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Topic: Never been in a relationship... (Natal chart aspects)
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noblefish11
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posted October 04, 2011 08:29 PM
  
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OK I don't see Mars mentioned but from what is there I see a lot of romantic and sensitive energy. Aries/Libra/Pisces are all intensely romantic signs (and of course Venus planet of romance is strong for you) and all are quite sensitive to a certain extent..Pisces more than the others, but Aries is too. Aries ASC really drives home the fact that Aries types will identify with you and you'll easily draw them to you or vice versa.
The opp of ruler h5 to ruler h7 across asc/dsc says to me you need Libra Moon energy to get a relationship going (h5) but that your natural partnerships are really about showing you who you are in a more assertive manner, basically bypassing what your Libra Moon wants to feel comfy & to get its feet wet to be ready to walk into a space where relating can take place. Maybe you felt with those Aries types that that's what you would eventually be meeting in relationships but it felt like a sudden push that you weren't ready for? If you have Dsc ruler conj Asc I really think you do want the partner to be Arian in a strong way, to make a passion play for you as it were, to bring out your inner warrior, but the Aries Asc is sorta hampered in a way since it's conj Venus which is the complete opposite energy. Do you feel like on one level you want women to teach you how to be more assertive but at the same time you want them to lead you with a gentle sweet (Libra) hand? I don't personally think that you were completely turned off by the Aries from what I see. You prob just don't like gruff masculine energy cos it makes the Libra Moon do a sour face, get queasy and feel ill.
It sounds like with your friends you have no probs attracting feminine energy. I guess it may be more of a matter of meeting the right person who sparks you in a way but does not turn you off with macho energy.
Uranus into a tsquare adds more interest. I asked about a tsquare cos often they can be easily remedied when you incorporate the sign energy that is the missing leg. If yours is Cancer in the 4th (opp Uranus in 10th to complete grand cross) like it sounds then that to me obv. points to letting yourself be vulnerable and allowing yourself emotional expression since it will work to balance out the erratic Uranian energy that may cause some upset. You may be left acting out not knowing where to turn, why relationships end all of a sudden, why you can't feel comfy no matter what method you use, what can you grasp to feel safe and that safety can be found in going for an emotional connection. Cancer in the 4th is really digging deep tho, 4th is the private self so maybe there is something unacknowledged there in your past that plagues you, I don't know, but 4th is our roots so it says to go back to your roots and secure a stable home base for yourself where you both give and receive emotional support so you won't be so thrown by your Moon/Venus/Uranus and can have the energy moving instead of feeling stuck there. Cancer in the 4th is an incredibly emotionally expressive energy so if you don't already the remedy it says is to express emotion in the home with those close to you. I'm not gonna lie here, it could get ugly so your Libra/Venus energy has to be prepared, Cancer can store some really grimy and nasty feelings, but express it in a safe place and you will be rewarded since it will become a strength for you. Actually Venus/Libra can get in the way of this since Venus wants to put on a nice pleasant facade and just mingle, just be light and be adored. Cancer in the 4th says you're relying too much on appearances since it's sq Venus on Asc, you're being thrown emotionally by your partnerships since it's sq Moon near the Dsc and with the opp to Uranus h10 it can say that no matter how much you try to set yourself apart you are still a person with feelings who needs to remember that there is more to life than what the world thinks, it's also deep down (h4) what you think of yourself, what you know to be true that no one can tarnish or take away cos it's you saying you have soft spots that can be hurt. Your h10 rep could be ruined, hopes dashed, things like that happen, h10 is v.public spot but for you it doesn't guarantee any stability, so you need to reach inward to achieve that. I know I'm on a tangent here but I feel this may play a big part in some reconciling that tsquare people need to do."I just think at this point in my life, girls aren't looking for the type of guy that I am."
---This may be the case with younger women sometimes they get stuck in running after bad boys. They're not all like that ime. With the Uranus she's gonna need Aquarius/Uranus influences as well.
