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Topic: revenge on an Aqua Man
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Diana
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posted February 04, 2010 03:17 PM
 
I never said to try and get him back.I also don't know why you need to teach him a lesson. You will only ending up hurting yourself in the long run. You may win the battle, but you won't win the war. You're going to be the proverbial scorpion who ends up stinging herself in the end. IP: Logged |
StarrofVenusGirl
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posted February 04, 2010 03:17 PM
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You're right. I really think it's the fixed nature that causes it to be so war-like. Both are very strong and stubborn.
Yes. In my case, I am really messed up because even if we could recover from all of our issues (a very big if because the relationship is very damaged), I am dealing with three fatal flaws: stubborness, pride, and a need for submission. I am highly fixed: some Scorpio, some Taurus, some Leo, all in critical planets: Venus, Moon, and Mars. He has shown remorse and signs of submission, all of which appeal to my Scorpio. I not only need him to be sorry, I need him to feel guilty, I need to know that he is suffering, and I need him to bend, even if just a little. That's actually happened a couple of times. I've bent a little too. But my pride is so wounded. I've been publically humiliated in this situation. That demands justice and can't be ignored. So part of me feels like I can't ever go back into that situation. That's part of the stubborness issue too. And when I'm stubborn, he's stubborn. Then we battle, say horrible things to each other, wound each other, which cause more issues of pride and submission...then when the other person tries to walk away we have to deal with the issue of an unhealthy attachment to each other and a need for attention...it's a vicious cycle. Not healthy in the least. Probably best to just let sleeping dogs lie and cut ties. IP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 04, 2010 03:21 PM
Diana;
this is injustice,is not is?why he said his feelings to me?i did not love him,he knew this and because of his thoughts now my life is confused..if he dont take a lesson he can behave like this and never develop himself,am i wrong??IP: Logged |
StarrofVenusGirl
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posted February 04, 2010 03:21 PM
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I also don't know why you need to teach him a lesson. You will only ending up hurting yourself in the long run. You may win the battle, but you won't win the war. You're going to be the proverbial scorpion who ends up stinging herself in the end.
It's a compulsion. Seriously. I can't explain it either. It's like you just get filled up with so much hurt and you want to retreat for a little while and you just seethe and seethe and then after awhile you just HAVE to get back at the person. I fight those urges constantly. It takes everything in me not to want to destroy someone who hurts me. Even over petty things. Breaking my heart is just cause for total annihilation, but I have grown and evolved a lot as I've aged. quote:
if he dont take a lesson he can behave like this and never develop himself,am i wrong??
Chang, you are struggling with the same issue I am, which is a desire to punish and teach. I told my ex he had some things he needed to work on. I so badly want to teach him these lessons. Brutally, if need be. But I wonder if that's my place. Or if I need to let the universe/karma do it's job. It will be hard, but the best way to get back at him is really to just be happy. It will drive him nuts, especially in close proximity. A happy, sexy, successful you is the best revenge. IP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 04, 2010 03:26 PM
starofvenusgirl 
that is my case..really my case you mentioned..IP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 04, 2010 03:29 PM
saying horrible things,power struggles etc...
your advice is very good,thank you..IP: Logged |
Diana
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posted February 04, 2010 03:51 PM
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Not healthy in the least. Probably best to just let sleeping dogs lie and cut ties.
Yes, that is best -- for both people. quote:
I so badly want to teach him these lessons. Brutally, if need be. But I wonder if that's my place. Or if I need to let the universe/karma do it's job.
It's not your place. Karma is real. It is. Let it work its magic. If not, karma will get YOU. The universe, or God, takes out its own garbage. quote:
It will be hard, but the best way to get back at him is really to just be happy. It will drive him nuts, especially in close proximity. A happy, sexy, successful you is the best revenge.
This is very true. I am just afraid my scorpio will die before I can do it. If he died I wouldn't even know what to strive for anymore. My successes couldn't make him mad...
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mermaid26
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Registered: Jun 2009
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posted February 04, 2010 04:18 PM
I am with Diana. I would try to remove the words and thoughts of hate and revenge from your mind/speech. Karma is a deep well. Every soul's purpose is to Rise Above, (you already know this Scorpio/Phoenix) so we don't have to come back and repeat the same painful lessons. This isn't the easy planet. The universal law of attraction works such that you will attract the same lesson again and again, until you conquer your beasts. May you choose wisely.
