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Topic: Love triangle--Need Clarity
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raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 12:02 PM
  
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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
Taurus and Libra have the same ruler, goddess of love, but each has a different understanding of love. Taurus is more security-oriented.Thanks for appreciating my strong response, raya. I spoke in that way because I wish someone gave me a kick to the head when I was being led on. It's very unhealthy to use astrology to read more into a relationship than there actually is. I agree with Coffee on that note, about using synastry AFTER you decide on someone. As for bad boys - it's actually possible to tame them but it takes a long time. Is he even worth it? It took me years and a lot of heartache to get such a guy to settle down but by then I received so many bruises, emotionally and otherwise, that I'd shut down to him by that point. Here's a great little book I recommend to every girl who has a strong need for security: http://www.amazon.com/List-Ways-Going-Marry-You--/dp/B001GQ3DVU/ref=sr _1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1325336256&sr=8-2 It received great reviews and is affordable.
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Someone with Chiron in the 8th
Thanks Capri, I appreciate you watching out. I have used astrology to guide me on whether I should pursue a relationship or not. I also used intuition to guide me too. When I gave online dating a chance, I used several different reports to help me guide to whether I should meet up with a person after the initial phone conversations with potential love interest. The Vedic report is my final deciding factor and it tells me whether that person brings me misfortune. I didn't have the report before for a previous relationship that I used just the Western Relationship Report. The Western report said great things about the relationship for the most part, but it was quite on par about how I felt stifled and his clinginess was making me feel claustrophobic. I was the breadwinner and was taking care of him because he was sick. I tried to leave the relationship several times, but I felt like I was abandoning a lost puppy (rescuer issues). I couldn't understand why when things start to look up it would crash into another misfortune after another. The Vedic report explained it, that no matter I would do I would face misfortune with this person. He's a Scorpio by the way. I've been suffering from the after effect of this particular relationship. The Vedic report said that Libra guy wouldn't bring misfortune to me, but that there's no respect, wavelength is not the same, and that I have to be the man in the relationship (taking actions vs. receiving) to get what I want. I want to kick myself several times for falling for his false flatteries (due in part to my daddy issues and childhood upbringing). I digress, I was talking about an online meeting with a potential love interest. This guy was a cop. When I was talking to him, I was feeling really off about him. So I asked for his birth information so I could do an astro report between him and I. There were a lot red flags. It mentioned that in his natal chart, it doesn't show for being physically violent towards women, but somehow his energy interacts with mine and it evoked violent behavior towards me. It also indicated obsession with me. My gut feeling said no to even meeting him at a coffee shop. When I was talking to him, he kept on saying how he wanted to display me to his buddies as a trophy. According to his picture, he seemed to be good-looking. However, I had to trust my gut feeling and told him that I was not interested. IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 12:03 PM
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Hello raya_of_light! Welcome to LL 
Thanks Lala! I'm glad to be here! You guys are amazing! IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted December 31, 2011 12:07 PM
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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
I understand why with would it be swoon worthy with Libra guy,your Sun on his Asc,his Sun in H10,Eros conj Mars,there are H12 connections-special kind of connection,soulful(I don't like them but experience proves me wrong),Moon conj Uranus-exciting,on the edge...Both of Venuses fall in H11,oh I have never seen this,I wonder does anyone have info on this..
