posted November 28, 2011 04:47 PM            

I used to have a boss (female), an Aquarius with Mars in Aries, and every time I messed up I felt like she was going to punch me. She'd be all in my face, way too up close and personal.

Conclusion: I just can't deal with them. I pretend to give in and then go do what I want.

posted November 28, 2011 04:52 PM            

Leo prideful perhaps..

posted November 28, 2011 05:06 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
How come any time you try to talk to them about an issue they never let you finish without exploding it into something it is not, they over-power your voice, will deny any kind of accusation (mostly true) deny any responsibility and will most often resort to physical violence to get you to leave them alone while in conversation?

I know two Aries suns with Aries mars who do this, one of them had a Leo moon and other Aries placements.
Aries suns paired with any other fire placements what's the best way to come to you about issues (communication something healthy people in healthy relationships do) without you shutting down and attacking them verbally/physically? How can these people expect to be in any healthy relationship when their partners try to talk to them and are instead getting bullied and at worse hit on (physical violence)?

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Richard Kuklinski had an Aries sun with a Leo moon. He was one the mob's most infamous hitman during the 70's, 80's and early 90's. Killed at LEAST 500 men, and was barely traceable until his arrest in '92 (could be wrong on that.) Look up "The Ice Man"...

I'm an Aries with a Taurus moon but I only get that way with my mother. Really, it's just my mother. My dad and I get along great and have the same way of thinking. My mother? Not so much. When I need compassion and intuitive/empathic understanding I get harsh criticism and nitpicking. Nitpicking will bug an Aries the most. We see it as petty even if you think it's important. Little things can be left up to the individual to do themselves but what's important is the bigger picture (to Arians).

I'm often accused of having trouble communicating and am just now starting to realize what they mean. I wonder if other Arians are the following way as well. For instance, Aries are very blunt but I only find myself being blunt about things I have no stake in. When it comes to things that truly matter to me (like relationships) I pussy-foot around it and drop subtle hints. It bothers me when people aren't intuitive enough to be self-aware or be conscientious. When someone won't listen to me when I'm clearly trying to answer their plight ...that can really set me off! At that point I realize the person is nagging just to hear their own voice and not to really solve anything which then makes me realize I've been wasting my time so far and I get upset that there's no give and take. I only become enraged when someone won't leave me alone when clearly nothing is getting solved.

posted November 28, 2011 05:12 PM            

Aries Sun, Venus and Mars conjunct, Mercury in Pisces.

posted November 28, 2011 05:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
Omg, it's the Mars in Aries. My father is a Pisces with this Mars and he is constantly poking and shoving whoever he talks to. Or rather, talks AT. And he takes every challenge so personally.

I used to have a boss (female), an Aquarius with Mars in Aries, and every time I messed up I felt like she was going to punch me. She'd be all in my face, way too up close and personal.

Conclusion: I just can't deal with them. I pretend to give in and then go do what I want.

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posted November 28, 2011 05:24 PM            

She really went over the top this week though. All sorts of things really, then she went off for a weeks holiday. She is blunt AND nitpicky herself. I have similar chart placements however we have a terrible composite with things like a venus saturn (cold feelings towards each other) and not enough venus or jupiter to make up for it. There is a saturn pluto square which is very tight at 2 degree and this is like being chained together.

After her ringing me out of hours, sending me an email MISSIVE out of hours and giving me extra hours without consulting me; then arriving at work with her shortcut list of how we are not meeting her expectations I am ready to walk or be fired and unemployment used to faze me but with my work ethic and CV I should pick something else up and to be fair most anything else would be an improvement.

posted November 28, 2011 05:25 PM            

I think it's good to look at the 3rd house, Mercury and what Gemini controls as well, as these are all in control of communication.

I think I would agree with what others are saying with Mars in Aries, but also look at hard aspects to Mars. My Mars is square my Mercury but my Mercury is in Pisces... communication challenges but no violence. I end up more upset with myself than anything.

posted November 28, 2011 05:28 PM            

I have Mars in Aries in the 1st and I have never nor would ever raise my voice at anyone or assert violence. I'm disgusted by violence and always choose diplomacy and tact when thrust into an argument. AND I have the strongest Mars in Aries placement of all being at home in the First House.

Singletons alone do not make a person violent or aggressive. It can't be stated enough that you've got to take into consideration the entire chart including aspects and house placements. I've known one volatile Mars in Aries person and they had dominant Capricorn and Saturn in their chart. They weren't physically abusive but they weren't afraid of biting your head off verbally. I had to distance myself from this person because it became to much to be around them. I don't blame their Mars in Aries for this behavior I've taken their whole chart into consideration and understand unfortunately that's just who they are.

posted November 28, 2011 05:34 PM            

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but I'm wondering with these specific Aries how can you talk to them? Without them bullying others?