...Didn't you know that you reached the whole Universe when you let you thoughts go...and that you can reach even more when your spoken and written words show...the very essence of your bless or curse?
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changchiu
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posted February 04, 2010 04:24 PM
Diana and Mermaid you right;
i dont accept his selfish behaviour,i see him everday..this is hard for me..he confused my life and now he only watches..may be you right,universe will do that..i should rise above this feeling.. IP: Logged |
mermaid26
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posted February 04, 2010 05:09 PM
He'll most likely stop the selfish behaviour when there is no reward in it for him. Aquarian's do like to tease. So yes, you have to be tough skinned in that respect. Scorpio's only respect those who are strong, yes? The power of Uranus is mighty strong and is meant to cause a shake up/wake up. You will see the lesson taught clearly after the "storm." Veils are lifted slowly, otherwise you would be blinded the magnificent light. I am praying you travel a well lit path. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted February 04, 2010 08:40 PM
The next Aquarius go for one with Venus in Capricorn or Pisces, if you want more stability.IP: Logged |
Glaucus
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 04, 2010 08:54 PM
"Scorpio's only respect those who are strong, yes?"Ummmmm....not this Scorpio. I have Sun,Mercury,Venus in Scorpio. I respect both strong and weak people. I have a Pisces Moon square Neptune to modify. I would say that my Sun oppose Sedna and Moon sextile transneptunian,Sedna also modify. I believe in respecting,accepting,tolerating,and supporting others that most would consider weak which could be a perception that differs in others.
Raymond
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"Nothing matters absolutely;
the truth is it only matters relatively" - Eckhart Tolle IP: Logged |
bunnies
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 05, 2010 05:19 AM
There is only one way to get revenge...if that is what you want...and that is to be seen to be living well.
In other words. Get on with your life, make a success of it.
Nothing hurts a person more than to see someone moving on with their life.
It's the ultimate insult.
You begin to think that maybe you were not the big important thing in their life that you thought you were.
If you damage property all that will make him think is
"She is still in love with me. And I can pull her strings anytime I feel like it"Remember, the opposite of love is NOT hate.
It is indifference.
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bunnies
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 05, 2010 05:21 AM
Oh and Diana.
The quote
"Before you seek revenge first dig two graves"Beautiful and true  IP: Logged |
vapor-lash
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posted February 05, 2010 05:34 AM
Changchiu - Do you absolutely need this job? I haven't look through all the other advice here.. but if you *can* quit, that would be a good idea. If you do want revenge.. just be honest - Tell everyone in the office why you are quitting and make him look bad publicly.
Tell his wife as well. I think I would do that ^.. not so much for revenge, but because I would want his wife to know.. and I would also want to alert others in the office, in case he does it again - and other people quit due to his behaviour. IP: Logged |
Cheshire Kat
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 05, 2010 06:53 AM
If he's your manager and he is treating you lowly like this, that would be harrasement and yes you should feel slightly infuriated. The minute you turned down his affections/advances, he should have went back to being a manager but he chose to act like a bully and pick on you because you hurt his pride and you did nothing wrong by not reciprocating his love, just because he is having hard times, do not feel guilty for him, he is a married man plus grown enough to get divorce.Also do not take revenge on him, he is not worth that much of your time and I agree with the previous posts keep positive and keep bettering your life without him and do not let his childish actions get the best of you, eventually he will slip up and people will truely see him for what is, and that is a bully. To note the Aquarian theory, if you ever do get on the bad side of an Aquarian it is best to talk it out with them and if talking does not work, move on, I advise to never take revenge on a Aquarian. From my personal experience they have a way of outsmarting people and playing their cards right because Aquarians do invest very much in common sense, even though they are warm and nice people the can be cold and ruthless if it is effective but generally they are not unless you are trying to do some sort of "horrendous" wrong to them, little wrong such as gossiping about them rolls off their backs but if you try to ruin them, they will have the upper hand it seems. Thankfully enough I have only witness this Aquarian behavior from family members and friends but most of the time, luckly, they do not bother to care about getting even..but as I stated you'd have to do something "horrendous" to them..for them to be that way.. IP: Logged |
crabbypatty
