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Topic: i want out of this relationship =/
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sassaqua Knowflake Posts: 213 From: Australia Registered: May 2011
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posted July 20, 2011 03:55 AM
Aqua yes, keen to help, for sure!"Personal Readings" is a directory on this site, not astro.com. The directory is at the bottom left of the main page  Ceridwen is spot-on! We can help you do this. Do you live together? How long HAVE you been together? Even if he wasn't hitting you, I'd say still, get him out - you're 20 and he's - what - 48, maybe older? He's gonna rob you of your beauty and your youth and sanity. Try to avoid this honey, you deserve to go through the normal stages of development with someone of a similar age - it's a beautiful thing to do. It can be very lonely being with someone so very much older. There are exceptions of course, and this is just my opinion. IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 20, 2011 03:59 AM
quote: Originally posted by sassaqua:
Aqua yes, keen to help, for sure!"Personal Readings" is a directory on this site, not astro.com. The directory is at the bottom left of the main page  Ceridwen is spot-on! We can help you do this. Do you live together? How long HAVE you been together? Even if he wasn't hitting you, I'd say still, get him out - you're 20 and he's - what - 48, maybe older? He's gonna rob you of your beauty and your youth and sanity. Try to avoid this honey, you deserve to go through the normal stages of development with someone of a similar age - it's a beasutiful thing to do. It can be very lonely being with someone so very much older. There are exceptions of course, and this is just my opinion 
i just did it sassa & i am out for sure & no we dont live together & You are right ... IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 49 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 20, 2011 04:00 AM
Lonake and Aquarqueen,  IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 49 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 20, 2011 04:01 AM
Astrologicalman,I agree with you. But I think Aquarqueen`s post showed that she mentally is aware of this and WANTS out, she now just has to take the steps to actually GO. Seems like she just did that. Congratulations, Aquarqueen. (Now just stay strong and donŽlet him back in again).
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AstrologicalMan Knowflake Posts: 279 From: Brickenton Registered: Jun 2011
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posted July 20, 2011 04:05 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: Astrologicalman,I agree with you. But I think Aquarqueen`s post showed that she mentally is aware of this and WANTS out, she now just has to take the steps to actually GO.
yeah I was too caring and too forward with her and now she is taken back by me. That is awesome that I have evolved to a point where people are taken back by my loving emotions. I understand though that it can be too much. If you search the history of me on google, with my username SancheNuss, you will see just how much of an ******* I used to be. I didnt like the person that I used to be but I needed to be that person in order to learn that it was unacceptable mentality for my fellow beings. IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 20, 2011 04:08 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: Astrologicalman,I agree with you. But I think Aquarqueen`s post showed that she mentally is aware of this and WANTS out, she now just has to take the steps to actually GO. Seems like she just did that. Congratulations, Aquarqueen. (Now just stay strong and donŽlet him back in again).
thanks & i wont IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 20, 2011 04:08 AM
quote: Originally posted by AstrologicalMan: yeah I was too caring and too forward with her and now she is taken back by me. That is awesome that I have evolved to a point where people are taken back by my loving emotions. I understand though that it can be too much. If you search the history of me on google, with my username SancheNuss, you will see just how much of an ******* I used to be. I didnt like the person that I used to be but I needed to be that person in order to learn that it was unacceptable mentality for my fellow beings.
not at all i just dont approve anyone on facebook didnt mean to offend you or anything .. IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan Knowflake Posts: 279 From: Brickenton Registered: Jun 2011
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posted July 20, 2011 05:23 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquarqueen: not at all i just dont approve anyone on facebook didnt mean to offend you or anything ..
oh you didn't offend me. I understand. Its probably wise that you don't. IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 05:04 AM
just felt like updating who ever knows about my problem well today we went out to eat so we can talk but the night ended horrible he didnt want to let me leave or anything like that so when i finally fooled him i ran for my life went to the cops & pressed charges on him .IP: Logged |
Lonake Moderator Posts: 4643 From: U.S. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 22, 2011 05:18 AM
Wow. Did the police advise you to keep a log of every time he tries to contact you, any crazy speak you hear from him, threats, etc.? That will help you too if anything else happens. I would keep a log like that if I were you. It can stand up in court, along with other detailed evidence, such as a sign off there from a witness who will back you up and photos, tapes, etc. Someone I broke up with wanted to see me again but I did not feel comfortable with the idea and have since kept my distance. I've also been in the situation where you want to leave and the other person won't let you go. Have never had to press charges thankfully. IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 05:27 AM
I REally didnt want to go that far but today he was so impossible to control lonake this dude started speeding at least 80 or more miles an hour and we wasn't even in a high way i was terrified ... but i have pictures & i definitely am going to get a copy of my call log he has called more then 60 times already he doesnt know i did that and i wont tell him either because i am not going to talk to him at all smhh i cant believe people like that exist .IP: Logged |
Lonake Moderator Posts: 4643 From: U.S. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 22, 2011 05:31 AM
You're lucky to be alive, for sure You are definitely affecting him very intensely but he needs to handle that in a responsible manner.IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 05:34 AM
Yes i am .. i am so happy to be homee its already 5 : 33 in the a/m i havent slept at all i will get some sleep thanks for your support talk to you later :-)IP: Logged |
AstrologicalMan Knowflake Posts: 279 From: Brickenton Registered: Jun 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 05:36 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: Astrologicalman,I agree with you. But I think Aquarqueen`s post showed that she mentally is aware of this and WANTS out, she now just has to take the steps to actually GO. Seems like she just did that. Congratulations, Aquarqueen. (Now just stay strong and donŽlet him back in again).
