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Topic: Have you been cheated on?
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lindisfarne
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posted November 25, 2011 03:47 PM
  
What was their chart like?I've seen posts about some posters having trust issues because their former partners cheated on them, I want to make this thread so that you all can come together, share stories, (vent if you have too?) and post any key placements or aspects you found interesting?
Im not saying everyone with so and so placements are prone to cheating but its interesting stuff. So post away! And did you ever take back a cheater? Did they change? IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 25, 2011 04:15 PM
Okay these are the aspects that should make someone waryVenus square mars--way they love and way they express their energy/sexual energy clashes, so they don't feel at ease, ever.
Mars square uranus---really impulsive! Kinda thrill seeking
sun opposition uranus---loves too much freedom, can't be pinned down
Sun opposition neptune---dreamy and has alot of boundary issues
Sun opposition saturn----gives low self esteem (most cheaters cheat cos they're insecure within themselves)
Gem placements-- esp in moon, venus and mercury --(flighty, loves stimulation, not grounded, lying tendencies) Yip all in one guy too lol. Also if their chart is all mutable, or mostly mutable. Having a fixed moon does nothing. They will just be stubborn in their opinions, doesn't make them loyal. I was cheated on by the first guy I ever loved too (still to this day the only guy). Thought he was the one. And being a virgo, I wouldn't just say that. I'm cynical afterall. =( Took it really hard. Frankly, I'd glad I'm still alive lol! Seeing how painful it was for over a year. This happened last year, it's been 16ish months and I can't say for certain I'm over the pain.
They don't change. I had to learn it the hard way. Disappointments really suck, and they get old, fast.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted November 25, 2011 04:18 PM
Been cheated on several times. I would never take back a cheater. Once, and that's the end. Same with my wife.But my first love was the most painful. She was my first true love and I genuinely wanted to marry her. Sun in Gemini
Moon in Aries
Mars in Libra
Venus in Cancer
Jupiter in Leo
Neptune in Scorpio
Saturn in Aries
Mercury in Cancer
Uranus in Virgo
Ascendant Taurus Sun Trine Mars
Sun Sextile Saturn
Sun Square Pluto
Moon Square Venus
Moon Square Jupiter
Mercury Square Saturn
Venus Conjunction Jupiter
Venus Trine Neptune
Mars Opposition Saturn
Uranus Sextile Neptune
Uranus Conjunction Pluto She slept with my *best childhood male friend.* While I was in the military undergoing an extended period of training, she also got pregnant with his child, and he ditched her. She was not even 15 years old! I had never touched her out of love for her. Then she wanted me to love her again and support her fatherless child. I couldn't take the pain. I was 18 years old. I positively hated all women for about a year. I mellowed out eventually after a while in the military and stopped being so bitter. IP: Logged |
maira
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posted November 25, 2011 04:23 PM
My ex-husband had:Prominent Neptune; on the Ascendant, opposite Moon.
Moon in Gemini.
Venus conjunct Mars in Libra.
Stellium in house 11.
The nicest and easiest chart I've ever seen 
(everything, and I mean it literally, was a conjunction or a trine; one opposition, one square) Nah, they don't change. You either accept them for who they are and come up with a solution (open marriage, whatever) or leave. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 25, 2011 06:26 PM
My ex-boyfriend did too. He was a Leo with a Sag moon and Cap rising but on top of that he had Neptune also on the ASC.IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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posted November 25, 2011 06:46 PM
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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
What was their chart like?I've seen posts about some posters having trust issues because their former partners cheated on them, I want to make this thread so that you all can come together, share stories, (vent if you have too?) and post any key placements or aspects you found interesting?
Im not saying everyone with so and so placements are prone to cheating but its interesting stuff. So post away! And did you ever take back a cheater? Did they change?
