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Topic: Dead Capricorn, this is why you get cheated on
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lindisfarne
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From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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posted November 23, 2011 07:09 PM
  
Im not condoning unfaithfulness,
but you know i find it extremely evident with people who have Capricorn placements in personal planets and in personal houses, they all do the same thing: Put work/material possession and the acquisition of if before loved ones. Sure ambition is good, and whatnot but making loved ones suffer? This is the reason why they get cheated on, specifically the men. Why they are so "cautious" what they fail to grasp is that the little things count. They truly believe work and money is the access to happiness and if they finally get there it will make their loved ones happy. Wrong! When you're so busy wit work and money because you "think" it's what your partner wants and what will secure your relationship/happiness you begin to neglect loved ones, their needs and emotions. And this is exacty why they get cheated on. Because they neglect their partners emotionally and just dont get it. Am I wrong here? My boyfriend is like this, my ex friend is like this, my sisters ex bf is like this, a few of my Friends too, all have Capricorn in personal planets etc. What's worse is they think their way is not wrong. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 23, 2011 07:16 PM
I know some people are work orientated, but nothing justifies cheating on somebody you're supposedly committed to imo.
I think in terms of workaholic men it's always cappy and virgo men that worship their career lol.IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy
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posted November 23, 2011 07:24 PM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Im not condoning unfaithfulness,
but you know i find it extremely evident with people who have Capricorn placements in personal planets and in personal houses, they all do the same thing: Put work/material possession and the acquisition of if before loved ones. Sure ambition is good, and whatnot but making loved ones suffer? This is the reason why they get cheated on, specifically the men. Why they are so "cautious" what they fail to grasp is that the little things count. They truly believe work and money is the access to happiness and if they finally get there it will make their loved ones happy. Wrong! When you're so busy wit work and money because you "think" it's what your partner wants and what will secure your relationship/happiness you begin to neglect loved ones, their needs and emotions. And this is exacty why they get cheated on. Because they neglect their partners emotionally and just dont get it. Am I wrong here? My boyfriend is like this, my ex friend is like this, my sisters ex bf is like this, a few of my Friends too, all have Capricorn in personal planets etc. What's worse is they think their way is not wrong.
I agree with you. I know (or have known) a lot of people with placements in the sign, and a lot of times for them love isn't the bottom line, but money, what other people think, so on and so forth. Which means that yeah, they'll put making money in front of the people in their life; or they'll choose dates/mates, based largely on whether or not they think that person is socially acceptable to others and will improve their status. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted November 23, 2011 07:25 PM
Being a woman with Moon&Mars in Cap - I'll be completely honest -- Do you know what bothers me most?
That they get away with it because they are men. They will always find a little wifey to take care of everything in the background while they focus on their career.
Whereas as a woman you always have to do a million things and try to be all things to all people. Life doesn't really let you focus on your career even if you want to. Actually, Cap-influenced men have it pretty good in this patriarchal world..
But I can definitely understand that it would be frustrating and upsetting if they 'pick' you out to be the wifey figure.. and then emotionally neglect you. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Registered: Oct 2011
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posted November 23, 2011 07:29 PM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Being a woman with Moon&Mars in Cap - I'll be completely honest -- Do you know what bothers me most?
That they get away with it because they are men. They will always find a little wifey to take care of everything in the background while they focus on their career.
Whereas as a woman you always have to do a million things and try to be all things to all people. Life doesn't really let you focus on your career even if you want to. Actually, Cap-influenced men have it pretty good in this patriarchal world..
But I can definitely understand that it would be frustrating and upsetting if they 'pick' you out to be the wifey figure.. and then emotionally neglect you.
Yes!!!!!!! It's awful! I always read about this and laughed and thought "there is no way this is true."
WRONG! It is. I'm going to have a long talk with my boyfriend because I feel absolutely neglected! They are stingy too! They are stingy with emotional affection they will give you just enough and than bam back to being aloof and work focused. It's like "hello?!?! I'm alive too!!" I feel bad for the women! Can you imagine what flack they get lol IP: Logged |
Malena
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posted November 23, 2011 07:29 PM
If you don't like the Capricorn style, there's a very simple solution... don't get romantically involved with them.I can't stand it when people cheat and then blame the person they cheated on. I understand that sometimes situations are complicated, but take responsibility for your actions. Half the time it's just a case of somebody wanting to have their cake and eat it too (i.e. they want the nice domestic life and fun on the side, and then they whine when they get caught). IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 23, 2011 07:32 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
I know some people are work orientated, but nothing justifies cheating on somebody you're supposedly committed to imo.
I think in terms of workaholic men it's always cappy and virgo men that worship their career lol.
