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anongrl10
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posted January 04, 2012 02:09 PM
  
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Originally posted by love being Aries:
ohh please find them and draw again  and thank YOU for the compliments.. you should have been my lover instead
Why, you know I  you!
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Xiiro
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posted January 04, 2012 04:23 PM
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Xiiro,do you have Ben/Mars square?
I don't interestingly enough. They are in squaring signs, but about 20 degrees apart. IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted January 04, 2012 04:58 PM
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Originally posted by lilithpluto:
Ohmigod... the guy I fell madly in love with has that jup-saturn conjunction in libra (3 degree). I'm depressed. -.-
Well the conj is in a lot of charts, I'm sure it was just a coincidence. Tho by itself it means they take their relationships more seriously, less apt to jump in, tend to be responsible law abiding people. Saturn exalted in Lib, so there's a certain strength in moral adherence there, they see it as a pos attribute.
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Lonake
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posted January 04, 2012 05:04 PM
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Originally posted by love being Aries:
he is EXACTLY the same trust me. he hates games, first man in my life who says "hey listen don't plan with me ok" and he says it SO innocently, my God no wonder I'm in love LOL.he NEVER talks bad about his ex- but somehow i find him very hard to understand. well i have that problem with pretty much everyone LOL
Oh....OK lol maybe not a coincidence.
I thought the guy that had that was a bit too much on the straight & narrow for me, like his high ideals inhibited him a bit.
And his conj wasn't even in hard aspect to anything in my chart, it was just trine my Merc & sextile my Uranus/ASC. It just didn't work for me.
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enchantress299
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posted January 04, 2012 08:50 PM
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I can assure you that you would want a man like that rather than a man like me. Unless you want women galore in the guy's past sharing your bed. Do you want a man with three historical partners or one that has over a hundred/thousand? Just ask yourself that.
It's funny you should mention that... I seem to attract the giant egos of the world (my Mars in Leo maybe), and interestingly enough, they all deem it fit to tell me that they've had three-ways, orgies, etc and that they've been with SOOOO many women (I know that this isn't always true, but for some of them, I'm sure it is). Then they act like this is supposed to be attractive to me. I usually end up physically repulsed by it because they then look like a walking petri dish with poor impulse control (my hypochondriac Venus in Virgo doesn't really like this idea). I personally do not appreciate being viewed simply as a sex object, so... yeah. I've learned to view the need for a guy to have thousands of sex partners (literally or figuratively) as insecurity. Every guy I've known like this are usually insecure about their own masculinity or they are simply so selfish about their own impulses and needs that they don't consider the people around them. Yourstrulyalways- It sounds like you've grown out of this stage, and I'm not trying to judge... It's just seriously a peeve of mine... I know many women who'd be turned on by it though. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 04, 2012 11:08 PM
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Originally posted by enchantress299:
Yourstrulyalways- It sounds like you've grown out of this stage, and I'm not trying to judge... It's just seriously a peeve of mine... I know many women who'd be turned on by it though.
I am repulsed by my own past behavior. I am not going to re-visit such details. It is shameful, hypocritical and contrary to my values and beliefs. Naturally, there was a painful process of repentance and atonement as I grew up (I'm now 48). That doesn't mean that I don't still live with the repurcussions through my emotions. I'm not an idiot. I certainly didn't bring it up if I were not ashamed. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 04, 2012 11:31 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I am repulsed by my own past behavior. I am not going to re-visit such details. It is shameful, hypocritical and contrary to my values and beliefs. Naturally, there was a painful process of repentance and atonement as I grew up (I'm now 48). That doesn't mean that I don't still live with the repurcussions through my emotions. I'm not an idiot. I certainly didn't bring it up if I were not ashamed.
Its refreshing the genuineness and you been open about your past but I don't think you should be ashamed bc that past is part of why you are who you are today. People go through stages to find themselves. Perhaps part of why you understand women so well and are so good to them now is bc you were once this way and realized that is not who you want to be and hence the radical change and transformation. IP: Logged |
Fleurdelis
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posted January 05, 2012 01:24 AM
I don't feel you'll be together long with this man because your needs are in greater excess than his. It will be a short term relation and you will move on once you find someone else.IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted January 05, 2012 01:44 AM
There is a difference between being disinterested in sex... and having a grudge against all displays of sexuality in the world. Every person I know in RL with Venus square Mars is angry and they throw negativity - in particular at people of the opposite sex (although they have also been known to attack people of the same sex) because they have 'issues'. Others who are similar in the sense that I find them very disruptive (always waring against sexuality) - are men (not women) who have an Aries Venus.. and sometimes both men and women with Venus Retrograde. Personally - I've genuinely had it with these guys. Yours sounds different - because he is simply disinterested... But do you know him really well? Have you ever talked about sexual things? Maybe ask him some questions about his views on women, marriage, sex.. I am also disinterested in sex for the most part.. I have Mars conj Neptune.. but I'm a caring person and I have affection for the people around me.