Thankfully I don't have trust issues related to infidelity, I have trust issues because I'm neurotic and suspicious by nature (8th House Mercury)  . But I have been cheated on just once. We had just started our relationship. It was a friends birthday and we all went out and got very drunk. I ended up getting sick and had to go home and rest. He ended up going home with my roommate and he was at our place when I woke up. To my surprise they slept together however kept it a secret. He acted like nothing had happened. A week or so later my best friend revealed the truth assuming that I had already known. I was shocked and couldn't believe he and my roommate had made a fool out of me by doing such a deceitful act. I ended my relationship with him and I ended my friendship with her and moved to a new apartment. He pleaded with me to reconsider ending the relationship and I refused. The whole scenario disgusted me and I couldn't look at either of them the same. I didn't give him time to change because it was a new relationship and that would be pointless. I'm someone who respects you the minute I meet you but if you do things to challenge that respect then I slowly lose respect and interest. It's the Venus in Leo in me talking. It's not my ego that gets hurt it's my heart because I invest so much in relationships. My Chart:
Libra Sun
Aries Moon
Mercury Libra
Venus Leo
Mars Aries His Chart:
Cancer Sun
Aries Moon
Mercury Gemini
Venus Gemini
Mars Pisces IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 25, 2011 06:51 PM
My ex has same placements ^ cept with scorpio moon, he couldn't change. It's who he was as a person- somebody that had major integrity issues and lack of a moral compass.IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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posted November 25, 2011 07:03 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
My ex has same placements ^ cept with scorpio moon
Uh Oh. I'm seeing a pattern... It's crazy because I enjoy Mercury in Gemini/Venus in Gemini's usually but I've noticed I can only handle them as friends, not in relationships. Unless there's something to ground or balance them out, in my experience those Gemini's can be fickle and flighty. When it comes to Air Signs or Airy people I stick to Aquarians. I know they're Aliens but I speak their language as a Libra Sun, Aquarius Rising. We get each others insanity which is truly a blissful connection. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 25, 2011 07:10 PM
Yeah! I can only stick to libras and aquarius now, I have alot of libra so I'm attracted to the gem traits, but never again -_- esp not a scorpio moon too. They're so hard to handle!IP: Logged |
downtomars
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posted November 25, 2011 07:20 PM
I was cheated on by a Scorpio. We were off and on for almost two years and during the last off period (“on a break”) he started seeing someone else but then he got back “on” with me and he was trying to still keep things going with the other girl. That doesn’t work, especially in the internet age. I saw something she wrote him on Myspace so I wrote her and told her all about his crazy azz. She wanted to be friends with me after that (She is a Libra), but that would have been too weird. I was actually relieved, I needed a reason to break up with this guy for good and there was no way I would go back with a cheater. He was “born in the evening” as his mom was “about to have dinner” so I am not sure about his AC. 5pm-7pm looks like Gemini though. His Moon was definitely in Pisces but these were his placements and aspects (lots of conjunctions): Venus in Libra/Mars in Sagittarius
Sun conjunct Uranus (orb 1)
Venus conjunct Pluto (orb 1)
Mars conjunct Neptune (orb 4)
Jupiter conjunct Saturn (in Libra, orb 3)
Only square is Jupiter sq Mars (orb 8) I was unknowingly a cheatee once, with a Leo for a couple of months (I was 20 and he was older and this was pre-the everyone has a cell phone days). I actually found out by snooping around his place, which I only did it because I noticed there were two last names on his mailbox. He had a couple of nice drawers full of women’s clothes, one covering a framed picture of the two of them! Oh yeah, he was on a break too (karma?)... Unknown tob but he had Venus and Mars in Virgo, not conjunct and Venus square Neptune exact… IP: Logged |
malicefey
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posted November 25, 2011 07:23 PM
Here's the chart of a "player": 
He broke up with my close friend after a 5 year relationship just so he can go and date 3 different girls at the same time. He didn't cheat on my friend when he was with her, but he was SOOO FLIRTY. And to add onto that, he was not bad looking, so all girls loved him. My friend had suffered alot, even when she was with him because he couldn't stop flirting with girls.
He would go clubbing just to find girls and exchange phone numbers with them, and maybe later on just "**** around with them" - the way he puts it. IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 25, 2011 07:41 PM
^ the gem venus and merc lol... and venus opposition uranus eek. He probably did cheat. Some people are very good at keeping it on the down low. Not all air signs cheat, I find libras can be loyal, esp if paired with a stable mars sign (cap, virgo, taurus) IP: Logged |
psytaurus
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posted November 25, 2011 07:49 PM
I was cheated on in my first relationship. It was towards the end, although I was completely unware and didn't have a clue at that time. He had been dating someone for months before he had the courage to break up with me. And like the moron that I was, I didn't understand why. He didn't have the guts to tell me that he'd fallen for someone else. We just needed a break, he told me. I guess he wanted to secure that relationship before he dumped me.His chart:
Sun in Virgo
Moon & Mercury in Libra
Venus in Leo
Mars Rx in Aries
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Fondue Knight
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posted November 25, 2011 07:51 PM
^^That player is two days younger than my sister  IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted November 25, 2011 07:58 PM
Eughhh.. mine was my first BF.. We had a baby together and we were living together..It was with his HS girlfried.. He married her like a month after I moved out of the house..
But getting him out of my life, was the best thing that ever happen to me... I actually felt sorry for her! lol I said poor girl, she dont know what she's in for..
Cap sun/merc
Sag ven
Pis mars
can moon Neptune sq mars
sun/venus sq pluto
moon/sun sq uranus
mercuru opps moon...
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defeat
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posted November 26, 2011 03:37 PM
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Originally posted by NativelyJoan:
Uh Oh. I'm seeing a pattern...It's crazy because I enjoy Mercury in Gemini/Venus in Gemini's usually but I've noticed I can only handle them as friends, not in relationships. Unless there's something to ground or balance them out, in my experience those Gemini's can be fickle and flighty. When it comes to Air Signs or Airy people I stick to Aquarians. I know they're Aliens but I speak their language as a Libra Sun, Aquarius Rising. We get each others insanity which is truly a blissful connection.
i kinda think it has less to do with the air signs and more with the pisces mars.
the pisces mars people i found to be some of the worse cheaters
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RegardesPlatero
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posted November 26, 2011 06:17 PM
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scrappydog
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posted November 26, 2011 10:17 PM
I have venus square neptune and am kinda a magnet for cheats and charlatans of all sorts lol. I have the main aspects anyone (male or female) should watch out for in anothers chart. And this is not just based on people I have been with,, I have put quite a bit of study into this predicament.