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 05, 2010 06:58 AM
Funny, I had the same question as Vapor-lash but she's beaten me to the punch.Changchiu, who is promoting you? Someone other than him? And if that is the case, since he is your manager on the job, does he have the ability to make your job a living hell if he gets angry enough? How much do you need this job? I don't know if you are living in Turkey or another country, and what the prevailing economic conditions are, but my advice would be: if you can find another job, leave this one. You can always shine in the new job and be promoted there, too. As long as he is your manager, things can become very unpleasant for you. I'm just stating the obvious but maybe you don't see it because your vision is clouded by emotions. The other option (the way I see it): stay on the job, but find a way of existing there where you cannot possibly get him angry. The answer is NOT to parade around trying to make him jealous or teach him a lesson. That can only bring him to anger or resentment and he will take it out on you if he is an unenlightened soul. You will be promoted but miserable. I, personally, would NOT tell his wife, would not tell any co-workers, etcetera. Would not sabotage his car, would not have an angry confrontation with him. Not even if I left the job. If he's such a jerk, he might seek revenge on you wherever you are. Do you really want to live looking over your shoulder? I am a Scorpio woman and a bit paranoid sometimes, but it's because I am a student of human nature. Lots of people are crazy and if you mess them up, they'll come "looking for you". Like the other posters suggested, let the Universe do its thing. You don't have to lift a finger. You just take care of your own happiness and look forward, not back. IP: Logged |
DiandraReborn25
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 05, 2010 11:37 AM
to me,revenge makes the one who wants revenge to be hurt much more than the one the person wants revenge from.it doenst take us anywhere good...just love your life and yourself.but not as a way of revenge,just as a way of being happy with yourself. IP: Logged |
seeker3030
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Registered: Dec 2009
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posted February 05, 2010 11:54 AM
I suggest taking your 'revenge' by moving on with love in your heart and positivity for your future. Ask your higher self to be open to the possibility of true love and to guide you to it. Whatever you do comes back on you threefold so it's imperative that you 'Do as you would be done by' - he hasn't by the sound of it, therefore he'll learn the hard way you can be sure of that. Karma is nothing if not thorough.  xIP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 05, 2010 12:31 PM
Bunnies;
I did not fell in love with him..we were like two friends other than manager-engineer..But i dont understand his careness to me into in love.when he said to me that i quicly told him ' i will go and find another job' he did not accept,he felt himself guilty..and then cases occured..especially when i behave far away from him..IP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 05, 2010 12:35 PM
Vapor lash;I thought your advice so many times..but i could not,because of this man their life especially his wife became end(they dont have child because this man infertile and wife is healthy)..And i thought when i said in office he can deny me and when i leave from job he scan spoil and tell differently into my family  this is also another issue..this is his fault and ruined my life,i pray into the god life bet him.. IP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 05, 2010 12:40 PM
Cheshire Cat;
I try to be cool,but his unbalanced behaviours make me crazy.I liked his humanism so much but with this love issue i lost my respect to him..IP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 05, 2010 12:47 PM
Crabbypety;
This aqua(my manager) and I work in same deparment and our general manager will promote to me..This promotion is improtant to me because i have been waiting for 6 months.In Turkey conditions are not good enough.And this job is near to my family and conditions are good.There are my targets before he ruined my spirit and daily life,now i also have these targets but i dont happy..he is not healty mind and spirit now,i know and see it everyday but this is his choice..Today i begin to looking another good job..this is really nonsense and injuctice because of his fault i have to change my life..IP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 05, 2010 12:50 PM
DiandraReborn25 and Seeker3030
you are right about be happiness and revenge but you know emotions win over to sense,so now i am hot and try to be cool..IP: Logged |
changchiu
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posted February 16, 2010 02:23 PM
i swear i kill this man..today ,all the i cry..he behaves abnormal..now he mentioned;his wife told him if ' chang and you have love we can divorce..'..and i swear he tries me anyway.he is a big liar..
all the day is a hell.at the end i told him;if you contin.this issue i told your talking everyone..why life is so hard in these days..i dont understand..as is 2010 will be the scorpios year,but for 2 months like hell.. IP: Logged |
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