I don't go on tirades about how all women are prostitutes and how marriage sux - like Coffee does (a Libra ex-poster with Venus in Leo square Mars in Scorpio)...
For the record - The ones I know in RL are exactly like Coffee! This is just my experience. Not to rain on anyone's parade.. but I genuinely can't stand these people. I also have Venus trine Mars in my chart - and I'm a peaceful person. I don't want to deal with their kind of self-created problems and drama. IP: Logged |
love being Aries
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posted January 05, 2012 03:52 AM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
There is a difference between being disinterested in sex... and having a grudge against all displays of sexuality in the world. Every person I know in RL with Venus square Mars is angry and they throw negativity - in particular at people of the opposite sex (although they have also been known to attack people of the same sex) because they have 'issues'. Others who are similar in the sense that I find them very disruptive (always waring against sexuality) - are men (not women) who have an Aries Venus.. and sometimes both men and women with Venus Retrograde. Personally - I've genuinely had it with these guys. Yours sounds different - because he is simply disinterested... But do you know him really well? Have you ever talked about sexual things? Maybe ask him some questions about his views on women, marriage, sex.. I am also disinterested in sex for the most part.. I have Mars conj Neptune.. but I'm a caring person and I have affection for the people around me.
I don't go on tirades about how all women are prostitutes and how marriage sux - like Coffee does (a Libra ex-poster with Venus in Leo square Mars in Scorpio)...
For the record - The ones I know in RL are exactly like Coffee! This is just my experience. Not to rain on anyone's parade.. but I genuinely can't stand these people. I also have Venus trine Mars in my chart - and I'm a peaceful person. I don't want to deal with their kind of self-created problems and drama.
No i wouldn't say I know him VERY well, but i can tell he is not a woman-hater. and he is not AGAINST sex, he likes cuddling, making out, and even sex too if I ask for it, or if things move towards that, but when he said "I'm not a big fan of sex" i was instantly drawn to taking a look at his venus.
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love being Aries
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posted January 05, 2012 03:53 AM
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Originally posted by Fleurdelis:
I don't feel you'll be together long with this man because your needs are in greater excess than his. It will be a short term relation and you will move on once you find someone else.
awww why do you think so? you know what, we both know that bit, we are just enjoying while we're at it  IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted January 05, 2012 04:02 AM
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anongrl10
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posted January 05, 2012 04:22 AM
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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
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I don't go on tirades about how all women are prostitutes and how marriage sux - like Coffee does (a Libra ex-poster with Venus in Leo square Mars in Scorpio)...
For the record - The ones I know in RL are exactly like Coffee!
Sweetheart, Coffee has *ISSUES*. He isn't exactly a role-model of all people with Venus-Mars square. Venus-Mars square can be frustrating. Your sense of what's beautiful and romantic and loving is at odds with how you express yourself, how you act even. The message you send out to people is confusing because it's mixed up by the square. Someone needs to get to know you really well to see beyond the square the person and how all contradictions are harmonized in your personality. Beyond that, how each person with this square reacts to the opposite sex in sexual/romantic situations stems through a lot more than this square only can define.
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anongrl10
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posted January 05, 2012 04:23 AM
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Originally posted by love being Aries:
awww why do you think so? you know what, we both know that bit, we are just enjoying while we're at it
LBA, go girl! Since you go in to it with your eyes open, you have absolutely nothing to fear! It's just another experience, that's all. Never lose sight of this perspective. 
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 05, 2012 05:38 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Its refreshing the genuineness and you been open about your past but I don't think you should be ashamed bc that past is part of why you are who you are today. People go through stages to find themselves. Perhaps part of why you understand women so well and are so good to them now is bc you were once this way and realized that is not who you want to be and hence the radical change and transformation.
