand for you to think he was mediocre. It would fit.

posted September 15, 2009 01:58 AM            

He has Taurus Venus/Mars conjunct within 30 seconds. These also opposed my Pluto within 30 minutes. There should have been absolutely no reason for us (well, astrologically) not to have a satisfying sex life.

Do you know if he has had any past traumas?
Has he always had a low sex drive? Some men just do. Sometimes its a medical reason, there are plenty of conditions which can contribute to it. Sometimes they have had a bad experience. My ex has one of these reasons that contribute to it.

Astrologically speaking however, I later found out he had transitting Saturn doing horrible things to his chart.
tSATURN sesquiquadrate nVENUS
tSATURN sesquiquadrate nMARS
tSATURN square nSUN
tSATURN square nJUPITER
tSATURN square nNEPTUNE
tSATURN sesquiquadrate nCHIRON

mmmmm not much fun. He said he was stressed and had been for the past year (since about May 2008) ... this is when the approach of the Saturn transits started. He was literally not sleeping/eating right/always sick/work was not going well for him etc etc

Most of these transits ended just after we broke up

So in light of this, and I don't tell this to anyone else, but I do let him off.. just a little

posted September 15, 2009 09:13 PM            

from what you said before, you've been hurt by men in the past. Now you're attracting a man that is afraid of being hurt. I guess he was hurt in the past too.

hard Venus-Pluto tend to indicate love,relationships that involve betrayal which lead to trust issues. I think that's also goes for Venus in hard aspect to transneptunian objects in general......especially Sedna which has the greatest average distance of any object in our solar system.

You have that Sun conjunct Pluto which could indicate the possibility of attracting men that have trust issues in regards to betrayal.

I think that if you don't have your own issues resolved in regards to trust,hurt,and betrayal, you could attract people have problems with trust,hurt,and betrayal too or people that could trust,hurt,and betray you.
That is something to consider. It's a good thing that you have any issues that you have resolved,and then you can attract men that don't have issues. Those men that are secure,trust in love and don't hurt and betray others.

I also think that it can be cool for a guy to take his time. That seems to show that he's not in just for the sex but that he respects you and takes you seriously. You did say that he's romantic and very affectionate. He doesn't see you as a sex object that he wants to just screw and then screw over.
Some men just don't want to have sex right away. Some men just want to wait awhile and get to know the woman more. Some men do take intimacy seriously. Some men could grow attached to a woman after being intimate with her. If they get intimate with the wrong woman and the woman is not serious and ends it,he can be deeply hurt and can have a hard time getting over it. That especially goes for highly sensitive men. According to Elaine Aron, PhD (who writes books about highly sensitive people), highly sensitive people tend to fall in love harder and that makes them susceptible to being more affected by an outcome of a relationship whether positive or negative. If they are more sensation seekers,they might be less affected and might find it easier to move on. It really depends on the person and his experiences. If it's the right woman and she's becoming a serious,faithful partner, there can be an attachment that is matched by extreme depth of the relationship. There are men like that even though it seems that males in general are sex-hungry types.

I do wonder about the Ascendant,Mars,and Uranus in Virgo being an indicator that he's not one to sleep around and that he needs to get to know a woman before he has sex with her.

another thing too is that hormonal issues come into play. the less testosterone the man has, the less likely he's sex-driven. Also things like irritable male syndrome which is connected to fluctuations,drops of testosterone could factor into not wanting to have sexual intercourse.

Venus in hard aspect to Pluto can be an indicator for problems with hormones,reproductive system. There would have to be other things that support it.
He has Mars conjunct Uranus too, and Mars is associated with male reproductive system.

Raymond

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"Nothing matters absolutely;
the truth is it only matters relatively"

posted September 16, 2009 01:22 AM            

I knew a guy with Aries Mars that was always on edge to go at it, but had a Pluto opposition. It feels like it held him back somehow, and frustrated him.