posted January 03, 2012 08:08 PM            

Short version: ADVICE PERSONAL/ACCUMULATED KNOWLEDGE PLEASE!!! Long version: read on!

I met him on that lunar eclipse in Gemini (falling in my third house) through mutual friends at a school Christmas party. He asked my permission to sit at the table, even though our mutual was there and there were others. He was kitty-corners from me at our 6 person table and I consciously forgot him for a bit of the conversations -but I see in retrospect that my subconscious was like 'Oooo!!!'
He mostly made quite chat to the mutual during dinner (which disappear unhumanly fast for him -and I didn't even see him actually EAT!!) And then.. he decided to make his presence known. I was trying to convince out Scor-guy mutual that he should have bought his raffle tickets in random sequence (my piscean reasoning being that random thinking knows where random lives -HelLO!) When -out of NOWHERE- Taurus-guy whammies 'It doesn't MATTER because it's(the raffle's) RANDOM!' Spoken with the authority of a judge gavel, that one. I was SOO taken aback and SHY that I just put my hand to my throat and wide-eyed pisces stared at him for a moment before thinking (and unintentionally muttering)'I shouldn't have introduced my self to you!' in a joking fashion. Well everyone heard me and Taurus-guy thought that was great and he chuckled and hung his head to the side amused but shy and a little embarressed.

After that it was his PRESENCE. I could just feel that gravitational pull around him. At different times he's turn and join my convo -but when I asked him things directly he got tongue tied and couldn't answer more than 'I don't know!' and look (blushingly?!) away -I was asking him about his favorite food from his country (Sweden), for crying out loud! You can't get an easier question for a Taurus!! Through a wonderful (random lol) chance of luck, our pisces instructor told the party that whoever had the birthday closest to that day got to take home the centerpiece. Score! I got to be in astrology-buff heaven and find out everyone's bdays lol. He actually would not tell me his bday. He just said "April" and I asked "Aries?" and he shook his head "no" so, of course I said "Taurus?!"

Throughout the rest of the night we had minor dialogue like me thanking him for putting the chairs and table away (school functions lol) and he stayed within four feet of me for along time when everything was over and things were wrapping up. He then asked several times what I was doing after the party. After pledging myself to watch my teacher's young niece I then found out everyone was going to a bar to hang for the rest of the night (teacher included lol) So I was stuck but loyal to my decision. After my plans were set, T.G. drifted off outside to our mutual where I caught up with them later.

So I was hugging and vibing with everyone and got the nerve to ask T.G. to add me on FB. He tried on my phone and then teased me because my phone was too slow. He handed it back and I asked for his phone number and how to spell his name and said I'd text him for fb stuff. He agreed! And his entire body language and eye contact was on me hard core now. (He crosses his arms alot though and that confuses me body-language wise??)

So (almost done!) I texted him a few days later and asked him about classes and he was responding RAPIDLY, LENGTHY, and ENTHUSIASTICALLY (as in !!!!!!!) and did not seem to mind my piscean circles or aries rising bluntness/blabbering lol. After a while he did not answer back when I told him that he should come to the Getty Museum with me the following day. So, the next morning, I texted him and told him something like "Don't worry, I won't cry if you tell me no or that you don't want to go. I prefer people to be straightforward and honest vs. the LA and modern technique of people waiting until the time passes and it's too late" I was very surprised because he texted me quick and was soooo apologetic and said he HATES when people don't text back and he prefers people to be honest, etc. too and that he had been cooking for his friends' party and forgot (I later saw pics of his cooking on his fb!)

He asked me to let him know the next time I go to the museum and was even asking me if I have been to another one ( which I blabbed how much I knew about instead of realizing he was probably trying to find out somewhere new to suggest). He did not take the bait when I hinted sbout tasting his cooking but he mentioned that I hadn't added him on fb yet. (I had but I have a nickname he didn't recognize) He added me when he figured it out. I texted him on Christmas and he texted back and told me how to say "Happy Christmas" in Swedish. This time it was shorter and we only texted a bit. We haven't spoken on fb since he added me (which I actually like because it seems more 'real' to me if we text) but it does bother me that he did not text me for New Year's, if I'm honest. I do not EXPECT it and I definitely know that I am not ENTITLED to it however, it does seem like an easy excuse if he was interested. Unfortunately, I am one of those women that has learned the HARD way about if a man isn't texting/calling... he's just not that into you.

But, I am also a Pisces with a Scorpio moon and an impatient Aries Rising and I can freak out mightily (internally)if I do not know where I stand with someone! I have the venus in aqua 'if you don't like me then I'll leave so you'll be happy and free' thing BIGtime. I need to know good and early if someone's feelings are genuine or if they are just social nicities!

