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posted February 16, 2010 02:44 PM         

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Dear Chang
I don't think we can ever really teach people lessons in the way of getting revenge.
We can stand up for ourselves and be strong about who we are .
That is good and builds self respect and self esteem but revenge won't work cuz it can never be satisfied.
Is there a way you feel you could re-claim the self esteem(self respect) he seems to have taken(or you gave unknowingly)? Ami

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posted February 16, 2010 02:49 PM         

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Ami,
he make my everyday like hell..just i m in a nightmare..i could not accept..now i am trying to look some other jobs,but things dont flow easily..i will be crazy..i cry everyday for last 2 months especially and i can not do anything.

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posted February 16, 2010 05:35 PM         

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i swear i kill this man..today ,all the i cry..he behaves abnormal..now he mentioned;his wife told him if ' chang and you have love we can divorce..'..and i swear he tries me anyway.he is a big liar..
all the day is a hell.at the end i told him;if you contin.this issue i told your talking everyone..

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I know english isn't your 1st language, but is there a way you can explain this a little clearer? I don't understand fully what you're saying.

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posted February 16, 2010 10:53 PM         

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I think she said she's cried all day from the frustration of his abnormal behaviour. He told her that his wife said if Chang wants him, she can have him, but Chang doesn't really believe him that she said that, she thinks he is lying. And at the end of the day, she told him that if he doesn't stop driving her crazy, she's going to tell everybody what he is doing.

Bunnies is right again, living well is THE best revenge. When my ex posted "Never been happier" in his myspace update, I was livid, I would of rather he egged my car or something, but never been happier?? ouch.

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posted February 16, 2010 11:07 PM         

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Remember, the opposite of love is NOT hate.
It is indifference.

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Once again Bunnies, YOU ROCK!!!!!!

superb. I absolutely can't stand it if someone is indifferent to me - urgh, drives me mental. lol

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posted February 16, 2010 11:32 PM         

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Thanks, Gypsee.

I guess my real question is does she want him to really leave the wife and doesn't think he will? I'm just trying to wrap my head around what's really going on here.

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posted February 16, 2010 11:34 PM         

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Very few men leave their wives for the mistress. It's called "comfort zone".

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posted February 17, 2010 12:12 AM         

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That is VERY true Lara, especially the longer they have been married. It's expensive and messy! This couple doesn't have children to worry about, but I've seen a couple struggle in divorce court over pets! Pets, for criminy's sakes!!

I don't know if she wants him either, Diana, I'm confused too. I think she just wants the torment to end. Aqua/Scorp, ugg, difficult match up. I personally have never seen this one work out.

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posted February 17, 2010 12:18 AM         

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Moral of this story is "never get involved with a married man"

so just walk away now. I recently did this when i had the opportunity to be a married mans mistress (until he left his wife or not) and i turned it down.

Men don't leave their wives... it's so rare it's not worth writing about

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posted February 17, 2010 01:28 AM         

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Dear Chang
I don't think we can ever really teach people lessons in the way of getting revenge.
We can stand up for ourselves and be strong about who we are .
That is good and builds self respect and self esteem but revenge won't work cuz it can never be satisfied.
Is there a way you feel you could re-claim the self esteem(self respect) he seems to have taken(or you gave unknowingly)? Ami

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Agreed.
Revenge initiates a never-ending cycle that inevitably ends with losses on both sides. Maybe you were meant to learn how to let things go peacefully with this relationship? He doesn't want you enough to alter his life to accommodate you and hasn't for two years, that should be enough. Let it go.

But, don't let him come back or have any contact with you. To know you have moved on and he has lost control will accomplish more than any act of revenge.

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posted February 17, 2010 01:41 AM         

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Diana;
Gypsee mentioned well.English is not my native language.Until today;I never involved his wife but I think he feels something you know women feel..
And so as we are not couple;we donthave to match because i dont love him,the problem is he loves me and make this in such an illness.He is my manager and i have to in contact with him,but i dont bear anymore..I m looking for another jobs;but things dont cont fast.
2 Two years ago I have much respect him,but I dont understand his love,feelings etc,because i did not think his way..

Now he behaves unbalanced,I dont talk this issue,but he began to mention this time his wife talkings..
He wants to play,he wants to mix my mind..

I feel as if I am poisoned in some way..Love can not be such an horrible thing

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