I had that with ex..both venuses falling in the 11th and both Suns falling in the 12th........I think this combo made it easy for us to get eachother. He still says I know him better than anyone and get how he is. My psyche also conjuncts his sun and fall in my 12th house. I know when he thinks of me and he knows when I think of him.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 31, 2011 12:09 PM
Raya of Light, can you please share the source of the Vedic reports please? Many thanks. IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 12:14 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Speaking as a man, and an older one too... ahem.Based on all I have read, speaking as a man, its time to dump the Libra guy. He can't shoot straight. He can't get his emotions in tune with yours beyond sex. He is uninterested in anything but sex. Most of all he was dishonest upfront to both you and his girlfriend. This is the type of guy that would move on once marriage has occurred and sex has become routine. He would drop you in favor of the next hot thing that comes along, just like he said that he would drop his girlfriend, which I bet he didn't for as long as he could! Marrriage is a hell lot more than sex! There's a ton of chores to do. There are problems to solve, emotional problems to dissolve. You think Libra guy is going to be involved in all that? All he wants is sex. The moment there are issues at home, he's going outside the home to get away from the issues and get better sex. Tell me that your sexual attraction to him would mean crap when there's a pile of laundry on the floor, a dirty diaper to change, a house that needs vacuuming, not enough money at the end of the month, kids that are having problems in school, etc. What? You guys are going to look each other in the eyes with watery sexual expressions? Tell me that he's going to be around to attend to the mundane matters in life. What when you hit menopause and your hormones change and don't desire sex as much? He's going to say, awww... its alright. I guess there'll be other 20-somethings around for that, huh? I'm not saying latch on to the Cancer guy. All I'm saying is that Libra guy is no good, regardless of astrology. I feel like bashing him on his head! Sorry I sound like a father, but I am a father, and I am probably in the age group of your father. The best medicine rarely tastes good.
YoursTruly, thank you for watching out. I think Libra is no good either. I think something happened to him to make him be this way. I pray for his healing. I even express to him how hurt I am by his behavior and how manipulated I feel by him. I told him that I want to forget what happened with me and him and just plain move on. He said he would respect my wishes, but when he gets horny and somehow drawn to me, he would try to talk to me. I would get insulting which I really hate to do. I told him that and so I blocked him from texting me. Then I unblocked him because somehow it makes me more obsessive with him. So now I keep a text I sent him to remind myself that he's damaged and that by me participating in this unhealthy interaction I am hurting myself and him. Also part of it, to see whether I have self-control. I do go to therapy to work through childhood and men issues. Due to the work I do with kids, I had to make sure I work through my own issues in order to be effective with them. This attraction to Libra guy has put a major kink in my armor.:O IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted December 31, 2011 12:17 PM
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raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 12:18 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Raya of Light, can you please share the source of the Vedic reports please? Many thanks.
The vedic report I got was from http://www.vaultoftheheavens.com/. Cafeastrology.com also offer the same version I think but is cheaper. IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 12:23 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
[b]I understand why with would it be swoon worthy with Libra guy,your Sun on his Asc,his Sun in H10,Eros conj Mars,there are H12 connections-special kind of connection,soulful(I don't like them but experience proves me wrong),Moon conj Uranus-exciting,on the edge...Both of Venuses fall in H11,oh I have never seen this,I wonder does anyone have info on this..
I had that with ex..both venuses falling in the 11th and both Suns falling in the 12th........I think this combo made it easy for us to get eachother. He still says I know him better than anyone and get how he is. My psyche also conjuncts his sun and fall in my 12th house. I know when he thinks of me and he knows when I think of him.[/B][/QUOTE]Hmmm..then why did you guys break up? My western chart says all this..that he and I get each other, but my Vedic chart says he and I are not on the same wave length. When he want to do something, I'm not in tune with him so I'm out of pace with and vice versa. The only thing that is very accurate is the physical aspect. According the the Vedic report, it said that if my relationship with Libra guy is sexual, that I would be a sexual slave to him and nothing else because he couldn't connect with me. I feel this is very much true according to the Vedic analysis. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted December 31, 2011 12:23 PM
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Originally posted by raya_of_light:
I read somewhere that we tend to be strongly attracted to someone who has our sun sign in their ascendant. Libra guy rising sign is Taurus. I'm a Taurus. I don't know if that is significant. I should have heeded the chart when it said to not get involve because my "odd" relationship with Libra is not light or frivolous--that it is highly intense. @Venus: you are right it is not boring with Libra..but quite unstable. I wouldn't hear from dude till months later an it is when the sexual attraction is crazy irresistible...like the moon makes us crazy or something. My Taurus side cannot handle instability and not knowing whether we are committed or not. I don't do well with casual sex. And dude convinced me to do things I would otherwise wouldn't. I don't like that feeling of losing control of myself. Hate it with a passion.