You are right, I in no way support cheatin but I am really just saying this behavior of theirs is the exact reason why they get cheated on. I'm lucky iI have Aquarius in me to get me to detach and focus on other things, because if I was only influenced by Pisces I would honestly cheat on this guy. I'm being honest here. My Pisces moon/Venus in first house is suffering!! LOL! I have to retreat to my mind to make up for this freaking neglecting.I hear you on Cap and Virgo. I didn't know it was this bad. Now I feel for all the people who shared their stories about this similar issue. it's like they choose the perfect women for wifey trophies and neglect them in some way. They "care" and probably "deeply" but the wifey/trophy has to put up with it. Has to put up with this emotional aloofness etc. It's awful  IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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posted November 23, 2011 07:37 PM
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Originally posted by Malena:
If you don't like the Capricorn style, there's a very simple solution... don't get romantically involved with them.I can't stand it when people cheat and then blame the person they cheated on. I understand that sometimes situations are complicated, but take responsibility for your actions. Half the time it's just a case of somebody wanting to have their cake and eat it too (i.e. they want the nice domestic life and fun on the side, and then they whine when they get caught).
I'm not saying cheating is okay. I made it very clear since you missed that. I am saying when you emotionally neglect especially a woman can you really always expect them not to wander? Im not an unfaithful person but I can understand the method in this madness. I can understand why a woman would be inclined to find emotional comfort/support elsewhere when she is with a Capricorn or someone with Capricorn/Saturn placements in personal placements. It's not okay, of corse it's not but I completely understand it. It's okay to be ambitious but is it really worth it when you neglect the people you love emotionally? can you really enjoy all that money and success when you and your partner are cold as ice because of the lack of emotional intimacy/connectivity? I don't think so. I'm devoted to him, it's just something I'm not used to and I empathize with people who have been through this a whole lot. But yes my sisters ex she cheated on him because of it. I get why. it's not right but I get it. IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted November 23, 2011 07:42 PM
Malena.... I may be wrong but I assume your'e a Cap?IP: Logged |
Capriquarius
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posted November 23, 2011 07:48 PM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
I am saying when you emotionally neglect especially a woman can you really always expect them not to wander?
I would expect him or her to dump me cold and THEN go find some Libra or someone else who suits them. I'm a Cap and did this to a Sag (progressed sun in Cap) with Cap Venus.Sounds like this is your most efficient option too. Don't mind his feelings; Cap guys don't have any, right?  Kidding. But seriously, he can take it. IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted November 23, 2011 07:50 PM
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mintgirl123
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posted November 23, 2011 07:51 PM
I know right? Dump somebody before getting entangled with sb else. Cos finding out sb you care about cheated on you is a pain I don't even wish upon an enemy (esp if you love them, just really screws a person up emotionally). And the OP's bf is quite cancer-y actually. So he's probably pretty emotional and sensitive and yeah.. IP: Logged |
Libreo
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posted November 23, 2011 07:51 PM
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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by lindisfarne:
I am saying when you emotionally neglect especially a woman can you really always expect them not to wander?
I would expect him or her to dump me cold and THEN go find some Libra or someone else who suits them. I'm a Cap and did this to a Sag (progressed sun in Cap) with Cap Venus.Sounds like this is your most efficient option too. Don't mind his feelings; Cap guys don't have any, right? Kidding. But seriously, he can take it. [/QUOTE] Why Libra? IP: Logged |
Capriquarius
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posted November 23, 2011 07:57 PM
Mintgirl123: yeah, it's just common sense. quote:
Originally posted by Libreo:
Why Libra?
Or Gemini, I dunno...just some other sign. Because I suppose they would know what's important.IP: Logged |
Malena
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posted November 23, 2011 07:58 PM
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Originally posted by Libreo:
Malena.... I may be wrong but I assume your'e a Cap?
Nah, I'm a Scorpio. Cap Mars though. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 23, 2011 07:58 PM
She's an aquarius with pisces placements. I think you should find a cusp person!! IP: Logged |
Cynnared
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posted November 23, 2011 08:07 PM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Im not condoning unfaithfulness,
but you know i find it extremely evident with people who have Capricorn placements in personal planets and in personal houses, they all do the same thing: Put work/material possession and the acquisition of if before loved ones. Sure ambition is good, and whatnot but making loved ones suffer? This is the reason why they get cheated on, specifically the men. Why they are so "cautious" what they fail to grasp is that the little things count. They truly believe work and money is the access to happiness and if they finally get there it will make their loved ones happy. Wrong! When you're so busy wit work and money because you "think" it's what your partner wants and what will secure your relationship/happiness you begin to neglect loved ones, their needs and emotions. And this is exacty why they get cheated on. Because they neglect their partners emotionally and just dont get it. Am I wrong here? My boyfriend is like this, my ex friend is like this, my sisters ex bf is like this, a few of my Friends too, all have Capricorn in personal planets etc. What's worse is they think their way is not wrong.
I have a very strong personal Cappy placement and this is far from my truth about material possession etc being put first over family - though I have a 4th house south node and I sacrifice alot to my family. they come 1st and my career has been in shambles......
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 23, 2011 08:07 PM
I just don't share your opinion. Not here to debate with you to no end, but I disagree. What you have is a generalization that does not always hold true. I am a provider. I'm Capricorn in Sun, Mars and Mercury, and in House 10 too. Plus Taurus in House 2 and Jupiter in House 1. I provide my family with the very best of what I can, and they are happy. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 23, 2011 08:10 PM
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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by lindisfarne:
I am saying when you emotionally neglect especially a woman can you really always expect them not to wander?
