posted November 26, 2010 09:39 AM            

Met this aqua girl in feb 10. She went weird on my first and started to 'observe' me anyway she came out of it, we became friends I guess, and I told her I liked her, she told me she liked me too and always asked me questions like trying to gain insight into me questions like "would you get jealous if you saw me with someone else?" etc etc.

Anyway, so we talk pretty much everyday sometimes she dissapears for a few days (she's dissapeared for MAX 1 week and a half) thats the longest. We've never had a convo over the phone always over emails and texts. So yea we've been talking since March onwards. She flirts a lot on some days, other days she's a bit more serious anyway. She always compliments me and tells me how how and sexy etc etc she thinks iam bla bla etc etc. So everything seems to be all good and well except that she ALWAYS avoids and declines when I ask to see her to hang out just her and I. In groups she always tells me (well used to) to go and hang out with her and her friends (I never went) but when I ask her just to hang out she makes up an excuse. I've asked her A LOT of times and I just told her I'd never ask again after the last time she declined.

So fast forward a few months to Halloween wknd. I went to the club I knew she'd be at (although she had no clue) I spotted her went up and said hi etc she seemed really happy and surprised to see me. So anyway the whole night she kept on texting me telling me where she had moved to (club had 3 levels about 8 rooms) so when she'd text id go look for her and hang out with her and her friends (which she introduced me too btw), anyway she wasnt drunk neither was I but everytime id go find her she'd practically THROW herself at me and dance all on me, grinding, dirty dancing, grabbing and feeling me up everywhere etc like she wanted to fk on the dancefloor! I could have made a move and kissed her a few times but held back. I was really surprised and shocked by her sudden change in behavour and how comfortable and open she was being all this infront of her friends as well.

Monday morning comes and she emails me and shes all like saturday night was so surreal, it was fate we ran into each other (at the club), she was like did your friends say anything? Have you told them everything you've told me (she was indirectly trying to ask if i've told them about her and that I like her) so i told her that i've only told them that I had an eye on someone and it was her.

So everythings normal we still talk, she chases me usualy like as in she'll contact me first (i stopped initiating contact with texts and emails) so she initiates them I just follow through. Last week I asked her why she always avoids seeing me and makes up excuses (I previously asked her when i'd see her next, she said she'd be going out in 2wks and I could see her then) thats when I asked her why she always avoids seeing me etc. She ignored it. 2 days later I sent her an email telling her that I knew she was going MIA because of what I had asked her but it wasnt fair that she could avoid questions but if i did it to her she'd be ****** at me and to put herself in MY shoes and see that its not fair what she does and its selfish and also said that she knows im waiting for a response and im not going to chase her, if she doesnt want to speak to me ever again then so be it but i wasnt going to chase. She didnt respond and dissapeared for 5 days. I didnt make ANY contact and let her have her space (im slowly understanding how she works).

So monday morning she emails me acting like nothing happened being normal. So i decided to play along acted normal answered all her questions she was being extra nice I was telling her how i was so stressed at work and she was all like TALK to me babe tell me whats wrong I want to help you etc etc so then out of no where I asked her again, I told her I was still waiting for a reply to what I had asked her. She didnt respond and ignored it. So I sent her an email just as i left work saying "R u serious (her name)?. K sweet".

The next day (this morning) she responds EARLY in the morning (mustve been the FIRST thing she done soon as she got into work) and shes like hey wat do you mean am i serious? I was in a meeting during the arvo and then left work you need to stop analyzing. I asked her what it is she thinks im analyzing? and she responded almost immediately saying that you think im ignoring but i was in a meeting!. I replied saying "Aha well im sOoOoOoOoO SORRY for analyzing but that’s what you leave me to when I know you have a habbit of conveniently ‘ignoring’ and ‘avoiding’ me and things I ask you when you feel like you don’t wanna answer. So if I cant get a straight answer from you, only thing I can work with is analyzing what I think MIGHT be the situation. In any case, whatever. You say your not ignoring so im just gna wait for an answer to what I asked u and don’t ask me what it is coz u already know". She replied saying "Im off to to an erand for work, email you when i get back".

That was at 10am this morning and I KNOW that was an excuse to try and buy time or to do whatever she is doing (indirectly avoiding the situation) and she still hasnt gotten back to me. I know its a bullsh*t excuse for reasons which are too long to write down.

Whats her problem? is she interested? is she not interested? do I chase? do I ignore? is this normal aqua behaviour? im getting sick of the games and i've lost A LOT of interest but what keeps me coming back is that shes an AMAZING person (apart from her mind gameS) and i KNOW if i can get past her walls we could have something really SPECTACULAR! I KNOW she's attracted to me i can FEEL it but thanks to my libra moon im always second guessing myself SPECIALLY when it comes to matters of the heart!

posted November 26, 2010 12:45 PM            

I think she's interested. I think you should insist on going to the movies with her or hanging out together, and BOYCOTT electronic communication. If she wants any of you in her life, she's got to see you. The way things are now, she gets to have her cake and eat it too...take that away. If she wants any of you, she has to hang out in person.

Also it's definitely time to make that physical move. Move the relationship to the physical level and wait to talk about the relationship till you've had a few real dates. Make out, go to the movies, eat meals alone together, sit on the couch and talk, take a long walk, etc...

posted November 26, 2010 12:57 PM            

What does the rest of her chart look like (Moon, Venus, Mars, ascendant etc.)? That might also help in getting an idea whether she is playing head games or whether she's just not very much in touch with her feelings and this back and forth is her way of testing and getting closer.