Perhaps this relationship is teaching you to be uncomfortable with uncertainty...to love without expecting nothing in return and feel comfortable living more in the moment. Its a hard lesson but a good one. I dont think the relationship will ever get serious and when you have learned what you need to from it you wont feel that irresistible attraction and will be able to let go of it and move on to something more emotionally fulfilling. I dont think cancer guy is the one either. You hate not been in control which I completely understand and I think we all are like this to some extent but this relationship is forcing you to balance out this need a bit.  IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted December 31, 2011 12:29 PM
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Originally posted by raya_of_light:
Hmmm..then why did you guys break up? My western chart says all this..that he and I get each other, but my Vedic chart says he and I are not on the same wave length. When he want to do something, I'm not in tune with him so I'm out of pace with and vice versa. The only thing that is very accurate is the physical aspect. According the the Vedic report, it said that if my relationship with Libra guy is sexual, that I would be a sexual slave to him and nothing else because he couldn't connect with me. I feel this is very much true according to the Vedic analysis.
Your guy is not emotionally available and that is why is not leading to anything else with him (libra guy) and you. It has nothing do with you or your synastry with him. It has to do with issues he has. It didn't work out with ex bec I was 19 years old when I started dating him and he was 22 years old. This year he tells me he wants to marry me and have kids with me and how much he regrets not fighting for me/us but I got married this year and is too damn late for me to try with him now. 9 years later and he still has feelings for me and we still have attraction and connection but I am not in love anymore with him. IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 12:37 PM
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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
Being attracted to worldly, sophisticated, "polished" guys would be a very Mars-in-Libra thing. Here are a few links about Mars in Libra:
http://astrology.about.com/od/mars/p/MarsLibra.htm
http://cafeastrology.com/articles/sexualastrology_page2.html#libra
http://www.astrology-numerology.com/insigns-mars.html As for your Cancer guy, do you feel like maybe he's a great guy, but just not "the one" for you? I would also say that some change in relationships would be normal--like if you're inspiring him or something. However, I also get your point about not changing so much that you become someone else just to please your partner--that you abandon yourself.
Ya know, my intense attraction to Libra guy makes me feel that Cancer guy is not "the one" for me. I'm a one guy kind of girl. When I choose to be with someone, all other guys are out of the picture. I don't flirt, I don't put myself in situation that could be misconstrued. So I thought being in relationship with Cancer guy that it would shut off all feelings for Libra, but the attraction was still intense and compelling. I want to slap myself because I'm attracted to Libra guy. Never has that happened to me like this. Even with guys I didn't have the same chemistry as I do with Libra guy, when I was dating them, a good-looking guy like Libra guy wouldn't make me look twice. No palpitating heart or breathlessness. If such a guy tried to flatter me, I would become quite dismissive and outrage that he would talk to someone who is taken. Where is my outrage with Libra guy when he did this? I feel as if Libra guy brings out my dark side and I don't like it. Excuse my french ( and a saying my younger sister used that made me laughed because it is quite shockingly outrageous) but it makes me feel like punching a baby in the face. That is how ridiculous and outrageous it is. IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 12:45 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Perhaps this relationship is teaching you to be uncomfortable with uncertainty...to love without expecting nothing in return and feel comfortable living more in the moment.Its a hard lesson but a good one. I dont think the relationship will ever get serious and when you have learned what you need to from it you wont feel that irresistible attraction and will be able to let go of it and move on to something more emotionally fulfilling. I dont think cancer guy is the one either. You hate not been in control which I completely understand and I think we all are like this to some extent but this relationship is forcing you to balance out this need a bit.
