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posted January 12, 2012 10:57 PM            

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@ regardeplatero ,that is exactly my problem,the whole thing about sharing but not to much,I have so much aquarius energy it makes it hard to be subtle,with uranus being the planet of extremes and all haha,im not good at all the sweet talk and flirting,when i like someone i just tell them,and thats where i run into problems because i notice women like mystery,which i find kind of pointless because if you like someone why beat around the bush? and also i cant say i agree with not being yourself,my personal opinion is that not being yourself in the beginning sets your relationship up for failure,so i am myself all the time,im the same around women as i am with my buddies,and if they dont like that then so be it. It sickens me to see how people become completely different when they are with someone they like,you should always be your authentic self

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posted January 13, 2012 03:46 AM            

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posted January 13, 2012 03:55 AM            

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haha someone who is very open and honest is suspicious? but then again pluto types think everything is suspicious , my experience has been that if you don't let the girl know right away that you are romantically interested you get put in the friend zone and a relationship with them is nearly impossible, but if you do let them know right away you kinda freak them out,its like you are screwed either way haha

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posted January 13, 2012 04:00 AM            

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It's not the same in every case! Each girl is different. Pick your girls. Be selective. Give yourself and her a chance to get to know each other.
If they can't see you for who you are, it was not meant to be. Move on to the next one. Aqua is a fixed sign. You need to be a bit more flexible about the way you go about things and do not let over-generalizations obscure the view of the real person/individual in front of you.

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posted January 13, 2012 05:06 AM            

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it really is a tough balancing act haha,and what i meant by acting the same around my buddies is that i dont act like a completely different person around a girl i am interested in like most people do, i can be very affectionate and romantic(taurus moon) and internal tests? the tests women give are very interesting and maddening at the same time. I personally am friends with anyone and give them the benefit of the doubt until they betray my trust. and believe me i have met plenty of shady women

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posted January 13, 2012 05:11 AM            

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and i do have good hygiene and like to dress nice,i have venus conjunct the ascendant,and i am always friendly and easygoing

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posted January 13, 2012 05:13 AM            

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LOL, at 21 you feel like you "have met plenty of shady women"?! Methinks an attitude problem is your problem here. Aqua is a FIXED sign. I wrote it above and I will write it one more time hoping you will hear it: you need to become more flexible in the way you think about the other sex. Your fixed beliefs are holding you back! For Pete's sakes, if we all were thinking like that at 21...... geez. You have an entire life in front of you and you are blocking it because of these biased preconceptions. If you don't willingly change your attitude toward women and love, you will learn the hard way. That's how it works. It's up to you.

PS: In case you think I'm "mean" or harsh in the above, let me explain that I'm 42 and I'm an Aqua rising with Mars in Aqua trining my Uranus. Venus sq my Mars in Aqua. Also we share Moon in Taurus. So, I have been in your shoes and I hope to help you change your tune before it's too late. Good luck and best wishes!

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posted January 13, 2012 05:32 AM            

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haha i didnt take it as mean,i was just saying i have encountered shady women which i have, i dont view women as a whole as shady ,as i said i give everyone the benefit of the doubt,i wasnt trying to be argumentative even though people perceive me that way (mars in gemini in the the third house)

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posted January 13, 2012 05:34 AM            

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i believe aquaguy is best off with some girl of his own kind!i dont think one must adopt or become more flexible in order to *get there*...i rather think someone like aquaguy needs the right woman,who will certainly come your way,sooner or later!till that time,be yourself.i am also tired of people acting as if...i like to be myself...although most of humanity likes to put on masks,i prefer to be authentic self,this is again the pluto topic!if something doesnt feel 100% real,it wont need my further support.i mean actually the point that aquas treated me like a friend,even though we had a relationship,was one big bonuspoint!i like to be friends with my partner,thats the best!humankind,especially women seem to be programmed that men have to behave in certain ways in order to get through to them,but thats not what i like,i like the normal me and the normal *other* to make a good team and thats so rare,cause no other sign except aqua does this

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posted January 13, 2012 05:57 AM            

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thanks lucie, yes i think it will take the right kind of woman to truly understand me,haha sometimes i really feel as if i am an alien dropped on this planet at birth and adopted by my parents XD

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posted January 13, 2012 06:02 AM            

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thanks lucie, yes i think it will take the right kind of woman to truly understand me,haha sometimes i really feel as if i am an alien dropped on this planet at birth and adopted by my parents XD

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i know about this feeling i amthe same welcome friend !!!

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posted January 13, 2012 06:21 AM            

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Can't contribute much astrologically wise but I think you just haven't met the right type of women yet to be friends with or more.

All my dates were with Aquarian men, my first bf is also an Aquarius. They are honest, quirky, smart, are great friends/lovers and take people the way they are. I'm pretty socially awkward (dad is autistic and I guess I took over his ways) and they have a way to always make me feel at home.

Him: "Uhm ... can I have your number?"
Me: "Huh ... What?"
Him: "Your number ..."
Me: "Uhmm ... ... like telephone number?"
Him: "Well I actually meant blood type or ID number, but telephone number is also good."

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If I can be honest ... only thing I find pretty awkward is their need to do "public speeches". I'm a very private person. In public places, on the bus for instance, I prefer conversations to be mundane and light, but for all Aquas I've met they find this is the perfect opportunity to be heard. They suddenly start talking about controversial subjects like religion or politics etc whereas at home they didn't mention a single word about it. Hehehe.

