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Topic: Venus square Neptune
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littlecloud
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posted January 30, 2011 07:29 PM
  
She probably views you as an ideal mate. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was abused before? IP: Logged |
letram
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posted January 30, 2011 07:43 PM
No, i havent.well, according to her im very ideal, i guess i can attribute that to her mars in sagittarius tgrine my leo sun. and my asc, south node is in leo, her sun is in aquarius matching my DSC in aquairus, and her sun rests in my 7th conjunct my NN (i nthe 7th). i guess all my fire is ideal, but her DSC is in cappy, but others feel my saturn energy alot (saturn square venus, and moon, and trine mars.) IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted January 30, 2011 08:01 PM
I suggest you do some research on it (assuming you've never been abused before) because it's difficult. They bring a lot of baggage to the relationship and depending on what stage she's in her life with regards to her abuse then it will affect your relationship differently. Try finding accounts by the victim and later people who have/are in long term relationships with an abuse victim.That alone will help your relationship a lot. IP: Logged |
letram
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posted January 30, 2011 08:06 PM
really?well, our relationship has insecurity issues, that seem (or seemed) to be stemmed by saturn.
im aware of most of what she has suffered, thanks for your advice, i didn't think of it, i wish i did sooner, i will definitely look into it, you sound like you speak from experience, perhaps you have some more specific sources i coudl look at?? IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted January 30, 2011 09:17 PM
Abuse victims have severe insecurity issues. Using astrology as a tool to understand your relationship is good but you should really go further than just "my venus square her saturn" or whatever. Yes I speak from experience. If she reads some of these stories they can help her as well. One of the biggest issues is feeling alone and misunderstood. Feeling like no-one understands us. It helps to know that we are not alone. Reading some of these stories has helped me.
www.womensselfesteem.com/abuseandsurvival.html I just googled this one. It seemed pretty good on from a quick glance.
http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/child-abuse-victims-and-intimate-relationships.html I'm going to tell you right now that your relationship with her will not be easy and it will emotionally drain you. But this also depends a lot on her healing process, if she in fact has healed and to what extent. I hope the links help. IP: Logged |
letram
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posted January 30, 2011 09:36 PM
thanks alot little cloud,our relationship has been draining at times for us both, we have been together over a year now.
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littlecloud
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posted January 30, 2011 09:50 PM
Abuse usually and almost always repeats itself in various forms. She may have been emotionally abused as a child and may not have even realized it thus making it easier for her to fall victim to an abusive 3 year relationship. I'm guessing that there was an element of sexual abuse in her past relationship as well. The two go hand in hand many times if not always. Talking about it really helps. Either to you or to a friend, or someone. The key thing I advise you to do is to just listen and hold her because that is what she needs the most, to be able to trust another human again. IP: Logged |
Gemmy
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posted May 23, 2013 03:13 PM
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
What I meant was that this aspect makes you think that you are in love with someone even though you know you don't love them deep down inside. The reason you stay with this person could be other factors in the chart or just the whole fact that you don't want to accept the reality that even though this person is nice (in some cases) and almost perfect there is still that special something that is missing. Natives of this aspect tend to fall in love with someone because they seem like the ideal person to love, therefore they should love them. A very general example would be marrying someone that will provide all the material necessities in life versus marrying someone that provide everything else you need.
How do you know when someone with this aspect really loves you?  IP: Logged |
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