posted April 14, 2010 01:20 PM         

I'd say relationships are not easy for the Libra types at all.

Pushing them into a relationship is a bad way to go about it. Pretense is even worse.

Just to say that when they really like you, you'd know it. It's not even a matter of decision. It's more like waiting for the right time. The RIGHT person is of prime importance.

A relationship with a Libra type is like a dance. The synchronisation is done to a high art.

posted April 15, 2010 12:13 AM         

You can't force him to be what you want him to be. The Libra type will slink out of your grasp always. They hate to be controlled.

Yes, that is immaturity. They need to work on the self first before giving themselves in relationships. That means knowing what they want.

To read too much into it is to give yourself needless headaches; it will not solve this situation.. best is to accept it and leave it as it is..

" If he goes into full retreat because I enquire after his health, I am left thinking that he is an immature person."

Tip: Don't enquire after him anymore. It shows he doesn't like to be probed. Also, don't expect anything from him, and he may just surprise you.

Leave any and all expectations of him out of the window. It isn't fun to be needed and then also be expected to tend to others' needs else be slapped with a negative label..

Also, contrary to popular belief, they may already know who they like and see long term prospects with. Placing expectations or getting personal too much too soon will drive a huge wedge that may not be rectified.

However, in my experience, if the strong love is there, nothing cannot be rectified. It just takes much much more time.

Go do your own thing, like be immersed in your work or hobbies, and if they like you, they will get closer.

posted April 15, 2010 01:15 AM         

So right now he is avoiding you - right? and he has often been evasive..

Turning the tables would be something like..

1. Making a date and standing him up.
2. Emailing a week later that you feel cowardly because you really tried but honestly couldn't bring yourself to say this to his face. That you think it is best for both of you to break up. You hope he is not hurt bla bla You are sorry you have been avoiding him lately. You have been talking to someone and they have made you realize this is the best thing to do right now.
*pack in the words.. single.. alone... lonely.. etc a few times.

I think he'll get scared.
He'd prefer to be in a relationship than alone.

My Libra ex tried to get back with me every time I broke up with him.. and I was not doing it to play games - I really felt it was over.

posted April 15, 2010 01:21 AM         

"So right now he is avoiding you - right? and he has often been evasive..

Turning the tables would be something like..

1. Making a date and standing him up.
2. Emailing a week later that you feel cowardly because you really tried but honestly couldn't bring yourself to say this to his face. That you think it is best for both of you to break up. You hope he is not hurt bla bla You are sorry you have been avoiding him lately. You have been talking to someone and they have made you realize this is the best thing to do right now.
*pack in the words.. single.. alone... lonely.. etc a few times.

I think he'll get scared.
He'd prefer to be in a relationship than alone.

My Libra ex tried to get back with me every time I broke up with him.. and I was not doing it to play games - I really felt it was over.

For some reason they panic if you tell them it's over. But the question is: Do you actually want him? "

I'd say Libra - Aries are definitely out.

posted April 15, 2010 01:30 AM         

libra will actually give in to aries way more than the other way around, and you can say that he's the one chasing you, but from my experience and observation, the aries person is always the initiator.....
gemini and libra are definitely a better match.

did you know what you actually did to get him to get back with you is actually playing with his mind and emotions? I bet you dont (or you do, but use it to get what you want), but it is. He may not forgive you for a long time if he actually knew what you were doing.

posted April 15, 2010 01:38 AM         

We both have Capricorn Moons conjunct - In some ways we are very similar - perhaps too similar.. and that is part of the reason I felt it became a friendship over time. It was not romantic anymore.

I never really wanted a relationship. Meeting him happened after someone important to me passed away so I was feeling a bit like a hermit. He helped a lot and he was a friend. I didn't really fee like talking to anyone. But he dragged me out of my shell. And I am grateful for that. I do care about him as a friend. I would never be jealous or anything like that.

I was lucky enough to meet the right guy for me a couple of years ago and I really feel he is a soulmate. This may sound silly of me (because maybe it's too early to say) But I believe I will spend the rest of my life with this man.

posted April 15, 2010 01:42 AM         

there are 3 signs I'd rule out for the superlibran type: aries, cancer and aquarian.

posted April 15, 2010 01:49 AM         

I can see Aries traits in myself. But I've had many many events that were Capricorn and Pisces related. Cap Moon has played a huge part.. or at least I think it has. I do have my somber side. I'm just saying people are usually a "package" of many things.

Anyway - I understand.. Sometimes when you're hurt by particular people and you see a pattern you feel like staying away from them after a while.

posted April 15, 2010 01:59 AM         

I feel that besides the moon conjunction you speak of, that Libra is way too tame for Aries. Aries will often go on to more challenging pastures.

Libra trips Aries up, as well as vice versa. They'll actually prevent you from asserting your Aries energy and make you ashamed of sometimes being who you want to be.

Your Capricorn placements definitely does tone down the impulsive Ariesness and gives your sun character and resilience.

But the average Libra cannot handle an Aries; you jolly well know that. We stand for vastly different things.

But incidentally, the Aries is the one with the true intimate knowledge of the Libra psyche, and they can use it to their advantage at any time, which the Aries energy is bound to do from time to time. This one is going to be very damaging in the long run.

And if you love your libra friend, don't use his achilles heel against him, especially if you want nothing more to do with him.

posted April 15, 2010 02:09 AM         

Dating is a cruel game, some signs more than others.

posted April 15, 2010 02:16 AM         

There was a point in my life when I was romantically manipulative. The guy I was with then was also manipulative towards me (both of us are Neptunian).. and this back and forth manipulation ruined things. I was burnt back then and decided never to do this again.

If I was in Rajin's shoes - personally - I would leave this situation.. But if she wants to do otherwise it is up to her, and since she asked me for advice on getting him to behave *better* towards her - I believe what I told her, could work. But I would not use it myself.

I'm not sure what else she could do.. simply because I find the way he is behaving careless, cold and a bit rude -- from what she is describing. So at this stage -- I think it could go two ways. Either she leaves.. or she gets him to "shape up" somehow.

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if you love your libra friend, don't use his achilles heel against him, especially if you want nothing more to do with him.

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I won't. I never have. He came into my life after the Piscean guy (the guy I had a highly manipulative relationship with). And I've never behaved this way towards anyone, since then.

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they have a deep resentment that seeps out, and they try to undermine you. They just cannot help it. It's a passive form of attack

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This is very true about me *when* I do attack. It's interesting you mentioned attack.. because I actually have Mars (my Sun's dispositor and the planet of attack-defense).. conjunct Neptune.

posted April 15, 2010 02:26 AM         

ohhh The weirdest thing just happened.. I posted my last post and it did not show up.. so I tried to post it again - but it said message edited.. and now it seems it was edited over my previous post

-_-

posted April 15, 2010 02:29 AM         

And Vapor lash, you don't actually have to defend yourself, because what is, is.

People shouldn't be grudged for who they are; they just take things from a different approach.

And yes, my experience with Aries types is that they want to win at all costs, even if it means attacking left right and centre. Whatever they say is secondary to their actions. I have learnt it the very hard way.

posted April 15, 2010 02:29 AM         

Ah ha! April 18th - May 11th O_O