posted May 08, 2010 12:43 AM            

But I was curious what your *personal* romantic pet peeves are!

Please post your Venus - sign, house and aspects... and anything else you find relevant..

I will start off.. For me -- the BIGGEST pet peeve ever are men who only talk about love and sex.. I need a good conversationalist -- one who can approach interesting topics and tell me cool things about the world or about his own life.. someone I can talk to about anything and everything!

But there are those men who will approach you -- asking things about your romantic past and about what you like in a guy -- and things about your sexuality... Any love-sex related conversation is a HUGE put off (unless I already know them and have seen their brain ticking away in other areas).

posted May 08, 2010 01:56 AM            

My BIGGEST pet peeve would be clinginess. And I couldn't stand being with a girl who wants to know what im doing every single second of the day :P To me trust is paramount in a relationship.

posted May 08, 2010 02:36 AM            

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I will start off.. For me -- the BIGGEST pet peeve ever are men who only talk about love and sex.. I need a good conversationalist -- one who can approach interesting topics and tell me cool things about the world or about his own life.. someone I can talk to about anything and everything!

But there are those men who will approach you -- asking things about your romantic past and about what you like in a guy -- and things about your sexuality... Any love-sex related conversation is a HUGE put off (unless I already know them and have seen their brain ticking away in other areas).

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That's one of my peeves, as well.

Venus in Gemini, conjunct Moon, square Mars in Pisces, trine Pluto, inconjunct Uranus/ascendant. Eighth house.

posted May 08, 2010 11:29 AM            

- i don't want someone who calls me 6 times a day.

- i too need a good conversationalist. too much of romance is not my cup of tea.

sagittarius venus(10H) conjunct nnode/mercury.

the above things won't lead to a break up but i'll defo get annoyed.

posted May 08, 2010 02:09 PM            

-Anyone who can't talk about anything but sex and money.

-Guys who aren't very intelligent, or think reading for leisure is 'dumb'.

-Guys with ZERO integrity....go on with your weak self.

**Oh, one more: freeloaders. I hate freeloaders. That's probably more my Virgo moon though.

posted May 08, 2010 02:55 PM              

sextile pluto
sextile saturn
sextile moon
sextile north node
trine neptune

*Clinginess
*Showy behaviour
*Talking about themselves too much
*Dressing too bling bling
*Self centred
*Hyperactivity
*Not having a job
*Dependant people
*Burping etc next to me
*Secretive behaviour
*Someone with a bad reputation or
has slept around alot.
*Uneducated people
*Materialistic people
*Smoking
*DOING DRUGS
*Lying!!
*Immature boys
*Insensitivity
*Mummys boy
*Attention seekers
*Kissing (too much)
*Touching (too much)
*Men who complain and sook
*Men who want something
*One night stands

LOVE:

*Detached men
*Cool reserved behaviour
*I LOVE CONDIFENCE
*Independant men
*The ones who let me do my own thing always eg: I can go travel and they dont whinge that I need to take them with me. Men who give me space.
*Brave men
*Romantic men
*Trust
*Friendship
*Laughing

and .....

posted May 08, 2010 04:23 PM            

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*Burping etc next to me

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posted May 08, 2010 04:57 PM            

I hate the typical things the most girls hate, ie. Lying, cheating, mummy's boys etc

But what REALLY turns me off though is,

- Bad dress sense
- No social skills or social perspective, like I can't take them out anywhere
- No culture
- No class
- No integrity
- No style
- Guys that want to "fix" me and mould me into their perfect fantasy idea of a trophy girlfriend/wife
- Wanting to get to know everything about me and get close emotionally and mentally straight away, whereas I see it as emotional and mental INVASION
- PLAYSTATION or XBOX (major pet hate there)
- No table manners
- No manners in general
- Guys that think they're a gangster, when clearly, they're not. Especially since a certain TV series came out, guys like things are everywhere you go, trying to impress you with connections. No. Go away.
- No compassion or sympathy
- I really hate guys that share that "bro's before ho's" mentality with their "boys" (yuuck)
- Desperation
- Opportunists
- Love sick puppies
- No intellectual pursuits or interests, like BM said, its even worse when they criticise you for being "intellectual"
- Lack of education or ambition
- Ed Hardy t-shirt wearing gym freaks
- Guys that go to strip clubs every weekend
- No respect for human life
- Sports freaks
- No higher form of thinking or sense of responsibility to society

posted May 08, 2010 07:35 PM            

Wow, Diablo, you and I have lots of the same peeves, it's funny! Couldn't have said it better myself.

Although I don't mind a sports freak if he doesn't mind that I have absolutely zero interest in sports. Or understanding.

I'll add a couple of my own:

Cheapness in a guy. Like if he makes it a point to check the bill a few times and raise his eyebrows. Or goes on and on about how much something cost him, like it pains him to this day that he paid that much. Yuck. Yuck, yuck. Bleghhhh.

Racist comments from a guy, especially the kind that get blurted out when we're on the road and somebody cuts him off. I mean, does it really matter if he's a ________ a**hole or a ______________ a**hole?

posted May 08, 2010 10:36 PM            

Moody, snappy types. Too many no-go/taboo subjects.

Won't argue, or talk about controversial issues...because it might lead to an argument.