Thanks Amelia, I appreciate your insights. If without the intense attraction to Libra, I think Cancer guy may be the one. I feel really sad to disappoint Cancer guy. When I'm in his arms, especially when I'm sleeping, my guard is down. I do feel safe and secure with him when we don't have issues to contend with. He does like to hold me a lot which at times I like and at times I feel claustrophobic. Due in part to my wondering why I have such intense attraction to Libra guy. I don't like being torn between two guys and so I feel guilty when Cancer guy is very affectionate with me. IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 12:53 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Your guy is not emotionally available and that is why is not leading to anything else with him (libra guy) and you. It has nothing do with you or your synastry with him. It has to do with issues he has.It didn't work out with ex bec I was 19 years old when I started dating him and he was 22 years old. This year he tells me he wants to marry me and have kids with me and how much he regrets not fighting for me/us but I got married this year and is too damn late for me to try with him now. 9 years later and he still has feelings for me and we still have attraction and connection but I am not in love anymore with him.
Amelia, you are correct that he is not emotionally available. I asked the Universe to send me someone who is emotionally, mentally, and physically available and when I had this intense attraction to Libra guy I thought wow the Universe answered me. Not so the case. Even with my first love, I always wonder what falling in love feels. I've been infatuated, but not in love. My Cancer guy said that I may be in love with him because I try to push him away and run away from him and at the same time feel intense pain when I do that. He gets me like no one else, even better than my family and friends. I've been hurt immensely by family and people who I've considered closed friends that at times it is hard for me to trust, especially trusting that he (Cancer guy) or anyone else to keep their words. Cancer guy has staying power though even with my pushing him away. Usually when I do enough pushing away, people usually leave. Cancer guy hasn't. He actually tells me what I'm doing and is quite on point.
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amelia28
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posted December 31, 2011 01:00 PM
husband has moon in cancer and he sounds similar to your cancer guy....who knows maybe the cancer guy is a keeper. Like you I value a lot a guy who values me and fights for me! its very romantic .IP: Logged |
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posted December 31, 2011 01:03 PM
I hope you find the peace you need.......I know triangles are tough but THERE CANT BE CLARITY WITHOUT CONFUSION and the process of getting clarity doesn't happen by night so hang in there you WILL GET THROUGH THIS. IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 01:08 PM
@Regardes: Thank you so much for the links! Very insightful. I have a situation going on at work for me that exemplify what this quote is saying "Yet you can become upset when your perception of justice is not served. You aren't one to push matters to extremes, but you do become very assertive when you experience injustice. You are ready to take up arms against anything that would destroy harmony, or that appears wrong or unfair." I do dislike fighting immensely and Cancer guy at times like to push me when he thinks I'm being complacent about something. Makes me upset but he's making me grow also. I think when I reconciled my inner conflict with Libra guy, I can truly see clearly my feelings for Cancer guy. He said he's willing to wait forever. Although he liked to push me along.  IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted December 31, 2011 01:19 PM
@Amelia: Thank you so much! Many blessings to you on your marriage. May it be forever! I'm a romantic always and wish for happy endings for people. I think Cancer guy maybe a keeper also whenever I work through my confusion. And it is romantic that he's fighting for me because no one has fought hard for me like he does. I am very truthful and honest about my confusing feelings for Libra guy to Cancer guy and it makes him anxious. Yet, he still stays not because he's a schmuck but because he sees something in our relationship he's seeing that I'm not. He's willing to get into the trench and fight. He's more of a man than Libra guy. Libra guy is in the military and I have a thing for military/outdoorsy type of guys. Anyhow, thanks so much Amelia for your insights! IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 31, 2011 09:37 PM
Raya of Light,Since you admire the military, then you'll listen to what I have to say. I'm a former commissioned officer, a company commander and an airborne ranger. All military officers and non-commissioned officers in all natikns abide by a code of conduct that aspires to the highest ethical conduct. Being forthright and truthful forms the foundation of all that is honourable. I respectfully suggest that you consider that in your choice of partners. I bid you all the love, joy, happiness and peace in the world.  IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted January 01, 2012 12:01 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Raya of Light,Since you admire the military, then you'll listen to what I have to say. I'm a former commissioned officer, a company commander and an airborne ranger. All military officers and non-commissioned officers in all natikns abide by a code of conduct that aspires to the highest ethical conduct. Being forthright and truthful forms the foundation of all that is honourable. I respectfully suggest that you consider that in your choice of partners. I bid you all the love, joy, happiness and peace in the world.
