posted August 21, 2010 09:38 PM         

I think a lot of people experienced that, though: a lot of pain, and a lot of happiness intermixed. Some deal with it better than others.

As an aside, adding to my post above: I've realized how much I *do* assert my independence. I don't like to be dependent on anyone - it's okay for a while, if needed, but not long-term.

posted August 21, 2010 11:11 PM         

I avoided relationships when I was younger, and agoraphobic (trying to get over it), because I was a) afraid of attracting someone whose attraction might be motivated by my perceived weakness (and a potential dependence on them), and b) I didn't want to make my recovery about another person. I was afraid that if it didn't work out, I would associate any recovery with them, and crumble/backslide. I wanted my recovery to be for myself, not to get closer to or improve for a boyfriend. Once I started to improve, I opened myself up to romantic possibilities.

My mother says I'm just like my Aunt S. (also an Aries) who had two nasty marriages. She's been single for years. (And in my situation now: I've been trying to get myself sorted, and keep getting the shaft - every single time. It's frustrating and embarrassing. I don't despise weakness in others, but I do despise it in myself.)

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posted August 22, 2010 05:56 PM         

I sense a lot of emotional maturity in you, which makes sense with the Pisces square.

For Teasel and BM and others who mentioned Sun or Mars in Aries. That is an entirely different energy to the Moon in Aries imo

The Moon connects, loves, cares and clings on, protects, nurtures - That is its function - The sign it is in changes the style.

posted August 22, 2010 09:04 PM         

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For Teasel and BM and others who mentioned Sun or Mars in Aries. That is an entirely different energy to the Moon in Aries imo

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I know, that's why I gave a better example in the end (my Arien Moon co-worker)

posted August 22, 2010 10:16 PM         

I mean It doesn’t help to have a Capricorn Rising, Aries Moon and Mars In Cancer all working together.

To answer your question electricmind, the answer is yes I do despise any signs of weakness. But its more of a matter of all my planets combined.

Right now I’m not in a relationship and thats more because of me, always wanting to chase the better job that makes me present a good image while not looking weak and dependant while securing home and career at the same time, Its all “interlinked” to me.

I mean just last summer I graduated from college, but even then I don’t think thats enough and just started at another university to work towards were I really want to be.

Of course my mom keeps pushing me be in the federal government as opposed to were I want to be and turning down some offers.

Obviously she is one of the proud federal workers in Ottawa, but I don’t see it as a source of pride and strength, more of a sign of weakness and lack of talent, that effects the image of strength.

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Capircorn Rising
Gemini Sun
Aries Moon
Mercury in Gemini
venus in Tarrus
Mars Cancer

posted August 22, 2010 11:21 PM         

do you start fights just to have a challenge?
are you always on and off with your partner...breaking up and getting back together?

posted August 23, 2010 12:32 AM         

I am an Aries Moon, and this is what I can say about the snippits of what I've read so far.

I don't think it's so much that we despise weakness as much as we despise complainers and martyrs. I know what my weaknesses are, I know where I am deficient, but you don't hear me complaining about it or trying to garner sympathy.

Personally, I do bounce back very very quickly when I've been angry. If I've truly forgiven someone, half the time I forget what it was that they did (unless it was something really really unforgivable).

Someone stated that Aries Moons do not have as difficult a life as people with other moon signs. I disagree with that. I've known a few Aries Moons, and, as I said before... Our policy is not to complain or guilt other people. So, we may have been through some extraordinarily tough circumstances, but you might never know about it (unless we really trust you) and part of that is because we tend to live by the motto: 'Life is tough and it is NOT fair. Deal with it.' Why dwell on the past? You can't change it. Why dwell on changing a person when you can't? Etc Etc.

I tend to think that Aries Moons are simply better at existing in the present than they are in dwelling on the past. There's no point in dwelling on something you can't change. Gemini Moons are the same about living in the present (though for different reasons), which is why we tend to get along.

As far as relationships go, I think, personally, that my Aries Moon influences me the most by my wanting to dive head first into a romantic relationship without looking before I leap. Then what normally happens is that I get in, and I realize that this isn't what I want and so I start looking for the exit instead. It is an immediate expression of emotions, but it is partially because I am so swept up by my own enthusiasm for someone new that I stop looking at the practical concerns.

As far as the independence/dependence issue goes... Aries Moons tend to be rather self-contained emotionally, and are not always dependent on others to influence their emotional states. That doesn't mean that we don't want to have an interdependent relationship. It just means that we know how to make ourselves happy (or sad for that matter).

posted August 23, 2010 12:50 AM         

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With the two men I had in mind - I know their lives well. They are very healthy physically and psychologically. They have not had any major accidents in their lives or any chronic illnesses, they have not had any major traumas that required medication or psychological help, any major losses (when something was lost, it was immediately replaced through sheer luck), they are both bachelors, have no kids, commitments of any sort, pets etc.. Generally they don't have any daily responsibilities. They were both born in reasonably well off families and they are now quite wealthy. Most of their time is spent in work and other enjoyable activities. Both love their work. They are very positive people and bring much positivity in their lives and that of others.
But when it comes to a 'scary' situation, like someone finding out they have a deadly illness - you can just about bet these men will run ten miles in the opposite direction. As far as they're concerned pain does not exist. If it is under their nose for whatever reason, they look away.
One is 29 - the other is 44.

posted August 23, 2010 12:55 AM         

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'Life is tough and it is NOT fair. Deal with it.' Why dwell on the past? You can't change it.

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lol I'm with you on that.

Life's a bi*tch.
And then you die.
So have a bong.
And lets get high.