I know this might not be easy but just go with the flow, be optimistic and be open to meet new people and you'll be fine.

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posted January 13, 2012 06:36 AM            

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haha spot on pandabear! i do tend to do that alot,i cant just be quiet,i feel the need to give my opinions about things,opinions that are often very controversial,i love to talk astrology but sadly i havent met any people in my area who are interested in it :/

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oh i know what you mean regardsplatero,i know lots of guys who do have hygiene,but i try to look presentable,and i dont really like to argue,i just tend to come off that way for some reason,and i completely understand why a woman would be suspicious of men,but i think some women take it too far and make it impossible to be reached, i have been around some where i felt judged as untrustworthy just because i happen to be a man,and yes libras are my favorite,90 percent of the women i am attracted to have sun,moon or ascendant in libra and i notice myself being attracted to virgo ascendants ,i am attracted to sag women as well but sag women dont seem interested in me haha and lets just say i have had bad experiences with aries

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posted January 13, 2012 07:19 AM            

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oh i know what you mean regardsplatero,i know lots of guys who do have hygiene,but i try to look presentable,and i dont really like to argue,i just tend to come off that way for some reason,and i completely understand why a woman would be suspicious of men,but i think some women take it too far and make it impossible to be reached, i have been around some where i felt judged as untrustworthy just because i happen to be a man,and yes libras are my favorite,90 percent of the women i am attracted to have sun,moon or ascendant in libra and i notice myself being attracted to virgo ascendants ,i am attracted to sag women as well but sag women dont seem interested in me haha and lets just say i have had bad experiences with aries

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posted January 13, 2012 07:23 AM            

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and i tend to also attract and be attracted to plutonian types to,i guess because of my moon opposite pluto and venus square pluto

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posted January 13, 2012 07:30 AM            

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when it comes to relationship preferance i always take a good look at the 7th house.your 7th house is occupying virgo and libra its all understandable that you like virgo and libra
when i see oppositions in charts i count out the *balancepoint* to it...that is the placement which takes the tension away.due to your jupiter opp sun,there is the balancepoint in early libra or early sag for you!again if we consider the 7th house then i would say early degrees libra are best for you ! i do have early degrees libra ASC...for every tension there is a balancepoint

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posted January 13, 2012 07:37 AM            

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also i have been taught that when saturn moves through your 7th house,you will encounter the loves of your life!saturn did wander in your huge 7th house some one year ago...now its in your 8th house.maybe you have met some nice women when you were around 18,19 years?

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posted January 13, 2012 07:46 AM            

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interesting i have found mainly mid october libras,but maybe i should try early degrees and see how it works

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posted January 13, 2012 07:57 AM            

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thats kinda funny because when i was in 18 and 19 i was in a long distance relationship with a girl who i thought was the love of my life ,just talking on the phone with her i felt a more powerful connection with her then any girl i had ever dated she was a libra haha but she said she couldnt take the distance and broke it off, i was in a deep depression for over a year and i still miss her terribly :/ but who knows maybe somewhere down the road we will meet again

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posted January 13, 2012 08:13 AM            

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Aww, I'm really sorry for that! I hope you can meet her again or that you will meet someone else you can relate to.

My Aqua bf is like you too, he's also the more distant type. I'm a Libra and I definitely need more affection and romance than him. I guess it's about balancing things, I need to give him his space now and then, and he has to give me affection now and then.

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thats kinda funny because when i was in 18 and 19 i was in a long distance relationship with a girl who i thought was the love of my life ,just talking on the phone with her i felt a more powerful connection with her then any girl i had ever dated she was a libra haha but she said she couldnt take the distance and broke it off, i was in a deep depression for over a year and i still miss her terribly :/ but who knows maybe somewhere down the road we will meet again

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HA! spot ON!i am wondering like...it seems you both were very close even if it was on a distance!i had the same going on around my 18th...the guy is a real aqua sun,mars+mercury in aqua,living the states and we couldnt keep our love alive due to the distance...but i always thought he wouldnt forget me.do you think that aquas cling to big loves they encounter?even if it didnt work out,do they keep those memories in the back of their head,or rather in their heart?i do and even though i have my beloved bf for almost 9 years,i dont forget that magic we had when i was a teeny.in our case he the aqua was the one who broke up cause he couldnt handle the big distance,but even years later he send me nice greets via some other person he knew i would meet...so some years ago we reconnected on FB and we dont communicate alot,but if we do we still have the good vibes going on,of course i cant claim him and he cant claim me,we both know,but i wonder could it be that he is still somehow holding on to those past memories that were simply superb and beautiful.do aquas keep those big lovememories or do they let go and forget?when i found him on FB he was positively surprised and at the same time he made me feel a bit guilty cause of the delay,writing that it has been a long time since our paths met (i understood it as some little offense even though he probably didnt ment it that way)...so this made me feel bad and even guilty...all those years i didnt forget him as he may think,rather my pain was too big to admit to myself that i will never be able to forget him anyways,for breaking up the connecting,cause it hurt him too much...i never told him though

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posted January 13, 2012 08:23 AM            

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thanks and i am very affectionate and loving,im a hopeless romantic, moon in taurus and venus conjunct ascendant,but thats whats so weird,i see women on here posting alot how they love aquarius men,but they wish they were more demonstrative and emotionally available,so clearly women are into aqua guys,so here i am an aqua guy capable of showing emotion (moon in the third) and being romantic,you would think i would be the dream man but im not evidently haha

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