So I just want input and personal expertise and advice. I am totally cool with giving him space and time and building a relationship -but my Taurus Mars HAS to see tangible results!!

Him (birthtime unknown):
Aries/Taurus Sun
Moon in either Libra or Virgo
Mercury in Aries
Venus in Taurus
Mars in Capricorn
Jupiter in Pisces
Saturn/Uranus in Sag
Neptune in Capricorn
Pluto in Scorpio
Aries North Node

Me:
Pisces (debatably in Aries cusp)
Scorpio Moon
Mercury in Pisces
Venus in Aqua
Mars in Taurus
Jupiter in Aries
Saturn/Uranus in Sag
Neptune in Capricorn
Pluto in Scorpio
North Node in Aries
Rising Sign Aries

posted January 03, 2012 09:08 PM            

"Don't worry, I won't cry if you tell me no or that you don't want to go. I prefer people to be straightforward and honest vs. the LA and modern technique of people waiting until the time passes and it's too late"

You shouldn't have said that ^. Makes you sound slightly 'expectant'. Anyway, actions speak louder than words. If he was interested, you'll know. =) So just sit back and wait.

posted January 03, 2012 10:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
Raya: my perception of "The List" is that of a process of elimination. The only interaction advice it gives is to be firm. In astrological terms, it's like the result of a transiting Pluto conjunction to "The Rules."

It's like "The Rules" but 10 times more of a hard@ss

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Lol..I agree with you. The list talks about when a guy is interested if he's the right guy that he'll make the appropriate moves toward you and doesn't leave you guessing whether he's interested or not. And with the right guy, even if you blunder, he'll make a go of it.

posted January 03, 2012 10:14 PM            

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The list talks about when a guy is interested if he's the right guy that he'll make the appropriate moves toward you and doesn't leave you guessing whether he's interested or not. And with the right guy, even if you blunder, he'll make a go of it.

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posted January 04, 2012 02:01 AM            

Oy the Arian energy! My Jupiter in aries is conjunct my rising too! And uranus and saturn in sag in my ninth house of sag.. I'm such a dichotomy!

posted January 04, 2012 02:10 AM            

Thank you again everyone! This really does help me to get advice and things reiterated!! People never see it for a while but I'm shyer than the dickens about these things!!

posted January 04, 2012 02:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Neptune'sDaughter:
He is constantly posting photos of him cooking in his (apparently) really clean home. With his shirt off alot.

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posted January 04, 2012 02:39 AM            

Lonake, I KNOW RIGHT?! LMBO

posted January 04, 2012 02:43 AM            

I remember when I was really upset, and really in the beginning stages of never wanting to talk to him again: he insulted me in a way that I've now forgotten, after saying, "I thought you were quiet, and strong." whatever it was he said instantly stopped my tears, when I thought, "wait a minute! he knows that's not true!" I went on to enjoy the rest of my day. A year before that, I'd told him that if he could disappear easily on me, then he should do so (right away). He contacted me less than three weeks later. I hate his guts now, but he had his sweet moments. He is the most stubborn SOB I've ever met, though, and he will not admit to having been wrong in any way 99.9% of the time. the one time he did so, I was glad I was sitting down.

posted January 04, 2012 02:44 AM            

the thing is with these guys you cant tell whats going on! they're hot then they're cold, anf ur stuck just waiting for them to make a move!!

i wish i had an aries rising like you, would've saved me a lot of time instead i have a proud cappy rising wich is a pro in the "waiting to see who caves in first" game.. and thats no good when you have a deep scorpio moon that is an all or nothing placement.

long story short, the odds are he likes you. but if thats enough to make a move, well thats something only he can decide, personaly i have had a crush on this taurus guy (also venus in taurus) for years now. still cant shake the feeling, so dont do that to yourself, forget about him

posted January 04, 2012 10:42 AM            

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Unfortunately, I am one of those women that has learned the HARD way about if a man isn't texting/calling... he's just not that into you.

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i don't think this applies to taurus TBH.

we are SHLOW..

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No matter what guys say, most still (subconsciously or otherwise) want to be the chaser, cos effort will lead to appreciation when they do get with you.