Dominating types, who want to give you a nickname, but won't let you give them one.

Boring types who're always trying to keep the peace.

Patronage. The silly-shallow, drunk-a$$ Taurus w/ Moon in Gemini, types.

posted May 08, 2010 11:22 PM            

Pet Peeves:

Loud women. I mean, loud in public. I prefer a soft spoken woman.

Promiscuous women. For obvious reasons. Sorry its a double standard but its true.

A "manly" woman. A woman who is bossy, controlling, combative, domineering, rebellious. Oh my I can't stand women like that. I like a cooperative women. Passivity is not a bad thing ladies! Its not a four letter word!

Aggressive women. Sorry, I do not like too much aggression in a woman. Its very masculine. I like girly girls.

Impatience. I have a Libra Moon so I am patient and require patience.

Bad hygiene. I have a Virgo Asc and Mars, nuff said lol!

A taker and not a giver. If you don't reciprocate, we might as well not be together! (Moon Venus mutual reception)

What I DO like:

A soft spoken but confident woman. One who will give me the space that my Gemini Sun and Merc needs but also retain the closeness that my Venus in Cancer requires.

She absolutely MUST be able to hold a conversation! Gemini Merc conjunct Sun.

I like trustworthy women. Sorry, I don't do the close male friend thing. You are NOT gonna be with me and go hanging out with a bunch of dudes. I trust you but not them. Men don't hang around women because they want to be just their friend. And in return, I won't keep close female friends.m I hope I don't "ruffle any feathers" with that but its true!

I like a woman that is as private as I am. I'd rather not discuss our bills at the restaurant where everyone can hear us.

I LOVE a woman with a good and witty sense of humor!

I LOVE sweet women.

posted May 08, 2010 11:36 PM            

i also don't like guys who are "bros" as in they treat women as commodities and brag to their friends about getting laid or whatever. obvious tools of the patriarchy lol.

oh and i hate sports so any guy that makes me watch sports is a turn off as well. and guys who are rigid in their thinking. and if they like crappy music. i also never find a guy attractive if he doesn't dress well (as in to my taste... i like them a little "alt", not necessarily dress shirt and tie). like a guy can be the ugliest dude in the world but if he's dressed fly, im into it.

i also don't like controlling guys. like if you don't let me see my friends? PLEASE.

posted May 08, 2010 11:42 PM            

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guys that are into gender stereotypes or "traditional" gender roles or guys that give you sh*t for sleeping with other dudes before. got gemini reminded me of this lol. i really hate double standards and hypocrisy (libra moon? aqua sun?). similarly, i don't sleep with anyone that is anti choice.

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Actually, I don't care to hear about any dude a woman has slept with before. I won't even ask. But if she has a reputation for being promiscuous, its a pass for me.

And gender roles? What do you mean by this?

As far as the double standard that I was speaking of goes, oh well. That double standard has been around a LOOOOOOOOONG time. Its a shame but no man wants to be with a woman that has been with a bunch of dudes. Its just the way it is. Im just being honest. Don't hate on me for it.

I'm not knocking your likes and dislikes so don't knock mine.

posted May 08, 2010 11:46 PM            

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Actually, I don't care to hear about any dude a woman has slept with before. But if she has a reputation for being promiscuous, its a pass for me.

And gender roles? What do you mean by this?

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see, promiscuity is so subjective. that could just mean any woman who has slept with more people than you OR it could mean any woman who is not a virgin OR a woman who has sex outside of relationships etc.

gender roles as in the man goes out and works and the woman stays home. the man does yard work and the woman does all the housework. the man commands, the woman obeys. etc

i don't mean to knock it, it just reminded me of what i don't like. to each their own.

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That double standard has been around a LOOOOOOOOONG time. Its a shame but no man wants to be with a woman that has been with a bunch of dudes. Its just the way it is. Im just being honest. Don't hate on me for it.

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posted May 08, 2010 11:52 PM            

I agree with you on the gender roles. I believe in equality.

posted May 08, 2010 11:59 PM            

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just because it's been around for a long time doesn't make it right. slavery was around for a long time too. you should probably explore why it bothers you? and actually, a lot of guys don't care because they realize that it has nothing to do with them.

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LOL, amowls, you got me wrong thats all i'm gonna say. The slavery analogy isn't necessary and has nothing to do with this.

Actually A lot of guys DO care. Like I said, you go ask any guy if he wants to marry a women that has slept with a bunch of dudes and see what they say. You might get 1 or 2 that say they don't care. The rest will say they rather be with a woman that HASN'T been with a bunch of guys. And ask a BUNCH of dudes, not just your friends.

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you should probably explore why it bothers you?

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Never said it bothers me. I just won't choose a woman that has been with a bunch of dudes the same way you won't choose a guy that is into typical gender roles.

EDIT: Why do you assume it bothers me?

posted May 09, 2010 12:13 AM            

i just asked my boyfriend and he said "...I don't know, I don't really care." the only friend that has ever talked about quotas regarding past sexual partners was a woman and she said 7 is her cut off (she was a virgin at the time and has only slept with guy since). i said "wow good luck with that."

and obviously it bothers you if it's a prerequisite for dating you. guys who are into gender roles bother me.

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The slavery analogy isn't necessary and has nothing to do with this.

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