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Topic: Have you ever loved somebody sooo MUCH and didn't know why?
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RunAroundScreaming
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posted January 13, 2012 04:56 AM
  
Aww amelia, that means a lot. It makes me really happy when people understand where i'm coming from. I am glad u see it that way, too. I still think about a lot of people who have left, and some of my friends call that being unrealistic, or having an imaginary relationship with them or something like that, but not really. Oh, or they might feel sorry for me and feel sad that i miss them. But i dont feel sorry. If i cut them off from my life completely and iust stop feeling anything for them will the impact they had in my life then mean anything? No. If i can detach myself from everything and stop feeling anything after a while, will their existence still affect and inspire me? By trying to forget them conpletely and remembering only the hurt they caused me i will also be letting go of the joy they inspired in me. So i choose to believe the best in them and have faith that they will be better towards the people they meet in the future and I remember all the nice things they did for me. And i feel loved  IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted January 13, 2012 05:08 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
LMAO!!!!!! Husband is the guy who lived in an office with mom issues. Now we live in a house but the mom issues are still there.. But yeah atleast we got married and are trying to make it work and have good times too and love eachother.
LOL, amelia, I also thought that you were referring to another guy you had an affair with. You said something like "I loved my husband so much that I didn't like it. So I had an affair with a guy in the office who had mom issues." I swear; that's how I read it!!
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Ceridwen
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posted January 13, 2012 07:12 AM
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Originally posted by IamLoved:
"House ruler synastry" How do I find out the ruler of the synastry?
Everyhouse cusp falls into a certain sign. For example ASC is the beginning of 1st house.
the ruler of that house is the planet that naturally rules the sign on its cusp.
For example:
My ASC is on 7 Sagittarius. So Sagittarius is on the cusp of 1st house.
The natural ruler of Sag is Jupiter, hence Jupiter is the ruler of 1st house. My 5th house cusp is on 1 Taurus. So Venus as natural ruler of Taurus is my 5th house ruler. my 8th house cusp is on 12 Cancer. So Moon as natural ruler of Cancer is my 8th house ruler. For relationships check the rulers of 5th, 7th, 8th and 1st house. For deep soulconnections (and in the case of the 12th house also baffling connections) check the rulers of 4th, 8th and 12th house. In my experience this works best with the housesystem of Placidus. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 13, 2012 12:00 PM
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Originally posted by anongrl10:
LOL, amelia, I also thought that you were referring to another guy you had an affair with. You said something like "I loved my husband so much that I didn't like it. So I had an affair with a guy in the office who had mom issues." I swear; that's how I read it!!
LMAO...nah! He was the guy from the office.... I didnt like that I loved him so quickly but I do remember our first year fondly! The whole office thing was kind of romantic. IP: Logged |
IamLoved
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posted January 13, 2012 12:12 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
just checked synastry..I am better at intepreting the composites as it tells you aspects in the bottom but I see that his astraea falls in your seventh cusp and your astraea falls in his 5th cusp so both have difficulty letting go of the relationship one of you in a lovers sense and the other in a serious relationship sense if you combined this with the Astraea trine to venus/chiron conjunction in composite and your venus opposite uranus composite aspect it all makes sense now...but would love to hear from someone about that Yod Oh and like me and my ex you have pluto conjunct exact mars so good chemistry in bed that can lead to some obsession and that is hard to let go of.
The relationship between him and I is "on again... off again" Some of it is my fault, some of it is his fault. I think we are equally the blame. And yes the chemistry is bananas! He's also the best kisser I've ever had in my life! But yes.... I would love to understand the meaning of the yod too!!! 
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IamLoved
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posted January 13, 2012 12:52 PM
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Originally posted by Lonake:
Yes, but I know why and I don't want a cure. I just accept that I'll always be in love with him and that's that. His DSC ruler is trine your ASC ruler and it's a pleasant dreamy Moon/Neptune aspect. Also, your ASC ruler (Moon too) is conj his NN which is such a close, intimate tie, very potent. But the square from your Mars to your Moon, and his Uranus is quite disruptive. I don't know if he found you needy, or what, but Uranus is square to Moon typically wanting to run away. Your Uranus opp his Venus is a play on that, excitement, but a possible breaking away. There's Moon trine Uranus too, and Uranus/IC, Mars/Uranus, Sun/Uranus. Sun opp Jupiter is another one that tends to break away. Your nodal axis on his MC/IC axis is another intimate tie. Uranus brings fascination, there could be a sense of falling in love over and over again.