Yes. That is what I was saying. She understands what she has to do but that is only 1/4 of the battle. The easy and first part to change or evolution in individual power and personal growth is understanding when you are in the wrong mentality or situation. But this is very important and I commend her! The next step, which is more difficult, is actually leaving the situation,type of negative thinking or behavior. The final step, which is the hardest of all but accomplished when the person is fully ready is to not revert back to the situation, type of mentality and or behavior. This is done when the time is ready and when they have realized that their is more benefit gained from a new situation or new mode of looking at things. She will accomplish this. It is just a matter of time. I believe it is this way for everyone. Eventually you have to take the next step towards evolution of consciousness and closer proximity to getting back to The Source or The Ultimate Creator even if it takes additional lifetimes to do so. I also want to add a comment in this particular situation. This relationship, like most, are karmic. She could have very well abused him in a past life and this needed to happen in order to balance out karma. Once this karma is resolved, which is what looks like has happened, is when they can both move on. My point is that, in addition to helping herself, she is also helping him! If they are able to stay away from each other and not revert back to the relationship, then they will both gain a sense of personal freedom and forward evolution and the next step to getting back in touch with their twin flame will be possible. IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 05:42 AM
Thanks astro i will take the next step omg i am so re-leaved im happy i got to talk to you guys though.. i probably would of thought things were going to get better and stood with him ... i am truely blessed to have people like you guys to guide me through this rough situation . THANKSSSS
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AstrologicalMan Knowflake Posts: 279 From: Brickenton Registered: Jun 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 05:43 AM
What is also incredibly amazing is that she helps ALL of us. So thank you Aqua! When people resolve individual problems, they also resolve the collective (un) conscious/consciousness, karma and balance of all things. She is bringing us all one step closer to The Source!This is why we should help out other people whenever possible. Ignoring other people in their time of distress or thinking that other peoples problems or conflicts are not ours or somehow inferior and that we don't have to worry about them, only means that we are actually ignoring ourselves. We are all connected. We are not only helping others but we are helping ourselves and the entire planet. It even stretches out into balancing the entire universe! IP: Logged |
Malena Newflake Posts: 20 From: Registered: Apr 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 08:44 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquarqueen: I REally didnt want to go that far but today he was so impossible to control lonake this dude started speeding at least 80 or more miles an hour and we wasn't even in a high way i was terrified ... but i have pictures & i definitely am going to get a copy of my call log he has called more then 60 times already he doesnt know i did that and i wont tell him either because i am not going to talk to him at all smhh i cant believe people like that exist .
Good for you! I read through this whole thread just now and I was just biting my fingernails worrying. I was so relieved to read that you are cutting him off. You deserve so much better than him, sweetie. Please be careful. The most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the abused partner decides to leave. Sometimes the abuser will get desperate and go to horrible lengths to stop that from happening. I am not trying to scare you by saying this. It sounds like you are taking every precaution and that is good. Don't stop. It's better to go a little overboard than risk your health or your life. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 49 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 08:56 AM
Aquarqueen,oh my, what a nasty guy! But I am glad that you are doing the right steps, you really can be proud of yourself! And I also think that your way of dealing with it is setting a positive example for everyone reading here, who might be or come into a similiar situation. IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 04:34 PM
quote: Originally posted by AstrologicalMan: What is also incredibly amazing is that she helps ALL of us. So thank you Aqua! When people resolve individual problems, they also resolve the collective (un) conscious/consciousness, karma and balance of all things. She is bringing us all one step closer to The Source!This is why we should help out other people whenever possible. Ignoring other people in their time of distress or thinking that other peoples problems or conflicts are not ours or somehow inferior and that we don't have to worry about them, only means that we are actually ignoring ourselves. We are all connected. We are not only helping others but we are helping ourselves and the entire planet. It even stretches out into balancing the entire universe!
thanks astro and i am trying my best IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 04:35 PM
quote: Originally posted by Malena: Good for you! I read through this whole thread just now and I was just biting my fingernails worrying. I was so relieved to read that you are cutting him off. You deserve so much better than him, sweetie.[b]Please be careful. The most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the abused partner decides to leave. Sometimes the abuser will get desperate and go to horrible lengths to stop that from happening. I am not trying to scare you by saying this. It sounds like you are taking every precaution and that is good. Don't stop. It's better to go a little overboard than risk your health or your life.[/B]
yes i know thanks for your support malena i am doing whatever i can to stay away. IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 04:37 PM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: Aquarqueen,oh my, what a nasty guy! But I am glad that you are doing the right steps, you really can be proud of yourself! And I also think that your way of dealing with it is setting a positive example for everyone reading here, who might be or come into a similiar situation.
he is a very nasty men ... and i hope i am setting a positive example i wouldn't want anyone to go through something like this at all ... thanks for your support ceri IP: Logged |
moonram Knowflake Posts: 36 From: Neptune Registered: May 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 09:14 PM
I came into this thread late so I have little to add, but I read all the responses & I'd like to comment that I'm glad you're OK, sassy Bronx lady =)IP: Logged |
sassaqua Knowflake Posts: 213 From: Australia Registered: May 2011
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posted July 22, 2011 11:08 PM
Congrats Aqua, well done  Stay smart and strong 
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aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 23, 2011 03:29 AM
quote: Originally posted by moonram: I came into this thread late so I have little to add, but I read all the responses & I'd like to comment that I'm glad you're OK, sassy Bronx lady =)
thank you moonram  IP: Logged |
aquarqueen Knowflake Posts: 94 From: bronx Registered: Jul 2011
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posted July 23, 2011 03:30 AM
quote: Originally posted by sassaqua: Congrats Aqua, well done  Stay smart and strong 
thank you & i will IP: Logged |