posted October 17, 2009 01:48 PM            

Come back to me or don't, it's your choice. In the meantime, I've got things to do.

posted October 17, 2009 03:07 PM            

and

I know, we are on an astro website after all.

posted October 17, 2009 07:24 PM            

*then I'll marry you and kick myself in the a$$ for a decade or more. <:

posted October 17, 2009 07:30 PM            

Oh and you better tell me the truth, because I will know if you are lying. I will most likely not tell you I know though. It will go into my mental memory checklist of things about you. It will sit there until I decide what to do about it. I give the benefit of the doubt until I am sure. Then I let you know and then I usually leave.

posted October 17, 2009 08:55 PM            

If I still love someone, and if they are honest with me, I'd give them another chance, but only 1 chance.. Even if they were the one to break up with me.

posted October 17, 2009 10:28 PM            

Before ever hooking up with certain people though, I have been interested, then lost interest, then gotten interested again. They re-interested me by:

-seeming really happy and like their lives were FUN
-looking hotttt
-seeming to really love/like/value/care about me in a deep way, but not being mushy about it
-being surrounded by girls who are desperate for him, but seeming bored by them and like he's pining after me instead
-seeming cool and powerful, but secretly vulnerable underneath

One guy who just--wow--took me years to get over him--we were at a party, and he was surrounded by four girls who were hitting on him, and he kept shooting me these LOOKS...I was with another guy too...and he (the Aries) tricked everyone into leaving the room by telling them there was something in the kitchen, and then just as I was about to leave too he closed and locked the door and he just LOOKED at me, and I said, "Are you going to let me out?" (My heart was racing, I was so shy around him and excited and thrilled and trying to be cool.) And he said, "Of course, I just had to look at you for a moment without all those people in the way." And then he ran his finger down my cheek. Cheesy, but sue me, it worked.

And it wouldn't've worked without his entourage of desperately smitten girls--the message was, "I'm choosing you, Leo, over everyone else."

posted October 17, 2009 10:43 PM            

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Taurus women - be there for them, be their friend even if you broke up but never too pushy

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posted October 17, 2009 11:35 PM              

Pisces DC

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•' •.♥♫♫´°°♫ • Life is Beautiful •.♥.•♫°°´♫♫ ♥ •

•Sun• Cancer
•Moon• Gemini
•Mars• Cancer
•Mercury• Cancer
•Venus• Leo

posted October 18, 2009 12:25 AM            

If there aren't real feelings and a real connection underneath the superficial stuff, you won't win one back. Like with Libra--all the prettiness gets his attention, and it reminds him how important your long, long discussions are, and how you have a sensibility that's completely unique.

All humans respond to various superficial triggers--for your average guy, for instance, if he's left a woman and he runs into her and she's gained 8 lbs and is vomiting into a garbage can, his instant response might be pity or revulsion...whereas if he sees her and she looks beautiful and is having a great time, his response might be to remember what it was like when they were happy and in bed together.

A huge reason people break up is because the relationship has started to feel like an emotional burden or trial in some way, so a good way to win ANY sign back is to remind him/her of who YOU are, outside of the relationship's complications.

The tone and atmosphere of the relationship have often taken on an unpleasantness that isn't inherent to the parties involved.

The same Libra man who inspired my post is not such a superficial guy...he stayed with me during some really tough times, including when I was hardly at my sexiest. As my ex he is still one of my biggest supporters. If I were dying of cancer and looked disgusting I have no doubt he would make huge sacrifices in order to be there to care for me, and he would look at me and think I was beautiful because of who I am.

ANY sign when you're trying to reattract them, putting your best foot forward helps--reminding them of the part of you they first loved rather than the icky element in the relationship that prompted them to end it.

posted October 18, 2009 07:50 PM            

Your good when it comes to air signs, I think you whould be able to "drive right through me or drive circles around me", LoL.

Last summer my sister had a first birthday party for my gemini niece who just turned 1yrs old, shes vary firey and airy.

I bumped into an old leo and she did most of what you said. The spark was there and feelings are there just never went to the next step, completly my doing.

The thing I really adore is the Leo Loyalty and confidence they give you at the end, more then the other signs.

I agree with your last point.

-As with Gemini, let any heavy emotions, crying, or talking about the relationship come from him, and never bring up any of it yourself

The gem if intrested will want to work things out as a team.

If there's too much harmony then the Gem might even create problems just out of the intrest to get both parties to work together.

Trust me, I know this is a particular problem with Aqua's and Gem's. if everything is going to smoothly.

posted October 18, 2009 08:05 PM            

I don't know, I guess it is an Aqua rising thing but nothing would work to win me back unless I was bored and horny. Even then you'd be "back" but at arm's length. It wouldn't be anything that you did to get me back, it would be how I am feeling. I think that is true with all signs though - you cannot control what anyone else does, you can only control what you do (that is my mantra on this site!).

posted October 23, 2009 03:47 PM            

Anyone have advice on re-attracting a Scorpio? Scorpios are an eternal puzzle for me. I'm not talking about winning back a Scorpio who is DONE (with the fixed signs, when they're really over it, they're really over it--maybe with all signs)...more one who has been confused and hurt in a messy, mutual situation where both people got stung. Maybe not even "winning back" but just kind of mending things.

posted October 24, 2009 12:53 AM            

Pick me! Pick me!

I have been dealing with one on and off for three years.. I swear by now, and with all the other scopios I've had ties with (romantic, friendly, and familial) I should be getting my degree any day now.

So off the top of my head, not knowing your particular situation, first, I mean FIRST thing is that you must give them time after the (?) incident.

They will need to detach and think and analyze what happened over and over in their minds to discern your motivations, their motivations, the implications of the disagreement and the future implications.