I would expect him or her to dump me cold and THEN go find some Libra or someone else who suits them. I'm a Cap and did this to a Sag (progressed sun in Cap) with Cap Venus.Sounds like this is your most efficient option too. Don't mind his feelings; Cap guys don't have any, right? Kidding. But seriously, he can take it. [/QUOTE] Mk but this isn't about me.
I'm saying I understand why they cheat on cap.
It doesn't apply to me. I dnno why I have to clarify this either... it's wrong but understandable of course cowards who want their cake and wanna eat it to won't dump the person. all I'm saying is I UNDERSTAND lol what's so hard to get about that geez I don't wanna repeat myself IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 23, 2011 08:12 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I just don't share your opinion. Not here to debate with you to no end, but I disagree. What you have is a generalization that does not always hold true. I am a provider. I'm Capricorn in Sun, Mars and Mercury, and in House 10 too. Plus Taurus in House 2 and Jupiter in House 1. I provide my family with the very best of what I can, and they are happy.
may be a generalization
but it's my own experience add the fact that i know lots of people with cap placements who for left/cheated on for this exact reason.Generalization maybe? But it seems alittle factual for me considering the overwhelming evidence and personal experience I have. So yeah. IP: Logged |
Malena
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posted November 23, 2011 08:13 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
What you have is a generalization that does not always hold true.
^ This ^ Sometimes, maybe you just aren't suited to a particular sign or energy. Like, I've had bad experiences with Libras. But I recognize that some of that is what I'm bringing to the table. My Saturn and Pluto are in Libra. That affects my interactions and experiences with them. Someone who doesn't have these placements might interact with exactly the same person and come away with a different experience/lesson. If you are repeating a particular relationship pattern, you have to look to yourself too. You're the common denominator. To blame a particular star sign and say "this is why you get cheated on"... I think that's a huge overgeneralization. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 23, 2011 08:15 PM
I am pretty 168687% certain that no one in this world who loves someone, wants to be neglected ever. especially over money. So it hurts I get it, I can accept it and communicatebut I'm saying I get why someone would feel neglected enough to cheat. I'm not and never have said being unfaithful is the answer because it never is. I'm saying I understand, it's not the proper way to go about it because its selfish and you should just leave the person if you are anywhere near wanting to be unfaithful... but I'm saying I get it, it hurts. I myself would never cheat on anyone not even for this reason. I love Capricorns especially lunar caps... they work hard and that's great too and they care a lot it's just not easy for em to show it. However this placing work and money over loved ones isn't good either. Balance maybe?? IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 23, 2011 08:16 PM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
Generalization maybe? But it seems alittle factual for me considering the overwhelming evidence and personal experience I have. So yeah.
I'm sorry that your experience has been rotten. Perhaps we can talk through this and quell your frustrations somewhat. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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From: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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posted November 23, 2011 08:19 PM
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Originally posted by Malena:
^ This ^Sometimes, maybe you just aren't suited to a particular sign or energy. Like, I've had bad experiences with Libras. But I recognize that some of that is what I'm bringing to the table. My Saturn and Pluto are in Libra. That affects my interactions and experiences with them. Someone who doesn't have these placements might interact with exactly the same person and come away with a different experience/lesson. If you are repeating a particular relationship pattern, you have to look to yourself too. You're the common denominator. To blame a particular star sign and say "this is why you get cheated on"... I think that's a huge overgeneralization.
Obviously you're a cap LOL! It's my experience.. just repeating it since you are obviously overlooking very important words here.
My experience. I have overwhelming evidence that states Capricorn placements in personal planets/houses all seem to end up with the same predicament - being left/cheated on cause they don't know balance and neglect their loved ones. Key words here:
Personal, experience, evidence, overwhelming. I'm not saying all of them are like this but from my experience all the people I know with cap in their personal planets having it effect them a lot end up with this conclusion. Maybe someone left you/cheated on you because of it, who knows! Lesson here, don't neglect loved ones. Thats all. IP: Logged |
lindisfarne
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posted November 23, 2011 08:24 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I'm sorry that your experience has been rotten. Perhaps we can talk through this and quell your frustrations somewhat.
What? It was rotten.
I know people as I stated in the op which a lot of you obviously didn't read lol.......
I have friends, ex friend, sisters ex bf cap with cap placements all got cheated on cause they neglect loved ones. Thats what I meant. Im obviously smart enough to know not all caps are like this but thus far it's what its come out to be . If anything i feel sorry for them. This ia probably why they are sooooo cautious and scared to open up! Because they keep getting left behind/cheated on, until they learn to balance and make time for loved ones even a little then they will continue with this. Its not unfortunate for me because I don't cheat on people. Unfortunate for them? Yeah. My Sis is a Taurus sun her ex was a cap sun Venus and rising I think can't remember, he was a good guy devoted but he was rarely there always working and stuff... my sis cheated on him she hated it that he was always not there for her emotionally, I don't agree with her action but I get why she felt that way. it hurts. IP: Logged |
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