YourTrulyAlways, thank you for your recommendation. It is reason why I have not gotten married because I'm highly selective in a marriage partner. Libra guy threw me into a loop with the intense attraction. Also, part of my attraction to Libra guy is that he's a military guy. I expect him to be honorable and it messed with my head when he doesn't fit the ideal. I really admire what you did and thankful for your service. May blessings of love, joy, happiness, prosperity, and peace surround you always this new year and the next. IP: Logged |
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posted January 01, 2012 02:51 AM
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Originally posted by raya_of_light:
Ya know, my intense attraction to Libra guy makes me feel that Cancer guy is not "the one" for me. I'm a one guy kind of girl. When I choose to be with someone, all other guys are out of the picture. I don't flirt, I don't put myself in situation that could be misconstrued. So I thought being in relationship with Cancer guy that it would shut off all feelings for Libra, but the attraction was still intense and compelling. I want to slap myself because I'm attracted to Libra guy. Never has that happened to me like this. Even with guys I didn't have the same chemistry as I do with Libra guy, when I was dating them, a good-looking guy like Libra guy wouldn't make me look twice. No palpitating heart or breathlessness. If such a guy tried to flatter me, I would become quite dismissive and outrage that he would talk to someone who is taken. Where is my outrage with Libra guy when he did this? I feel as if Libra guy brings out my dark side and I don't like it. Excuse my french ( and a saying my younger sister used that made me laughed because it is quite shockingly outrageous) but it makes me feel like punching a baby in the face. That is how ridiculous and outrageous it is.
I know how you feel.......It sucks to feel conflicted, a lot of guilt comes with it and feeling bad about yourself but unfortunately this things happen. I dont know why they happen exactly but I am thinking that it has to do with the fact that we have multiple soulmates and karma to work out with each resulting sometimes in two soulmates overlapping in the timeline in a person's life and it feels really uncomfortable bc it goes against our conditioned ideals of how things should play out in our life but the universe has its own ideas of how things need to play out. I imagine you both need to learn something from eachother and you clearly are asking questions so you will learn the lesson you have to from him. However him, he may or may not, that is up to him but either way you will move on from him eventually if he doesn't grow with you and resists the lesson he has to learn as a result of you two coming into each others life. As for the cancer guy I respect his decision to stick by you but I hope he has a limit and knows that is great he is fighting for you but if enough time passes he needs to cut his losses and move on. How much time will need to pass? I suppose that is relative as it took me 4 years to let go of ex and the idea of getting back with him but once I let go of the idea its gone bc it took so long to let it go. I wish I would have let go after a year and no more. I think deciding to wait a year for someone who is conflicted is reasonable if you feel they are worth it and the connection you have is worth it but after that the best thing to do is let go and move on with your life and open up to love again. IP: Logged |
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posted January 02, 2012 12:19 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
I know how you feel.......It sucks to feel conflicted, a lot of guilt comes with it and feeling bad about yourself but unfortunately this things happen. I dont know why they happen exactly but I am thinking that it has to do with the fact that we have multiple soulmates and karma to work out with each resulting sometimes in two soulmates overlapping in the timeline in a person's life and it feels really uncomfortable bc it goes against our conditioned ideals of how things should play out in our life but the universe has its own ideas of how things need to play out.I imagine you both need to learn something from eachother and you clearly are asking questions so you will learn the lesson you have to from him. However him, he may or may not, that is up to him but either way you will move on from him eventually if he doesn't grow with you and resists the lesson he has to learn as a result of you two coming into each others life. As for the cancer guy I respect his decision to stick by you but I hope he has a limit and knows that is great he is fighting for you but if enough time passes he needs to cut his losses and move on. How much time will need to pass? I suppose that is relative as it took me 4 years to let go of ex and the idea of getting back with him but once I let go of the idea its gone bc it took so long to let it go. I wish I would have let go after a year and no more. I think deciding to wait a year for someone who is conflicted is reasonable if you feel they are worth it and the connection you have is worth it but after that the best thing to do is let go and move on with your life and open up to love again.