This time will vary from one to another.

People assume with all the sexual scorp mystique that sex would be a way to lure then back. Nope. You may get the sex, but if the issue isn't resolved in his mind, then thats all you'll get and he will probably become even more suspicious of your motives, so no nasty texts or VM.

The best thing besides some passing time that I have noticed is to get in touch with them with a problem that they are equipped to help you with. For ex. After a bad time with mine, I waited a week or two maybe, and I texted him with a question like this, "sorry to bother you, but I couldn't think of anyone else that knows as much about flooring as you do, my linoleum is coming up at the seams in the kitchen, what should I do about it?"

You will probably get a semi-sarcastic answer, but you will get one. Scorp truly wants to help those they care about and they are flattered when people ask their advice.

Then let that go awhile.
After that I do some serious mental connecting in my head to him. I send my thoughts by looking at his pic, or something he wrote. They are very sensitive to this sort of stuff.

Most times they will contact you after that.

If not, I use the casual approach, you know how people forward you jokes on your cell? Well, I will forward one to him, WITHOUT a personal message attached. It sort of opens the door to communication in a generic way, without expectations. Usually within the same day, he will send me one back. Then a day or two later, he'll text a simple "HI." DON'T use that to launch into a deep discussion about what went wrong, and how much you miss,,,etc. It will be too overwhelming. You have to sort of ease into it.

When things get back to semi-normal/normal, wait for HIM to bring up the past issue and then take it from there.

These people feel DEEP. If they love you, I swear they don't stop. I've seen Scorps have exe's they keep in close contact for years and will drop everything on a moments notice if she has a problem. They are loyal.

Whatever you do, DON'T go around him with another guy or flirt around him. It's a huge turn off to them and makes them think not of what they lost, but how maybe they didn't have anything that meaninful with you in the first place.

I hope that helps.

posted October 24, 2009 01:58 AM            

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So off the top of my head, not knowing your particular situation...

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Well, I had two utterly disasterous situations, which are water under the bridge now (waaayy too much water). Back to Air and Fire men for me. But I (8th house Sun) am still obsessed with the inner workings of Scorpmen, because it was a nut I just couldn't crack. I asked about it again on this thread to help advise my friend. I don't want to post too much about her situation here, but unlike me, she is a nice Pisces. Her Scorpio is acting in the ways that mine (not that they were ever mine) acted.

And now, I'm scratching my head about the Libra situation you described. I'm hopeless on the internet! Here would be my suggestions:

-stay a little bit hard to get--don't post on his boards or send him personal messages until he contacts you. When he does, wait at least a day, then send a quick, friendly, breezy response

-update any pages of yours he sees, to reflect the following: a) that you look classy and beautiful, b) that you have developed 5 new fascinating artistic and intellectual obsessions since he last talked to you--an activist cause can be good, too, c) that your friends are exciting (Stevie Nicks, lol)...pics of you having a great time being beautiful and fun and wild (but not trashy)

-send him a GROUP email invitation (1-2 per week at most) to a fabulous and thrilling (or at least fun-sounding) event involving you...it doesn't matter if he lives out of the area, he can just assume it's going to everyone in your email contacts...a performance or art show of yours or a friend's, your giant b-day party...activist events are good too (an invitation to all of your friends to volunteer with you at a soup kitchen or sponsor you in a fundraiser)...even something as simple as gathering a group to watch a game at a bar

-the image to exude, virtually if you can't in person: beautiful, independent, smart, cool, dignified but fun, independent (yep I meant to type it twice)

Basically with the air signs, you can't come at them when they're trying to pull away. But you have to be visible. (Scorpman can obsess about you for eight years without ever seeing you--or even wanting to see you!!--Libra will FORGET you, or, if you are (one of) The One(s), he will remember you in a fond and friendly and romantic way...if you want to reattract him, you've got to be visible

Let the Libra initiate anything personal, romantic, or emotionally heavy. (And, they almost always will.) Otherwise they feel pressured. And feeling pressured sends him fleeing.

Remember to go back to whatever attracted him in the first place. If it was an online thing, he was surely enjoying the pleasure of getting to know and discover you. If it went wrong, it means Libra felt something heavy or some kind of pressure, probably from starting to think about where you would "fit" in his future or what the relationship meant. When they do this, the fun is temporarily over--because Libra is looking for The One, so he has to then decide if you're Her, and he thinks, well, maybe you AREN'T the one, but maybe you could be, but maybe you aren't, and it's all so confusing, and what about that woman at work, and, but, wait...what were we talking about?

They also get all jittery about getting trapped in a situation where they might hurt you, and they really don't want to hurt you, so they overthink it and just withdraw--which, obviously, hurts you.

posted October 24, 2009 02:38 AM            

As far as Mr. Libra, I have sort of done what you've suggested. Having absolutely NO Libra experience in my life (hey, no air at all, besides my friends, either) I have had to sort of wing it with my intuition.

Thing is....he began all the discussions on the heavy stuff, and then when I began to respond he backed way off. UGGG!

I did sent a post saying "I miss talking to you, I thought we said that no matter what we would still be friends, why are you so mad at me?"

To which I got no reply, BUT I saw that he read it. It was sent in his Facebook messages, and he NEVER uses his facebook, so I have to wonder if he's checking just for that purpose.

I did change my myspace with a bunch of positve update thingys each day, so he doesn't imagine me pining away. And by stroke of luck, three different men asked to be my friend, and posted flattering things on my board. Plus I changed my pic to a better one.

I'm used to at LEAST discussing what the heck happened. This kind of thing is baffling to me. When you have a falling out with a Scorp, you know it! The Libra guy is just *poof*