posted December 17, 2010 01:32 PM            

I believe that in order to love another person, you have to love yourself first

You have to value and be secure in yourself before you love somebody.

Many people look outside themselves to find love when they should be finding it in themselves.

I also believe in order to have a relationship, you have to have a good relationship with yourself first. If you have harmony inside yourself, then you're capable of having harmony inside a relationship with others.

I think the balance of yin and yang are important too.

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No..I am not a Virgo.

posted December 17, 2010 02:22 PM            

statements such as "you will only find love when you love yourself" can confuse me

it is only through loving others and relating that we are able to grow at all...so if we stay alone we don't grow.

love is a state of being not a personality trait...everyone is capable of giving love (except sociopaths?)

I think the whole concept of love needs to be thought about quite deeply, many have different ideas about it, some need actions and others need words.

I have a friend, a strongly saturnian person that drives me insane because she insists that her son should now provide her with emotional support because she gave it(love) to him whilst he was a child..she says that he should now pay her back, how did she love him if the only reason she did it was to secure her own emotional needs?

posted December 18, 2010 12:22 AM            

Half the time they will back down if a friend is interested in a girl they have or have no been with (when on the inside they could be screaming "NOOOO! I like her! But or friendship is more important.")......

And the other half of the time they declare their love, yet freak out if you take it too seriously or not enough. They just swim away, no matter what they have promised.

They are some of the most sensitive souls, but that's cause they are sensitive to what vibes are being put out from everyone around them. This then sometimes confuses Pisces, because they sense the "truth" and yet they don't know whether to act upon it or just let it stew in the pot. This is more true with love.

The last Pisces man I dealt with... took him HOURS to even not only approach me but actually stand within talking distance next to me. The poor guy had to get very tipsy before he could get the courage to walk up to me around the end of the night.

And thats one way you know a Pisces is attracted, they just get very nervous at first and find some way to convince themselves to get the nerve to make a move. They also throw down a lot of flattery if they are really digging you. They compliment your body if they want to sleep with you, but they compliment something wonderful about your face, your personality, or the way you are towards others if they want some kind of connection first.

posted December 18, 2010 01:48 AM            

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@Betty Boop
Yes I do miss people but very rarely. I agree to most of your points there. I don't mind if I don't talk to a person for 1 month or something.. I will still stay close despite not being in touch. I don't need frequent communication. Also, I don't like fussy things like "Why didn't you call all these days/Why didn't you message all these days".

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posted December 18, 2010 06:42 AM            

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Originally posted by mir:
I don't get it. Why is it allowed to "need" emotional support in a love-relationship but NOT when it comes to your son/child?

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because they are free to choose when and where they give of their love...we don't own our children and I don't think it's right that we demand they "pay back" what they were given in childhood.