posted January 13, 2011 11:11 PM            

I get what your saying by giving Ami the example of your twinsoul. However that is a case of extremity, a real fire. If her real intentions for help is what I've written above, then giving her particular extreme cases dont really guide her to make deciphering objective choices. Yes I agree we should all listen to our intuition, but in Ami's case, maybe she's so freaked out, even her intuition cant help her decide which is a proper fire escape route to take?

As I previously said, it goes further than diplomacy & tact. Words at the end of the day are meaningless jibberish, unless their true intent is delivered. This is why actions speak louder than words. Using tact merely helps deliver the intent smoothly.
I dont think Randall negatively “criticized,” Ami, as he was giving good constructive criticism & the intent obviously registered with Amy. If it wasnt constructive crit, perhaps he would've penalized Ami with 1,2,3 warnings leading to strip her title as Mod. Clearly he's letting Ami Moderate & make mistakes to continually learn lessons, from each unique conflict that crops up.

AMI,
Your intent of not revisiting is understood, so onwards from this point on.
I'm not in any position to give you advice, as I recognize what works for me, may not work for another,...but I'm throwing this out there incase it does resonate with you.

There's no need to get so upset over this matter, or beating yourself over making mistakes anytime in life. The intent of what's ultimately “important,” is if you learnt something with every step & mistake you make...then take away those lessons to effectively apply in future situations. Now let's put it into perspective, in the real world with real issues happening concurrently like people dying from floods, while we are typing away on this forum...is the exchange of words via conflicts really that important compared to the big picture of others dying??

I'm sorry to hear about your son, & it seems to me build ups of these incidences in your life have fused your Ego (emotion) with intellect. You seem to have great difficulty separating the two...but it's not just you, as I see many many people in this world do the same. So in that respect, you are not alone. My mom, constantly makes this mistake...ie, she thinks (intellect) she's an incompetent person (emotions) because she cant make more money (ego) than what she already can....

I'll try to clarify what I mean by giving an example:
1) A poor man & his son. His son robs a bank & is sentenced to prison. The man's (ego) obviously wants to justify with reasons like 1) but he's my son, you cant just take him away. 2) “but we are poor, please understand he didnt really mean it, if only I had been a better provider.” The man's (ego) feels (emotions) like he was a terrible father for such an outcome. He does not think (intellect), that perhaps this was a lesson & punishment his son really needs, inorder to become a better person. Now everytime the man thinks (intellect) about his son, or sees boys of his son's age, he feels (emotions) like he is a crappy father (ego). His Ego/emotions/intellect are all fused now...
If we put it into perspective, he (man) is himself. His son is his son. They are entirely 2 separate entities with separate ego/emotions/intellect. He has his own lessons to learn, so as the son with his own. Ami is Ami, your son is your son, your mother is your mother...they do not add up to form what is ultimately “Ami.”

With that said, it doesnt mean one shouldnt strive for the best to fulfill their ego either. You could achieve all the things you want, whether it's attaining spiritual enlightment, or that job title you've always hoped for. However, after becoming President (ego), it does not mean Obama should go around introducing himself as “I am President Obama.” No he isnt. He is only Barack Obama the person, who's achieved his goal & dream to become President. President (ego) does not dictate who Obama the person is. “President,” is merely what others categorize his 9-5 job title as, of what he should be doing at work...like creating structures for the country. Barack Obama the “person,” is a soul, a family man, who loves his wife & daughters, a good man, etc. I know society has trained us to think that way...as upon graduating from Med school, one is known as "Dr," & no longer as Mr/Ms. Titles incur egos.
Separating EGO from intellect is key, it will start making you feel better (emotions) about yourself.

posted January 14, 2011 02:27 AM            

PS It is so weird to see how I beat myself up SO much for making a mistake.
I got to see that part of myself,today,and appreciate being ABLE to.
It is not easy to face yourself.It is super hard but it is the ONLY way to walk away from the pain of the past.

posted January 14, 2011 02:37 AM            

(((((Fatinerbel,Randall, Agent,Road,Banx ))))

posted January 14, 2011 08:00 AM            

PS I am off to the thread in Sweet Peas where you and I can talk lol

posted January 14, 2011 10:17 AM            

It's kewl though, Agent so you know, I can get laid at any moment but It's pointless, my issue is not getting laid, my issue i shaving enough money to keep a girl around.