Amelia, Actually, I write this not to make excuses but to explain myself. I've always understood women extremely well since young and been good to women. Those weren't "conquests" and actually more of a function of being popular. You have to understand that I am a Baby Boomer who grew up in an age where prevailing attitudes were different (look at Bill Clinton, etc etc). I'm also an Asian kid who was let loose at a very young age into British and American society by myself, thousands of miles away from my parents. When the teen boys in an all-boys school are let loose on weekends with the girls from an all-girls school in a town with nary a movie theatre, guess what? By the time college came, Ivy League or whatever, I think we each covered a quarter of the graduating class, and the women were far, far worse than the men. My college girlfriends weren't interested in monogamy, that was for sure. Date a girl, and you were passed around her entire circle of friends. Business school was even worse. None of us had any time for any recreation because of work pressure. My study group had women outnumber the men by a factor of two. We had these stupid marriage clubs that turned into nothing more than Lousy excuses for promiscuity. The best way to insult a woman during my age of growing up was to decline to sleep with her after a date. Don'tget me wrong. I'm no Brad Pitt or Don Juan DeMarco. Nevertheless, its my appreciation of women that has been dangerous throughout my life. It *is* still dangerous. Except that I firmly decline such requests now. Doesn't stop them from requesting though. And my wife knows too.
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lilithpluto
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posted January 05, 2012 07:50 AM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Nevertheless, its my appreciation of women that has been dangerous throughout my life. It *is* still dangerous. Except that I firmly decline such requests now. Doesn't stop them from requesting though. And my wife knows too.
I like that!!! Hmmm... when can I find a guy like that?!?!?!?! I'm serious!! I envy your wife now. Your wife is the smart one for marrying you.
It's never the past that matters. Its the present. So confirms this theory - get the wanderlust, adventures and craziness before marriage, by the time one marry, all curiosities are done.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted January 05, 2012 12:05 PM
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Originally posted by lilithpluto:
I like that!!! Hmmm... when can I find a guy like that?!?!?!?! I'm serious!! I envy your wife now. Your wife is the smart one for marrying you. It's never the past that matters. Its the present. So confirms this theory - get the wanderlust, adventures and craziness before marriage, by the time one marry, all curiosities are done.
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anongrl10
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posted January 05, 2012 12:10 PM
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Amphitrite
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posted January 05, 2012 08:30 PM
I think this guys was born on the same day as me - we have all the same placements, not sure about houses though. Anyway, there is no way I dont like sex, it just has to be with the right person and the emotional connection must first be established. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 05, 2012 11:35 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Amelia, Actually, I write this not to make excuses but to explain myself. I've always understood women extremely well since young and been good to women. Those weren't "conquests" and actually more of a function of being popular. You have to understand that I am a Baby Boomer who grew up in an age where prevailing attitudes were different (look at Bill Clinton, etc etc). I'm also an Asian kid who was let loose at a very young age into British and American society by myself, thousands of miles away from my parents. When the teen boys in an all-boys school are let loose on weekends with the girls from an all-girls school in a town with nary a movie theatre, guess what? By the time college came, Ivy League or whatever, I think we each covered a quarter of the graduating class, and the women were far, far worse than the men. My college girlfriends weren't interested in monogamy, that was for sure. Date a girl, and you were passed around her entire circle of friends. Business school was even worse. None of us had any time for any recreation because of work pressure. My study group had women outnumber the men by a factor of two. We had these stupid marriage clubs that turned into nothing more than Lousy excuses for promiscuity. The best way to insult a woman during my age of growing up was to decline to sleep with her after a date. Don'tget me wrong. I'm no Brad Pitt or Don Juan DeMarco. Nevertheless, its my appreciation of women that has been dangerous throughout my life. It *is* still dangerous. Except that I firmly decline such requests now. Doesn't stop them from requesting though. And my wife knows too.
I think a lot of people when in college or even high school just explore and don't commit and even if you have always understood women I think you shouldn't be ashamed is not like you lied to these chicks to get them into bed...it sounds like they wanted it too and knew what they were doing. I respect honesty above everything.. IP: Logged |
love being Aries
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posted January 06, 2012 07:22 AM
last night he told me when he was 24 he had a woman eat him up like crazy. now why in middle of our conversation was he missing her. when I asked him he said " you think i can't get sex, oh that's not even a problem".. i know its not. he has had oral done and making out with several women, he was that sort of guy, but intercourse he has had with only two (gf and wife). yet when this morning i asked him "is this how people behave when they haven't been laid for months?" he properly said "now that's sick" why sick? IP: Logged |
lilithpluto
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posted January 06, 2012 07:38 AM
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Originally posted by love being Aries:
last night he told me when he was 24 he had a woman eat him up like crazy. now why in middle of our conversation was he missing her. when I asked him he said " you think i can't get sex, oh that's not even a problem".. i know its not. he has had oral done and making out with several women, he was that sort of guy, but intercourse he has had with only two (gf and wife). yet when this morning i asked him "is this how people behave when they haven't been laid for months?" he properly said "now that's sick" why sick?
Lol.. Your funny. IP: Logged |
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