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You can't. If someone is really like this all the time (regardless of sign) - they have issues.. and I don't think there is a "how-to" manual in making them a better person.

I'm sorry.

posted November 28, 2011 05:35 PM            

i know a LOT of Aries, they are probably the most common sign in my life. my dad is an Aries, my mom has Aries moon, i have many many Aries friends..have had lovers and boyfriends who were Aries, too..

posted November 28, 2011 06:10 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
How come any time you try to talk to them about an issue they never let you finish without exploding it into something it is not, they over-power your voice, will deny any kind of accusation (mostly true) deny any responsibility and will most often resort to physical violence to get you to leave them alone while in conversation?

I know two Aries suns with Aries mars who do this, one of them had a Leo moon and other Aries placements.
Aries suns paired with any other fire placements what's the best way to come to you about issues (communication something healthy people in healthy relationships do) without you shutting down and attacking them verbally/physically? How can these people expect to be in any healthy relationship when their partners try to talk to them and are instead getting bullied and at worse hit on (physical violence)?

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The thread title made me laugh lol.

I've interacted with a lot of Aries-influenced people and yeah, they're pretty combative. It's pretty much something you have to expect out of the sign, frankly. Always expect BS, always expect to have to tell them "I'm not gonna argue with you", always expect SOMEthing.

posted November 28, 2011 06:42 PM            

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Originally posted by amelia28:
hubby has mars conjunct uranus square venus with aries in the 12th cusp. You look at him and the last thing you think is that he has anger management issues. He looks like he can't kill a fly. He is not dangerous but doesn't know how to handle his anger and screams and breaks things and he gets irritated easily with people. He also has moon in the 1st house so he is moody. All these combinations result in him having ugly adult temper tantrums is how I view it.

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Hey Amelia
I always wondered about the mars conjunct Uranus aspect I have read it could indatce erratic behavior mostly serious anger problems and someone having a hard time controlling it? does he have mars and Uranus in Aries..? or ? and square Venus? do you think a conjunction would amplify whatever energy exists?

posted November 28, 2011 07:09 PM            

Especially annoying coming from a Taurus guy with Venus in Aries. So if some Taurus guy with Venus in Aries stumbles across this via Google: Hi Mr. Taurus, the next time you tell some chick she's boring or looks bored, TAKE A LOOK AT YOURSELF. If you weren't essentially passive and boring in nature then maybe you wouldn't project all of your desire for vibrance onto some anima in order to fill that void! Learn to develop these traits of initiative and energy and vibrance in yourself.

That is one way to really annoy an Aqua Moon: tell them how they should be feeling. If I'm bored then I'm bored and act bored and I'm not going to be more "animated" just to entertain you!

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posted November 28, 2011 07:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
This thread reminds me of something that really gets to me about guys with Venus in Aries. They expect girls to be upbeat and happy! And if you're tired or bored or just deep in thought, they point that out as though there's something wrong with that.

Especially annoying coming from a Taurus guy with Venus in Aries. So if some Taurus guy with Venus in Aries stumbles across this via Google: Hi Mr. Taurus, the next time you tell some chick she's boring or looks bored, TAKE A LOOK AT YOURSELF. If you weren't essentially passive and boring in nature then maybe you wouldn't project all of your desire for vibrance onto some anima in order to fill that void! Learn to develop these traits of initiative and energy and vibrance in yourself.

That is one way to really annoy an Aqua Moon: tell them how they should be feeling. If I'm bored then I'm bored and act bored and I'm not going to be more "animated" just to entertain you!

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@ thread: Lindisfarne, my mother is astrologically similar to you. She is a double Aquarius with strong Saturn influence and a water Moon. Mars in Aries has not been good for her emotionally. You'd think that Aqua and Aries are compatible because they're air and fire, but Aquarius' need for challenging the norm doesn't always go over well with Aries because they see it as another chance at a fight, not simply entertaining a thought.

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Wow that sucks did you guys go out on a date or something? Haha I find that when someone calls you out on "being Boring" when you are just in thought thu are the boring ones! They dont know how to be exciting or entertaining to they get off on calling you boring for simply thinking. I share your frustration... I've met people like that... they were the boring ones..

posted November 28, 2011 07:35 PM            

^ that's paraphrased from "The Art of Predictive Astrology" by Carol Rushman

You will at least have the energy to be more socially active than usual.

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Wow that sucks did you guys go out on a date or something? Haha I find that when someone calls you out on "being Boring" when you are just in thought thu are the boring ones! They dont know how to be exciting or entertaining to they get off on calling you boring for simply thinking. I share your frustration... I've met people like that... they were the boring ones..

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