posted November 02, 2009 02:45 PM            

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After a breakup, how do you win any given sign back? What actions will get a Gemini, Aries or Taurus to fall for you all over again?

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Are you looking for insights into rekindling your Long-distance relationship? I remember doing your progressed synastry and things didn't look promising for a reconciliation. Can't remember why I never posted my findings.

posted November 02, 2009 05:21 PM            

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A woman after my own heart!
Taurus sun/Aqua ASC/Libra moon

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You're so close to having my big three! Do you think it's our taurus (sometimes, I swear I am more like a taurus with my taurus AC and taurus saturn conjunct) or do you think it's the aqua? Both? I am intrigued you feel the same and we have the same sun/ac, but reversed. I want to get to the bottom of it!

posted November 02, 2009 06:47 PM            

Lucia pretty much hit the nail in her descriptions! If you try to excessively explain too much, we totally get turned off and assumes the position of the cold/nonchalant side. I think this part (acting out the opposite) is a big part in libras.
On the other hand if you are reasonably cool, but (this is important) polite in your interactions with us, the scales will begin to tip the other way... lol
Because of our innate NEED to make relationships work, mental activities will begin (when not too much emotion is involved to turn us off) and we'll start to THINK about what really happened, and begin to assess both part of the situation (we're good at that). In the end, the relationship always wins. To some degree, libras will sacrifice their own point of view in favor of the relationship...

Having said that, I have venus/mercury/pluto in 12th house scorpio, and I operate very much on the scorpion realm. At one point, i will set for myself a clear boundary where I just cut your out of my life completely. But before i make that decision, everything is up for grabs. In order to get me back you have to make me see that I mean as much to you as you do to me. And often, that involves displaying emotional pain and suffering. :S That sounds twisted but it's is how scorpios love. Scorpios don't fall in love easily because it is such a THREAT to them to have their heart on the line, that's why there is a tendency for power-struggles and mind games. This is where they feel like they have some of the control back. eek...

posted November 02, 2009 06:48 PM            

after that night I've tried calling him but he would not pick up. But he would text me here and there...
I feel like this is completely unfair because i am being punished for something i did not do.

Anyways, if any of you have any advice on how to deal with this, it's greatly appreciated...

posted November 05, 2009 12:45 AM            

I'm not a man, but I am a Sag. I can try and help you.

The first thing I thought of was, sometimes when I was younger (I have no idea of you or your Sag's ages) if I wanted to get out of a relationship, I would invent some kind of slight or offense, create a huge drama, so I could exit the relationship. Not saying yours did this, but that memory popped in my head right off the bat.

Why would someone do that you wonder? Well, because even though we Sag's value truth and are often accused of being hurtfully blunt, truth is we HATE hurting someones feelings, especially in breaking up. We don't want to tell the person we're just not feeling it, or we would prefer to be on our own right now, so its easier to blow something completely out of proportion (we are dealing with Jupiter here) then to confront it head on and possibly have to be hurtful.

If you don't understand this, let me know, and I'll try to think of another way to explain it.

If that isn't the case, and he does want to be with you, but he really believes you kissed the other fellow, isn't there anyone that was present that can speak to him on your behalf? I think you said this was a social event with other people present, right? Certainly someone would have noticed your hug vs. kiss.

But being a Sag myself, I can tell you the worst way to try and get me back is to pursue me. I will run, and I will hide. I will ignore my phone and my email.

Give him time to miss you.

Also, I always wanted people back if I thought they found someone else and there was a chance that I may be replaced, permanently. That would send me in panic mode, and I would contact the person immediately, wanting to see them and talk to them. So.....maybe you could let word get back to him that you are dating and having a great time.

posted November 05, 2009 05:45 AM            

Everything is good now :P
What I did was I stopped calling him and only text him occasionally reminding him of the good times he had in the past haha
Anyways, I took him out for dinner, and then a little something-something in the car (mars aquarius )
though he would bring it again up sometimes and i'm still not sure if he actually believes that i DID not kiss the guy. I can never tell if he's serious bout it (gemini moon) but i can say for now, it's all good?

Yeah i totally get the not wanting to hurt someones feelings bit. I guess I can relate because I have Libra (though we do it in different ways) and sag moon.