Today I was going over several different natal reports of myself and one of them was a Vedic one. It was quite predictive actually. It mentioned in the report that I would meet the one I would marry in 2010..which is the time when I met Cancer guy and Libra guy. If I was to imagine myself being married to someone, it would be Cancer guy. I agree with you that we have multiple soulmates from past incarnations and sometimes we meet them at the same time. I think this is the case. Intuitively, I tend to gravitate towards what the Vedic report is saying. I find value in both Vedic and Western astrology. Somehow the Vedic report seemed to be accurate and descriptive of my relationship with Cancer guy and also with Libra guy. Libra guy has a lot of maturing in this lifetime and is not on the same wavelength as I even though astrologically (Western) indicate it could be a beautiful relationship. I did learn from Libra guy to let my Uranus side have fun a little as I've been extremely strict on myself. Still intuitively, I don't trust him. I don't trust him to be faithful or to cherish and nourish me emotionally. I'm so curious about the emphasis on having a wonderful friendship aspect in my Western chart when in reality he is not even that with me. When he asked to be friends, his motives are not pure--it is with intent to get me into his bed. And when he does that, it brings a lot of rage in me towards him which my Libran influence does not like to much. Makes me highly outrage that such emotion is evoked in me. And he's baffled that I feel the way that I feel. Like I said, lots of growing up to do and I cannot be in his life or he in mine. He brings my energy down. He is unpredictable and creates excitement in my life. A part of me loves it and another part part hates it immensely. I have to take the high road and not interact with him anymore. It is a bit difficult to avoid him when he and I work together. On the other hand, Cancer guy evoke trust and an overall feeling of well-being when I think of marriage with him. Just certain issues are in the way that I hope he and I can surpass it eventually to make me feel comfortable with marriage. I have a fear of entrapment so I enter into committed relationships very cautiously. I'm still not over the my first love and that is over 11 years ago. I idealized this relationship and it had colored my interactions with current relationships. It is very informative for me to get various opinions of folks on here and I did in a way found some clarity. Much is appreciated from you Amelia and all those who had responded. Thank you! IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted January 03, 2012 08:00 AM
@Capriquarius: You know the book you suggested to me called The List--I have it! I should go back to reading it. And really it was interesting that within 6 months Cancer guy knew I was the one he wants to marry.IP: Logged |
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Originally posted by raya_of_light:
@Capriquarius: You know the book you suggested to me called The List--I have it! I should go back to reading it. And really it was interesting that within 6 months Cancer guy knew I was the one he wants to marry.
Did he fulfill all or most of the 7 criteria?The one re: going out for coffee is my most useful determinant for whether a guy is fling or serious relationship material. That book should be bundled with "Linda Goodman's Relationship Signs" for balance. IP: Logged |
raya_of_light
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posted January 03, 2012 08:44 AM
What I meant was within 2 months or so he knew. I was kind of freaked out as I wasn't sure whether I was ready. You know he met most of the 7 steps. The 1st step was more of me approaching him on Okcupid to comment on something he said. I made the 1st move there. Subsequently he did ask me out on a date. And he and I met at a coffee shop. We didn't start off right because the sexual attraction was strong and we didn't exactly have a second date--we fell into a relationship immediately and ended abruptly--just a lot of unusual things (Uranus deal), but when I looked at the list, he does fit all of it. After relationship ended abruptly, I met Libra guy. But then found Libra guy was still in relationship and my relationship with Cancer started back up. Then ended with Cancer, then Libra guy. So f'ing confusing. Makes my head spin. And totally goes against my traditionalist side. Anyhow, your suggestion of the List is very helpful. Cancer guy fits the list. Libra guy--not at all! That is why I'm so confused about the Synastry Chart. Are you able to read Composite Chart and tell me what you see? Or did I post a composite chart for you guys to see already? Thanks a lot Capri..you are very helpful!
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posted January 03, 2012 09:04 AM
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