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Topic: conjunctions to your IC in synastry
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Lucia23
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posted November 13, 2010 09:42 PM
  
With the Aries, are you saying you think I should talk to him? Tell him how I feel and that if he needs me I'm here?Because I think if he WANTED my love and attention that way, we would still be together. And it hurts me to see him and not be with him. IP: Logged |
JohnFKennedy
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posted November 13, 2010 10:41 PM
What would it mean for either person if someones Par Fortunae fell directly on top of another persons IC in synastry? IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted November 14, 2010 02:28 AM
I think, at a tight enough orb, PoF or Vertex on the IC would feel like the person was "meant to be" family to you...of course depending on so many other aspects.IP: Logged |
woah cakes
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posted November 14, 2010 03:00 PM
about the aqua thing.. aquas either obsess and need to UNDERSTAND something completely to resolve the emotions we are feeling OR we go completely the other way and become completely aloof.. i think it's for the same reason; that we can't reconcile our emotions with our understanding and when we go aloof it is because we've tried our best to understand but it's become too painful. not saying there aren't immature and even deceptive, manipulative aquas out there, of course. but generally we go one of two ways when it comes to resolving our emotions in relationships. lucia, do you think it was possible your aqua was just tying to understand why you left him to find closure? cuz seriously when something is bother us we HAVE TO understand mentally it in order to know what to do with the feelings. it's kind of a weird neurotic tick we have. i can SEEM totally obsessed with someone when all i'm really trying to do is understand their deal and then once i do, and i feel i've gained perspective, i lighten up considerably. quote:
Woah, I ran into him yesterday after a month and half of no contact. We had a very brief, friendly chat...I got out of there as soon as I could. I didn't feel like saying anything Sagittarian to him. He was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. It was hard and heartbreaking. I know I handled it well though at the time.
I think I have to get myself together. Just MOVE ON. If he ever wants to be with me, he knows I'm here. If I were more Jupiterian, I wouldn't feel this desperate and sad._______ With the Aries, are you saying you think I should talk to him? Tell him how I feel and that if he needs me I'm here?
Because I think if he WANTED my love and attention that way, we would still be together. And it hurts me to see him and not be with him.
not sure if the last part was to me or not.. but YEAH, i would just go say it, say it all, and don't censor yourself. i can see how the heartbreak and being SOOO drawn to him would be in the way of that though, so i would personally wait until you had your bearings first. it's just a sense, but aries are very simple in a way, aren't they? they seem to live in the moment more than any other sign, and take action within that moment, so i think having a saggie approach would help 'jolt' him into reality and cause him to be more receptive to you maybe? i dunno, again this could be toally crap advice. IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted November 14, 2010 09:36 PM
Woah, that second comment was in response to GirlyGrl's last post. quote:
so i would personally wait until you had your bearings first.
Yep. Right now this heartbreak has brought up sooo much CRAP. And, when things were so tough before we broke up, I didn't have my bearings. I wasn't showing up for my own life. Right now=heartbroken without him, and I was all anxious about losing him before I lost him. It's part of what tanked the relationship. It's true that Aries are simple. So are Leos, in a way. With that Aqua I was talking about, he definitely wanted to get to the bottom of things, and I think he would've cooled off a LOT if we'd been trying to do a real relationship. As it was, he was crazy-jealous of my boyfriend...not just jealous as in, he wanted to be with me, but he lashed out at me because, in his opinion, my BF and I and our friends were all very "high fashion beautiful people," and I wasn't into him because he wasn't part of that group...stuff that was just NUTS, all about him and not about me at all, not even true. I think everyone involved was just really young and immature. Woah, your presence is somehow very comforting! Must be all those warm and fuzzy draco placements... Anyway...I think we can agree that IC conjunctions can make the person dear to us. And on that note, I'm semi-banning myself from Lindaland again for a little bit. I come here at tough times and then get all addicted, when I should be out in the world. GirlyGrl, much love, I know you will find somebody you mutually adore, and who is a right match. IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
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posted November 14, 2010 11:02 PM
