posted January 03, 2012 06:46 AM            

I have drawn it on someone's advice who is trying to help. I am grateful.

mmm...of-course if initiate the contact it will be there but only one-sided . That's not what I want.

I don't know if he is worth it or not but you don't even know him. There are so many aspects in the story that you don't know of. Every person and situation is different. He might also be thinking that this girl is not worth it because I have never told him how much I like him but you know the truth...I like him so much and I don't think that I am not worth it. Hope I am not confusing you

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
You were born just now? Lol.

Sure, there will be contact if you initiate it. But I guarantee you that it won't be worth it, because he isn't worth it.

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posted January 03, 2012 07:09 AM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Cella, dont listen to her. Some people just dont understand that they shouldnt meddle their noses into threads with unwarranted advice. This is nothing personal against you, Capriquarius. Just understand that it is painful to other people. Not to mention annoying, because their question isn't being addressed and people get sidetracked. Whenever I post an horary question here about a guy who seems to not be as interested in me (but which u guys dont know the full story about) nobody ever answers it. =( It either gets no replies or the conversation just gets sidetracked to "he's just not that into you" because someone always comes in who is convinced that they have the one and only possible explanation for what's going on in the situation.

But anyway, i know there isnt another me out there to defend me when i post a question so i am defending her so SHE at least gets someone to take her question seriously.

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posted January 03, 2012 07:22 AM            

Right away that opposition aspect between the moon and saturn indicates a No answer but strong mutual reception always saves the day even when there are negative aspects. It indicates a yes answer if it exists.

Moon in taurus is in triplicty with saturn +1 (you appreciate him)

the sun in cap is in detriment with the moon -3 (he hates you) =[

I wonder why he feels such strong feelings at this time. Whenever i have seen a sudden change of feelings in horary like from mutual exaltation to detriment or a mixture of detriment and fall with exaltation etc (love/hate) it's because i have done something to hurt that person or they have done something to hurt me so now it shows that i hate them or they hate me etc.

Saturn will go into scorpio in a few months so i think that means he will hate u even more bc saturn in scorpio is in fall with the moon (you). I suppose he is angry about something u have done, like maybe u have not shown him u care enough or maybe u have criticized him or hurt him a lot?

But the horary's answer for the question is definitely No because there is no mutual reception.

posted January 03, 2012 07:29 AM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
Ah, I see. I didn't realize it was a horary chart because it says "my chart" so I took that to mean natal.

*bows out of thread*

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posted January 03, 2012 07:29 AM            

Let me tell you. When you meet a guy who's really into you, and cherishes you, he would MAKE the effort. And he would WANT to commit to you 100%.

posted January 03, 2012 07:31 AM            

Life's too short.

posted January 03, 2012 07:35 AM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
Cella I just read your other thread. I just want to say you shouldn't try to hold onto this guy who clearly doesn't appreciate you. You shouldn't try to be with somebody who is only willing to give a half arsed effort. Don't you think you deserve more? Don't you think you deserve somebody who keeps in touch consistently, is willing to commit and only has eyes for you? Instead of this desire to 'flirt around' and thinking it's 'too much work'

Let me tell you. When you meet a guy who's really into you, and cherishes you, he would MAKE the effort. And he would WANT to commit to you 100%.

You deserve it you know. Don't settle and frankly, you show people how to treat you. If you put up with this, the guy would only mess around with you and not respect you.

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posted January 03, 2012 07:51 AM            

Cella, remember you're a Ferrari, not a dying pick up truck (lol lame analogy but you get my gist).

posted January 03, 2012 07:57 AM            

Other than that now it is him who is hurting me by deleting me from all places and not replying.

I have never been in love before so made some mistakes.

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Awww! . Thanks for such a sweet reply. You're sweet, too!

I just looked at the other horary question and since it does show that he misses you, he probably misses you but is angry about something. He is definitely keeping something inside, being saturn here and being in detriment to you. Maybe he resents you not contacting him or giving him enough attention. Who knows. But, my advice is wait for him to get over it. Don't contact him. He needs to make up his mind. If it's at all possible, try to run into him in person, but dont contact him just bc guys like to feel they are the ones doing the chasing. And plus some guys might take advantage of a girl who obviously seems to like him. Contacting him a lot will certainly make it obvious u like him. Plus, u have done nothing wrong. There is no reason why u should be chasing after him when he has told you that he likes you but he needs time apart or something. He said something like that right? I think bc the first horary question u asked shows he does miss you, he will probably try to get in touch with u eventually. So give it some time.

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posted January 03, 2012 08:07 AM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
But they're the exception, not the rule. And why does she have to try SO hard just to get this guy to give her the time of day? I think she deserves much more than what this guy is willing to offer. What she should do is move on. She should find herself a real man. Who doesn't flake out. Who doesn't leave her wondering if she'll hear from him in the next few days/week.

Cella, remember you're a Ferrari, not a dying pick up truck (lol lame analogy but you get my gist).

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posted January 03, 2012 08:10 AM            

Im stupid though and ended up going against her advice to close that chapter in my life.

To my surprise, the jerk popped the question one night and to my own surprise, I found myself dreading a lifetime of that dynamic.

Waste. Of. Time.

posted January 03, 2012 08:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
U know what a real friend did for me once? When my ex was being a jerk, she didn't allow me to contact him. Not even when he was barraging my phone with 54367755 calls to get his way. She took me shopping, cooked my favorite dishes.....anything but encouraging me to pursue a jerk.

Im stupid though and ended up going against her advice to close that chapter in my life.

To my surprise, the jerk popped the question one night and to my own surprise, I found myself dreading a lifetime of that dynamic.

Waste. Of. Time.

/end totally nonastrological post

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posted January 03, 2012 08:25 AM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Hmm that makes a lot of sens with what i saw in the horary. He is mad at you. He wants to part and have fun. I think uve done the right thing so far lol. He deserves to be hurt. Now he wants to hurt u since u have rejected him a lot before. Don't contact him. Don't dont dont dont. Wait it out. I know that u are in love with him but he needs to realize that u two are meant to be. You guys live far away and he cant deal with the distance. Give him time. He needs to set his priorities straight. Once he wants to settle down and is tired of meaningless one night stands with other girls he will contact you. But whatever u do dont contact him first. If he doesnt miss u and isnt willing to contact u after a few yrs he is not worth it. Guys like to chase. U have to let him chase you, okay? U have done what u could to show him u do care by contacting him. He is ignoring u right now bc he doesnt want to be distracted by his feelings for u when it is long distance and that means torture plus he wants to do things with other girls. He sounds young....he asked u for time, give him time.

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posted January 03, 2012 08:28 AM            

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Originally posted by mintgirl123:
^ popped the q = proposal.

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