I think I tried harder to make things work. I feel like I cared more than he did. But I don't know.
We had an "on again.... off again relationship" with me sometimes being the one to end it.... and sometimes him.... but we always come back together and reconcile our differences.
One thing I do know is that we really do have a GREAT DEAL of mutual compassion for each other. That's mainly why I love him. Because in all my life no man that I have been in a relationship with has ever showed me compassion.
He's the only one I would feel comfortable crying around. I don't even feel comfortable crying around my parents... my friends.... not even my best friend. But I feel comfortable with crying around him.
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IamLoved
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posted January 13, 2012 12:59 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
I dont know much about yods, I would love someone to comment on the yods you two have on your composite.You have a real nice composite with him but your venus is challenging...I had a feeling you two were in different states with that venus opposite uranus and the rest of the venus aspects.... I hope he lets you know how he feels as I am confident he feels the same. All I can say is that I HOPE too that the rest of chart is strong enough to overcome the venus challenges but I think perhaps you have come together to love each other without commitment and without expecting anything from each other. I dont like chiron. Ex and I only had one thing in our 7th composite cusp and guess what it was?? Chiron........Chiron is painful but letting go of the idea of been with him in a serious relationship might just be what you need in order to stop the suffering. I would just try to enjoy whatever moments I Have with him without expecting anything. I think this is the only way you won't feel the pain that comes from chiron in this relationship. I wish you the best!
Thank you Amelia! IP: Logged |
IamLoved
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posted January 13, 2012 01:04 PM
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Originally posted by FireWire:
So far no one has answered. Lol. Wish I could help, I just don't know enough, admittedly. 
lol yes. And that's okay! Thanks for your willingness to help!! And don't feel bad, a lot of us are on here because we seek knowledge! The wonderful thing is that once we have acquired knowledge, we will be in a better position to share it with others! IP: Logged |
anongrl10
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posted January 13, 2012 01:04 PM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
LMAO...nah! He was the guy from the office.... I didnt like that I loved him so quickly but I do remember our first year fondly! The whole office thing was kind of romantic.
I got it now! 
And aww that's so very sweet!
Having seen your synastry and composite though, you guys are definitely destined for each other.
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IamLoved
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posted January 13, 2012 01:08 PM
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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Well, I feel ignored.
Aww...  I'm sorry. What made you feel that way? Just know that I value your posts and respect your opinions. So don't feel left out.... okay? IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted January 13, 2012 01:19 PM
for some reason i cannot see aspects without a table,could you post the table with aspects tahnks IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted January 13, 2012 01:24 PM
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Originally posted by IamLoved:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Capriquarius:
[b]Didn't you say you've been single for the past 8 years?I've never felt that way, no. Whenever someone new came along, I would lose feelings for the last one. I have Venus (love) conjunct Uranus (sudden change).
Please don't add more years lol I've been single for the past 6 years.... going on 7 Whenever someone new comes along, that does help me get over my ex!! But as soon as the person I was with and I part ways I start thinking about my old ex again.... not the new ex... the old ex.... Why???? [/B][/QUOTE] i see where u come from. it has happened to me only with one person. in the past, i could forget the previous one with the most recent and only miss the most recent one, but after that freaking piscis moon/piscis AC, this has been the way u describe. my pluto (ruler of my seventh) conjunct his venus IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted January 13, 2012 01:26 PM
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Originally posted by IamLoved:
"House ruler synastry" How do I find out the ruler of the synastry?Our composite Asc is in Leo, so that means our chart is ruled by the sun Our sun is in Gemini.... Gemini is in our 11th house. So does that mean we love each other because we are friends.... and to be honest WE ARE still friends!
look at the rulers of 5th and 7th and maybe 8th and maybe the ruler of yours 1st and see which aspects they have with the other person planets. for instance, my ruler of 7th (pluto) in house 5th conjunct venus of the person i have had the same expeirnece u are describing. IP: Logged |
Delilah
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posted January 13, 2012 01:28 PM
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Originally posted by IamLoved:
lol about the Katie Perry song! You know what? Come to think of it.... you might be onto something here! My 7 degree Venus is opposed my 0 degree Pluto His 16 degree Venus is tightly trined his 18 degree Pluto I italicized the similarities of what I'm going though in your post above!
