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Topic: Women who don't want children
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stopandstare
Knowflake Posts: 122
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Registered: May 2009
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posted September 29, 2009 09:01 PM
 
i definitely want children. actually now, more than ever and i don't know why, i envision how my first child will look like. i have visions of how my baby will look like and as a toddler. i have names picked out. i even imagine myself being pregnant and how it would feel like. even though i'm on the border, i am still technically a cancer sun  so typical i know. however i think this has more to do with my upbringing and my own family and friends and how we were raised like. everyone gets married. everyone has kids. there's none of this overanalyzation. you just know. i just know. i was so totally one of those overachieving ambitious types in school and even now working a corporate job, but even i get that life at the end of the day is not about money and status. i'm old school in this day and age for a young person. i'm all for family and friends and one day having my own family. IP: Logged |
carl
Knowflake Posts: 217
From: China
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 29, 2009 09:32 PM
"Carl, this is a strange question"------------------------- Wait, what are you talking about? I did not ask a question. Raymond asked me a question and I provided responses.
Raymond said, to me:
Did you want to be married (and have children)? I said: A little bit to the first, more towards the end, but never a subject that was even remotely pushed [to the first part of the question]..and no to the second [part of the question].
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Okay, my response could have been worded better, but I was in a hurry. Sometimes I am doing something, literally one minute before I have to leave, like at that point. Kind of stupid, but I guess I get the most out of every damn minute! IP: Logged |
belgz
Knowflake Posts: 316
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 30, 2009 10:39 AM
i have saturn (5th h.ruler) trine moon. Pluto trine moon. Venus sex moon. Ceres trine moon. Moon cnj n.n. I want to have children. But all my life i hated them, i would thnk theyre annoying but then my best friend had a baby in 06 and i pretty much raised her daughter and i fell in love with the whole nurturing,caring thing. Your creating a life! Its so amazing and they depend on u and love you. Your motivated in life to do or become something, because of that love you feel. Them progressing in life .. Learning to talk and walk and starting school are all extra happy moments in life. Its scary but im sure natures way are hormones that change you and make you ready for that. But then again some people arnt made for it at all. When i was younger if i fell pregnant i wouldve aborted it. I was not maternal but i lived something that changed me.------------------
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cpn_edgar_winner
Knowflake Posts: 1591
From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 30, 2009 12:16 PM
well, belgz...there's that, but there is also unglamorous parts of it...the age 14-20 when they may lie to your face, sneak out of the house, skip school, start having sex, with people you might not like, get thier heart broke, wreck a car or two, please replace it right away, they NEED thier wheels.... expect 100 dollar shoes, "all the other kids have them" and get mad when you don't have 100,000 grand set aside for thier college tuition...what do you mean i have to work my way through school? or at 30 when one may be still on your couch or in your basement....and all of those are "normal" problems....or when a 6 year old projectile vomits and you have a big day at work you can't miss, but you miss anyway, because EVERY mother at sometime has to say, my kid or my job? both need me today..and most rightly choose the child, but puts up with crap at work for making that decision.... I mean there are lots and lots of things to consider. like i said those are just everyday issues. it is a huge lifetime job. 1-3 - bond cuddle love (mutual love affair)
3-6 - teach cuddle love (my mommy is the prettiest and best mommy ever)
6-13 - good times, lots of fun
14-18 - who is this person that took over my child (my parents suck, they don't let me do anything, think I will get tatoos and piercings,dye hair black..my parents are soooo stupid)
18-19 - they do everything they are supposed to be 21 to do, and you just hope they don't get caught (my parents are still stupid)
19-22- ah, back to friends, back to thinking maybe my parents weren't so stupid after all. maybe a grand baby on the way.... after 22 i am not sure of, as i am still learning... not all kids stay close to thier parents thoughout life, so you don't know for sure they will be there for you when you get old. if so, assisted living facilities and retirement communtiies wouldn't be having a waiting list. I guess what i am saying is it is not a glamorous job, it is not for everyone, the sacrifices are enormous, to do the job properly, and it is smart to weigh it out and consider everything when deciding if it is right for you. school lunches are 2.65 per day.
dance classes - couple hundered bucks ever quarter
karate - same
band - instruments are 1,000 average
football - cleats, insurance
camp - required for band and sports - hundreds per summer and...to really dothe job properly, it is best to be able to saty home and raise your own child if you can. if you can't it is 11 hours of daycare foryour 9 hour workday, and home to dinner, bath bed and do it again, you have no say in what goes on in daycare at about 200 per week. little sally bites johnny every day. little mikey gave johhny his cold, because his mother sends him to daycare sick...and so on...and so on... i can't believe some are trying to convince "t" that life just isn't fulfilled without using your womb. not true. she is smart for thinking it through. the rewards are awesome, but the job is HUGE and not everyone is cut out for it. and the mother usually gets the brunt of the job if the relationship doesnt work between the parents. all on you, you have the womb. you raise of the kid..not always, but usually. a whole lot to consider in the best of circumstances.
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belgz
Knowflake Posts: 316
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 01, 2009 11:13 AM
lol everyone finds their own way in life and i will let them do whatever they want so as long as it is discussed at home first and i can give a second opinion.
Im also very lucky i live in australia. There are no school or medical fees other than uniform and a few empty books. We all have different circumstances and even though in australia you get paid 5 thousand dollars for each child you give birth to, people are in no rush for a baby or that responsibility.------------------
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blue moon
Knowflake Posts: 831
From: U.K
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 01, 2009 01:21 PM
Carl, sorry, I wasn't sure if you were referring to me, that's what made it seem like an odd question. Maybe I should get more sleep.
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