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..but then i also agree with this.

if i were a girl i'd learn how to be forward and let the guy think he is doing the seducing. BUT that's so coomplex already for my bull head lol.

i have sun/venus in taurus and merc in aries.

i would keep sending the signals if it isn't that hard to do for you.

posted January 04, 2012 05:15 PM            

Yes, my first reasoning when I was wondering why he hasn't texted lately was that it is just taurean energy to take one's time with things and to focus on immediate things first. Then I watched 'He's just not that into you' again and weirded myself out lol
I have seen on his fb posts that he was out ALL WEEKEND (some epic back-to-back-to-back,etc. adventure park/fancy restaurant thing they seem to have planned?) with a crew of friends the time that he hasn't been contacting me. Since then we both just started winter semester classes that are intense. So I know that it can be taurus nature to focus on all of that while it's at hand. Buut, I also think that it's easy to text someone really fast if you care about connecting with them lol Although, I must admit, keeping in touch regularly is weird sometimes even for my female friends that are all 'in-tune' with me. So, I'm trying to find the balance (Libra seventh house cusp!) between the extremes and not cut communication but not force it either.

Sand, would you say that a good way to
"be forward and let the guy think he is doing the seducing"
would be to be very direct about things that I like but then let him take the hint and the initiative? For example, when I asked him to the Getty and he later asked me if I knew about the Annenburg Space for Photography, I could have simply said yes and stated that it would be worth visiting again -vs. going on some long thing about how I knew all about it and blah blah blah blah. Is that kind of what you mean? How would you suggest I do this "i would keep sending the signals if it isn't that hard to do for you."? I 'liked' his photo on fb last night to let him know I appreciate his work (we're photography students) -and that I'm still alive lol Is that a good 'low-key' way to stay within his blinders? Any other suggestions??

Also, from our interaction and his reactions, do you think that he is/was interested in me? With you having a similar 'set up' I'm interested to know what those types to behaviours mean for you!

It's funny because I did not even know he was Taurus until the end of the night but 'by the books' (and internet) everything I was saying and doing was pretty spot on for Taurus attraction 101 lol. I also noticed that while I was talking to another dinner party member about how much I love to cook and bake and how, when I am fond of people I cannot help but to cook/bake for them (retrospective LOL), Taurus Guy had COMPLETELY turned his body sideways in the chair and seemed ENTIRELY ENGROSSED in the conversation. I hadn't known he was 'listening in' and when I turned my full attention on him he seemed unsettled and embarressed! Soo endearing!

posted January 04, 2012 05:26 PM            

Well, thank you for appreciating my aries rising it makes me feel less of an energized freak! haha

I have had the reverse of you in that I saw a BAAAD example of a taurus man in my youth -and now I hope for a good one (who actually likes me back! lol)

and I see you're the one who mentioned my quote (I scrolled too fast and got mixed up!) Thank you ;-)

posted January 04, 2012 05:50 PM            

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Is that kind of what you mean?

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heyy u have pisces merc! texting might be hard for u guys. if his moon is virgo then he has no air too. no small talk.

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Also, from our interaction and his reactions, do you think that he is/was interested in me? With you having a similar 'set up' I'm interested to know what those types to behaviours mean for you!

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IYO.. are you easy on the eyes? i love pisces women tho.

posted January 04, 2012 05:53 PM            

And here is mine:
http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_02_sp.82193.49175.gif&res=100&va=&cid=ir0fileTNlY5H-u1317405555

And our synastry (I'm on the inside):
http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_61gw_02_01_sp_ko.82239.52357.gif&res=100&va=&cid=ir0fileTNlY5H-u1317405555

posted January 04, 2012 06:03 PM            

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Bing Fire is the fire of the sun - it is warming, radiant, and essential to the growth of all living things. Bing Fire people are magnanimous, generous, giving, and every single one of them will have a cause at heart that they support or contribute generously towards - they're particularly fond of education and environmental issues. Like the sun that rises in the East and sets in the West, Bing Fire people are very routine-driven until they hit a plateau, usually every 4 years or so, wherein seeking a new challenge (like suddenly deciding to do charity work, or taking a year off to travel) becomes paramount. Life is never dull with a Bing Fire person, but they are fiercely independent and the key to dealing with them is to give them their own space to shine, literally and figuratively.

The Bing Fire man is fun to be with, warm and generous. He too needs his own space and independence, which sometimes makes the Bing Fire man reluctant to commit. There is a tendency to be a bit round and pudgy, but that just adds to their loveable, jolly temperament really. A relationship with a Bing Fire man is a very sensual one, and often the connection is at both an emotional, physical and intellectual level. The Bing Fire man rarely favours the older woman, and is usually inclined towards the young woman, rather than a woman his own age. Again, it's integral to keep things exotic, spicy, and interesting (especially in the bedroom), with as much travel as possible when you need some quality time together.

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