One of my best friends is an Aquarius, I've known her for more than 15 years and I must say that witnessing her 'great attractions' and 'great loves' in its various stages over the years, she ALWAYS seems to take a long time not only to let someone in, but to really accept/understand her attractions/feelings herself. Initially she always seems to avoid the person, explain away the feelings as 'just attraction'/'not serious' etc. etc.

posted November 26, 2010 06:27 PM            

Anyway, okay, her placements are

Sun - Aqua
Moon - Gemini
Mercury - Pisces
Venus - Capricorn
Mars - Aries
Asc - Im PRETTY sure its sagg but im not 100%

I think maybe its her venus in capricorn holding her back?

Im an amateur lets say regarding astrology..Well i know things just not how to do synastry charts etc but from comparing my placements to hers.. I think were compatible? When it comes to our suns, yes, moons yes, mercury no, venus i've read cap and cancer go well (advise me if im wrong?), mars no and asc well Im not 100% of hers so..

Mine are:

posted November 26, 2010 06:37 PM            

I know IF she gave me the chance to just hang out with her 1 on 1, she'd def will be initiating everything from then on I just need to get her alone and kinda 'prove myself' to her...

I mean once right because we used to have class together id see her twice a week once she ran up to me and hugged me tightly and I INSTANTLY felt something and later that night I was like hey this is random but did you by any chance feel anything when we hugged last night? And she was like yes I did. I go what did you feel? and she goes "I cant explain it but i just know it felt right".

posted November 26, 2010 10:14 PM            

Thing is to focus on your life and go with the flow. Put the lady on the back burner and don't worry about it. When an Aquarian wants to be with you - you will know it.

I am with an Aquarian now.I met him when I was in my "I don't need a man phase". I could have cared less about relationships back then and was successfully single. He chased after me for a year, more so on in the final 6 months of his chase and the last 2 months is was an intense game on chase. He wouldn't take no for an answer and he finally caught me.

30 something Aquas, from my experience still want to sew their royal oats and the 30 somethings seem to want to settle down more.

posted November 26, 2010 10:32 PM            

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Would be interested and then disappear. He was not ready to settle down and I think he wanted his freedom more.

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posted November 26, 2010 10:40 PM            

LOL thats kinda cute in a sense... but ANNOYING for me!!!!

So best thing is to just ignore if she comes around?? Ignore her for a bit and then see what happens?

Last time I ignored her like that I ignored an email right for 1 day and I get a text message the next morning EARLY from her saying "Are you mad at me? If you are you can just say so instead of ignoring me. Anyway hope your well!"

And I ignored that too for a full week then I came back and text her saying "hey relax I wasnt ignoring you. whats happening?" She ignored that and two days later I couldnt take it anymore so I sent her an email and I was like look im swalloing my pride by sending u this and I wanna talk to you I figure you wanna talk to me too so lets both act like the mature adults we are, drop all this stupid mind games and game playing to see who can ignore who for the longest and just fkn forget this happened, talk again and put it behind us.

She emailed me the next day normal like nothing happened.

posted November 26, 2010 10:45 PM            

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So all this back and forth, mind games etc its all from fear because she feels something for me?

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Yeah, most likely. If an aqua doesn't like you they either won't bother with you at ALL or they'll act like your best friend and always want to talk to you.

If they are suddenly ignoring you, but not completely, they like you -- most likely.

posted November 27, 2010 06:35 AM            

she's not confortable putting it in words?

posted November 27, 2010 07:17 AM            

I've ALREADY told her. I told her once and she said she liked me too. I asked her right and she goes "you'll never know" (this was ages ago when we first started talking). So I was like seriously tell me. So she goes, "know you I LIKE YOU". Second time I told her I sent her kinda of a lengthy email and explained myself and how I felt about her etc, she sent me a somewhat lengthy reply also and she was like "I feel the same way but right now im not myself" etc etc bla bla.

posted November 27, 2010 01:28 PM            

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So best thing is to just ignore if she comes around?? Ignore her for a bit and then see what happens?

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No, don't ignore her while allowing her to have this text back-and-forth.

Tell her--"I'm not texting/IMing/emailing you anymore until after we hang out. Let's go to a movie. Tell me when and where."

Respond to all of her communications where she pretends nothing is wrong with "When/where are we meeting?" And nothing else.

posted November 27, 2010 06:13 PM            

he did this to me for years...

drops off IM convo leaving w out saying hi refrain from phone calls just crazy emails ims MIA weeks.. the aquarian dance indeed

posted November 28, 2010 06:20 PM            

I text her this morning with 2 lines from a sexy song and I go this is my dedication to you lol. Email me if your not busy otherwise we'll chat laterrrrr

She replied "mwa email soon xo"

Thats good I guess? I broke the ice I mean maybe she figured I was ****** off at her since she never got back to me but by me texting her maybe its showing her im NOT mad and im kinda okay with her ignoring the question (which im not) but im over it already and I guess its stupid and pointless conitnuing to push her for an answer when clearly she isnt going to give me one so id rather just be on a good page with her rather than being like wtf about her not seeing me... I guess im not losing sleep over it so yea i'll just play it as it comes.

But I understand its normal behaviour for aqua girls to come and go (but continue to stick around) when they like someone BUT is it normal behaviour to AVOID seeing them 1 on 1? Is that normal? To always avoid/decline invitations to hang out/do stuff just the two of you? and IF so, when does it stop and WHY do you do this? Since I cant get a straight answer from her.. maybe I can get one from you guys? lol