Yeah, I hope I find someone who mutually adores me. I suppose its hard thinking that you give your all and then its easy for someone to walk away without even a second glance, or even telling you why they did what they did. I'm also similar to Aquas in that I HAVE to know the reason...and then once I know the reason I can reconcile it with how I feel...and then I'm over it and I come to the conclusion of what needs to be done (I think its the 11th House Venus and Mars Uranus Aspect that helps me deal with anger or anything that way). But until I know...I'm HORRIBLE and obsessive about knowing. I do miss him...and its hard because I know as an Aqua and Aries Mars if he wanted to be in contact with me he wouldn't have not re-added me as a Facebook friend. At this point he came to the conclusion he was ok with me not being in his life at all and that was that, even to talk everyone once in a while. And yeah I may want more...but still a person doesn't have to just stop talking to someone completely (I've had exes that were into me and I was willing to be friends, but if they wanted and pushed for more I couldn't do it) You weren't harsh at all...I guess part of me was holding on the the fact that he came and saw me in July after he deleted me and we stopped talking. But since he has been able to answer the phone or contact me and he hasn't and I did nothing to him. Maybe I was clingy and intense but again at the end of the day he had to have logically known I cared SOOOO deeply for him and thought the best of him. Regarding your Aries...I say seriously be friends with him...I know that sounds terrible because you want more...but at the end of the day (and I know you don't believe me lol) but being someones friend is ok. I know that with the Aqua I would have liked things to work out...but if he was just straight forward with me and I knew (because he told me) we were better off as friends and COMPLETELY done as far as more then I would have been a 100% supportive friend regardless of if I had feelings or not (he wouldn't have seen them...friendship is something I'm AWESOME in lol...again Venus in 11th). I can push them aside for the greater good of caring for someone as just a person regardless of their role in your life. Do that...if you care for this guy be his friend...be there for him. It almost seems like you aren't willing to deal with him in a non romantic fashion, and think the same for him as well. I'm sure he'd love to be friends. Plus maybe that opens things in the future for you guys, you never know. I know that you wouldn't want him to date anyone else but deal with him and date other people aswell. And even if you don't get back together you have an awesome friend. So its a win win. IP: Logged |
GrlyGirl20
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posted November 15, 2010 12:10 AM
Woah…the Aqua post was about me. I too am the same way in that if I don’t know something I will go CRAZY trying to find out what it is and then when I find out I can reconcile it with my feelings and then go from there and draw the conclusion I need (I think it’s the Venus in 11th that makes me this way). But until I know I’m obsessive lol.
I am having trouble completely forgetting an Aqua ex…and the fact I don’t know what I did. Things started getting sketchy in June after graduation. In June I called him up and told him that I missed him, and that I was thinking of school somewhere in our area in the south, and if I did go in the area I’d like to try again. Well he didn’t say anything. So I took that as his answer, however we continued to chat, and he said what I told him didn’t make him feel awkward. Well then I randomly see a friend of his and just told her that he and I aren’t really talking, and that I am planning on moving to California when after I graduate instead of staying in the area. So all is fine don’t talk to him or hear from him for like a week. And then all of a sudden I noticed he deleted me from Facebook. I called him to see if I maybe said something out of the way about him, and he answered and then hung up! I called again thinking that maybe it was a phone glich…and then he did it again! This occurred in June. I sent him an email over my birthday when I was in California telling him that he was being immature and that I would have stayed in the South but I needed more of an indication from him that he was going to try. And I said if he contacted me sometime that week if I got into school in the area I’d stay, and how I would have liked to do this in person but couldn’t. Obviously I didn’t hear from him…so I was just going about my life. Then all of a sudden about three weeks later he came to see me and I was out and he missed me, but my roommate saw him...that next day I text him to tell him I knew he was in town and just "hi"...never heard anything back. And that was that...since then I've tried to contact him a few times hoping that he'll be at least be civil and want to know how I'm doing or he can tell me how his job is going...and nothing. It's like he completely stopped caring about me. His Moon is Conjunct my IC, and his Asc is on my Dsc...and his Venus is on my Dsc as well, and my Moon is Conjunct his Asc and Venus. Plus I have Saturn and Pluto ties to him so I'm having a hard time just forgetting about him, and it periodically drives me crazy that I legit didn't do anything and he acts like I have the plague lol. IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted March 26, 2015 07:23 AM
Bump, there is hardly any info online about this. IP: Logged |
Soltze
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posted March 26, 2015 07:30 AM
I don't like the idea of my IC being stirred by someone's planets conjunct it. :-D
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7ate9
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posted March 26, 2015 11:17 AM
I had a brief romance with someone whose sun conjuncts my IC with under 1 deg orb. She moved to a different country couple months ago and will come back this summer. The instant attraction was crazy, but we have other deep aspects too such as her Venus conjunct my Pluto exact. I'm curious to see how things go when she returns as our relationship was interrupted in very early stage (we met 1-2 months before she left abroad). She felt really familiar to me in a way that people have explained IC aspects. I remember after meeting her for the first time there was like 2 weeks or more when ALL I could think about was her, like seriously obsessive stuff!  IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted March 26, 2015 11:50 AM
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