I do sincerely appreciate your opinions though, however I wouldn't say that to a person in real life. It's kewl with me cause i'm open, but I didn't realize that..

I think I can give you some advice though now, and in general, don't put yourself out there as someone who knows when people need to get laid.

I don't know where the post went, I think she edited it, but like I said it's totaly kewl...just wanted to be honest.

posted January 14, 2011 10:22 AM            

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Originally posted by roadwarriorsdp:
I just remembered another reason why AGent's post upset me. She said I needed to get laid.

It's kewl though, Agent so you know, I can get laid at any moment but It's pointless, my issue is not getting laid, my issue i shaving enough money to keep a girl around.

I do sincerely appreciate your opinions though, however I wouldn't say that to a person in real life. It's kewl with me cause i'm open, but I didn't realize that..

I think I can give you some advice though now, and in general, don't put yourself out there as someone who knows when people need to get laid.

I don't know where the post went, I think she edited it, but like I said it's totaly kewl...just wanted to be honest.

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you are such a sweet person Road. Don't open your heart and disclose your thoughts.

posted January 14, 2011 10:45 AM            

WOAH....I have NO clue what your talking about, (as god can be my witness). I have hardly interacted with you before. As far as I remember, I've only asked you once in a post how your Cap Sun/Pisces Moon combo works. Another time, you asked me how my Libra stellium plays out physically requesting me to post a pic.

I have never gotten into any discussions with you that's even remotely sexually under-toned. Besides, I am NEVER the kind of person to absent mindedly hurl insults especially with crude sexual undertones.

Not to mention, I cant delete posts. You would still see the person's post there but info removed. I have edited out a few posts before where I've felt I had revealed too much personal info...but if you search for them, you would see [edit], but never the entire post edited out. Mind you those posts werent even related to you in any way. Also, none of those posts were even interacting with you, nor sexually related. The only time something got sexual (not initiated by me), was when I asked BANXX how his Pluto-Mars played out (which you were heavily posting in that thread I recall). That was when Banxx started talking about his kundalini weini, and that was about it. I never even joined in on commenting about his Kundalini Weini.

Getting laid or not isnt even at the ranks of being a trivial matter. I know I wouldnt even bother commenting on something like that, cuz to me it doesnt even matter.

posted January 14, 2011 10:48 AM            

Seriously, who needs to relax now...LOL!!!

lindagreg, can you elaborate more on opening up my heart and thoughts...

do you think my writing will get me into trouble...I picked up an undertone of that possibly..

posted January 14, 2011 10:56 AM            

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Originally posted by roadwarriorsdp:
Can I ask though, I'm curious, why shouldn't I should disclose my thoughts?

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posted January 14, 2011 11:02 AM            

Thank you sincerely

Yes that advice is well recieved. I was even just about to dissipate more.

Thank you, you are mong the angels here...(bows humbly like the shy and dashing swashbuckler he is)

I think another issue highlighted here that I will undoubtedly profit from in my blog is the notion of what sucess is.....as In a back up role in twighlight vs the song written by one of my favorite artists below.

Enjoy the beautiful music everyone!

posted January 14, 2011 11:07 AM            

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Originally posted by roadwarriorsdp:
lindagreg

Thank you sincerely

Yes that advice is well recieved. I was even just about to dissipate more.

Thank you, you are mong the angels here...(bows humbly like the shy and dashing swashbuckler he is)

I think another issue highlighted here that I will undoubtedly profit from in my blog is the notion of what sucess is.....as In a back up role in twighlight vs the song written by one of my favorite artists below.

Enjoy the beautiful music everyone!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ucN4DActxA

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posted January 14, 2011 11:15 AM            

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Originally posted by roadwarriorsdp:
linda we should be facebook friends...at the very least...get at me tomorrow! Or me at you.

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posted January 14, 2011 11:59 AM            

Tink, I don't expect Mods to be neutral; they should express their opinions just like anyone else. But when there's a conflict, the Mod should not choose a side and join in on the fight. Mods are peacekeepers and diplomats. Still, we are all human.

Banx, it's not an inside joke if Road isn't laughing.