Just out of curiosity, did anyone you pulled that on when you were younger ever successfully get you back? haha~

btw, we're both in our mid 20s.

posted December 07, 2012 11:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Lucia23:
Win back a Gemini man:
-disappear for 40 days or so
-come back happy and fascinating, with a new entourage of exciting, sparkly friends who you are VERY BUSY WITH
-when you see the Gem, be genuinely happy to see him but not too interested...give him a friendly greeting, then rush off happily with your new friends
-exhibit the emotional range of a golden retriever (happy and cheerful, happy and cheerful, happy and cheerful)...never, ever reveal that the Gemini hurt you...this isn't because they are insensitive, just that heavy emotions make them uncomfortable
-when he starts sniffing around again, calling you, texting, etc, be very happy but very busy...reject any invitations to hang out alone with him, but counterinvite him to hang out with the new, sparkling, busy friends ("I can't tonight--I'm going to the screening of Rolf's new documentary. Hey! You should come if you want!")
-when he falls back in love and tries to kiss you, etc, go for it but STAY BUSY with the sparkling new friends and cool intellectual projects...when he tries to talk about your relationship, deflect it and talk about something lighter (mention how you are having fun with him, at most)...and never talk about the relationship yourself...never try to label things between you.

One day soon, Gemini Man will say, "I'm so glad we got back together. I don't ever want to be with anyone else." And you can just smile at him.

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Hey Lucia23!!
You seem to know so much about Gemini men! Can you please help me with my situation?? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.

Actually can anyone help me? Here is the link to my post: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/004483.html

Thanks

posted December 07, 2012 12:53 PM            

if he was an amazing lay and super supportive (wow prioriies, right?) and there was a huuuuge misunderstanding - sure , there'd be consideration of reconciliation...

but if they did something wrong -rrrreally wrong - I'd send them off to that cold, forgotten wasteland called Capricorn Purgatory (literally to hell with 'em)~ they'd be dead to me, or I to them... doesn't matter. done is done~

< too proud to beg and too much of a b^tch to accept back any lowlife who would dare to play me for a fool twice... you had it you lost it~ deal with it. move on.

posted December 07, 2012 02:19 PM            

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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
Hi Lotion;

I'm not a man, but I am a Sag. I can try and help you.

The first thing I thought of was, sometimes when I was younger (I have no idea of you or your Sag's ages) if I wanted to get out of a relationship, I would invent some kind of slight or offense, create a huge drama, so I could exit the relationship. Not saying yours did this, but that memory popped in my head right off the bat.

Why would someone do that you wonder? Well, because even though we Sag's value truth and are often accused of being hurtfully blunt, truth is we HATE hurting someones feelings, especially in breaking up. We don't want to tell the person we're just not feeling it, or we would prefer to be on our own right now, so its easier to blow something completely out of proportion (we are dealing with Jupiter here) then to confront it head on and possibly have to be hurtful.

If you don't understand this, let me know, and I'll try to think of another way to explain it.

If that isn't the case, and he does want to be with you, but he really believes you kissed the other fellow, isn't there anyone that was present that can speak to him on your behalf? I think you said this was a social event with other people present, right? Certainly someone would have noticed your hug vs. kiss.

But being a Sag myself, I can tell you the worst way to try and get me back is to pursue me. I will run, and I will hide. I will ignore my phone and my email.

Give him time to miss you.

Also, I always wanted people back if I thought they found someone else and there was a chance that I may be replaced, permanently. That would send me in panic mode, and I would contact the person immediately, wanting to see them and talk to them. So.....maybe you could let word get back to him that you are dating and having a great time.

I hope everything turns out for you.

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posted December 07, 2012 04:30 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
I am a Taurus. Easy. Sex.

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posted December 07, 2012 04:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I know this is just supposed to be a fun exercise, but I can't help but wonder why anyone would want to win back somebody who didn't see the value in hanging on to them in the first place?

I mean, there's tons of research about "cyclical" relationships where people have broken up and gotten back together, and all of it indicates that these people are less satisfied with and committed to the coupling than those in stable relationships where they know what they've got and consequently do not **** it up. lol.

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posted December 09, 2012 11:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I know this is just supposed to be a fun exercise, but I can't help but wonder why anyone would want to win back somebody who didn't see the value in hanging on to them in the first place?

I mean, there's tons of research about "cyclical" relationships where people have broken up and gotten back together, and all of it indicates that these people are less satisfied with and committed to the coupling than those in stable relationships where they know what they've got and consequently do not **** it up. lol.

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