Lol. I just went over the deep end today. I dreamed of him last night and he's been on my mind all day today. I want him and can't figure why I didn't agree to just be friends. I still would've mooned over him, but at least I wouldn't be as insane as I am right now. He's turned into my crack. Lol. Oh, I noticed that your Moon trines his Neptune and Sun widely opposites your Neptune. I'm reading this pdf booklet about Neptune's influence in synastry and the composite. It's not always the personal planet who adores the other. Neptune can see the personal planet person as a soul mate too. You make a spiritual connection no matter what the aspect seems to be. My Neptune trines my current reason for insanity's Sun and my Moon squares his Neptune, but I'm pretty sure that I was the one who felt the connection first as I walked away because I didn't see any proof of his feelings for me. Here's the link for the pdf on Neptune in synastry and the composite: http://www.scribd.com/doc/8219806/Neptune-in-Synastry-and-the-Composite-Chart I'm still looking for the article on Venus-Pluto. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted January 13, 2012 01:29 PM
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Originally posted by IamLoved:
"House ruler synastry" How do I find out the ruler of the synastry?Our composite Asc is in Leo, so that means our chart is ruled by the sun Our sun is in Gemini.... Gemini is in our 11th house. So does that mean we love each other because we are friends.... and to be honest WE ARE still friends!
the composite is about the relationship itself not about how you perceive the relationship, unless some patterns of the composite are similar to the synastry. having the sun in 11 means that the relationship fulfill the purpose through friendship. it does not discar love-friends, but it you are not friends the relationship disolves. it is its purpose. the house where the sun is. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted January 13, 2012 01:49 PM
Amelia,I think the ASTRAEA has its effects. my moon conjunct his astrea, his moon conjunct my astraea. my astrea conjunct his AC exact. funny and may sound vain, but one of the reason it is so challenging to let him go is his look. i feel that i have never found anybody more physically attractive to be my partner and i hate this, because i dont watn to look at other men when i am with somebody and normally i miss that and i have never felt this way. like the man you are with the physical fantasy. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted January 13, 2012 04:33 PM
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Originally posted by nordicsoul:
Amelia,I think the ASTRAEA has its effects. my moon conjunct his astrea, his moon conjunct my astraea. my astrea conjunct his AC exact. funny and may sound vain, but one of the reason it is so challenging to let him go is his look. i feel that i have never found anybody more physically attractive to be my partner and i hate this, because i dont watn to look at other men when i am with somebody and normally i miss that and i have never felt this way. like the man you are with the physical fantasy.
Oh wow that is a good one, astraea conjunct ascendent in synastry! Thanks for sharing, it totally makes sense for it to manifest itself that way and then the astraea double whammy with the moon will make it hard to let go of him/her emotionally so you will probably always care about him/her. IP: Logged |
nordicsoul
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posted January 14, 2012 07:53 AM
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Originally posted by amelia28:
Oh wow that is a good one, astraea conjunct ascendent in synastry! Thanks for sharing, it totally makes sense for it to manifest itself that way and then the astraea double whammy with the moon will make it hard to let go of him/her emotionally so you will probably always care about him/her.
yes,i care for him and i am very convinced he cares for me as well. even when we broke up, he can do things for me (venus in virgo) that shows that he cares IP: Logged |
curiouswoman
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posted January 14, 2012 01:48 PM
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Originally posted by Delilah:
Yep. I blame my Venus-Pluto. When I fall for someone, I fall quick and hard. Doesn't matter if we go our separate ways on good terms. I want him to think of me just as much as I think of him (speaking from a recent experience). I've read that if a person has an aspect between Venus and Pluto in their natal chart then they will find their soul mate. This is true when you think that everyone who catches your eye and makes your heart flutter is your soul mate. And Venus-Neptune doesn't help either! God help me if Katy Perry's song "the one that got away" comes on. There might be a long trail of dead teddy bears...
ddelilah you so funny
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Delilah
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posted January 15, 2012 05:34 PM
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Originally posted by curiouswoman:
ddelilah you so funny
If you only knew the emotions I was going through last week... Lol. Can't help but laugh about it now.
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