1. Gemini placements(needs variety, easily bored, deciet and double dealing comes naturally)
2. Sag placements(needs variety and excitement)
3. Venus-mars hard aspects(very spontanious and hyper sexual)
4. Moon-uranus hard aspects esp the square(unstable and easily changeable)
5. Venus-uranus hard aspects esp the square(need variety and excitement, becomes bored, can be perverse)
6. Mars-uranus hard aspects(again very excitment orientated and spontanious)
7. Venus-neptune hard aspects (intense longing for the unattainable, although they often attract it in others instead and become victims)
8. Mars-neptune hard aspects (again can become victims themselves, weak willed and very open to suggestion!)
9. Uranus, neptune in the 7th or 8th house(especially the 7th).IP: Logged |
scrappydog
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posted November 26, 2011 10:20 PM
With neptune aspects to venus or mars I also forgot to add that there is intense sexual fantasy and an ideal that no living person can really live up to. If they are not cheating on you in real life then they are often carrying on the love affair of their life in their head...while they are making do with you. lol.IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
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posted November 26, 2011 10:23 PM
^ I don't think sag placements suggests cheating tendencies. They like freedom... yes, but they're honest about it, and if you're chill and laid back, give them space, they're not going to feel smothered.
And when they commit to you, they do commit well. I guess I'm talking more sun in sag and venus.It has come to my attention that my dad has sun square uranus and moon square uranus, and he's not a cheat at all. He's responsible and reliable. His uranus aspects manifests in the way he finds it easy to think outside of the box, doesn't just conform, and is really quick witted and smart. However, it might be cos he has alot of fixed signs. aquarius asc, scorpio sun, moon, mercury, neptune. He has a cap venus and cancer mars. Also I thought venus conjunct mars in natal just suggested someone with intense emotions and is quite sexual? Doesn't mean it's a bad thing, it's only the square and opposition that are problematic.
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amelia28
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posted November 26, 2011 10:52 PM
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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Venus square mars--way they love and way they express their energy/sexual energy clashes, so they don't feel at ease, ever. Gem placements-- esp in moon, venus and mercury --(flighty, loves stimulation, not grounded, lying tendencies)
hubby has venus square mars and is true I feel he has never given his heart in bed fully to me because his venus and mars energy at are odds but he does love me very much its just that him not been able to blend venus and mars energy well puts quite a damper on our sex life for me since my venus conjuncts my mars so for me these two energies are one and blend with no problem. He also has moon in gemini and gemini rising which make him very talkative and intellectual combined with virgo in the 5th making him want to schedule sex, not spontaneous. I have to accept him as is and work with him but this incompatibilities between our styles and priorities have led to me cheating. I give myself emotionally bc of venus in cancer and physically bc of mars in leo when I have sex. On top of this my venus and mars conjunct each other by one degree so sex is like a body and soul blending together type of thing for me and for him is more intellectual and something he is not spontaneous about or feels completely at ease with(libra in mars square leo in venus and virgo in the 5th). He has never cheated though and I gave him a free pass which he refuses to use but told him pass doesn't expire.
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amelia28
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posted November 26, 2011 10:58 PM
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Originally posted by scrappydog:
With neptune aspects to venus or mars I also forgot to add that there is intense sexual fantasy and an ideal that no living person can really live up to. If they are not cheating on you in real life then they are often carrying on the love affair of their life in their head...while they are making do with you. lol.
I have venus/mars trine neptune and you are onto something but I have found this ideal partner in bed twice in my life and when I do I only fantasize about that person and only that person and want to be only with that person and nobody else mentally and physically. Hence venus/mars aspects to neptune can be extremely faithful with right partner that meets their need for spiritual/soul union type of sex.
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RedScorp
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posted November 27, 2011 12:41 AM
Why yes, I have been cheated on! I dunno, I may be polyamorous, so it really didn't bug me.I says to her "Did you at least enjoy it?" She says to me "Yes, no, I did but I'm guilty, I hate myself over it. I'm breaking up with you." IP: Logged |
Maka
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posted November 27, 2011 04:38 AM
I cheated once this summer for the first time..nope never again.For those contemplating to cheat, it's not worth it. It doesn't matter how many excuses or lies you want to tell yourself to justify cheating the end result is always hellish. Just leave or grow a pair of balls and state "Hey I got needs that need to be met too!" It's a sexual urge that can be easily solved with a creative mind. So yes I'm one of those cheaters who will never cheat again. And yes I owned up to it and he left me, but I brought it on myself and now I'm in a self revelation mode and I've been celibate for three months. Been there done that, don't need to put myself or my loved one through it again. And yes I've been cheated on with my best friend, I forgave her and it took her ages to gain my trust back, but now she has it..she ***** it up again..friendship is terminated like I terminated the douche bag. -out- IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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