Also personal planets or asc opp your Uranus could be a big draw.[/B][/QUOTE] Thanks for the thorough reply Lonake! Sorry I forgot to mention my Mars... it's at 14 degrees Gemini, so it squares my Sun/Mercury and Sextiles my Venus. I think what you said makes a lot of sense to me. You hit it on the head I feel. With the Aries girl, I really just wasn't interested in her like that, as anything more than friends. But, I do agree with what you said: I need a girl to make me more of a man, if that makes any sense. I have a lot of feminine energy in my chart, and I need a girl to show interest in me to inspire my confidence. My Libran nature was very turned off both by the Aries and then by the other girl, who was actually an Aquarius. But that Aquarius had Sun conjunct her Ascendent, and that was too much confidence for me. I think my ideal girl would be an earth/water mix with a bit of air so we could have good conversations. It's funny what you mention both about Cancer and Aquarius-- The girl that I thought I wanted to be with last semester is an Aquarius with Cancer Rising... but that won't ever work out. I also was madly infatuated with a Cancer a couple years ago, but she was really shallow. Same thing happened to me last summer with a Cancer girl. So idk, my major attempts at love have been Cancer, Libra, and Aquarius... but I don't think anyone in my past will work out. I keep trying to tell myself that I will find someone in Grad school, so we'll see. But I really like what you said about Cancer and Aquarius, because I can see that. I just think it sounds like I need a bunch of things... I just hope I can find it. Thanks again for all your commentary! I never would have thought about it like that! IP: Logged |
Cecile
Knowflake Posts: 173
From: NY, NY, USA
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted October 04, 2011 10:43 PM
If I could make a suggestion to all of the people out there who haven't been in a relationship/never been kissed and are anxious about it. Please take a look at your juno transits and jupiter transits through the fifth and seventh house. These transits can suggest when serious relationships (almost marriage-level) are possible =) Best of luck!IP: Logged |
Earthbound37
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Registered: Oct 2010
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posted October 05, 2011 01:21 AM
I have to say, I'm surprised at the response to this thread. It's nice knowing there are others who can relate. The contributions have also been very interesting to read. quote:
Originally posted by Lonake:
I have to wonder here, do you guys ever meet people who feel energetically compatible with you? Cos I personally find that hard to fathom that in all these yrs no one fits the profile considering how many diff types of people there are out there. Not trying to be weird or rude but it's just a thought that popped into my head, I go for relationships guided by who I feel in tune with and there's always someone there when I'm ready. There prob shouldn't be according to astro cos I have Cap Venus sq Saturn, so maybe I use my Pisces Sun more to tune into people, I dunno. My point I guess is are you guys approaching it from an analytical perspective, adding pressure to it, or are you feeling it out as you go along, paying attn to other people or more stuck on yourselves?
Lonake, for the past year and a half, I haven't felt enough of a "spark" with anyone, which I think is essentially what us late-bloomers are looking for. But, yeah, it has happened before and should surely happen again... As noblefish11 said, patience is key, it's just easier said than done. As far as the approach is concerned, when there is someone that I'm attracted to, I definitely don't analyze anything about it. I just feel drawn to this person and want to know that person in the way that I haven't really known anyone else. I can't really say much else about the whole courting/dating aspect because I haven't experienced that. Regarding my own experience, I am indeed a little picky and my inhibitions are something that I'm just gonna have to get past. For some reason, I have never even been approached by a guy, so I guess I just have to take the intiative, which is something that I don't quite want to do. But, if my single-ness is that much of an issue, I will eventually, I suppose. For those in this thread that have been pursued, it may come down to compromising the idealism that we hold for the sake of experience. Lonake hinted at this a bit with the whole analytical approach thing, but maybe throw caution to the wind next time someone pursues you. Astrology isn't the end-all, be-all. Who knows what could happen if you just do it? IP: Logged | |
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